Are Cancers Loyal Mates?

Are Cancers Loyal Mates?

It depends....For me its am i really into you? or i'm with you just cause i don't want to be alone.
But most won't cheat.

Read what I wrote on your other thread 🙂

Must be that Gemini, Pisces, or Aquarius rising perhaps.

Yes, loyal so long as you are taking care of their emotions for them and walking on eggshells around them to protect these feelings.

However, they have alternates always in the works because they don't like to be alone and will, indeed, hook up with somebody just because of this lonliness. However, these two go hand-in-hand .. they aren't REALLY lonely .. they just have to be partnered so they have another to carry thier emotions.

So, with your Cancer and whether this person will be loyal will depend on those two factors ....

1. If you are carrying thier emotional baggage = loyalty
2. If you are a fill-in for the lonliness = unfaithful

"P - I am a bit disappointed with your response. I think that is a misconception"


And yet, it happens all the time .. for instance, if a person says something to hurt your feelings, then your feelings get hurt .. and this happens consistently.

It is within each of us to decide for ourselves, FOR ourselves, what is going to effect our lives. Another person cannot hurt your feelings, only YOU can hurt yourself by ALLOWING another person to effect you.

Hypothetical:

P-Angel: You're a slut
Cancer: No, I'm not. That's not nice.
P-Angel: Yes you are and a bitch to boot
Cancer: Why do people have to be so mean? You don't know me, I'm a good person.

In essence, what this means is that because a response was launched to defend your integrity from someone elses assessment, means that you would hold enough credit in even considering thier judgement to reply with a counter. You don't feel like a slut, or a bitch, and you KNOW you aren't .. operative word here = you KNOW that you aren't ... yet, would attempt to get the other to comply/agree that you are not, you would defy/debate their assessment of you, eventhough you know this is untrue.

That's emotional dependence on another person because if they have this judgement of you then it WILL hurt your feelings, eventhough you KNOW it is false, though, I fully realize that you don't see that ... you see it as, don't judge me.

In reality ... a person emotionally dependent upon themselves doesn't look for another to give them credit. To judge, beit, negative or positive .. is within a persons own dignity of their own feelings for how they view themself, and another persons opinion should hold no bearing on how you feel about yourself.

Our friends called and invited us to go to a hooka bar, but I personally didn't want to go, not because I mind people smoking, but I like to keep things clean.
I told him, "if you want, you can go with them."
So he went.
I don't mind he went, its just the fact that he went and he's not going to see me for the next three days and he's basically choosing our friends over me.

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Above is another example of emotional dependence on another person .. in this scenerio (which was on the Aqua board and used exclusively for example purposes and not intented to exploit) .. it's a Cancer female with an Aqua boyfriend.

Within this situation .. the Cancer tells the Aqua that it's ok for him to go hang out with friends without her because she doesn't want to go.

He goes .. believing she is ok with it because she said so.

Then she gets upset because he goes, which by him going means her feelings are hurt because he would prefer to be with friends instead of her.


So, in essence ... she was emotionally dependent upon him to keep her feelings from being hurt, eventhough, she had it within herself not to be hurt because she was already aware of a decision she made in allowing him to go. She didn't HAVE to get upset .. this wasn't just something that popped out of nowhere .. he didn't diss her on a date, he didn't neglect her in any way ... she GAVE him her permission.

Yet, got her feelings hurt.

I LOVE Cancers, however, I have observed that some of the Cancers I know do seek approval and depend on OTHERS to make them emotionally happy a great deal. I just find that SOME Cancers cannot find happiness in someone else or look for others to complete your emotional being. I have also observed that Cancers seek others approval and look for others to approve of them WAY too much and then when it doesn't happen, then they are disappointed and get mad at you, when I feel like you should look for another to make you happy.

No, CANCERBUDDY OR MOON, I AM NOT pinpointing YOU or some other Cancers that I know, but I have been in contact with a great deal and the ones I have met do expect others to make them happy way too much.

