Understand it, deal with it, live with it.

Capricorn is my sun sign and also the sign I identify with the most. My scorpionic energy is just there at all times, radiating in the background and sometimes the foreground. No problem. Then I have a little more earth and a little more water, everything is fine. My gem bits(moon and rising) I think I have under pretty good control — I never had a problem chatting people up at parties. I also spent my first years in school being infuriatingly chatty, and that combined with my late blooming Capricorn sun??_it was baaad. But that taught me how to control it. So far so good.

And then BOOM — there comes my Sagittarius venus. I simply can not control it. - it's like it has a life of its own. It just fits in nowhere. It's also the only fire I have in my chart, which makes it even harder to relate to anything else. Does anyone have similar experiences and/or any ideas, maybe with other signs, that could help me understand it, deal with it and live with it?

Not sure what you mean. Are you asking if I have any venus aspects?

What exactly is the problem?

My Sag-Stellium noticed happyC (the last couple of days) playful and positive as an Aries.

My mistake. It was our Venus in Sags connection.

BTW I have an air singleton. Can I die from it? Saturn/Aqua?

@clooneyyears
I get what you mean now. Reading reading reading. Thanks! 🙂

@Seraph
Great links! Not finished reading, but it's promising. Thanks! 🙂

@duchesslibro
It's difficult to explain. It's like all other sides of my personality are okay in place and then that darned sag venus just walks in and craps all over it. Say I'm with a guy I like and everything is fine. We mesh on all levels and we get close and intimate and then sag crashes in and suddenly I feel smothered and I want to run away(not during sex or anything, that's not what I'm talking about) while at the same time still wanting to be crazy close with the guy. It's weeeird and I absolutely refuse to destroy another relationship due to this.

@DwellingOnMove
Hehehe. Yeah, must have been...and maybe a sprinkle of gem. 🙂 An air singleton, you say? Haven't read about that yet. How is it affecting you? Seems both Sigmund Freud and Mother Teresa had fire venus singletons like me, but I have yet to find a way to ask them about it.

Interesting piece of info from one of the links:

We can see the women tend to —own?? and perhaps overcompensate their Venus singletons, while men are more likely to project it onto women.

Oh yeah, seems Josef Mengele also had a venus fire singleton. Awsome! 😢

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Oh yeah, seems Josef Mengele also had a venus fire singleton. Awsome! 😢

LOL!

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You can be close with someone who understands and even shares your urge for feeling free. It's very intimate when it happens.

Agreed. It seems to me in every LTR I've ever been in it has taken the guys a long time to feel secure enough to think I won't run away and then just when that has happened...guess what...that's right: I have broken up with them. Really great guys! There is this one guy that didn't happen with - other things happened and we had to part. With him it was just like you say. He doesn't share the feeling, but he understands it and wow! 🙂 (working on getting him back, maybe at some point...🙂 But that's when I can not under any circumstances mess up, so I need to friggin work on this.)

Thank you! 🙂 May I ask, Tiziani, which one were you? Runner or "understander?"

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An air singleton, you say? Haven't read about that yet. How is it affecting you? ...

I read once about singleton but I did not focus on my own chart (or maybe I have alzheimer).

BTW I have also void in social houses. => have to learn it later.

Internet says:
- Air singleton: good for intellectuality + feels inadequate or has problems with communication/learning/reading + tendency to be detached/dissociative
- Air fixed signs: stubbornness/persistence/monomania
- Saturn ok in Aquarius + problematic personality rigidity.
- Singleton in 3rd house: saturn: (duty, also structure) :conjunct: IC (inner world) as the "handle", indicating you need to inwardly structure things before you can do them.

I say:
I have definitely a science complex. It is mostly colored with feelings of inadequacy. I don't know in which scenarios I am stubborn. Or partially rigid. But I have handled in a very important issue in my life very out of head instead of out of heart. Learning or communication can be problematic or not. I master it if I like to. I definitely need to inwardly structure things before I can start moving towards my goals. Maybe my nickname is telling this.

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What do you mean by science complex? Is that what it sounds like or something else?

This is interesting. Are you very much affected by it, or is it something you've just learned to live with?

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Thank you! 🙂 May I ask, Tiziani, which one were you? Runner or "understander?"

Lol I never run. I suppose that leaves me being understander. You can be too understanding to the point of killing sexual tension sometimes. But she didn't seem like a runner either. It was like you said, other things happened in the background that meant we had to agree to take care of our end separately.

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Ah, I'm sorry to hear that!

Personally, I don't think the "understanding" in itself can do that. Blind agreement can, but you don't seem like the type.

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intellectuality ... inadequate ... detached ... persistence ... need to inwardly structure things before you can do them.

... science complex ... inadequacy ... Learning or communication can be problematic or not. I master it if I like to. ...

What do you mean by science complex?...

This is interesting. Are you very much affected by it, or is it something you've just learned to live with?

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No, I'm not affected by it anymore. I have learned to live with it.

What is a science complex in my dictionary? I give myself again and agian an average score of 14-16/20. I wish I had more scientific intuition. Solving technical problems are often based on Memory for me. In other scenarios (mechanics) I have the right idea but when facing material and stuff I fail to do the right thing. Example fixing a defect of my bycycle.

Great!

So it works in theory but not as well in practice? How about maths?

I'm good at what I do. and good in math.
only it is not 20/20, nor 17/20. it is less. as a woman working in men's domain my weakness bothers me.

Thought you might be. 🙂

Hmm. Sure, it's good not to think you're perfect, because as soon as you do you are unable to learn, but to devalue yourself is not the answer either. It's difficult.