DeeLovesRed
@DeeLovesRed
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What you think I should do??
I hope this isn't too presumptive; take it as a suggestion, nothing more.
"Thank you for what you said. You may not know how much I had wanted hear those words when we were still together. It may have made the difference between us still being together and not.
I never wanted anything more than for you to be the best man you can be and I am happy to hear that in some way, I was able to be the catalyst for that. While I'm sorry that it couldn't have happened while we were together, it means a lot that you're able to tell me now and I want you to know that you'll always hold a special place in my heart. Whatever hard feelings I may have had for you, or whatever pain you might have caused, it' long gone and forgiven. I wish for you only the best that your life has to offer, and I'm glad that I was able to be a part in your happiness.
Take care."
"Thank you for what you said. You may not know how much I had wanted hear those words when we were still together. It may have made the difference between us still being together and not.
I never wanted anything more than for you to be the best man you can be and I am happy to hear that in some way, I was able to be the catalyst for that. While I'm sorry that it couldn't have happened while we were together, it means a lot that you're able to tell me now and I want you to know that you'll always hold a special place in my heart. Whatever hard feelings I may have had for you, or whatever pain you might have caused, it' long gone and forgiven. I wish for you only the best that your life has to offer, and I'm glad that I was able to be a part in your happiness.
Take care."
Posted by sultrykittyI really like this.. I think I'll steal this one.. b/c God knows how harsh and direct I was going to be.. Plus he's has Mars in Can and he get's offended easily.. So this was perfect
I hope this isn't too presumptive; take it as a suggestion, nothing more.
"Thank you for what you said. You may not know how much I had wanted hear those words when we were still together. It may have made the difference between us still being together and not.
I never wanted anything more than for you to be the best man you can be and I am happy to hear that in some way, I was able to be the catalyst for that. While I'm sorry that it couldn't have happened while we were together, it means a lot that you're able to tell me now and I want you to know that you'll always hold a special place in my heart. Whatever hard feelings I may have had for you, or whatever pain you might have caused, it' long gone and forgiven. I wish for you only the best that your life has to offer, and I'm glad that I was able to be a part in your happiness.
Take care."
Thanks. 🙂
You can edit parts to be more based on your personal experience. But no one likes to get flogged when they're trying to make amends. It's hard not to want to rehash the hurt, but it sounds like he recognizes that he did hurt you and wanted to apologize.
Hope he takes it with the intention that it's given.
You can edit parts to be more based on your personal experience. But no one likes to get flogged when they're trying to make amends. It's hard not to want to rehash the hurt, but it sounds like he recognizes that he did hurt you and wanted to apologize.
Hope he takes it with the intention that it's given.
Perfect reply from SultryKitty...
LOL @ Taurus/Aries.....Pisces are always happy to give and TAKE good advice!
LOL @ Taurus/Aries.....Pisces are always happy to give and TAKE good advice!
@Redoctober2000 @AriesLove
Not WHAT to say... I know what to say, I know when, where and why I want to say something... I don't know how to say it because like I said I don't love him and to be honest I've moved on (which he knows)... I'm in a totally new relationship (he knows this as well)... But because I don't want to come of harsh (like cut throat).... I'm seeking another way of saying what I (not someone else.. But I, ME, MYSELF) want to say.... Like the saying goes "it's not WHAT you say, it's HOW you say it"
And I'm the type of person to be very direct and just leave the situation as is...... So I'm seeking a better approach.. Plus I'm considering his predicament (too personal to say)... But he's not even able to enter my country again... So I'm trying to say what I have to say ONE time and ONE time only.... Technically, I've asked for help on how to say my last paragraph.... I've wrote the letter, just not the end... Hahaha
Posted by UndineAlways... Someone might know/experience more than you.. So you can't be close minded to advice... 😄
Perfect reply from SultryKitty...
LOL @ Taurus/Aries.....Pisces are always happy to give and TAKE good advice!
Posted by AriesLoveThen you'll miss out on the most sincere advice one could get: that from (near) strangers.Posted by UndineIf I take advice from anyone it will be someone I personally know and feel are in the position to give me decent advice.
Perfect reply from SultryKitty...
LOL @ Taurus/Aries.....Pisces are always happy to give and TAKE good advice!
