Young Aries being a little bit childish

I'm finding my flatmate incredibly frustrating.


see the thing is i'm getting a bit tired of him complaining about bill costs, every month it is the same complaint yet he has his girlfriend over 6 days out of the week who is also young.

She does not help or contribute but pretty much lives with us and yet my other flatmates pay bills and never complain about this.

I feel like he's being incredibly childish and self centered?

I have covered his bills for the last month as he has been have fights with his girlfriend leading to states of "depression" which has resulted in him taking days off work without pay as he's used his sick days up.

I'm at my wits end and i have seriously been considering kicking him out but i just feel too guilty to do so as i know in his current situation it would be very hard to find somewhere else to live.

Is this a common youthful Aries trait? how do i get him to see that the situation is just not fair on everyone else? and he needs to start stepping up and taken authority.

I feel a bit like a mother always protecting him.

Sorry i should note that by young i mean he's 23 and she is 19.

You "covered" for him? Wow.....
Yeah Aries are quite irresponsible in their youth.

He may have cancer stuff too...

Push him out the window.

Thank you all for the insight I do really appreciate it. I have been concerned for a while that I'm being used. He's sadly in a position to do this to me as we have been friends for years and a few years ago both his parents passed suddenly (when we were still in highschool) which left me feeling rather sorry for him which is why I do constantly try to help him. I think it's time I push him to grow up a bit as I'm really not doing him any favours by letting him act in this manner.

Yep Aries love a good childish humph.. not very good with responsibilities at all. Not just young ones lol! I love Aries but I could defo wring their necks sometimes!

So, people have shortcomings dude to their sign and you still hate them for it?

He has his whole life to be homeless, give him a few good years 🙂 nah wecarealot has a good point, teach him early. I wish someone had taught me.

Haha on an odd note his girlfriend is a Aqua 😛

Haha on an odd note his girlfriend is a Aqua 😛

Update:

So i spoke to him yesterday after speaking with my other flatmate about how she would feel if he was to leave (shes a very stable lovely Taurus who helps me out with decision making and has been my flatmate since i first invested in the property)

Turns out she was getting very frustrated but more so with his girlfriend, I work rather long hours at my job so i didn't know this but apparently when i was at work his girlfriend had been at our house without him during the day (she doesn't work) and had even had friends over (i can't even begin to understand her line of thinking).

So as of today i gave him two months noticed and I've deducted my cover for his bills from his deposit he did promise to re-pay me but with his recent behavior i have my doubts

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Posted by grayid2
He has his whole life to be homeless, give him a few good years 🙂 nah wecarealot has a good point, teach him early. I wish someone had taught me.

The only way an Aries can ever learn life's lessons is the hard way. Throw us into the deep end and we will show you how we won't sink.

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I sink.

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Yep Aries love a good childish humph.. not very good with responsibilities at all. Not just young ones lol! I love Aries but I could defo wring their necks sometimes!

Aquas...*rolls eyes*

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Yes exactly what an Aries would do when they don't like what they hear! :-)My Aries likes a good eye roll now and again!

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He has his whole life to be homeless, give him a few good years 🙂 nah wecarealot has a good point, teach him early. I wish someone had taught me.

The only way an Aries can ever learn life's lessons is the hard way. Throw us into the deep end and we will show you how we won't sink.

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Yeah I've witnessed this..that is really quite true!!


Really odd about that guys gf coming in while he isn't there, think you have done the right thing in giving him notice to move. Thats really not on!

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He has his whole life to be homeless, give him a few good years 🙂 nah wecarealot has a good point, teach him early. I wish someone had taught me.

The only way an Aries can ever learn life's lessons is the hard way. Throw us into the deep end and we will show you how we won't sink.

I sink.

My point being made right here.

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How the fvk so?

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Good for you, Nelriss.

Thank you.

Yes his girlfriend having friends here is something I had no idea about until my other flatmate told me. I work most days and even when home I work from my home office downstairs and only go upstairs to make meals or on my way to the gym haha so I had no idea she was here with mates.

She's a bit younger and seems to not have a good grasp on boundaries. I have an aqua moon so normally people being a little unorthodox doesn't bother me but this girl is just out right rude.

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I have covered his bills for the last month as he has been have fights with his girlfriend leading to states of "depression" which has resulted in him taking days off work without pay as he's used his sick days up.

I'm at my wits end and i have seriously been considering kicking him out but i just feel too guilty to do so as i know in his current situation it would be very hard to find somewhere else to live.

I feel a bit like a mother always protecting him.

Stop mothering, stop paying his bills and kick him out. Some people learn the hard way regardless of sign

well I think this has more to do with immaturity and the fact that he never really was taught the proper way to behave and responsibilities because his caretakers died young! I am an Aries and I had my own apartment when I was 18 and I paid my bills and worked madafak I'm always the one telling people how to manage their responsibilities so I had I think it has to do with his upbringing! you have been good to him but he needs a wake up call

as an Aries, I really appreciate (even thankful) when someone tells me my wrongs. I'm never good at reading people. It's more than often that I unpurposedly hurt the people around me. (yeah, misunderstood sign, anyone)

Believe me, we can be really docile, especially for those we love and when it concerns about our own good. I think you should try to 'manipulate' him to pay the bills. My Taurus dormmate often scolded me when I eat slowly or slacking off by not studying for test. She also always yelling at me for my irresponsibility. And I just follow her orders. Happily. I consider her my bestfriend because of that. Mainly because she's honest about it.

Don't try to hold back or trying 'not to hurt his feeling' because that won't help anything. We won't get that.
Be honest. We know when people do something for our own good.