Cancer man is driving me crazy!!!!!

I am a Taurus woman with a Cancer man, we are a new relationship, met on FB, found we live close to each other and plan to date once my divorce is final. Since meeting about 2 mths ago we have been talking by phone & web cam daily. We hit it off on day 1 and in fact for the first 24 days my guy was calling me like 4 times a day, and during that time we racked up 2600 cell phone minutes just on each other. On the 25th day he went AWOL, not answering cell, texts nothing. I didn't see it coming. Later that day he responded to me in text, saying he wanted to slow things down, not end it, just take it slower & cut back on some texts and calls. I figured he wanted space, I said yes. Then came possessiveness right after he tells me this, he was angry because I was being flirtatious on FB, he accused me of being unfaithful, disloyal and of "shopping for other men" that was all in texts and then came his call where he proceeded to scream at me for betraying him, so bad he had me in tears, and then the tears must have worked because he then started saying he would give me another chance but that i better never do it again, he wants a one man woman. We got through that, things got a bit better but again the silent treatment, when i get upset about it, he reassures me that he wants me and only me and wants me to steer clear of other guys. So I get all these signals of him wanting just me, but also the distance, I am getting calls, but they are short and sweet, then there are a few days of nice, long calls where we have good conversation, and back to nothing all day. It is up and down. In fact a few minutes ago he called, I started asking him about our relationship, he shuts down, says he still feels the same, and doesn't understand why i keep bringing it up. He breaks up with me and hangs up, I call him back, get voice mail, I ask him to pick up, he doesn't until I wait and then call again, and he picks up & makes up with me. We are now back to where we were, but likely tomorrow the pattern will start again, i am not sure what to do, but I feel the strongest connection i have ever felt with anyone, and if i even mention ending things, he accuses me of wanting to bail just cuz we hit a bump in the road. I expect to spend more time with him than he is giving and he thinks I am crazy because he still wants what i want. I am exhausted!!!! I read about Cancer males and he fits it to a T.

I didn't know relationships start from Facebook. He doesn't sound emotionally mature enough for a serious relationship

Update: he was testing me, last night had me in tears, then made up with me, I decide to purposely pull back and now he is doing a complete turn around and wants to plan our first date. We met on FB officially, but we work in same industry and knew of one another before hand, so not like I met a stranger on FB, it was just the vehicle used to get us together. I am not giving in to him though, he obviously wants the chase, and he is in for one hell of a chase now that know his game.

Seeing Stars he is 58 years old, not immature except for the game playing

Hulabird I hope you don't plan on keeping him. Playing games with the whole chase aspect will make him run or show even more extremely emotional aspects. Sounds to me than. He is being typical. He either cares alot and is unsure of how you feel. I know for me the more I care for someone the more the little things bother me. Or he could be with some one else which I think I unlikely due to being jealous of you. If you want things to go smoothly. Take. Hum by the hand when you do finally meet and tell him how you feel. I personally hate the chase but hate easyiness too. When I'm with someone I want no doubts, period or I can be moody.

The biggest problem that cancer and Taurus will go through ever IMO is poor comunication and that will break the relationship.

Hehe ya I'm kinda in a sticky situation with a Taurus woman. She likes holding back when we aren't around each other I'm trying to be very understanding of her given her messed up situation currently but told her last week that I cant deal with hot and cold all the time so until she starts explaining herself I'm done. That was a week ago. Saw her few times at work but didn't go out of my way to speak to her. I can it's upsetting her unfortunately but I had to put my foot down and stand my ground even its killing me inside. I figure tomorrow when I see her at work I will try to maker polite conversation. Even though I shouldn't. She's a magnet I can't get away from

truecancer I think things will be better when we actually get together, he has been very attentive all day, i told him what i expect and he is responding. He has been divorced for several years, his ex really hurt him and left with his best friend, so I think he has trust issues bug time. He is a good man, has old fashioned values, and is Godly, but I think he is seeing if I will be long term, he uses that phrase a lot when he talks about us. I know he is seeing no one else, he is not the type I think would lie about that. I do think he tests me, making sure about me. The communication is big, I agree and we are getting better at that. Every time we have had a fight, I have decided to hang in there and fight for it and then the next day we seem to seem closer, so I am thinking he is yeah playing games, but more to shield himself and make sure his heart won't be broken.

Ok your situation, what do you mean she is holding back? I am a Taurus, holding back, as in feelings is very hard for me, I am a heart on my sleeve girl, and rarely hold back.

BlackIndian22 thanks!!! Thanks for everyone's help. Now that I am seeing what is happening, I am able to talk to him more about it, he seems to thrive on drama, I think he is making sure I really am sincere in my feelings toward him. I feel sorry for people who are hurt by someone and then they are afraid to trust again. He is coming around though and I think in the long run, will be ok.

xMoonMan Thanks for your comments! My divorce is the easy thing, my husband walked out over 3 and a half years ago, he abandoned me so there was nothing to sort out, he never filed a divorce, and I am finally doing it now, so that relationship is of no issue at all. Actually me and my Cancer guy get along great, we have tons in common, and the issues I think arise due to the newness of the relationship, and to his trust issues from his prior relationship, he has been divorced for years. Today we accomplished alot and it is because we communicated, from everything I have read, Cancer man, Taurus woman is one of the best combinations for success, and I do see more positive than negative thus far, so since I am loyal and since I do care for him, I am going to stay in this because I think it will work out with time.

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xMoonMan I hear what you are saying, I feel i want to at least meet him for a date, he is a bit older than me, but we really have so much in common, and so i think actually meeting face to face has to happen before I really know what i want. As for my marriage, yes it was a Christian thing, and at first wanted him to come home, but mainly because I was scared of being alone. I am over that and over the marriage completely. I am waiting to meet this guy until my divorce is final because I feel that is the right thing to do, it is just a moral thing for me. He is already possessive of me, that is true, and I am not one to be possessed so I have tried to let him know that.