For Wondering...

The LIBRA Man
"In my youth," said his Father, "I took to the law. And argued each case with my wife;

And the muscular strength, which it gave to my jaw, Has lasted the rest of my life."

You'll get plenty of free advice from this man. Hell have the perfect solution to all your problems and an answer for every question you ask. But there's no use expecting him to be the answer to all your girlish dreams. He'll change some of them and argue with others. A Libra male can be as cranky as a crocodile with poison ivy, and his habit of rationalizing everything, including love, will drive you to frenzy-or leave you limp with defeat.

Still, I must warn you that once you're caught and en_meshed in the Libran charm, it won't be easy to break away. Trying to escape from a bear trap is a cinch, com_pared to liberating yourself from a Libran man. If you try to run, he'll persuade you to stay with such logical, intelli_gent arguments you couldn't hope to top them unless you graduated from Harvard Law School. In addition to using his unmatched reasoning powers on you, he'll turn so sweet and gentle you'll forget the frustrating inconsistencies of his nature that upset you before. Then he'll smile at you and something will happen inside. Your heart will turn over.

From that moment on, the battle will be lost. His dreams will be your dreams, and nothing will matter so much as making him happy. You'll seek that smile and need it to survive the way a thirsty traveler needs water. Only a really hard-hearted Hannah could resist a Libran smile, and she'd have to summon all her determination to avoid being magnetized by its purity. The Libran charm is not like the hypnotic persuasion of the Scorpio. The attraction of Libra is logicul and real, not supernatural in any sense. There's no black magic about it, just common sense submission to his heavenly aura.

On the other hand, to use his favorite catch phrase, there will be times when those Libra scales dip back and forth with crazy contradiction. You'll have to shout at him, push him into the lake, or stand on your head to get his atten_tion and force him to make a move. Don't be so naive as to think love will be smooth and eternally tranquil, even if he is ruled by Venus. If you're up on your Roman mythology, you're aware that Venus had her off days. Still, when the scales balance, life with Libra can be as intoxicat_ing as a goblet of golden ambrosia, with lots of laughs and a casual freedom known only to the gods who cavort on Olympus.

Making up his mind is a chore no less strenuous to the average Libran male than taming a wild buffalo, and once he's made it up, he's liable to change it with no warning if he suspects he's made a mistake. There's a woman I know Who hoped to go into a business partnership with a Libran, and she learned the hard way about this legendary Libra idiosyncrasy. They had a breakfast appointment together one summer morning, and both of them were full of en_thusiastic, optimistic plans for the future. After he dropped her off on the way to his office, she began to worry. His promises were almost too good to be true, so she phoned him, just to make sure she hadn't been dreaming. He was still excited, he repeated all his promises and ambitious plans, and they made a date to get together again the fol_lowing week. Before they hung up, he guessed what was on her mind and reassured her. "By the way," he re_marked, "I want to say something, since I won't see you again for a few days." He hesitated slightly (she missed that clue), then continued with conviction. "I wanted to tell you that, well-I guess what I wanted to say is don't worry. I won't change my mind. We'll go through with it, just the way we planned."

The next week, when he didn't call, she phoned him again. "Were you out of town?" she asked. "No," he said slowly. "I didn't call you because I wanted to think it over." A long pause. "I think I should try so

THANK YOU, Freebird!! Wow, that fits him to a "T."

Update: I went into e-mail to write a letter to get this stuff off my chest -- mostly acknowleding the mistakes I made but also expressing my sorrow -- with the intention of saving it in the draft folder. After fine-tuning it I thought, "what the hell?" and tried to send it, fully expecting it to "bounce" back. For several minutes I stared at the screen in disbelief -- it went through!!!

He should get it tomorrow... now waiting to see what happens. (probably nothing, but that's okay too -- I feel "purged" now)

Wondering

that..that is RIGHT ON!!!

I know I am in love with her.

Mr. Libra wrote back. It was a very sincere letter.

He and the ex-GF had it out and are no longer in contact. He admits his mistakes and says it was stupid of him to try to maintain a friendship with her at the risk of losing me.

He wants time and space to heal from what happened and says there's a lot going on in his personal life. He hopes that someday we can be best friends again.

Meanwhile, I've been doing some reading about codependency and believe that he is not just a Libra who is afraid to hurt anyone's feelings and/or "rock the boat" but is in fact codependent on top of that. That, of course, means that I am probably codependent as well.

The break is a good thing; it will give me time to work on some things.

Wondering

Wonder Im a wonder I roam around and around and around.