@Cappykatt
3 Years
Not interested?
Did you say you don't have feelings for him?
Alexscaries, I did not respond except to say that I very much enjoy talking with him, but I would have to actually know him other than over a computer.
Do you have other options?
I'm not sure what you are asking about other options
It's the famous Disappearing Cancer Man!
Cut your losses.
Did you say you don't have feelings for him?
Alexscaries, I did not respond except to say that I very much enjoy talking with him, but I would have to actually know him other than over a computer.
There's your answer I take it he said he was interested in a relationship or something similar. Then he did the feminine thing of "I'm washing my hair" when you asked.
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Well, I suppose that I should move on. I've told him several times that I was interested in a relationship, but I can't say that I love him or falling in love with him from just a computer relationship. I'm just not built to tell someone that without actually knowing them. I don't work that way. It's been three times that he has had a reason to cancel on our plans, and 6 weekends all together of nothing but chat over a device. It was only recently that he started talking of falling in love. He said that he understood my not being able to feel the same way, and continues to chat. Still talking about future plans and such, but no sort of commitment. We have a distance between us. I need some sort of further movement. I have told him this as well.
In my experience a cancer that's interested is basically a crybaby Scorpio. They will look for any excuse to see you and talk to you. Something is up that he keeps going Mia on the same day.
I'm feeling the same way. I just wanted to know from other Cancer signs, or those that have dealt with Cancers. This is my first.
Did you say you don't have feelings for him?
Alexscaries, I did not respond except to say that I very much enjoy talking with him, but I would have to actually know him other than over a computer.
There's your answer I take it he said he was interested in a relationship or something similar. Then he did the feminine thing of "I'm washing my hair" when you asked.
Well, I suppose that I should move on. I've told him several times that I was interested in a relationship, but I can't say that I love him or falling in love with him from just a computer relationship. I'm just not built to tell someone that without actually knowing them. I don't work that way. It's been three times that he has had a reason to cancel on our plans, and 6 weekends all together of nothing but chat over a device. It was only recently that he started talking of falling in love. He said that he understood my not being able to feel the same way, and continues to chat. Still talking about future plans and such, but no sort of commitment. We have a distance between us. I need some sort of further movement. I have told him this as well.
He's still a man and men don't like being dictated to about how a relationship should go before meeting up. I like things to be organic.
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I haven't dictated anything other than I can't have the same feelings over the internet. I haven't said anything about his breaking plans. I have just noted for myself. I have been supportive in all of his reasons. He's the one that makes the plans and breaks his own plans. Other than, I did tell him that I felt he should spend his Christmas with his grandson since that is what he has always done. I told him that it would be unfair to his grandson to change so late in the game, and that he and I could get together for my birthday on New Years if he was available. That is when he started to talk about deeper feelings towards me. Maybe that's dictation?
So in total 8 weeks with bullshit excuses. 😂I'm starting to think cat fish. 🙀🐠 I would not get invested in someone you haven't met.
With any man if he's really into you he would like to meet you. I'm seeing a cancer too sometimes but tbh he's starting to bore me a bit because he never wants to do anything beside netflix and chill. 😅🤣 Maybe crabs like their home so much they don't want to go outside. 🦀🏡🤔😅
So in total 8 weeks with bullshit excuses. 😂I'm starting to think cat fish. 🙀🐠 I would not get invested in someone you haven't met.
With any man if he's really into you he would like to meet you. I'm seeing a cancer too sometimes but tbh he's starting to bore me a bit because he never wants to do anything beside netflix and chill. 😅🤣 Maybe crabs like their home so much they don't want to go outside. 🦀🏡🤔😅
My man 👊
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High-five ✋
Tbh any man that contact someone randomly on Facebook I will be suspicious asf of. So you were that interesting to him that he had to contact you but then he doesn't want to meet? I'm just going to say again beware of the cat fish. 🙀
Have you facetimed? Heard his voice?
All the cancellations and excuses make me think catfish.
Did you say you don't have feelings for him?
Alexscaries, I did not respond except to say that I very much enjoy talking with him, but I would have to actually know him other than over a computer.
There's your answer I take it he said he was interested in a relationship or something similar. Then he did the feminine thing of "I'm washing my hair" when you asked.
Well, I suppose that I should move on. I've told him several times that I was interested in a relationship, but I can't say that I love him or falling in love with him from just a computer relationship. I'm just not built to tell someone that without actually knowing them. I don't work that way. It's been three times that he has had a reason to cancel on our plans, and 6 weekends all together of nothing but chat over a device. It was only recently that he started talking of falling in love. He said that he understood my not being able to feel the same way, and continues to chat. Still talking about future plans and such, but no sort of commitment. We have a distance between us. I need some sort of further movement. I have told him this as well.
