Cancer Male Advice:Grieving orgasms (FIXED!)

So my first post was cut off and I don't know how to delete it (I'm new)
I have crush on a guy at my college. At first in person he only talked to me about school He gave me his number and we have texted a bit and not always about school. He always responds fast, and is really open and honest (I think he subtly flirts but I could be reading into it)WE have been opening up to each other slowly, He recently opened up about a "clingy" treetrunk buddy he has... and I was stunned because it doesn't seem like him to have one.
Monday I was in the lab and I found out my Grandpa died, so I asked if he would drive me home. He of course did and asked me if I wanted company I kept trying not to cry, but eventually he hugged me in my living room and I just broke down in his arms I just kept sobbing Eventually I was tired of standing so we laid down together He was sweet he just cuddled me tightly, and told me that I'd get through it He let me sob and just stroked my hair, snuggled, and held my hand
After I started to calm down 4 hours later I was enjoying him comforting me So I kissed him but I got a but carried away with it I ended up making more bold moves like kissing his neck and taking my shirt off He ended up fondling me a bit giving me a few orgasms However when I offered to reciprocate he told me not to worry about it
When he got home he texted me saying " get some sleep if you need to talk hit me up I'm going to crash" We talked later and I thanked him for helping me to which he responded "It's not a problem that was some tough news I just hope you're not feeling super down" and he asked if I was gong t the funeral ect.
Yesterday I sent out a mass text out of frustration asking people to please stop texting me with the words "sorry for your loss" He of course responds with "Sorry for your loss' and it made me laugh because well you know only him. We chatted a bit and that was it. today I haven't messaged him or anything
I am so confused by all of this. Does he think I am weird for making a move on him? Am I in the potential F Buddy group? Did he do it for sex? Will this change things between is and how? Any thoughts on what's going on in his head at all would help? Why not let me reciprocate? Have I been rejected? Is this normal for cancer men? If this ti get sex in the future? Do I have any shot at a relationship with him now? Should we talk about that happened? What do I do next? Just any thoughts lol I am lost in the dark with this one

Posted by CluelessCancer
1) There's alot of emotion going on with you now. Why don't you focus on your family and the loss of your grandparent, that must be huge. I lost my grandmother in college and even though i never really spent time with her (she was in Africa), my whole world crashed, i suffered grade wise that quarter and really there was a huge sense of loss.

2) Take it slow and see how it plays out later-he shouldn't be your #1 priority right now...but yes you threw yourself at him like a trollop and he'll probably wonder why you took that opportunity to make out with him-but when all those emotions come up-we seek comfort right....

anyways i would just chill out a bit and not overthink things.

My grades and stuff are fine. I always manage to get all A's. I am really holding it together thanks to being a single mom of a 10 month old, he brings too much happiness for me to stay down too long. Just a lot of emotion through out the day

Maybe he's giving you some time to recover from the pain of losing somebody dear. Take care of your baby. Fubu is never a good idea. He'll come to you if he really cares. : ). Let us know.

Posted by Oxygenada
Maybe he's giving you some time to recover from the pain of losing somebody dear. Take care of your baby. Fubu is never a good idea. He'll come to you if he really cares. : ). Let us know.

Well we have be texting still, I will see him Saturday in the lab and let you guys know how it goes. I just wish I had some idea of what he is thinking ya know?

Best thing to do is talk to him about what worries you. Tell him what you not going to accept but in a mature way. It's best to talk about issues over the phone or in person. I promise you this, if he cares, he will make an effort in your life. You shouldn't sleep with him or anything sexual until he earns it & shows he's in it for the long haul. Don't pressure him into anything. Judge him by his actions. If he's not willing to change, then you know what's best. So it's really on him. If by saturday, he doesn't explain or make that effort, then his azz ain't worth your love

Plus focus on you & your lil child. Your child deserves your full attention & your recent family & career stuff. If he's serious, he'll behave that way. Real Cancer Men don't treat their friends or partners like trash. We usually are very caring & comforting. So don't lose your sense of respect because of him. Cancer Women have beautiful souls & deserve the best. Not hell & stress 24/7. So just pray & let God help you 🙂. I hope you feel better fellow Crab lol. *HUG*

