Phenjx
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Blocked once again by a Cancer man
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Ha! I got out a relationship with a cancer a few months ago. He tries to avoid his feelings by acting like they don't exist. We have talked on and off the last few months. Mind you our relationship was only a few months too, but he still displays jealousy and regret. While he will deny it, his actions say otherwise. I think the blocking thing is to shut the person that hurt them out and pretend like it never happened.
Posted by BimbleBumHe has brought back on something that happened in the past and that he is still handling that. So yea, what you say does make sense. Maybe he does need more time and he did say that i should not talk to him for a while.
I'm sorry you're dealing with this 😢 as someone with a lot of cancer influence, my thoughts are that he might still be hurt by the previous situation despite having forgiven you, and this is his way of stinging you back for it. Remember that cancers hold onto emotions for a long time.
Another reason may be that he was going through a lot of emotions at the time (possibly to do with you), and he needed to retreat for a while. If that's the case, just give him some time and you'll get that sweet, loving cancery side back. When cancers retreat, at least for me, it is sometimes over emotions or situations that nobody else can pick up on, lol. So try not to take it too personally if that's the case.
Posted by GobshiteI do not give up. If this was me, I wouldnt want someone i love to give up on me. He is only human, and he has feelings.
This is the kind of romantic partner you wish to deal with? Pffff! You can do much better than that...
Posted by libralotusSame scenario here. What happened eventually with you guys? Did he unblock and talk to you and work things out?
Ha! I got out a relationship with a cancer a few months ago. He tries to avoid his feelings by acting like they don't exist. We have talked on and off the last few months. Mind you our relationship was only a few months too, but he still displays jealousy and regret. While he will deny it, his actions say otherwise. I think the blocking thing is to shut the person that hurt them out and pretend like it never happened.
Posted by PhenjxNo, I am very persistent and have trouble letting people go that I cared immensely for. After being blocked via text, Facebook, I decided to text him off an app that I had downloaded for work (don't like to give out my personal number). We have seen each other a few times since breaking up back in February. It was my fault, I wasn't ready to commit and he was so it didn't work. Whenever I decided be serious it was too late and too much hurt. We tried to get back together but it didn't work because of past. As for now, we aren't communicating because he doesn't want to. He tells me he doesn't care but when we do see each other he gets upset, jealous of my phone buzzes or says he misses me. He's inconsistent. I'm sure you can relate.Posted by libralotusSame scenario here. What happened eventually with you guys? Did he unblock and talk to you and work things out?
Ha! I got out a relationship with a cancer a few months ago. He tries to avoid his feelings by acting like they don't exist. We have talked on and off the last few months. Mind you our relationship was only a few months too, but he still displays jealousy and regret. While he will deny it, his actions say otherwise. I think the blocking thing is to shut the person that hurt them out and pretend like it never happened.click to expand
Posted by libralotusSurely. Are you an aquarius as well? I can sense the jealousy and that he cares but he's aloof about wanting to get back until today. Saying that the special something we share despite everything is under scrutiny. Now he has blocked me once again. I have tried to call once, right after he blocked me and he cut the call. I have not done anything since. I'm just going to leave him alone for now. What do you think?Posted by PhenjxNo, I am very persistent and have trouble letting people go that I cared immensely for. After being blocked via text, Facebook, I decided to text him off an app that I had downloaded for work (don't like to give out my personal number). We have seen each other a few times since breaking up back in February. It was my fault, I wasn't ready to commit and he was so it didn't work. Whenever I decided be serious it was too late and too much hurt. We tried to get back together but it didn't work because of past. As for now, we aren't communicating because he doesn't want to. He tells me he doesn't care but when we do see each other he gets upset, jealous of my phone buzzes or says he misses me. He's inconsistent. I'm sure you can relate.Posted by libralotusSame scenario here. What happened eventually with you guys? Did he unblock and talk to you and work things out?