But, that does not mean some other people don't like it and don't SHOW approval.

Agreed krobe .. I too like Cancers. In fact, I don't dislike any person, rather, deeds done of a person.

There are many Cancers in my life .. and this seems to be a common factor. However, that doesn't mean it's unacceptable, for some people actually would enjoy having this quality. I would think any fire sign would, since they also are dependent emotionally on their partners rather, in reverse .. they look for another to keep bounded to them and in return provide emotional security .. however, maybe all that fire exploding would be too much.

One good friend of mine is married to a Capricorn (she used to be married to an Aries) .. and she couldn't be happier. Polar opposites are suppose to hook up, so maybe Cappy's are actually looking for this quality in Cancer to find contentment.

"usually but those who least know anything"


A person doesn't have to be a Cancer to be observant, ME .. in fact, most of us are quite unable to see in ourselves, what others can detect. For example: Pisces people appear to outsiders as being indecisive .. yet, from within myself, I feel perfectly capable of making decisions and often do.

Does it make this assessment right or wrong? No .. it's perspective ..
Does that mean that they don't know what their talking about? No, it means it's their perspective they've gained from observation ..

But going back to loyalty... cancers are loyal and will take more than most people will but dont push the boundary.

Good deal, that is good to know MOON, since this board is dedicated to that topic and yes, Cancers are loyal. I have been best friends with a Cancer female almost ALL my life and we have really NEVER had a fallen out. She was ALWAYS there if I needed her and I was always there for her. They Cancer males are alit different. They want you to prove loyalty to them first, and then they usually kick in.

I was going to post yesterday but declined, maybe I should have. I understand what CB and Moon are saying about not dumping emotions but rather having someone to share them with. It doesnt seem like my Cancer ever wants to "dump" his feelings on me or even blame his mood swings on me, rather it seems like he looks to me to be there when he needs someone to share his feelings with, someone who isnt going to judge him or preach, someone who will just listen without trying to turn the convo on thenself or tell him that his feelings are too intense or wrong. There have been times where he thought that his emotions and what he was dealing with would bring my mood down so he changed the subject though I have no problem with sympathizing with him or him seeking my sympathy and there are times when I can tell he is holding back with his emotions. I think Cancers like most people are loyal when they 1. know what they want, 2. are ready to settle on it and 3. finally find it.

and krobe you're right about Cancer men on the point that they want you to show that you are tried and true before they put themselves out there and sacrifice for you.

I am doing fine MOON, I have moved out on my own and I work a couple of jobs now. I LOVE my job and I love my life right now. I am living up my dreams I guess. How are you doing? How about you Sweets? Yeah, Cancer men want to def make sure you are worth the loyalty and they do NOT give unless they are sure you make them feel safe. They still don't trust being TOO dayum safe you have to punch something in their to not be too perfect for them.

Im doing well Krobe. Happy New Year! Yeah it took me a year to wipe the skepticism out of his repertoire and Im still working on him, but he's coming out of that shell little by little.

I don't think gaining insight on a sign requires that you be that sign.

A lot of times, people are totally off in self-analysis because they can't accept the truth about their own nature.

I think we are very loyal, the loyalist of all the signs. But beware, push us too far and enough is enough - we're done, we don't forget. Sometimes not even forgive.

I think my Cancer guy is loyal, because he opens up to me and is trustworthy and faithful (and gets hella pissed when I insinuate we should be anything less than loyal to one another), tho I dont think he would come up to me and profess his undying devotion because he's too scared I'll either laugh at him for it and tell him I dont want it or laugh at him and tell him I would never be devoted to him like that...although he's wrong.

My good Cancer male friend is also very loyal. He just sent me a message right now because we havent spoken for 2 days. We normally talk every evening.

It shows to me that I am in his thoughts (purely platonic). It is this loyalty, love and devotion which makes me feels so lucky to have him in my life. It is GENUINE and I trust him 100% .

I havent had this sort of closeness with another person (soul) in years.