What to do when an Aries is being too pushy?

I'm a Scorpio, and my father is an Aries. I find Aries are really like rams in that they will literally headbutt you away from danger like a ram rounding up his sheep.

I am far from being a sheep. Although I've left home awhile ago, my dad still struggles in letting me grow up and making my own decisions. I notice he is like that with everyone in my family, especially my younger siblings.

I was wondering, what is the best way to persuade an Aries that they need to stop being so pushy without hurting their feelings or rousing up that infamous temper? I feel like he wants to protect all the time, 24/7, and I just want to be a normal girl with a normal life. Meaning, I don't want him headbutting my life and telling me what to do, how I'm acting, and why I need to do what he says. I've asked him to stop, and he says that if he stops, then he will completely disconnect- There is no gray area with him! We've fought from dawn to dusk sometimes, and in the end I always conceded because he was my dad. Now I'm too old for that butter.

Growing up with an Aries dad, I can say that, YES, there is such thing as TOO MUCH LOVE!!!

Ironically, I feel like I spent most of my life catering to his needs, and I'm done. I've realized we are different people. What's the best way to assert myself to an Aries?

"Stop being pushy."

Thanks for the replies everyone. I was also happy to hear your stories were so similar to my experiences. My Aries dad is really smart, it's just sometimes our values don't line up exactly. I guess I'll have to hold my ground, be straight forward, and firm with my boundaries. I suppose I will also have to live with the pushiness, since I now realize it's a natural form of self expression...In my case, I think it just shows he cares.

Now that I think about it, my current boss probably has this placement...I bet he is in some kind of fire sign at the very least...

just tell him straight, sit him down and explain your side. If he's too aggressive, let him know.

He will just break your boundaries, how old are you first of all? You should have started with that.

In my head my future children will have a life style similar to my childhood, they will have access to whatever is normal in the future so they aren't bullied in school, but at home it will be a whole different world. So, if you get a proper boyfriend that he likes, and move out, he will be okay with it. But if you are trying to exercise your rights to be a h–_e smoke weed and bring different guys over - if I were him I'd never let it happen, no matter how firm or mature you think you are, it's either black or white for us, I'm afraid. Also going out dressed classy/modestly will earn you trust points.

PlantinumAries, you sound exactly like my dad. Hahah. Thanks for the last sentence; that is gold to me.

My Aries dad is smart like I said; he is practical and logical. We just value different things. Different isn't necessarily bad. My dad, for example, really hates weak women. He doesn't like weak, overly dependent, insecure women who cry all the time. He raised me to be the exact opposite of that. Although I totally agree with him, I'm a Scorpio. That means I am going to dig deep into things, even people. Usually that results in deep soul connections that hurt like hell when they break, and yes I end up crying and feeling insecure for awhile afterwards. Like- "Why did this happen? What do I do? I'm in so much pain." And when I'm ready to live life again, I'm going to dig deep somewhere else. I'll be stronger than the last time, but to refrain from that literally feels like going against my nature.

My dad has no patience for that butter. Lol. I think he sees it as my Achilles heel. Ever since I moved out, my mom tells me he's not as stressed. Lol.

I appreciate everyone's replies. Thank you.

Posted by esortelracs

Growing up with an Aries dad, I can say that, YES, there is such thing as TOO MUCH LOVE!!!

NEVER!! You will take that love!! YOU WILL TAKE ALL THAT LOVE 😛

No seriously I had the reverse...I had a Scorpio dad. He was intense and I hid a lot of none incriminating things from him because he worried so much about everything, like shoes hurting my feet or clothes fitting funny; I went to my mom. I went to my mom for everything. What ended up happening is I rarely talked to him when I really needed him and I held everything in, I truly regret that the most. We had the best part of our relationship six months before he passed away because I just started telling him everything I ever wanted to in the past.

Tell your Aries dad every time you need a break and what exactly is bothering you. We need reality checks because as smart as some Aries are we can miss things with people close to us..like annoying them by charging into something that doesn't involve us. Because everything involves us, right? 😉

Posted by champranger

Do you feel like your Scorp dad understood you when you were younger?

Yes, but I wasn't open, communication wise, like I wish I would've been. Everything became unspoken. I knew I was loved and vice versa but we rarely talked deeply until the end because I knew he would worry and didn't want him to do that. He may have worried more because I never talked about my feelings.

Scorpios are quite frustrating it's good you moved out, I know Scorpios very well and I have two in my life, one a guy, another one a girl, both friends, what kills me most about them is an almost rude way to try to figure thinggs out, you think and overthink too much, sometimes I think you're a little mental, but then you snap out of it and normal again, just stop overthinking something they isn't there, make a rule for yourself, if you're dwelling on something over more than 5 minutes - you shouldn't be thinking about it. Make it 10.

Posted by champranger
The communication breaks down because I think both sides believes the other doesn't understand them at all.

+1

This is exactly how it is.

It's not that I don't understand, it's more of I don't really care, my way is the only way, unless you find some a radical ways to change my mind. Like do something behind my back that will make me happy, like find a great boyfriend that I'd expect to be some loser football player or car mechanic, but was surprised with a grad student lawyer or a doctor

Posted by PlatinumAries
It's not that I don't understand, it's more of I don't really care, my way is the only wayr

LOL