Was this his (cancer man) way of rejecting me?

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by virgosssgroove on Saturday, January 21, 2023 and has 15 replies.

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@TxOgal
12 Years1,000+ PostsTaurus

Posted by geminiflyby
When they want to be with you they will find/make the time. Back off now.

I second that... my cancer brother is always too busy for us but he'd travel in an instant to see the girl he's interested in.. but again people could be different.. you can't really know how he's life is truly like.. what responsibilities he's got..

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@Undine
13 Years5,000+ Posts

To answer your question, I don't think so.

"And the only thing stopping him is finding someone to watch his kid."

^^^Maybe this is true. Why can't he find someone? Where is the kid's mother?

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@Rimzy
3 Years

I think it’s pretty honest of him to recognize you want more and he might be unable right now to do that for you. It’s better than using you physically and then ghosting you m, he’s legit trying to show you in advance he’s uncertain how he’s make it work.

I think you should keep in contact, enjoy flirting and see if he’s interested in making room in his life to engage you and take it further. If you see no signs of that happening, then at least you’ve remained friends and you’re not entangled in something that will hurt you.

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@virgosssgroove
3 Years

Posted by geminiflyby
When they want to be with you they will find/make the time. Back off now.

That’s what I thought. He didn’t even know what day, I would’ve let him choose when lol. It was the weirdest beating around the bush ever. But I have no problem backing off.

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@virgosssgroove
3 Years

Posted by Findingbalance
Either not interested or not ready. A pos baby momma might have him jumpy about a relationship. Honestly, you have a few options. Keep it status quo.

Back off and move on.

Be upfront and tell him why you invited him over and shoot your shot.

Cancer dudes can be kinda dense about if someone's interested or hitting on them in my experience. He might actually not even have a clue you're into him.

I backed off. He asked me if I was okay because I was talking less. I told him I’m okay and then he started saying he can tell my mind is racing, I can’t lol. I spoke to him and everything. I back off, he pushes up. But after he said that, I talked to him more again and I could tell he started feeling better. Maybe just wanted reassurance I wasn’t mad at him I guess.

I’m just gonna go with the flow of things and wait for him to do something if he ever does. And you’re right, he probably has no clue. I also know cancer men can be scared to approach but if he wants me, he’ll just have to get over that lol I hate feeling like I’m bothering someone. But man he makes it very hard to get over him even if I can be good at hiding it