Posted by Claire
Taureans do have their great points but they're much too stubborn and controlling for me. It gets too much when they start telling me how I should think .. not just as a mate but as anyone close enough to be able to have any kind of controlling influence in my life. Their opinions/ views are usually quite different and if they just accepted it and left it at that it might be fine but they don't, they get serious about it and actually try making things difficult for me so I basically can't get away with having my own frame of mind .. because they don't understand it. I think they usually think I don't take things (and them) 'seriously' enough and therefore shouldn't deserve this, that and the other. Maybe they don't like to see people 'breeze' through things?? The trying to play the godhand how they do is way too much for me.
Perhaps i'm the only cancerian in the world with this opinion on them. *Shrug* 🙂
Posted by Claire
Taureans do have their great points but they're much too stubborn and controlling for me. It gets too much when they start telling me how I should think .. not just as a mate but as anyone close enough to be able to have any kind of controlling influence in my life. Their opinions/ views are usually quite different and if they just accepted it and left it at that it might be fine but they don't, they get serious about it and actually try making things difficult for me so I basically can't get away with having my own frame of mind .. because they don't understand it. I think they usually think I don't take things (and them) 'seriously' enough and therefore shouldn't deserve this, that and the other. Maybe they don't like to see people 'breeze' through things?? The trying to play the godhand how they do is way too much for me.
Perhaps i'm the only cancerian in the world with this opinion on them. *Shrug* 🙂
Posted by lovelibra
Rather i would love to pee over the faces of scorpio men and women
Posted by DarkCancerian
However whether unevolved or evolved that I know of, the vast majority of them are looking for something different in a relationship than me. To explain, as I said the Geminis are usually the life of the party. They absolutely bask in all the attention and have a need to be social. None of that is bad at all, and in fact I've become more like that and more well-rounded due to their influence. Consequently they usually go for a partner who's very independent-minded, more prone to doing their own things, who are comfortable in the spotlight, since they don't want any "smothering" to go on. Again, that's not bad at all and it's appealing. However due to that, their attention is not really always on their partner, it's split off into many different tangents. For me, I can do the whole social thing, but for the most part I want my attention on my partner and she on me. I would rather stay in and do things together alone, though going out is great too. I want someone who could find pleasure in doing the routine mundane things couples do rather than always needing constant stimulation to stay interested (as all the Geminis I know can get quickly bored with things I for example appreciate). I'm a more even-keel kind of guy and I want a girl to be similar to me in temperament. Speaking just for myself, it would get tough keeping up with Gemini in the long-run, not to mention I'd probably worry about infidelity due to the constant attention she'd get and bask in. However for someone like my dad who's a Leo for example, that's exactly what was compatible for him.
Posted by wineaux
*cough, cough* - gem here (along with my girls pixie & maddy) that are saddened to hear such an aversion towards us. i'm on mariah's boat ^^ in that i think it's more of how your elements balance each other out.
i was 'flighty, manipulative, quarrelsome, fickle, two-faced, irritable, restless' and all of the other crapola that goes along with what people associate with gems. as i've gotten older, i've left all of that toxicity behind because it was unhealthy. i need harmony and someone to connect with on different levels. i crave the balance...i love the differences as they make us a better couple (like darkcancerian said ^^) 'it's probably because (we) can provide them something they value and feel may be lacking in their own lives.' it's like pieces of a jigaw puzzle - once everything finds it's place, it turns into a beautiful work of art.
perhaps it's just finally getting to understand all of my water placements and allowing myself to feel and not so much think. even if it ends in distaster i'm not going to count myself out for another crab.
Posted by PixieDust
I feel like the great thing about geminis is that we are very adaptable though. I'm one of those rare gems who, while I love going out occationally and basking in the limelight of attention, I also adore staying in and doing normal (or mundane) couple things. Quality time is something that I highly value in relationships and though I may have a speedy mind/my opinions and views are forever changing, I love that my cancer can help me to slow down and appreciate the little things in life (like taking a walk in the park and holding hands, or going to run errunds together). I will admit that I have realized that I do need my alone/freedom times where I can go out and experience something new and seperate from my partner. If I fail to recognize this need, I often start to wilt or shut down inside.