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Why not be direct and say all the cancelling is turning you off
Have you facetimed? Heard his voice?
All the cancellations and excuses make me think catfish.
Me too. I wouldn't be surprised if he starts asking for money.
Did you say you don't have feelings for him?
Alexscaries, I did not respond except to say that I very much enjoy talking with him, but I would have to actually know him other than over a computer.
There's your answer I take it he said he was interested in a relationship or something similar. Then he did the feminine thing of "I'm washing my hair" when you asked.
Well, I suppose that I should move on. I've told him several times that I was interested in a relationship, but I can't say that I love him or falling in love with him from just a computer relationship. I'm just not built to tell someone that without actually knowing them. I don't work that way. It's been three times that he has had a reason to cancel on our plans, and 6 weekends all together of nothing but chat over a device. It was only recently that he started talking of falling in love. He said that he understood my not being able to feel the same way, and continues to chat. Still talking about future plans and such, but no sort of commitment. We have a distance between us. I need some sort of further movement. I have told him this as well.
Why not be direct and say all the cancelling is turning you off
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This will be my next conversation with him. It's coming up on the weekend again, and I already know that he is quarantining for 14 days. So I have decided that if he breaks the next plans that HE makes, then I feel like we should consider other options. It would be a whole day thing for us to meet as we are 4 hours away. Maybe that is what's stopping him, but he 's not saying it.
Tbh any man that contact someone randomly on Facebook I will be suspicious asf of. So you were that interesting to him that he had to contact you but then he doesn't want to meet? I'm just going to say again beware of the cat fish. 🙀
We have a mutual friend who has passed away. He has been in pics with our friend as well. I have spoken on the phone with him several times as well.
So in total 8 weeks with bullshit excuses. 😂I'm starting to think cat fish. 🙀🐠 I would not get invested in someone you haven't met.
We have a mutual friend who has passed away. He has been in pics with our friend as well. I have spoken on the phone with him several times as well. I have told him that I cannot have feelings for someone that I have only chatted/text/talked to. I would have to physically meet them before I could have any sort of feelings.
With any man if he's really into you he would like to meet you. I'm seeing a cancer too sometimes but tbh he's starting to bore me a bit because he never wants to do anything beside netflix and chill. 😅🤣 Maybe crabs like their home so much they don't want to go outside. 🦀🏡🤔😅
My man 👊
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Have you facetimed? Heard his voice?
All the cancellations and excuses make me think catfish.
Yes, We have a mutual friend who has passed away. He has been in pics with our friend as well. I have spoken on the phone with him several times as well.
So in total 8 weeks with bullshit excuses. 😂I'm starting to think cat fish. 🙀🐠 I would not get invested in someone you haven't met.
With any man if he's really into you he would like to meet you. I'm seeing a cancer too sometimes but tbh he's starting to bore me a bit because he never wants to do anything beside netflix and chill. 😅🤣 Maybe crabs like their home so much they don't want to go outside. 🦀🏡🤔😅
The firefighter guy?
Have you facetimed? Heard his voice?
All the cancellations and excuses make me think catfish.
Yes, We have a mutual friend who has passed away. He has been in pics with our friend as well. I have spoken on the phone with him several times as well.
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Investigate if he is married.
So in total 8 weeks with bullshit excuses. 😂I'm starting to think cat fish. 🙀🐠 I would not get invested in someone you haven't met.
With any man if he's really into you he would like to meet you. I'm seeing a cancer too sometimes but tbh he's starting to bore me a bit because he never wants to do anything beside netflix and chill. 😅🤣 Maybe crabs like their home so much they don't want to go outside. 🦀🏡🤔😅
The firefighter guy?
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Oh that’s trouble.
Have you facetimed? Heard his voice?
All the cancellations and excuses make me think catfish.
Yes, We have a mutual friend who has passed away. He has been in pics with our friend as well. I have spoken on the phone with him several times as well.
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So you know the person your speaking to is at least male, thats something.
So in total 8 weeks with bullshit excuses. 😂I'm starting to think cat fish. 🙀🐠 I would not get invested in someone you haven't met.
With any man if he's really into you he would like to meet you. I'm seeing a cancer too sometimes but tbh he's starting to bore me a bit because he never wants to do anything beside netflix and chill. 😅🤣 Maybe crabs like their home so much they don't want to go outside. 🦀🏡🤔😅
The firefighter guy?