Ha! I got out a relationship with a cancer a few months ago. He tries to avoid his feelings by acting like they don't exist. We have talked on and off the last few months. Mind you our relationship was only a few months too, but he still displays jealousy and regret. While he will deny it, his actions say otherwise. I think the blocking thing is to shut the person that hurt them out and pretend like it never happened.click to expand
I'm a libra with an Aquarius rising. I'd give it some time, maybe a week or two without contact. I know it's hard because there's a lot you feel the need to say but when emotions are more stable you can talk to each other and apologize. Be sincere. If you keep trying he's going to get annoyed. He obviously cares still but you just need to give it a rest for now. Try to text him in a few weeks and see what happens.
Posted by libralotusYea, I just want to prove to him that I dont mean to hurt him. I really care about him and i want to right the wrongs that i did. I agree about the getting annoyed part if i keep trying. Alright, thanks for the advice. Appreciate it 🙂
I'm a libra with an Aquarius rising. I'd give it some time, maybe a week or two without contact. I know it's hard because there's a lot you feel the need to say but when emotions are more stable you can talk to each other and apologize. Be sincere. If you keep trying he's going to get annoyed. He obviously cares still but you just need to give it a rest for now. Try to text him in a few weeks and see what happens.
Posted by GobshiteIt's truly not a pride thing. I do not treat others like this, especially not the guy i love. But just because someone treats us this way, doesnt mean we should give up on them or treat them that way back.Posted by PhenjxPosted by GobshiteI do not give up. If this was me, I wouldnt want someone i love to give up on me. He is only human, and he has feelings.
This is the kind of romantic partner you wish to deal with? Pffff! You can do much better than that...
Of course, because Aquarius is a fixed sign (and it's probably also a pride thing as he dumped you). But ask yourself this: would you also treat your partner like shit for no apparent reason?
Your life, your funeral...click to expand
Thanks anyways.
Posted by GobshiteI'm surely learning patience and to never include a third person. Thank you.Posted by PhenjxPosted by GobshiteIt's truly not a pride thing. I do not treat others like this, especially not the guy i love. But just because someone treats us this way, doesnt mean we should give up on them or treat them that way back.Posted by PhenjxPosted by GobshiteI do not give up. If this was me, I wouldnt want someone i love to give up on me. He is only human, and he has feelings.
This is the kind of romantic partner you wish to deal with? Pffff! You can do much better than that...
Of course, because Aquarius is a fixed sign (and it's probably also a pride thing as he dumped you). But ask yourself this: would you also treat your partner like shit for no apparent reason?
Your life, your funeral...
Thanks anyways.
Well, good luck with that. I just hope you learn something at the end of it.click to expand
What is your moon sign? And what is his moon sign? Hard to judge just based on sun sign alone... But I will say that Cancer is a tough sign for a man - and I do believe wholeheartedly that it is a different experience for a man, than a woman. There are a lot of emotions there that they just don't know how to handle. I think it's a societal issue, cause men get the impression that they should repress their emotions. For men with a naturally emotional sign like Cancer, this can be really tough.
idk what are our moon signs. But i just used a moon calculator and got that i am a libra moon and he is a virgo moon.
He has difficulty with his emotions, i have seen that in him. I cant believe that i am putting him through this now.
He has difficulty with his emotions, i have seen that in him. I cant believe that i am putting him through this now.
Hey OP, the only thing that Gobsshite is trying to say is "Be Careful"... We all understand patience and understanding, but only when someone openly communicates their desires. Woukd you be acting out in a similar manner if the roles were reversed? If yes, then fine. But f no, then beware of manipulative tactics.
All the best in whatever you do 🙂
All the best in whatever you do 🙂
Posted by PhenjxI'm a Cancer-Virgo moon, if he really is one, I'd think you should wait till he contacts you. Something with Virgo moons, at least I'm my case, distance doesn't make my heart grow fonder. Distance only makes it easier for me to forget you, after space I become stronger. If I survive 2weeks without missing you like crazy, next time, I could go 2months, I could even find a way to test that theory.
idk what are our moon signs. But i just used a moon calculator and got that i am a libra moon and he is a virgo moon.
He has difficulty with his emotions, i have seen that in him. I cant believe that i am putting him through this now.
