Cancer man - what am I missing here??

Met him last year we hit it off then he disappeared. Reappears this year in February and we’ve been dating since. He calls me his girlfriend and is very affectionate in public with me but I just don’t get some things about him.

1. We see each other once every three weeks (bothers me a lot as I’d love to see him more)

2. We talk every other day and text every day

3. We’ve been together for almost 5 months yet we haven’t had sex



When I asked him why he is okay with seeing me once every theee weeks he just says he’s not okay with it but he’s ridiculous busy with work and he says he’s also not okay with talking every other day but he gets tired when he gets home.

I don’t have the nerve to bring up the sex topic because as a girl asking a guy it’s embarrassing to ask why we’ve not done it yet, I mean he said the other day he was craving me and the last time we went out he was all over me..I’m soooo confused!!!!!!

Wtf am I doing wrong here!!

Is he gay?

Hidden girlfriend/boyfriend?

What’s my purpose here to him?

I stopped calling and texting so I do not initiate anymore but he always texts me and calls me and deep down I adore him so I answer and I reply but I keep it short answers these days.

I even tried ending it last week with:

So here goes nothing babe, I’m sure you’re already aware that I like you a lot but It just doesn’t really feel like this is something you may want and I just want to avoid getting hurt.

I may be wrong but in all honesty I guess I’m just trying to give you an out here.

I really like spending time with you and laughing. At the end of the day I want you to be happy because you mean a lot to me.

This was his reply:

❓❓❓where is this coming from babe...

Sorry for the late reply I went to watch the game with my buddies & my cousins being that Croatia won the soccer game and then it turned into a drinking celebration which we ended up getting loaded with drinks and I didn’t get up till 1pm today my phone is was in my buddies car chances are I’d end up losing it somewhere,if your mad that I didn’t call you,I’m sorry it has no intention of me not wanting to be with you or anything along those lines. I know I don’t get to see you as often as we should with work and all but I do miss you, and I understand where you’re coming from... I’m sorry and I do want to see you Friday babe if you’re free.



So I’ve tried ending it even though I don’t want to in order to see if he would take the out but he didn’t so I’m just more confused than ever, ughhhh

Everything you are doing sounds really annoying. You word things in ways to make him the guilty party, when there is no guilty party. Your constantly emotional game play is obnoxious, and how you degrade him is too.

"I asked him why he is okay with seeing me once every three weeks"

"I stopped calling and texting"

"Is he gay?"

"I’ve tried ending it even though I don’t want to in order to see if he would take the out"

You sound juvenile on every level throughout the entirety of your post. You broke up with him, to see what he would do. You wanted to see if he would panic. You ask if he is gay, just because he wants to take it slow with you. You hold way too much important about who texts who first. You ask him questions in a way that puts blame on him for your negative thoughts.

How about instead of being a manipulative game playing asshole, be upfront about the things you need from him. He isn't a freaking mind reader. He can't make the choices you need as a partner, if you are too busy pointing the finger at him and automatically deeming him guilty of whatever neurotic negative thought you have.

JFC