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Yes. He must have sensed I was talking about him because now he just messaged me and asked if I wanted to join him exploring a neighbourhood. 🤔😂
Tbh any man that contact someone randomly on Facebook I will be suspicious asf of. So you were that interesting to him that he had to contact you but then he doesn't want to meet? I'm just going to say again beware of the cat fish. 🙀
We have a mutual friend who has passed away. He has been in pics with our friend as well. I have spoken on the phone with him several times as well.
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OK but maybe your friend was catfished and added him on FB thinking it was his friend when it wasn't. 🤔 Sorry I'm paranoid. 😂 Just seems odd to add someone out of the blue on FB and then doesn't want to meet up. Does he want a pen pal or what?
Have you facetimed? Heard his voice?
All the cancellations and excuses make me think catfish.
Yes, We have a mutual friend who has passed away. He has been in pics with our friend as well. I have spoken on the phone with him several times as well.
So you know the person your speaking to is at least male, thats something.
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Yes, he and our friend were friends all through school. I have also spoken to him on the phone.
Tbh any man that contact someone randomly on Facebook I will be suspicious asf of. So you were that interesting to him that he had to contact you but then he doesn't want to meet? I'm just going to say again beware of the cat fish. 🙀
We have a mutual friend who has passed away. He has been in pics with our friend as well. I have spoken on the phone with him several times as well.
OK but maybe your friend was catfished and added him on FB thinking it was his friend when it wasn't. 🤔 Sorry I'm paranoid. 😂 Just seems odd to add someone out of the blue on FB and then doesn't want to meet up. Does he want a pen pal or what?
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I might ask him if he just wants a pen pal.... lol
Tbh any man that contact someone randomly on Facebook I will be suspicious asf of. So you were that interesting to him that he had to contact you but then he doesn't want to meet? I'm just going to say again beware of the cat fish. 🙀
We have a mutual friend who has passed away. He has been in pics with our friend as well. I have spoken on the phone with him several times as well.
OK but maybe your friend was catfished and added him on FB thinking it was his friend when it wasn't. 🤔 Sorry I'm paranoid. 😂 Just seems odd to add someone out of the blue on FB and then doesn't want to meet up. Does he want a pen pal or what?
I might ask him if he just wants a pen pal.... lol
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What is his moon sign?
So in total 8 weeks with bullshit excuses. 😂I'm starting to think cat fish. 🙀🐠 I would not get invested in someone you haven't met.
With any man if he's really into you he would like to meet you. I'm seeing a cancer too sometimes but tbh he's starting to bore me a bit because he never wants to do anything beside netflix and chill. 😅🤣 Maybe crabs like their home so much they don't want to go outside. 🦀🏡🤔😅
The firefighter guy?
Yes. He must have sensed I was talking about him because now he just messaged me and asked if I wanted to join him exploring a neighbourhood. 🤔😂
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Lol what does that mean?
Does he ever take you for dinner, dancing etc?
Tbh any man that contact someone randomly on Facebook I will be suspicious asf of. So you were that interesting to him that he had to contact you but then he doesn't want to meet? I'm just going to say again beware of the cat fish. 🙀
We have a mutual friend who has passed away. He has been in pics with our friend as well. I have spoken on the phone with him several times as well.
OK but maybe your friend was catfished and added him on FB thinking it was his friend when it wasn't. 🤔 Sorry I'm paranoid. 😂 Just seems odd to add someone out of the blue on FB and then doesn't want to meet up. Does he want a pen pal or what?
I might ask him if he just wants a pen pal.... lol
What is his moon sign?
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IDK
So in total 8 weeks with bullshit excuses. 😂I'm starting to think cat fish. 🙀🐠 I would not get invested in someone you haven't met.
With any man if he's really into you he would like to meet you. I'm seeing a cancer too sometimes but tbh he's starting to bore me a bit because he never wants to do anything beside netflix and chill. 😅🤣 Maybe crabs like their home so much they don't want to go outside. 🦀🏡🤔😅
The firefighter guy?
Yes. He must have sensed I was talking about him because now he just messaged me and asked if I wanted to join him exploring a neighbourhood. 🤔😂
Lol what does that mean?
Does he ever take you for dinner, dancing etc?
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That's actually something I would suggest because I love exploring new places. I didn't even know he was the exploring type of guy. 😂 And neighbourhood was my word of choice.
He had said the name of the place but it's in my city so I don't know if I would call that exploring. 🤔🙈 Exploring to me is going to another city or somewhere further away. I was even this close to ask him if he wanted to join me on my trip to Italy but maybe that would have been too much for him. 🤣 He seems to be a typical cancer homebody whereas I love traveling.
Cancer here.
