Cancer Man 26yrs (Relationships)

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UnderTheMoon
@UnderTheMoon
2 Years

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Hello there. My Question of this topic is How Would You Feel?

Quick contex. I have been dating with a Cancer Man (26yrs) for about 7 months now. I'm a Pisces Female (23yrs) From the first date after meeting online we have clicked together. Emotions, funny talks, interesting topics, from the first moment we have created hard trust in each other. He slept over my place almost every day, and after 1 month I've invited him to move in with me because he was almost every other day at my place - told him he could stay as long as he would like, but also go back home if needed/wanted. Of course he moved in with me, like I said we have clicked very fast and enjoyed each others company.

He was always so nice to me, and is to this day but also has some hot tense moments when he comes back after work.

We had once a fight about me finding out he has a secret instagram acc where he follows some random girls/porno stars.

**If any of guys are reading this please respond and tell me why is this the problem with some men hiding from their partners. Why do some men do that?**

--> I was so ashamed of my body image because i am a petite XXS girl, and all those girls are busty. Although, we 'share' the same similarities over looks - the girls he followed and me. And also I was very sad and frustrated at the same time because why would you want to look other girls when im yours? I don't mind him commenting on some hot girl, really, but having a special account for that stuff is to wierd to me to be honest.

I have searched his history (Which wasn't nice of me I admit it.) and found so much girls that looks like me, but busty, and so much an*al, hardcore, gangbangs, etc. Let me tell you something - I am very kinky myself as well as he has fantasies about trying new things - we even discussed about that and tried some things. He said to me serveral times in the begining of first 5-6months that im that girl of his dreams. He likes being with me in bed as much as I do with him.

And that's what hurted me the most, just because I am all those images, all those fantasies and s*x poses just like the girls he watches - and he knows I want to explore - It hurted me because I could make him films... I could be all that to him. And as I have said how I feel about that he has said that he will stop watching porn that he understands and he also has deleted that profile on instagram he had. Right in front of me, he willingly did that.

7months later.

--> Later on I have found out that he has still been watching porn, not touching me for weeks.... And when I would tell him I miss his touch he would angry told me "OKAY WE WILL FUCK OK??" like what. you weren't like that. We had rough passionate sex, but never talked about FUCKING. We both are romantics and love emotions... I know he isn't cheating me. But He has such wierd mood changes that always have I adjusted to his emotions.

I admit, few times when he was frustrated after work and he will always shut his mouth and just scroll through his phone, not even asking me how I was... When I would try to release some simple answers from him he will just flip me off and be angry at me for even asking him anything.

**How would you feel? Guys do you think it's kinda disrespectfull to your partner to lie about not watching porn and then keep doing it. When you promised that you understand the pain it goes to them and promise you won't do it. Tell me, please.**

When we were in the previous apartment he did the dishes as well as I did, he has washed clothes and fold them as I did too. All kinds of chores. But after 7 months to be honest to you he doesn't give a shit about that anymore. We have moved into a new place, when I ask him politely to just take off the laundry and fold it he said he would do it and then he doesn't. The dishes, ect. I work night shifts. My work is mentally and physically tiring (I work in a kitchen where there isn't any stopping for ciggars or eating some days) as his job tiring is (He stacks computers, and is promoted into a place where he has to do all the selling on the stock market) I work night shifts, he works in the mornings till 5PM. Some days I come back home from 7pm - 05:30AM and I always wake up when he goes to work at 8am and I put the laundry to get washed, the dishwasher I manage, I vaccum the floor, I make the bed, sometimes do dinner for us before going to work...

And when I ask him to just fucking fold, nothing else, or just put the clean dishes on the shelfs - he always says he would but has done maybe 5 times when we moved in here.

And then the other day is pissed at me for asking why weren't the dishes done or whatever... I get some days people are tierd and jsut wanna lay in bed, play video games or smoke weed whatever... I even don't say that much how much it frustrated me, let's say I have complained 6 times and he will burst at me. When I ask him ok so when it's not clean you're just going to be frustrated at me, or yourself the whole day. I can't do all the work. We live together.

He just answers me with "Well just don't wash."

What is going on? What am I missing. Feel free to ask me anything.

Thank you all.



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Vacation Queen
@saggurl88
12 Years25,000+ Posts

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The honeymoon phase is over and you're seeing he is lazy.

His Instagram stuff is his account and his business. With that type of content, he probably knew it would be an issue with you. As far as you telling him he can't look at porn because it's making you insecure- just sounds like incompatibility.

If someone told you to stop doing something you enjoyed doing because it made them feel insecure, would you?

My unwarranted opinion, you guys moved in too quick and now you are seeing what he is really like.

Take everything at face value and see if this will work for you in a relationship. If the good outweighs the bad.

People usually don't change, they just get better at hiding things.