Posted by LunarLady720
A friend of mine is a Libra and I have a really hard time dealing with her, she's always concerned about what people think of her and what things look like to other people. I'm more of the mentality that you should do what you love, who cares what others think. She's a very dependent person, needs somebody to tell her what to do. That always drives me crazy, it would be nice if she came up with an idea every once in a while, why do I have to be the brains ALL the time? LOL
Posted by DarkCancerian
However, it's hard to explain but sometimes you don't always want to make an effort or allowances to be compatible with your partner. You want them to *get* you and you want to not only get them but for it to feel natural and not always explain yourself. You want to love and enjoy the same things. You don't want to question the relationship because of the compromises it puts on both of you. You don't want love to be with drama or difficulty because you feel it should be natural. You don't want to change your partner or they don't wanna change you in anything that really matters, because that's who you fell in love with. You don't want to question your relationship's long-term viability because you know you value different things than your partner.
Posted by Maddy
You can't judge people based on their sign. I never cheated on a partner, never had a one night stand, never went to bed w/ someone that I just met. Casual dating/ doesn't happen for me. I don't go out to clubs, I don't drink, I don't smoke. Do gems cheat? Absolutely yes, are some of them immature? Yes, & the list goes on & on but so does everybody else & any other signs do these things. You can't base your relationship based on signs. I know 2 cancer males that are currently cheating. One married w/ 2 kids & the other one living w/ someone, so I guess I have to leave my cancer boyfriend cause cancers cheat right? People cheat not signs. Everybody is different.
I have men all over me everywhere I go, I always get attention but when I'm in love the rest of the world doesn't exist for me. I'm loyal to default. Maybe it's my other placements in my chart. I have venus in cancer, Uranus scorpio & scorpio rising.
As pixie said we adapt very easily. I moved twice out of country. I left home when I was 18 (Eastern Europe), moved to France for 5 years, came to the US 7 years ago, I got adapted very easily in both countries. I adapt to peoples mood very easy too i just need to know that person very well and then I'll leave them alone when it's needed. Been w/ a cancer for 2 years, we sure have our differences but somehow we get along, we accept each others differences and we make it happen. We learn a lot from one another. I guess it all depends how mature people are and I would never judge anyone based on their sign.
Even if my relationship w/ my cancer ends up one day, in a good or bad way, I would definitely date another cancer.
Posted by PixieDust
I completely agree when you guys say that sometimes it's effortless to be around the same element as your sign. If it feels too effortless, too easy....if the convorsations come quickly and the intellectual connection is spot on, sometimes I feel like the relationship is TOO platonic. I need an opposite character to balance me out. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who had all of the same strengths and weaknesses (I know I'm generalizing here) but I think the reason a lot of people work SO completely hard at making these "opposite" relationships work is because the attraction is killer, the myster is always there--it never gets boring. And once such harmony is acheived, it can be one of the most fulfilling relationships possible. Even when compromising and adapting to each other's differences
I agree with this being a scorpio I'm very independent in my own right, I know what I want & know how to get it. I'm very vocal but can also be very shy. I'm used to being in the drivers seat! I was in a very LTR with a Cap and we bumped heads all the time because we were both very dominant in demeanor and neither one of us would back down..we both have very dominant personalities and the mix didn't flow..my last relationship..totally opposite...he treated me like no other..but the challenge, the excitement for me a negative...I basically could tell him what do to and he'd do it! I don't need drama nor have the time for it but stimulate me, challenge me, have a back-bone...as someone so explained it perfectly here..relationships & experiences with specific people at specific times in life..I am a true believer that people cross paths for very specific reasons and even when things don't work out as planned, you walk away with lessons learn & life experience..I learned that I am the social butterfly of my group, the always happy go lucky girl, the personality that is strong and can't deal with the weak...I need someone opposite from me...someone who is quiet sometimes, calm, collective,non impulsive, rational..has their priorties in order as do I..I found that in a cancer..its a comfort feeling like I can sit back and relax cause he can handle it...he's quiet when I need him to be and silly just like me when I need him to be..I need balance...I hung out with someone just like me and damn, they were a handful and just too much to handle! I need that balance...I
Posted by PixieDust
I completely agree when you guys say that sometimes it's effortless to be around the same element as your sign.
The problem for me? If it feels too effortless, too easy....if the convorsations come quickly and the intellectual connection is spot on, sometimes I feel like the relationship is TOO platonic...
I think there's something to be said about these opposite relationships that people keep working their arse off to make work.
Posted by Scubafish
Because whoever said that is probably on drugs, that's why.
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