Faiyaz
@Faiyaz
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You fiery peeps.
It my fault.
I don't speak up.
I don't speak up.
Good god.
Posted by Dastard
I'm afraid you're gonna have to set her straight up. These people don't do subtlety.
I don't care though
When I rip her apart it won't be nice .
And she won't listen anyway... she will talk more until I offend her enough
My issue is when she shows up.
I don't think it's her Aries placements. I'm very private, and I haven't met an Aries who wasn't. If I share, it's in a matter-of-fact way, not a woe is me way. And I definitely don't feel comfortable sharing private matters "like m&m's" especially with other women.
She maybe in a really bad place to be complaining like that. A deeper issue. Do you expect her to never talk about her problems and keep the friendship light? What kind of friendship do you have? Are y'all super tight? Or just aquaintances?
It doesn't really sound like you like her that much tho. Your post doesn't sound like it's coming from a place of love or concern but just pure annoyance. And I get that you're annoyed with her, it happens in any relationship but damn Where's the love?
It doesn't really sound like you like her that much tho. Your post doesn't sound like it's coming from a place of love or concern but just pure annoyance. And I get that you're annoyed with her, it happens in any relationship but damn Where's the love?
I have similar placements as her and, at least when it comes to confrontation, I gotta hash things out right away in order to let them go. I can't hang onto a grudge, it's just not good for my sanity.
Sounds like you've become her safe spot for venting. You became that person because you didn't set boundaries with her.
Sounds like you've become her safe spot for venting. You became that person because you didn't set boundaries with her.
Posted by champrangerThat wasn't the point of my statement at all. My point is this doesn't sound like a friend. Aries has in her head that she can come to this person to vent when in all acutuality she can't and is being judged harshly and talked about behind her back by this so called friend.Posted by bkbella86Not sure about that. I have a Aries friend who have Leo Moon and Aries Merc ... and they can really talk, imo.
She maybe in a really bad place to be complaining like that. A deeper issue. Do you expect her to never talk about her problems and keep the friendship light? What kind of friendship do you have? Are y'all super tight? Or just aquaintances?
It doesn't really sound like you like her that much tho. Your post doesn't sound like it's coming from a place of love or concern but just pure annoyance. And I get that you're annoyed with her, it happens in any relationship but damn Where's the love?
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A real friend would be honest. Even if it ain't pretty.
So what aren't you sure about? I'm confused. i didn't mention Aries and their talkativeness.
But to me anyone who is constantly complaining isn't in a good place. Wouldn't a friend ask "hey are you ok?" You seem diff? On edge? Not happy? What's up?
Not dog them out to strangers online.
Sounds like you've become her safe spot for venting. You became that person because you didn't set boundaries with her.How to reset them:
(-LadyNeptune)Don't tear into her. Be indifferent to her struggle. When she starts complaining, let your eyes gloss over and figure out the unrelated topic you're going to immediately switch the subject to when you hear she's done talking. Make it a personal challenge to see how many changes of subject it takes before she runs off to her family to bitch about you. (-anarejectvirgo)click to expand
Posted by champrangerI get all of that and friend would be honest and tell a friend they are playing the victim. Don't friends call each other on their shit? In the nicest way possible? I want my friends to. Not listen to be complain and talk about me behind my back.Posted by bkbella86I'm not sure there exists a deeper issuer that the Aries is either willing share or willing fix. It's mainly due to Leo Moon's perception of whether such issues exists (pride can effect perception for us Leo Moons). Maybe she does, maybe she doesn't. But to me, it's possible that she's complaining because she feels like a victim in her life, that the problem lies with everything and everyone else in her life, instead of her. I have the same Sun, Moon, and Venus as the Aries. There are a lot of times I get frustrated and just want to vent. Or rather I just want someone to empathize on how I feel. There are a lot of times where I first try to think if I am contributing to the problems in my life or if I am the same way as the person I'm complaining about, because if I don't, I'm always going to think it's someone or something else's fault. Also with this Sun and Moon combo, it's very easy to slip into talking only about self.Posted by champrangerThat wasn't the point of my statement at all. My point is this doesn't sound like a friend. Aries has in her head that she can come to this person to vent when in all acutuality she can't and is being judged harshly and talked about behind her back by this so called friend.Posted by bkbella86Not sure about that. I have a Aries friend who have Leo Moon and Aries Merc ... and they can really talk, imo.
She maybe in a really bad place to be complaining like that. A deeper issue. Do you expect her to never talk about her problems and keep the friendship light? What kind of friendship do you have? Are y'all super tight? Or just aquaintances?
It doesn't really sound like you like her that much tho. Your post doesn't sound like it's coming from a place of love or concern but just pure annoyance. And I get that you're annoyed with her, it happens in any relationship but damn Where's the love?
A real friend would be honest. Even if it ain't pretty.