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Posted by AriesLoveShe cares about him enough to give him closure and not offend him.Posted by DeeLovesRedWell considering the fact that you do not care about this person and have claimed to move on it really should not require much emotional thinking and wasted time. SMH!
@Redoctober2000 @AriesLove
Not WHAT to say... I know what to say, I know when, where and why I want to say something... I don't know how to say it because like I said I don't love him and to be honest I've moved on (which he knows)... I'm in a totally new relationship (he knows this as well)... But because I don't want to come of harsh (like cut throat).... I'm seeking another way of saying what I (not someone else.. But I, ME, MYSELF) want to say.... Like the saying goes "it's not WHAT you say, it's HOW you say it"
And I'm the type of person to be very direct and just leave the situation as is...... So I'm seeking a better approach.. Plus I'm considering his predicament (too personal to say)... But he's not even able to enter my country again... So I'm trying to say what I have to say ONE time and ONE time only.... Technically, I've asked for help on how to say my last paragraph.... I've wrote the letter, just not the end... Hahaha
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Posted by AriesLoveThis is precisely why the world is in the shitter. People who don't care to spend a moment on the fact that we are still dealing with human beings on the planet. And each and every interaction has the potential to break someone further.Posted by DeeLovesRedWell considering the fact that you do not care about this person and have claimed to move on it really should not require much emotional thinking and wasted time. SMH!
@Redoctober2000 @AriesLove
Not WHAT to say... I know what to say, I know when, where and why I want to say something... I don't know how to say it because like I said I don't love him and to be honest I've moved on (which he knows)... I'm in a totally new relationship (he knows this as well)... But because I don't want to come of harsh (like cut throat).... I'm seeking another way of saying what I (not someone else.. But I, ME, MYSELF) want to say.... Like the saying goes "it's not WHAT you say, it's HOW you say it"
And I'm the type of person to be very direct and just leave the situation as is...... So I'm seeking a better approach.. Plus I'm considering his predicament (too personal to say)... But he's not even able to enter my country again... So I'm trying to say what I have to say ONE time and ONE time only.... Technically, I've asked for help on how to say my last paragraph.... I've wrote the letter, just not the end... Hahaha
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Granted I've taken that to an extreme with some drama....
But I don't think there is anything wrong with her expending some time and thought for the guy, so as to help him along his journey instead of negatively impact something he tried to 'right' even if after the fact
But I don't think there is anything wrong with her expending some time and thought for the guy, so as to help him along his journey instead of negatively impact something he tried to 'right' even if after the fact
Posted by UndineExactly.. You snatched the words right out of my head.. I was just going to reply about "closure"..... Some may not need it and some will need it.. For instance, I didn't need closure to move on... However, he does because HE reached out to ME 1st... I didn't visit, call, or contact him.. Therefore, that states that he needs the closure to officially move on and be happy..Posted by AriesLoveShe cares about him enough to give him closure and not offend him.Posted by DeeLovesRedWell considering the fact that you do not care about this person and have claimed to move on it really should not require much emotional thinking and wasted time. SMH!
@Redoctober2000 @AriesLove
Not WHAT to say... I know what to say, I know when, where and why I want to say something... I don't know how to say it because like I said I don't love him and to be honest I've moved on (which he knows)... I'm in a totally new relationship (he knows this as well)... But because I don't want to come of harsh (like cut throat).... I'm seeking another way of saying what I (not someone else.. But I, ME, MYSELF) want to say.... Like the saying goes "it's not WHAT you say, it's HOW you say it"
And I'm the type of person to be very direct and just leave the situation as is...... So I'm seeking a better approach.. Plus I'm considering his predicament (too personal to say)... But he's not even able to enter my country again... So I'm trying to say what I have to say ONE time and ONE time only.... Technically, I've asked for help on how to say my last paragraph.... I've wrote the letter, just not the end... Hahaha
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So, I don't want to hinder him.. I can politely say my goodbyes.. & That'll be the end.. I don't have to be hostile b/c that will only show how small-minded I am.. That's why I took to dxp....
@deezie @AriesLove
Like I just commented, some people need closure and some do not.. b/c even though I'm asking for advice.. I still have to type the letter... I still have to proof-read the letter, I still have to decide on what I want/ do not want in the letter.....
