Cancer Man After Break Up Comforting Me

I'm an Aries male in law school. My Cancer ex is male and a physician. I'm American, he is Chinese. We dated for about five months, but had a very strong connection. We exchanges texts here and there, but I do not think he is interested in rekindling.

Over the past month, everything seemed to be falling apart: I lost my job, I have money saved but I'm anxious about it, my dating life is pathetic, and my first final is on Thursday.

On Saturday night, I almost lost it. I needed to talk to someone. He was the only one I could think of to turn to. He was so sweet and encouraging and shared about his medical school experience which was similar to my current situation. At my weakest, most vulnerable, and worst, he was there for me.

Why did he do this? To an ex?

Chinese men are notorious for not sharing their feelings. It is considered improper.

Just because you aren’t dating anymore doesn’t mean he wants to see you suffer, clearly. I wouldn’t try to read further into it, instead appreciate that he did that for you and possibly try to keep a friendship going.

Posted by poppyflower

You said it. You needed to talk to someone, and he could probably tell. I think it'd rather be improper if he was being cold to you, given the circumstance.

He could have just not replied. He broke up with me, but maybe once a month I will text him or check up on him. He does not have any family here and only a few friends.

Posted by Findingbalance

Imo, it means he cares about you. Probably not in a romantic way, but he cares about you. And he was trying to be there to help. I wouldn't read further into it. It's possi, especially in an amicable separation, for an rx to still care about the other person and even remain friends.

Yeah, but he told me it is hard for him to remain friends with an ex. It was both our first real relationship. He took my innocent, too if you know what I mean.

But you don’t want to be friends.

Posted by newtothis

Posted by poppyflower

You said it. You needed to talk to someone, and he could probably tell. I think it'd rather be improper if he was being cold to you, given the circumstance.

He could have just not replied. He broke up with me, but maybe once a month I will text him or check up on him. He does not have any family here and only a few friends.

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You just scream - LIE TO ME! TELL ME HE WANTS ME!!!

You do not read sound advises.

Fool yourself. Do not make us here help YOU with self fooling! Grow up!

Posted by Lavender-Haze

Focus on law school.Good luck on your exam.

I would want my lawyer to be THIS character…

Your ex is a kind and caring person (a physician, nevertheless!) who knows how to comfort you emotionally when you are in need. Unless you have done something awful to him, there is no reason for him not to do it.

If you are confused about this, it's because our society indoctrinated us to believe that treating our exes with contempt, or blocking them while assassinating their character behind their back is normal, acceptable behaviour. Your ex is clearly not a conformist.

It doesn't mean that you have found a way to get him back, if this is what you wish for! Do not confuse caring and friendliness with romantic interest.

He's compassionate. Checks out being in the medical field.

Maybe he cares for you more in a romantic sense. Maybe not.

That for him to say and for him to make the move as he was the one to end things the first time around. If he wants to rekindle you'd be the first to know. I wouldn't read too much into things atm.

You are still a friend, correct? You still keep in contact, and didn't disappear.

I'm not sure why you would be surprised. He's treating like a friend.

I think you may be confused because you still have strong feelings for him. Try not to look too much into it, he's a doctor after all, he made an oath to help people for a living.