A lot of women think if they don't have sex with a man then they can't be being used, but we have a lot more to offer than that. Ever consider that having women that he doesn't have to buy things for, answer to or disppoint sexually might be appealing for him? Just all companionship and fantasy romance, none of the responsibilities.
I say you file this under The Rule of Toilet.
If your whole relationship can be done while he is on the toilet, he is wasting your time girl.
So in total 8 weeks with bullshit excuses. 😂I'm starting to think cat fish. 🙀🐠 I would not get invested in someone you haven't met.
With any man if he's really into you he would like to meet you. I'm seeing a cancer too sometimes but tbh he's starting to bore me a bit because he never wants to do anything beside netflix and chill. 😅🤣 Maybe crabs like their home so much they don't want to go outside. 🦀🏡🤔😅
The firefighter guy?
Yes. He must have sensed I was talking about him because now he just messaged me and asked if I wanted to join him exploring a neighbourhood. 🤔😂
Lol what does that mean?
Does he ever take you for dinner, dancing etc?
That's actually something I would suggest because I love exploring new places. I didn't even know he was the exploring type of guy. 😂 And neighbourhood was my word of choice.
He had said the name of the place but it's in my city so I don't know if I would call that exploring. 🤔🙈 Exploring to me is going to another city or somewhere further away. I was even this close to ask him if he wanted to join me on my trip to Italy but maybe that would have been too much for him. 🤣 He seems to be a typical cancer homebody whereas I love traveling.
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Enjoy!
😃
Tbh any man that contact someone randomly on Facebook I will be suspicious asf of. So you were that interesting to him that he had to contact you but then he doesn't want to meet? I'm just going to say again beware of the cat fish. 🙀
We have a mutual friend who has passed away. He has been in pics with our friend as well. I have spoken on the phone with him several times as well.
OK but maybe your friend was catfished and added him on FB thinking it was his friend when it wasn't. 🤔 Sorry I'm paranoid. 😂 Just seems odd to add someone out of the blue on FB and then doesn't want to meet up. Does he want a pen pal or what?
I might ask him if he just wants a pen pal.... lol
What is his moon sign?
IDK
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Do you know his bday?
Did you say you don't have feelings for him?
Alexscaries, I did not respond except to say that I very much enjoy talking with him, but I would have to actually know him other than over a computer.
There's your answer I take it he said he was interested in a relationship or something similar. Then he did the feminine thing of "I'm washing my hair" when you asked.
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🤣🤣
It's the famous Disappearing Cancer Man!
Cut your losses.
Years ago I remember that dissapearance was an attribute of the Scorpios ONLY!
Then it became everyone’s…I felt fucked!
Cancer here.
A lot of women think if they don't have sex with a man then they can't be being used, but we have a lot more to offer than that. Ever consider that having women that he doesn't have to buy things for, answer to or disppoint sexually might be appealing for him? Just all companionship and fantasy romance, none of the responsibilities.
I say you file this under The Rule of Toilet.
If your whole relationship can be done while he is on the toilet, he is wasting your time girl.
Are you saying he is an impotent?
I just wouldn't reach out to him at all. Make him be the one to contact you first from here on out until you meet or weekend communication changes. If he asks why you haven't been reaching out or msging him be honest and tell him you feel like he is not acting interested due to him vanishing every weekend.
You would think it’s only logical right? Apparently not. Imagine IF she was in love…dude would have to move further than 4 hours away 🤔
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Been chatting with a Cancer guy for a little over a month. He contacted me on FB. We have a mutual fb friend who is now deceased. He's been very kind, not saying anything out of the way. We've exchanged numbers and he said he would travel to meet me so I'm in familiar territory. He is in NC and I'm in SC
First week, lost an aunt. Goes home to NJ for a week. Barely heard from him. No big deal, he's got business to take care of.
Second weekend, he disappeared on Sunday. Heard from him on Monday. Was at ER with chest pains.
3rd week. Disappeared again on Sunday. Monday comes, he was in church all day.
4th week made plans and tells me Fri that he has to work.
5th week, going to pick up a truck from his father.
6th week, working on truck. Disappeared Sunday again, but sends a message late Sunday evening apologized, and said he had a migraine. Monday comes, he messaged that he was covid positive, and quarantine for 14 days. I'm supposed to sit and wait another guarantee of two more weeks for him? Calls me this morning and sounds the same as he always does.
Decent communication throughout the week. When chatting he says that he is having feelings. I do not, as I cannot have feelings for a computer/phone screen or voice and words. Words mean nothing without action to support words.
Should I move on? Is this normal for Cancers?
He is the first person in almost 6 years I've even chatted with this long, bc he hasn't said anything stupid.
Help a girl out.