Attention to cancer men

Im a Gemini woman that is really confused over this cancer man. This cancer man and I had went to high school together. He was a SR and I was a freshman. We have a lot of mutual friends but we never spoke to each other in school.

So anyways, first time we notice each other we were at a festival. We just looked at each other and didn’t say a word, but in my head I was literally thinking how cute he was. I didn’t make a move because I had a boyfriend at that time and a baby (yes I’m a mom with two kids) I’m very loyal and that’s why I never initiate anything with the cancer man. Next thing we have each other on social media. Years go by, we like each other posts... etc. I had notice that one day he was engaged. Boy, that was a sad day for me, but that was okay because I was with my ex and going through another baby and getting married. Also, the cancer man and I never really talked to each other like that.

3 months ago, I left my ex (which is now my soon to be ex husband). Out of now where, this cancer man started talking to me. We hit off. We have a lot of things in common it’s really scary. We both went through a lot of stuff in our lives that is very similar. He knows everything about me and I know everything about him. He told me EVERYTHING. He admitted that he never told anyone these things before (not sure if that true but that is what he said). He had told me a lot of things our future and I was very puzzled in a good way. He basically wanted more with me. He was already telling people that I was his girl. Everyday we would talk all day and night till we both fall asleep on the phone. We finally came to visit me because he is living in my hometown and unfortunately I live in another state. He came with no hesitation. We had such a great time. He took me shopping, dinner, to a show...You name it!

When he had left, he basically told me we both know where this is going. He had told me that he is trying to get more $ because need to provide for his gf and her two kids which is obviously me. A couple of days later, I kind of asked about our relationship status due to that comment he had said... but since I’m going through this divorce he said we will talk about it when it is finilized. Which is understandable.

A couple of weeks went by, he is talking to me less. Ignoring my texts and calls. He saw his ex fiancé a couple of times going out which made him really depressed. I had confronted him because I thought he was not interested and I needed to know the truth and I told him Its okay if we are friends and you are not interested anymore. I just want the truth from him. He told me If he was not then he would tell me. He said that he struggles with depression and since he saw his ex that trigger it. Two weekends in a row, he ignores me and goes out with friends and have seen his ex again. Then in the week he talks to me like we are good again... but this past weekend he was ignoring me and we have not spoke at all. Every time I call him, he says he’ll call me back. He ends up not calling back. I had called on Monday because he had told me that he was going to get help for his depression. I didn’t answer back. I decide to call him much later to tell him I’m here for him and I always will (which is not the first time I said that) but of course he didn’t pick up. We have not spoke in days and he is driving me crazy!!! But I’m very stubborn. I will not talk to him because I have been making the moves, checking up on him which he has not even asked how I feel and I’m going through a lot as well but I still ask him how he is doing 😢 and the feeling of rejection on behalf of the cancer man sucks. I have already express my feelings regarding to that and what I went though with my ex (which lead to our little first silly argument because he was giving me rejection). He knows what I went through and I know what he went through in our previous relationships. I just want to be there for him. I don’t want him to stop talking to me and shut me out. I understand he is going through. I just don’t know what to do. I decide to give him space from the research I am doing on these moon cancers lol. Even though it is killing me, I am doing fairly well btw. I have not reached out but how long is this disappearing act? We had very few very dumb arguments. (Like two). So I don’t think he is upset with me. We have definitely talk about those silly argeumwnts and it’s like I never had such a understanding adult conversation with another individual. It felt so refreshing.

I have been researching about cancer men so I know alittle but about you guys. I just want a better understanding if this guy just told me these things just to tell me or what? Does he like me? Does he want to be just friends? I’m okay if we are friends but this mix signals is driving me crazy lol. It’s like don’t tell me one thing but act another way. So right now I have not talk to him for a couple of days already like I said before. What should I do?