So what aren't you sure about? I'm confused. i didn't mention Aries and their talkativeness.
But to me anyone who is constantly complaining isn't in a good place. Wouldn't a friend ask "hey are you ok?" You seem diff? On edge? Not happy? What's up?
Not dog them out to strangers online.
IMO
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it is all that Aries and yes they are like that ...
Posted by LadyNeptune
I have similar placements as her and, at least when it comes to confrontation, I gotta hash things out right away in order to let them go. I can't hang onto a grudge, it's just not good for my sanity.
Sounds like you've become her safe spot for venting. You became that person because you didn't set boundaries with her.
My fault or am I doing what I should do. "Create a safe haven for all"
Posted by AjnaPosted by Faiyaz
The fuq do I do with her?
My school mate, a friend.. she bitches too much.
Her family, her brother, her mother, her son..
Stfu. Like no, STFU!
I'm done. Spent. Our of cares.
Who share all their fucking problems like m&ms? Who invited themselves over and then pillows you I'm their lack of discipline?
I want to punch her. "Woe is me" (do I not have compassion because I can't stand her incandescent bs ?)
I said maybe two words tonight. She came over, spilled her shit, and I said I was busy and left her on my back porch.
The fuck fire energy?
Life is so good!
Life is what you make it.
Stfu please.
Her chart.
You might be the only one she can trust to
say these things, op. You're her rock.
Maybe gift her a journal ~ diary if it is
draining to you.
Life IS what you make it but
Life IS NOT just about experiencing all that...
Sunshine and Love in the air etc...
Show her how (you do it) bouncing back and maybe
that will ooz into her ego to aid
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I do. But the insessent griping has left me without words. Now I want to avoid her. To show her she can't do the things she does,i won't condone it.
Posted by champrangerPosted by FaiyazYou're gonna have to tell her that. She probably thinks you're okay with all her telling you all this. With this much fire in her chart, anything short of bluntly telling her probably won't change a thing.
My issue is when she shows up.
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Right on! And i jabe and it doesn't!
Lol Leo Moon, Cancer Mars. Ayyylmao.
Posted by bkbella86
She maybe in a really bad place to be complaining like that. A deeper issue. Do you expect her to never talk about her problems and keep the friendship light? What kind of friendship do you have? Are y'all super tight? Or just aquaintances?
It doesn't really sound like you like her that much tho. Your post doesn't sound like it's coming from a place of love or concern but just pure annoyance. And I get that you're annoyed with her, it happens in any relationship but damn Where's the love?
Great point.
We are friends, 5 years strong.
I dont like she never has anything positive to say. I dislike her distain for hope, faith and possibility .
Of course we all need to vent, and i offer that, but I drains me immensely because I can't feel my chest tighten and my jaw tighten.
She said I'm her safe haven. I've told her what I though, which she relates with "well if it wasn't for my brother/mother/kid/ex husband this would be different."
I've tried all I know.
I'm here but on a limited basis for my own sanity.
I get your pov. Really. But I also need to take care of my own healthy mindset. And kicking her in the face isn't in my healthy place. So... I deal and stfu.
Any solution?
Posted by AriElla7
Boundaries:Sounds like you've become her safe spot for venting. You became that person because you didn't set boundaries with her.How to reset them:
(-LadyNeptune)Don't tear into her. Be indifferent to her struggle. When she starts complaining, let your eyes gloss over and figure out the unrelated topic you're going to immediately switch the subject to when you hear she's done talking. Make it a personal challenge to see how many changes of subject it takes before she runs off to her family to bitch about you. (-anarejectvirgo)click to expand
This is what i do.
I respond to the positive things or stay quiet until she asks about me, normally she wants to ask about my work drama, or private life.. I just talk about trees and philosophical shit until she thinks I'm crazy and I tell her I'm going to read.
Posted by AjnaPosted by Faiyaz
The fuq do I do with her?
My school mate, a friend.. she bitches too much.
Her family, her brother, her mother, her son..
Stfu. Like no, STFU!
I'm done. Spent. Our of cares.
Who share all their fucking problems like m&ms? Who invited themselves over and then pillows you I'm their lack of discipline?
I want to punch her. "Woe is me" (do I not have compassion because I can't stand her incandescent bs ?)
I said maybe two words tonight. She came over, spilled her shit, and I said I was busy and left her on my back porch.
The fuck fire energy?
Life is so good!
Life is what you make it.
Stfu please.
Her chart.
You might be the only one she can trust to
say these things, op. You're her rock.
Maybe gift her a journal ~ diary if it is
draining to you.
Life IS what you make it but
Life IS NOT just about experiencing all that...
Sunshine and Love in the air etc...
Show her how (you do it) bouncing back and maybe
that will ooz into her ego to aid
click to expand
I do.
