Cancer Bday..Why he texting me?

I havent spoken to him in a few weeks given what DXP had said and my own feelings. Today is his bday and i didnt know till he texted me asking me if i wanted to hang out for his bday.

what should i do? is this him just looking to fuck with me more? or is this genuine?

my inital reaction was fuck this negro. should i stick with that?

"Hang out" sounds pretty non-committal.

Go with your gut is my opinion, since he's texting you on his birthday.

Posted by Catmilk677
Birthday sex?

sounds like it, but he told me 3 weeks after the only time we had sex that he wasnt feeling it.

Posted by Impulsv
Why not u

cause he's always dissing me.

i just feel like he lies and backtracks all the damn time. all the damn time and im left to figure out if he's being genuine or not.

Posted by Catmilk677

Posted by DMV

Posted by Impulsv
Why not u

cause he's always dissing me.

How? 😢

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hmm lemme see. The first time I messaged him after he stared at me for hours in class, he acted like he had no idea who i was.

Then, we have our first date. He doesnt call me the next day, doesnt say thank you for the dinner. I go to class and he acts like i dont exist.

Then we have sex and he never called or texted. I texted him after 3 weeks and he told me he didnt feel anything, so he didnt bother hitting me up.

then i get moments of textual diarrhea (lunar maiden) and now i get this text.

he's not a bad guy which is why im even entertaining this with a thread. He just disrepects me at whim.

He needs to go eat shit and die.

precisely.

My sag sun keeps me sooo optimistic and wants to give people the benefit of the doubt.

My realest venus in cap is telling me no way jose. get lost eat rocks.

Even responding fu makes em cringe; mars in virgo is non confrontational. even though he was all too prepared to tell me how he really felt without regard to my feelings.

Seems like he is just messing with you or just want to fuq lol. I mean you two have nothing to discuss. But i think should you do what your heart tells you & do what YOU think is best. Who says you have to respond to him

Almost like he's forcing you to know it's his bday....wow.

Popularity boost ("see how many people attended my b-day...").

Last minute replacement for one of his mates?

Could be another reason though.......Once my mum wanted to "arrange" my dating life, with an eligible bachelor. We were "sent" together to different events: theatre, wedding. I then made it clear I wasn't interested. After a few months of not speaking to each other, he invited my for his birthday.

It turned out that he invited me at the request of his best mate. They were together up town and saw me walking by. His mate wanted to get to know me.


Hope you didn't go.

Wish him happy birthday through text and leave it at that.
Tell him you have a class to go to or something.
He wants a birthday fuck, even if he didn't like it.
He must not have a woman in his life right now, you are his back up chick.

Or text him the day after his birthday saying, "Oh I'm sorry I didn't get your text.
How was your birthday?"😄

OR don't say nothing at all lol. Who says she has to respond to him. She's not entitled to him & owes him nothing. He cleary just wants sex or some kinda "favor". Why else would he wait til his birthday to contact her— See! lol, dude making his true intentions VERY obvious right now. I don't think he's interested in DMV, just her "Cookie"

Posted by Undine
Popularity boost ("see how many people attended my b-day...").

Last minute replacement for one of his mates?

Could be another reason though.......Once my mum wanted to "arrange" my dating life, with an eligible bachelor. We were "sent" together to different events: theatre, wedding. I then made it clear I wasn't interested. After a few months of not speaking to each other, he invited my for his birthday.

It turned out that he invited me at the request of his best mate. They were together up town and saw me walking by. His mate wanted to get to know me.


Hope you didn't go.

nope, sure didnt. I dont have time to #1 accept a "date" though a text. #2 i havent seen him in months. #3 Big Brother was on.

Posted by silentkiller
You should hang out with him - and NOT have sex!

... I don't know. I have rose glasses on righ now, but when he said, he didn't feel anything, he could also mean, that he didn't feel anything coming from you. You get what I'm saying? He needs the emotional connection, and if you are not giving it to him, he gets confused and acts confusing and mean.
NOT saying, you should give it to him, if you don't want to. Just saying..- what I just said😄

And if you do hang out, and he tryes to get it on, well then you know. And you can then ask him flat out, why he wants to fuck, if he does??t "feel it".

i see your point SK. lol @ the mean part. you got that right. If he didnt feel the connection, then bounce.

i have no self control sexually, so im not even going to go there. especially if i know im going to get dissed after it.

Posted by Nemesis
WTF?! btw. what is so special about a birthday? it's JUST another day - in any case, the mother??s hard work and labour should be rewarded for enabling life.

fuck birthdays. and this dude too.

+1

Posted by starlover
Lovely pic Undine 🙂


I guess the only way to deal with clueless unevolved people is to ignore them

or

You could always suggest he calls his mother?

lol. id love to have a conversation with her. It would definitely tell me everything i need to know about him.

Posted by LunarMaiden
Wish him happy birthday through text and leave it at that.
Tell him you have a class to go to or something.
He wants a birthday fuck, even if he didn't like it.
He must not have a woman in his life right now, you are his back up chick.

damn. really giving me an ego boost right now 😉 . i guess bad sex is better than no sex. lol

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
OR don't say nothing at all lol. Who says she has to respond to him. She's not entitled to him & owes him nothing. He cleary just wants sex or some kinda "favor". Why else would he wait til his birthday to contact her— See! lol, dude making his true intentions VERY obvious right now. I don't think he's interested in DMV, just her "Cookie"

I didnt respond. He's labeled in my phone as "Dont Answer". Im going to stick with that till he really gives me a reason to answer.

I did have problems in the past with not accepting men/people for who they really are after they showed who they are countless times. countless.

i believe who he is.

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Posted by Wynter
He needs to go eat shit.

i agree with this....^^

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lmao, i missed this one. yup i concur.

Posted by roscoe
Almost like he's forcing you to know it's his bday....wow.

word! like i was supposed to be all AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW

Good for you ! Power!

@DMV That's great you didn't respond. You are definitely heading in the right direction. I'm proud of you 🙂. It's nothing wrong with showing you got some power over you & your body. If a guy can't work to keep you happy or at least treat you verry decent; then he doesn't deserve you or your "Cookie" lol. I'm serious about that. You'll be fine, & Stay Strong Sagittarius!

@aquavita Well you can blame my helpful/nuturing Crab nature lol. But i was just trying to calm DMV's mind so that she can make the best decision for her. It appears she is doing just that. Or at least getting to that point. I think she's learned a lot. So don't worry 😉

@aquavita your something lol. Idk what love story your speaking of. But really, i'm just happy i could help.

@aquavita lol don't worry about it. I think @DMV will be just fine. I think us Crabs done a lot to help her. Sometimes, it takes someone you can trust on the outside, looking in to help. Her trusting us Cancers enough to post her worrys here is saying a lot. I wish DMV the best. I have a sagittarius Mom, so i have a lil understanding.