Break Up Advice...Help. Cancer Man Leo Woman

Okay, so this guy I've been dating for almost two years and I broke up. He's a Cancer and I'm a Leo. We haven't talked for over a week now, but my question is should I wait it out? Is it likely he'll come back? Should I reach out to him? I feel like he doesn't trust me, but I don't know how to coax him out of his shell. He said he loves me, but he's not in love with me. He seems kind of spiteful and mean, but I know that cancers can pinch. Usually if I've waited, he'll open up. I don't know what to do. Any advice or help is appreciated much..


Here's his signs

Sun - Cancer
Rising - Leo
Moon - Cap.
Venus - Gem.

My Signs

Sun - Leo
Rising - Taurus
Moon - Cancer
Venus - Cancer

Aww, thanks Exxtasyx. I completely thought that was my emotional cancer moon talking. I guess I always thought of Leos as being too proud to reach out.

Posted by GibsonGirl
Okay, so this guy I've been dating for almost two years and I broke up. He's a Cancer and I'm a Leo. We haven't talked for over a week now, but my question is should I wait it out? Is it likely he'll come back? Should I reach out to him? I feel like he doesn't trust me, but I don't know how to coax him out of his shell. He said he loves me, but he's not in love with me. He seems kind of spiteful and mean, but I know that cancers can pinch. Usually if I've waited, he'll open up. I don't know what to do. Any advice or help is appreciated much..

Is it likely he'll come back? After you dumped him for telling you he loves you but is not in love with you? Honey, don't kid yourself, it's clear who the spiteful one is here playing games. That cap moon of his was your biggest mistake in doing so. Wait as long as you want..you fucked up.
smfh @ Leos.

Posted by exxtasyx
Leo's usually have this problem of losing their pride and reaching out to people who ignore them or put them on the backburner. DON'T be that Leo. Be strong. He's the man, let him come to you. Don't fall into his little manipulative "come and get me" games. Eventually he will crack and he will have no choice but to contact you.

Who are you kidding? lol...a Leo wait? pfft. Especially when they know they fucked up. Nope, she's gonna be kissing his ass daily. The cap moon is gonna freeze that fire right out.

When a man tells you he loves you but is not in love with you, he's trying to break up with you and soften the blow. You might be able to manipulate him to keep seeing you *for awhile* out of guilt but he's gone. You can't hold a man who doesn't love you enough. You can make yourself miserable chasing after this but it will end in bitter failure. Cut bait and swim.

Posted by exxtasyx
Guys, he obviously loves her he's just being manipulative. The problem with this situation is, she has probably been chasing after him and giving him the attention he wants. "I love you but I'm not in love with you" BS is just there to drive her crazy. The way you get someone like that back is to pretend you don't care, go on Facebook, post fun pictures with friends, be active, like people's pics, post funny update statuses, pretend you're happy and this person will be so annoyed and running back to you in no time.

If he wants to manipulate and play games, then out do him.

Are you in your teens yet?

Posted by exxtasyx

I'm 21.

nuff said. Let me guess both parents worked full time right?

Posted by exxtasyx

Posted by LetltB

Posted by exxtasyx

I'm 21.

nuff said. Let me guess both parents worked full time right?

You make no sense.

And no. My dad did.

And I guarantee if she plays her cards right, he will be back in no time. She just can't be the one contacting him, because he's the one who broke up with her, and if she contacts him, she's gonna come across desperate and she will never regain the power. If she wants to take control back, she's gonna have to make HIM come to HER. And if he doesn't? Well then, he wasn't worth it to begin with.

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This is terrible advice. Manipulation is at the best of times short term gain, long term pain. He's not in love with her. He told her that flat out. Women who don't want to hear the truth are living in denial. You're only 21. You've no idea.

I didn't break up with him. I felt like we had an intense emotional connection, but I don't know what to do when he retreats into his shell. I feel like I've been drenched in water. I love him. I want to work on things, but he gets pinchy and it hurts. I'm just afraid that his cancer sun sign will keep him from ever coming back.

Posted by GibsonGirl
I didn't break up with him. I felt like we had an intense emotional connection, but I don't know what to do when he retreats into his shell. I feel like I've been drenched in water. I love him. I want to work on things, but he gets pinchy and it hurts. I'm just afraid that his cancer sun sign will keep him from ever coming back.

Still he told you he's not in love with you and you cannot change that fact no matter how you feel about him or how you perceive or wish the connection to be. Not seeing reality isn't going to change it.

I'm aware of that. I'm just wondering if I hurt him, if he's likely to change his heart. If talking it over or staying away is a better approach.

Posted by GibsonGirl
I didn't break up with him. I felt like we had an intense emotional connection, but I don't know what to do when he retreats into his shell. I feel like I've been drenched in water. I love him. I want to work on things, but he gets pinchy and it hurts. I'm just afraid that his cancer sun sign will keep him from ever coming back.

So then if you didn't break up with him, why did he break up with you?

Posted by GibsonGirl
Okay, so this guy I've been dating for almost two years and I broke up.

Two years is a long time...why did he end it, and how did that go down?