She has told me, MULTIPLE + 5 TIMES , that only i could be this way. Because I'm lucky. And then she picks on me. Which normally is funny but I also wish she'd implement a new mindset.
I figure I'll wait it out until she realizes this on her own.
Im here, but I'm not her teacher, she doesn't listen. She only sees how I behave and tell me how "good i have it."
Like what?
Posted by FaiyazBe straight up and down honest. Like in a slap some sense into kinda way. She needs a shake lolPosted by bkbella86
She maybe in a really bad place to be complaining like that. A deeper issue. Do you expect her to never talk about her problems and keep the friendship light? What kind of friendship do you have? Are y'all super tight? Or just aquaintances?
It doesn't really sound like you like her that much tho. Your post doesn't sound like it's coming from a place of love or concern but just pure annoyance. And I get that you're annoyed with her, it happens in any relationship but damn Where's the love?
Great point.
We are friends, 5 years strong.
I dont like she never has anything positive to say. I dislike her distain for hope, faith and possibility .
Of course we all need to vent, and i offer that, but I drains me immensely because I can't feel my chest tighten and my jaw tighten.
She said I'm her safe haven. I've told her what I though, which she relates with "well if it wasn't for my brother/mother/kid/ex husband this would be different."
I've tried all I know.
I'm here but on a limited basis for my own sanity.
I get your pov. Really. But I also need to take care of my own healthy mindset. And kicking her in the face isn't in my healthy place. So... I deal and stfu.
Any solution?
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Has she always been like this?
Posted by FaiyazSounds similar lol.Posted by AriElla7
Boundaries:Sounds like you've become her safe spot for venting. You became that person because you didn't set boundaries with her.How to reset them:
(-LadyNeptune)Don't tear into her. Be indifferent to her struggle. When she starts complaining, let your eyes gloss over and figure out the unrelated topic you're going to immediately switch the subject to when you hear she's done talking. Make it a personal challenge to see how many changes of subject it takes before she runs off to her family to bitch about you. (-anarejectvirgo)
This is what i do.
I respond to the positive things or stay quiet until she asks about me, normally she wants to ask about my work drama, or private life.. I just talk about trees and philosophical shit until she thinks I'm crazy and I tell her I'm going to read.
click to expand
Posted by Faiyaz
The fuq do I do with her?
My school mate, a friend.. she bitches too much.
Her family, her brother, her mother, her son..
Stfu. Like no, STFU!
I'm done. Spent. Our of cares.
Who share all their fucking problems like m&ms? Who invited themselves over and then pillows you I'm their lack of discipline?
I want to punch her. "Woe is me" (do I not have compassion because I can't stand her incandescent bs ?)
I said maybe two words tonight. She came over, spilled her shit, and I said I was busy and left her on my back porch.
The fuck fire energy?
Life is so good!
Life is what you make it.
Stfu please.
Her chart.
That's a lot of fire & a lot of Aries. I can't be around these kind of people for too long. They are energy drainers. They're so stubborn. Not sure if there's hope for this one. Sorry LOL tell her like it is. Be blunt.
Posted by LillyPetalDid u see her chart? Her chart isn't like our chart. She's too much fire lol
I don't think it's her Aries placements. I'm very private, and I haven't met an Aries who wasn't. If I share, it's in a matter-of-fact way, not a woe is me way. And I definitely don't feel comfortable sharing private matters "like m&m's" especially with other women.
Posted by bkbella86Posted by FaiyazBe straight up and down honest. Like in a slap some sense into kinda way. She needs a shake lolPosted by bkbella86
She maybe in a really bad place to be complaining like that. A deeper issue. Do you expect her to never talk about her problems and keep the friendship light? What kind of friendship do you have? Are y'all super tight? Or just aquaintances?
It doesn't really sound like you like her that much tho. Your post doesn't sound like it's coming from a place of love or concern but just pure annoyance. And I get that you're annoyed with her, it happens in any relationship but damn Where's the love?
Great point.
We are friends, 5 years strong.
I dont like she never has anything positive to say. I dislike her distain for hope, faith and possibility .
Of course we all need to vent, and i offer that, but I drains me immensely because I can't feel my chest tighten and my jaw tighten.
She said I'm her safe haven. I've told her what I though, which she relates with "well if it wasn't for my brother/mother/kid/ex husband this would be different."
I've tried all I know.
I'm here but on a limited basis for my own sanity.
I get your pov. Really. But I also need to take care of my own healthy mindset. And kicking her in the face isn't in my healthy place. So... I deal and stfu.
Any solution?
Has she always been like this?click to expand
Not, "like this" .. it used to be a dry humor.
Now she literally comes over and cries. Often. I do what I can but this incessant negativity is wearing me out.
So harsh truth?
I got it. She'll cut into me too, I'm sure.
But I am on the same page with this.
Posted by SofiaV87Posted by Faiyaz
The fuq do I do with her?