I'm not going to COPY & PASTE... Like are you kidding me.. I wouldn't "stretch" the truth... b/c only him and I know what we've been through... I gave a general explanation of the letter... So you don't know all I have to say.. Plus as I said in my earlier response... I'm asking for help w/ the end.. Which is the (Yes you did hurt me, but I forgave you a long time ago. And I wish you well)
Definitely not jumping around the truth... Being direct but not in a harsh way..
Harsh meaning like this ( Yea you fucked up and you were a piece of shit. Plus you was wrong for doing this and doing that.. But I forgave you for the fucked up shit you did)
B/c that's exactly how I want to write it, but that's not giving him closure.. That's going to give him space to respond and start a "back-and-forth" effect... So if I say it in a polite way.. He'll only have to accept the polite "goodbye, farewell"
Like I just commented, some people need closure and some do not.. b/c even though I'm asking for advice.. I still have to type the letter... I still have to proof-read the letter, I still have to decide on what I want/ do not want in the letter.....
I'm not going to COPY & PASTE... Like are you kidding me.. I wouldn't "stretch" the truth... b/c only him and I know what we've been through... I gave a general explanation of the letter... So you don't know all I have to say.. Plus as I said in my earlier response... I'm asking for help w/ the end.. Which is the (Yes you did hurt me, but I forgave you a long time ago. And I wish you well)
Definitely not jumping around the truth... Being direct but not in a harsh way..
Harsh meaning like this ( Yea you fucked up and you were a piece of shit. Plus you was wrong for doing this and doing that.. But I forgave you for the fucked up shit you did)
B/c that's exactly how I want to write it, but that's not giving him closure.. That's going to give him space to respond and start a "back-and-forth" effect... So if I say it in a polite way.. He'll only have to accept the polite "goodbye, farewell"
Posted by DeeLovesRedTo be clear.... I was on your side on this.
@deezie @AriesLove
Like I just commented, some people need closure and some do not.. b/c even though I'm asking for advice.. I still have to type the letter... I still have to proof-read the letter, I still have to decide on what I want/ do not want in the letter.....
I'm not going to COPY & PASTE... Like are you kidding me.. I wouldn't "stretch" the truth... b/c only him and I know what we've been through... I gave a general explanation of the letter... So you don't know all I have to say.. Plus as I said in my earlier response... I'm asking for help w/ the end.. Which is the (Yes you did hurt me, but I forgave you a long time ago. And I wish you well)
Definitely not jumping around the truth... Being direct but not in a harsh way..
Harsh meaning like this ( Yea you fucked up and you were a piece of shit. Plus you was wrong for doing this and doing that.. But I forgave you for the fucked up shit you did)
B/c that's exactly how I want to write it, but that's not giving him closure.. That's going to give him space to respond and start a "back-and-forth" effect... So if I say it in a polite way.. He'll only have to accept the polite "goodbye, farewell"
Posted by deeziePosted by DeeLovesRedTo be clear.... I was on your side on this.
@deezie @AriesLove
Like I just commented, some people need closure and some do not.. b/c even though I'm asking for advice.. I still have to type the letter... I still have to proof-read the letter, I still have to decide on what I want/ do not want in the letter.....
I'm not going to COPY & PASTE... Like are you kidding me.. I wouldn't "stretch" the truth... b/c only him and I know what we've been through... I gave a general explanation of the letter... So you don't know all I have to say.. Plus as I said in my earlier response... I'm asking for help w/ the end.. Which is the (Yes you did hurt me, but I forgave you a long time ago. And I wish you well)
Definitely not jumping around the truth... Being direct but not in a harsh way..
Harsh meaning like this ( Yea you fucked up and you were a piece of shit. Plus you was wrong for doing this and doing that.. But I forgave you for the fucked up shit you did)
B/c that's exactly how I want to write it, but that's not giving him closure.. That's going to give him space to respond and start a "back-and-forth" effect... So if I say it in a polite way.. He'll only have to accept the polite "goodbye, farewell"
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Yea I know you were... I didn't mean to tag you... 😢 but I was agreeing with you
Haha ok! Just wanted to make sure i came across correctly. Sometimes i get all worked up about my own ability to communicate clearly. Daily struggle.
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