He doesn't trust you, and as I said before you have no hold on him. You need to win his trust.
Posted by Starry22The thing is that I really messed up and it is truly out of hands. So I put myself in his situation and I understand why is he acting this way. I wouldnt be so harsh, but the fact that he is a cancer and i ruined everything for him is what makes me so angry with myself.
Hey OP, the only thing that Gobsshite is trying to say is "Be Careful"... We all understand patience and understanding, but only when someone openly communicates their desires. Woukd you be acting out in a similar manner if the roles were reversed? If yes, then fine. But f no, then beware of manipulative tactics.
All the best in whatever you do 🙂
Thank you.
Posted by NamyWhat if its a libra moon? Cause I do not know his time of birth.Posted by PhenjxI'm a Cancer-Virgo moon, if he really is one, I'd think you should wait till he contacts you. Something with Virgo moons, at least I'm my case, distance doesn't make my heart grow fonder. Distance only makes it easier for me to forget you, after space I become stronger. If I survive 2weeks without missing you like crazy, next time, I could go 2months, I could even find a way to test that theory.
idk what are our moon signs. But i just used a moon calculator and got that i am a libra moon and he is a virgo moon.
He has difficulty with his emotions, i have seen that in him. I cant believe that i am putting him through this now.
He doesn't trust you, and as I said before you have no hold on him. You need to win his trust.click to expand
It's not easy for a cancerian to move on. Sometimes we do hold grudge. Bcoz we can not forget what you have done to us.
You broke up with him, but now you acted like nothing happen between you two. You want to talk to him about your problem, but he don't want to know about it (bcoz if he listen to you, he can not move on - I think). That's why he's angry and block you.
You broke up with him, but now you acted like nothing happen between you two. You want to talk to him about your problem, but he don't want to know about it (bcoz if he listen to you, he can not move on - I think). That's why he's angry and block you.
He cares about you! Give him time..patience..and respect..ok, its all on his terms in the end, but not in a nasty way, there just so sensitive, be patient with him, he will show you.
Posted by cancerwomen15I didn't break up with him. He was the one who cut all ties with me. I do not act like nothing happened between us, because till this day I am showing concern to his life. Such as wishing him good luck for his exams and soccer game. I still remember when he has games. I talk to him about my problem, so that he wouldn't feel left out and that I am including him in my problems and I am asking for advice from him. Meaning to say that his advice matters to me.
It's not easy for a cancerian to move on. Sometimes we do hold grudge. Bcoz we can not forget what you have done to us.
You broke up with him, but now you acted like nothing happen between you two. You want to talk to him about your problem, but he don't want to know about it (bcoz if he listen to you, he can not move on - I think). That's why he's angry and block you.
He has unblocked me and there is a simple conversation between us both. Nothing romantic. Mostly about him, his games and his upcoming exams.
Posted by sunkisses26Hi. Thank You. I am not someone to just blame him, but myself as well. He has unblocked me and I have texted him, after two days. Hoping that I had given him sufficient time and space, despite him unblocking me. He did respond to my texts and it was mostly about him, his games and upcoming exams. I hope that is a means of reminding him of the present.Posted by Phenjxnormally I on the crab board ...ladies complain about their cancer man and they never acknowledge that they did anything wrong...the fact that you admitted that you messed up ...well its fairly impressive people have a hard time owning up to what they did wrong (not just dxpnet...everywhere) that being said you sound like you really love him...Im sorry he is treating you so harshly but please know that he is hurt...its no excuse to treat you so badly next time you guys talk and he brings up the past say I have said I was sorry you have said you have forgiven me you can't keep holding this over my head...I am a cancer I have a wonderful memory for all the good times...and all the bad times...and sometimes that I need reminding that I'm in the present lolPosted by Starry22The thing is that I really messed up and it is truly out of hands. So I put myself in his situation and I understand why is he acting this way. I wouldnt be so harsh, but the fact that he is a cancer and i ruined everything for him is what makes me so angry with myself.
