is it always about confidence? (Page 2)

i never engaged romantically with men from architectcure.

maybe i can be friends with leo and other people from film industry but never date them

now i see how it looks like.

there of course are some couples that remain romantically in film industry like my architecture friend who fell in love with a cinematographer. but its maybe an extra couple idk.

its like when i want to be friends or involved romantically with leo i cant work with him.

when i want to work in a film industry i cant be friends with leo and cant be involved romantically.

i know, i understand that.

i have never dated anyone frm architetcure because i wanted to be professional. i get that.

since 2 years sth weird happened in my life. and i lost my path.

i can be a good set designer with an architectural background working withother people professionally at the office.

its ok for me.

thank you everyone for the comments!!

i really appreciated teh conversation and this thread today.

thanks!

Is that you in the pic? If so, girl you're gorgeous. A head turner for sure.

sorry, its not me.

its some model lol

big yes.

Posted by starwars
we both have cap moon and I relate to some of the stuff you've written.

we cap moons are able to deal and get along with different personalities, but on a detached/shallow level - that's how other see it - because we aren't easily influenced or offended by differences and other people behavior in general. That lead to other people thinking we "don't" get them, they don't accept this trait because people want to be with someone who get excited and annoyed at the same stuff they get excited-annoyed about. Unlike cap moon, they are bothered with differences and little similarities.

I have this approach, its just how I am and how I approach people. I'm almost always detached/shallow unless I decided to take it further. even then, I remain a bit detached but they'd know that I care for them and that I'm loyal and appreciate them in my life.

you need to be aware of this trait/approach and know when to take it further/leave it at that.

what worked for me:

- express yourself freely, this is one thing that helped me get out of my shell. say what on your mind and do what you like. make your own rules and norms, stay true to yourself and them.

- choose your friends-partners wisely, use the "detached" approach for your advantage, use the time you're friendzoned to assess their personalities, whether they would make great friends or not and try to express yourself freely.

- for the not taking offense part: I'm the same thing, I'm almost never offended, used to think there's something wrong with me until I realized that what bother other people, shouldn't be bothering me. seriously, you should not care as long as you're having fun and you shouldn't be offended if it doesn't offend-hurt you.

- the career thing: same thing, you don't have to aim for what others aim for. everyone is different.

thank you for your answer. its true. i take people and situations on a shallow level. at first i may seem nonchalant or like i would not care. but i need to dig deeper to understand.

usuall i am nice to people and i have a lot of acquaintances because i do not get 'deeper' in the emotional level. i stay on that acquaintance level, shallow level.



its very hard for me to open up. since 2-1 year i tried to do so. it works. but then i must ;filter; people .

its hard. i need to choose. i need toobserve and analyse.

Posted by Aznnation
maybe this guy can help you

i wonder about his success rate in helping women.



he seems really happy to help them, and he has a big class following him.

and i wonder what type of woman he has? and if he is straight or gay or bi.

just wondering his background cause of the way he approaches this.

Posted by Sunsetvirgo
I'm trying to follow this thread.

So are you with the Leo guy now?

same.

OP your thoughts are jumbled.



what is your mercury?

so, ultimately you want to observe and analyze? is that your goal in reationshp?

i ahev mercury in pieces.

what about social media.

i do not post on instagram, and i do not snapchat very often, i do not do it.

am i weird? i feel like i m not in 'the game'.

really 😉

i am feeling very alone all the time.

its not about that i can not make friends.

i meet people but for them i am not very open.

as someone said before.

this cap moon makes me very shy and quiet at the same time.

i make my life harder than it is.

with this leo man- today he told me that he is not gonna help me with sth because he is sick.

i dont know why people are like that.

1stly they offer help and then they prolong the situation, i wait , i insist and then they are like, no i can not, i am sick, i had busy week, i had a mess at work...

and it turnes out that i apologise for insisting and they even do not 'read' my messages on fb...

this is leo man, that i was talking about before...

so weird.

dont know why he did that. i felt a bit tested?

why? with my patience... so weird...