My school mate, a friend.. she bitches too much.
Her family, her brother, her mother, her son..
Stfu. Like no, STFU!
I'm done. Spent. Our of cares.
Who share all their fucking problems like m&ms? Who invited themselves over and then pillows you I'm their lack of discipline?
I want to punch her. "Woe is me" (do I not have compassion because I can't stand her incandescent bs ?)
I said maybe two words tonight. She came over, spilled her shit, and I said I was busy and left her on my back porch.
The fuck fire energy?
Life is so good!
Life is what you make it.
Stfu please.
Her chart.
That's a lot of fire & a lot of Aries. I can't be around these kind of people for too long. They are energy drainers. They're so stubborn. Not sure if there's hope for this one. Sorry LOL tell her like it is. Be blunt.
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Great. I figured this already.. just delaying the obvious.
She will ultimately say shit I retaliate with facts at, and bam, 3 weeks no contact and *crosses fingers* she grasps some kind of solidity and solace.
: ) Thanks. I do care. But then I care about me after I feel like my insides are going to implode from her draining mental dump she throws on me.
Posted by SofiaV87Posted by LillyPetalDid u see her chart? Her chart isn't like our chart. She's too much fire lol
I don't think it's her Aries placements. I'm very private, and I haven't met an Aries who wasn't. If I share, it's in a matter-of-fact way, not a woe is me way. And I definitely don't feel comfortable sharing private matters "like m&m's" especially with other women.click to expand
She is all fire, and a bit too much of a mother hen who behaves like an illiterate fire breathing dragon.
Nothing her son does is, "HIS FAULT" it's hers, her mother's, her ex husband's.
"Nothing she does is right."
"She just wants to help."
But all she does is tear it down more.
I had a Capricorn friend like this. I suffered decades of her complaining about her husband incessantly. When I had enough, she tried to make me apologize for having enough.
She would call me at work with it. I moved in the building and got a new work number. Didn't give it to her. I never had or asked for her work number.
She exploded one last time. No phone call for a month. I was relieved. She calls. I let it got to voicemail. She acted like it never happened. I ignored her calls 'til she got the point.
Your problem is your friend showing up to your house. Boundaries that I was not concerned about because my friend lived in another state the last decade.
If I told you the complaints my Capricorn friend had about her husband, you would wince and do the sour face....
She was a depressive and was diagnosed as such. Told her she might want to get back on the meds.
Your friends sounds depressed.
I find that too much of an element or sign acts contrary to what the element or sign represents. Really strange...
She would call me at work with it. I moved in the building and got a new work number. Didn't give it to her. I never had or asked for her work number.
She exploded one last time. No phone call for a month. I was relieved. She calls. I let it got to voicemail. She acted like it never happened. I ignored her calls 'til she got the point.
Your problem is your friend showing up to your house. Boundaries that I was not concerned about because my friend lived in another state the last decade.
If I told you the complaints my Capricorn friend had about her husband, you would wince and do the sour face....
She was a depressive and was diagnosed as such. Told her she might want to get back on the meds.
Your friends sounds depressed.
I find that too much of an element or sign acts contrary to what the element or sign represents. Really strange...
Posted by FaiyazPosted by SofiaV87Posted by Faiyaz
The fuq do I do with her?
My school mate, a friend.. she bitches too much.
Her family, her brother, her mother, her son..
Stfu. Like no, STFU!
I'm done. Spent. Our of cares.
Who share all their fucking problems like m&ms? Who invited themselves over and then pillows you I'm their lack of discipline?
I want to punch her. "Woe is me" (do I not have compassion because I can't stand her incandescent bs ?)
I said maybe two words tonight. She came over, spilled her shit, and I said I was busy and left her on my back porch.
The fuck fire energy?
Life is so good!
Life is what you make it.
Stfu please.
Her chart.
That's a lot of fire & a lot of Aries. I can't be around these kind of people for too long. They are energy drainers. They're so stubborn. Not sure if there's hope for this one. Sorry LOL tell her like it is. Be blunt.
Great. I figured this already.. just delaying the obvious.
She will ultimately say shit I retaliate with facts at, and bam, 3 weeks no contact and *crosses fingers* she grasps some kind of solidity and solace.
: ) Thanks. I do care. But then I care about me after I feel like my insides are going to implode from her draining mental dump she throws on me.
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Yes, those kind of people can be tough to get through because they don't realize how draining they can be. They're also pushy. I had a friend like yours. I told her how I felt , she backed off for a bit then went right back into her old ways.
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I want to punch her. "Woe is me" (do I not have compassion because I can't stand her incandescent bs ?)
I said maybe two words tonight. She came over, spilled her shit, and I said I was busy and left her on my back porch.
The fuck fire energy?
Life is so good!
Life is what you make it.
Stfu please.
Her chart.