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
Best thing to do is talk to him about what worries you. Tell him what you not going to accept but in a mature way. It's best to talk about issues over the phone or in person. I promise you this, if he cares, he will make an effort in your life. You shouldn't sleep with him or anything sexual until he earns it & shows he's in it for the long haul. Don't pressure him into anything. Judge him by his actions. If he's not willing to change, then you know what's best. So it's really on him. If by saturday, he doesn't explain or make that effort, then his azz ain't worth your love

Yeah we are just so new to each other, we have texted for hours every day since and nothing has been said by either of us.. Maybe because we are not in person, or he is waiting to see if I say something.. We are just kinda moving along. I might have to bring it up Saturday or see how he is.. I still have no clue what his interest is in me and I don't want to jump the gun and make him feel pressured

Exactly, just go flow with the natural flow of things. If he Cares or like you, he'll bring up the situation. Let him talk 1st. Yeah talking in person helps because you tell a lot of things on how he feels by facial expressions, eye contact, & etc. Talking on the phone helps if you can't see him. Plus you can tell by his voice tone & enthusiasm if he's interested in the conversation. I think you'll be fine. Always go by your heart & not your feelings ok. Now go relax & enjoy your day

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
Best thing to do is talk to him about what worries you. Tell him what you not going to accept but in a mature way. It's best to talk about issues over the phone or in person. I promise you this, if he cares, he will make an effort in your life. You shouldn't sleep with him or anything sexual until he earns it & shows he's in it for the long haul. Don't pressure him into anything. Judge him by his actions. If he's not willing to change, then you know what's best. So it's really on him. If by saturday, he doesn't explain or make that effort, then his azz ain't worth your love

+100% . Pay careful attention to BlackIndian. He's really smart and kind and is guiding you in the right direction. Let him know how you feel. Observe his actions. Like BlackIndian said, "if he cares, he will make an effort to be in your life...judge him by his actions." It's hard but don't be afraid to lose him by being honest and telling them what you want. If he digs you, great but if he blows you off, it was never gonna be. And you're better off knowing that up front. You're young and beautiful. You can always do better than a half hearted suitor, not assuming that is what he actually is. Just saying...you're worthy of love. Don't settle for crumb bums and good luck!

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
Plus focus on you & your lil child. Your child deserves your full attention & your recent family & career stuff. If he's serious, he'll behave that way. Real Cancer Men don't treat their friends or partners like trash. We usually are very caring & comforting. So don't lose your sense of respect because of him. Cancer Women have beautiful souls & deserve the best. Not hell & stress 24/7. So just pray & let God help you 🙂. I hope you feel better fellow Crab lol. *HUG*

Aw I don't know how I missed this :-) Cancer women are the best (though I may be bias). I love my lil man so much he is the stars to my moon. I'm feeling alright considering my week. I am still sad about my grandpa, and trying not to think about the guy but he keeps texting me so makes it difficult lol we just keep having conversations

Well if you don't wanna talk, don't answer. If it's really killing you, just call him & tell him how you feel. Don't torture yourself ok. & Yes!, Cancer Women are the best, at least to me you are. You Cancer Women have everything a guy could only dream of in love. You got nurturing & unique qualities. & most Cancer Women i met here have good hearts, & are funny/smart. Very smart in my opinion. So yep you Cancer Women are great & don't let anyone tell you or treat you less than that.

So we texted for like 4 hours last night and I brought it up in a joking manner. We talked a bit about it and went on chatting like normal. Around 2 am he just said he "fuck it I'm coming over no more texting". We laid in bed and watched my favorite TV show (MASH) and it happened again, but this time i got to reciprocate... Still no sex, which I thought was weird because why else come over at 2 am? We snuggled and slepy. This only leads to more questions! My mind is racing (I am such an over analyzer) Thoughts? Feelings? Similar stories?

@That1Girl lol idk what else to tell you. He's talking to you which is what you been wanting. Just follow my advice above. You need to listen to what your heart says & not your feelings. But for real im out of advice. I will say this, don't sleep with this guy until a relationship is formed & you know for sure that this is the guy you wanna be with. & That he wants the same thing. That's if you want to be respected. But, To me it seems you wanted some sex. He still gotta prove himself as a potential bf first. But hey it's on you

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I second 2BlackIndian3