i met this boy in december at a party, and i pretty much fell for him instantly. i asked some friends about him shortly after and they told me that while he was a nice kid, that he was seriously fucked up from a previous relationship and was hard to get to. they advised that i avoid him, and i listened for a while, but eventually i broke down and started talking to him. we started hanging out, for hours at a time, talking about nothing at all. we were always really comfortable together. we talked openly about our pasts, and i found out that his ex-fiancee had cheated on him and left him absolutely broken-hearted, amongst other things. he had a bit of a drinking problem, and he would always come by after the bar and crash if he coudn't drive home. one night, we had sex when we were really drunk. he didn't remember the next day. we talked a bit after that, but he got weird, and then dropped off the face of the earth. i tried to contact him a few times, but failed. recently, we ran into each other, and things were totally normal. he'd really changed, and had taken an adult view on drinking. he came over after going out for a couple of drinks, and we had sex again, when we were both sober. we'd even talked about it first. he called me the next day, telling me that he was freaked and still ruined from his last relationship, and that he couldn't have relationships because he couldn't form attachments. but that night he went out and found me at a bar when i was with my friends. i've seen him a couple of times since, and things were normal; we acted like nothing was wrong. but the last time i saw him at a bar, he sat outside, with a girl (it don't know if it was romantic) and never went into the bar. he left without ever getting a drink or saying hi. i know i need to talk to him and figure things out, but he's hard to get to, and i'm not sure how to approach him or what to say.