Hey OP, the only thing that Gobsshite is trying to say is "Be Careful"... We all understand patience and understanding, but only when someone openly communicates their desires. Woukd you be acting out in a similar manner if the roles were reversed? If yes, then fine. But f no, then beware of manipulative tactics.
All the best in whatever you do 🙂
Thank you.click to expand
Posted by piscespoppyThank you. He has unblocked me. He has responded to my texts and it seems okay for now.
He cares about you! Give him time..patience..and respect..ok, its all on his terms in the end, but not in a nasty way, there just so sensitive, be patient with him, he will show you.
Posted by FutureSeekerWhat do you reckon it means?
You are aqua sun libra moon?
Same. My cancer is cancer sun, Pisces moon. Water water 🙂
Posted by PhenjxLet me tell you this. EVERY cancer do & think with their heart (feeling), not with brain. So, if he starts to act weird, it's bcoz of what you do or say to him that hurt his feelings. Whether you realize it or not. It's not always bcoz of "there's a problem", to make a cancer in a bad mood. But it's all good. If you still showing him that you care & love him, he'll come around. It's about his feeling anyway.Posted by cancerwomen15I didn't break up with him. He was the one who cut all ties with me. I do not act like nothing happened between us, because till this day I am showing concern to his life. Such as wishing him good luck for his exams and soccer game. I still remember when he has games. I talk to him about my problem, so that he wouldn't feel left out and that I am including him in my problems and I am asking for advice from him. Meaning to say that his advice matters to me.
It's not easy for a cancerian to move on. Sometimes we do hold grudge. Bcoz we can not forget what you have done to us.
You broke up with him, but now you acted like nothing happen between you two. You want to talk to him about your problem, but he don't want to know about it (bcoz if he listen to you, he can not move on - I think). That's why he's angry and block you.
He has unblocked me and there is a simple conversation between us both. Nothing romantic. Mostly about him, his games and his upcoming exams.click to expand
Sacrifice a bunch of stuffed animals. Ask him if your debt is paid.
Posted by cancerwomen15To be honest, ever since he unblocked me again, I have been very careful with what I text him. Mostly trying to be supportive and positive, even when he throws negativity towards me. I agree that its about their feelings. I just need more chances to show that I care, I still love him. And hopefully he will see it.Posted by PhenjxLet me tell you this. EVERY cancer do & think with their heart (feeling), not with brain. So, if he starts to act weird, it's bcoz of what you do or say to him that hurt his feelings. Whether you realize it or not. It's not always bcoz of "there's a problem", to make a cancer in a bad mood. But it's all good. If you still showing him that you care & love him, he'll come around. It's about his feeling anyway.Posted by cancerwomen15I didn't break up with him. He was the one who cut all ties with me. I do not act like nothing happened between us, because till this day I am showing concern to his life. Such as wishing him good luck for his exams and soccer game. I still remember when he has games. I talk to him about my problem, so that he wouldn't feel left out and that I am including him in my problems and I am asking for advice from him. Meaning to say that his advice matters to me.
It's not easy for a cancerian to move on. Sometimes we do hold grudge. Bcoz we can not forget what you have done to us.
You broke up with him, but now you acted like nothing happen between you two. You want to talk to him about your problem, but he don't want to know about it (bcoz if he listen to you, he can not move on - I think). That's why he's angry and block you.
He has unblocked me and there is a simple conversation between us both. Nothing romantic. Mostly about him, his games and his upcoming exams.click to expand
Posted by kissmygritshaha... I was intending to bring him to a movie to celebrate the end of his exams, that is if he will allow me to...
Sacrifice a bunch of stuffed animals. Ask him if your debt is paid.
Posted by FutureSeekerAlright sure, Thank you.Posted by PhenjxSo you are double air, he is double water. Moon sign is very interesting- read up a bit on yours and his-Posted by FutureSeekerWhat do you reckon it means?
You are aqua sun libra moon?
Same. My cancer is cancer sun, Pisces moon. Water water 🙂
You want to connect, balance, but have that aqua aloofness. He feels very deeply, protects his vulnerabilities, fears rejection.click to expand
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