Gem confused

So my Virgo contacted me last week and now that I've had all this time to think about it, I'm pretty sure she's just doing what she tends to do when she's either lonely or just being a dick.

I was wondering why she was trying to get a hold of me if she was planning on getting married.( her uncles are very fond of me so they talk to me from time to time) I just tell them that I don't really care about what she's up to anynore because I mean it's been 2 years. I fucked up and she found the love of her life, whatever.

So all the other times she's tried to contact me, it involves some sort of lowkey, no crumbs left behind type of social media or usually just call me using an UNKNOWN #. All the other times i usually fall hook line and sinker and go see her so we can "catch up" and "talk", but ultimately always ends with her telling me " oh, yeah I forgot to mention I'm still with him and we're planning on doing this and doing that" so I just sit there like "? Oh.... wow.... cool..."

but this time I haven't tried to contact her at all and I've spoken to my gf about this and she tells me that she's just being a hoe(which isn't that far off but I digress)

Why does she continue to play these games?

Tbh idk, her and I started off as best friends in sophomore year and ended up going out late junior year and we lasted up to 2 years so we knew each other for a total of 4 years. Her and I always felt a connection towards each other, even when we were going out with different people before we even got together. But you're right if i say I'm so over her, why am I even writing about her?

When people come here and ask "why does my ex keep reaching out to me? Why can't my ex let go?", it's hard to not wonder which person is really the one who can't let go.

It usually looks like both are still holding out for something. One might be playing games and the other might still be genuinely in love, but both have their reasons for staying in the game. Face it: if you don't really care about someone, you don't worry too much about why she keeps trying to contact you. You don't need to dissect her behavior because you're done with her and her intentions won't change your mind.

This girl sounds like a good one to pass on and I question her moral composition. It looks like she's dishonest and unfaithful. Maybe she keeps in touch with you because she's not satisfied with the other guy and she wants someone on the side. You, on the other hand, seem to still care. I think you care and she doesn't and that won't end well for you.

If you don't want her anymore, keep blocking her and stop asking why she's doing what she's doing. We can only guess. But you have to decide if you want to be a guy she keeps on the side for when she's bored in her other relationships or if you want to cut her off because you don't want to get shot by a jealous husband someday.