regarding last months eclipse [venting/need help]

Hey.. first time user of this message board although I have been reading it for a while! haha.

I am really struggling with a friendship that fell apart during last months eclipse. Over the august 24/25/26 weekend this particular pieces friend and I had a huge fight. He is near and dear to me. We do have romantic feelings for each other that cannot come to fruition because of a lot of complications.. which is what stirred up most of the drama between us. He has started dating another scorpio gal who is lovely and talented and wonderful and I am insanely jealous... although I know he's not looking for anything serious with her, as we have shared several intimate late night discussions about his struggles with a past love.
He and I have decided because of everything being so emotional, we need to not talk for a while. Our "friendship" has become quite toxic because of the passions we both know we have for one another but can't take any further for the fear of losing the other. We know it wouldn't pan out to ANYTHING right now, and we are constantly trying to remember that... which is hard when we are both dating other people just fine.. heh. We haven't spoken to each other since that weekend, which this weekend I guess will only be 3 weeks.. haha it seems like 80 years!! I miss him dearly.
ANYWAY! (gee, sorry this is winded.. i am venting.) I would really just like to know if this relationship between us in in shreds and I should accept that, bawl my eyes out, and move on or if this eclipse has left plenty left to salvage...? I was unclear as to whether this was an eclipse about toning things down and letting things develop in a new way, or sort of an "out with the old in with the new" kind of thing... i am obviously hoping with every ounce of my being it's the prior rather than the later.. ha

Hello and welcome to the boards 🙂

I know the above was just a vent and sometimes we all need that .. however, this left a huge mark on me and I am compelled to respond.

First, you talk very fondly of him and it sounds as though he feels the same for you .. and it's very sad that two people who have such respect for each other that they would step aside so the other can try to find happiness in another person (keeping envy and jealousy OUT of the relationship, eventhough it's certainly felt), can't find the grounding they need to come together in the union that is deserving of two adults .. this is very heart-breaking and disturbing.

Whatever the reasons, is your business (and his) .. I can only express that it's rare to find a woman in here talking about loving her man so much that she would stand aside and let him live, rather than attempt to manipulate him into serving her emotional needs .. you're a very strong woman, and braver than many.

I just can't comment enough on you saying that eventhough you are jealous of this other woman (insanely) .. you are mature enough to recognize that she is a lovely lady, and give her credit due her, rather than tear her down simply because of your own emotional distress .. wow !!!!

"I would really just like to know if this relationship between us in in shreds and I should accept that, bawl my eyes out, and move on or if this eclipse has left plenty left to salvage...?"

Scorpiomj .. sometimes, we just need a break, for whatever reason. Like now, this has brought you to reflect, soul search .. and I'm sure he's doing the same thing. You know that this other lady is simply someone to distract him from being torn from you and you know that he loves you .. you. Sometimes, we have to step away to see the whole forest. Don't give up on something this special .. ever.

And if you two can't be together in a union .. you know you have the most respectful and loving friend for life you could ever ask for.

You've really moved me and that doesn't happen often (most people are blinded on ego-trips) .. you would remain lovingly loyal to his heart, and his to yours .. even under circumstances of physically embracing another. That is love, my friend, the real thing .. the heart and soul remains devoutly connected, eventhough the body is not .. and done so out of respect.

Damn .. don't give up ..

Thank you, thank you, thank you!

Your message has touched me so deeply. It is really what I needed to hear this morning. I go through periods of this self doubt time when I am so torn up about the situation that I can't see forward, only in the present. And while I am a strong believer in the fact that we only have today to live for, I know that everything pans out eventually for out own happiness.
It's all I have ever really wanted for him to be happy, and I have told him time and time again if that means it's with someone else, even though it would rip me apart, as long as I know I always have him there in my life I know I can make it through. I think that's whats hard about this, is that we don't have each other right now... but as you said we're just in need of a break.
Anyway, I always get very very long winded on this subject.. it's terrible! but I wanted to thank you and let you know you said exactly the right thing and because of your words I feel strong today. Which is important for a scorpio to feel, as we tend to lash out to those around us when we are feeling our weakest. haha..

Thank YOOOOU! :] I do know we have an intense love for each other, it's just a matter of how and when it will come to be appropriate.