What Does He want?!

Haven’t posted in a while.... but I NEED help because I haven’t dated in a while and this has new to me....

So I’ve known this Cancer guy for maybe 5 years and we were just friends... I recently split from my husband.... 10 months now (yay!) and now my Cancer friend has been coming around. He confuses me so much because he social media stalks me, messages me on IG and text... ask to come over, but once he gets here... doesn’t try to have sex! In fact, he doesn’t even say much when he comes! He doesn’t make advances on me... I’m so confused as what he freaking wants! He’s a bit aloof to me and I’m an Aqua 😳😱. I don’t know what to think... and I’m a tad intimidated by him so I’m scared to ask him. He just left my house like a few minutes ago and he laid next to me in bed and watched tv! He left after being here for an hour and gave me the sweetest and longest hug, kisses my forehead, and smacks my butt and said since he stays 12 minutes away he will be over more often. He also pooped up which was scary...Someone help please!

Him:

Cancer Sun

Virgo Moon

Cap Mars

Virgo Venus

Aries Rising

Me:

Aqua Sun

Cap Moon

Scorp Mars

Cap Venus

Aqua Rising

By the way... ALL the guys I attract are typically Cancer or Virgo Venus.../ but WHY 😂

One thing is clear. He wants pussy. Probably knowing you're 10 months divorced, probably figuring you need dick after all this time and he made himself available. He might also be factoring in you're not looking for anything serious at this time with the divorce and all.

I mean, who doesn't like to come to a pretty girl's house, lay on the bed, watch TV and then get fucked with possibly no obligations. The pluses keep on adding up.

Posted by Mr_Pinchy
One thing is clear. He wants pussy. Probably knowing you're 10 months divorced, probably figuring you need dick after all this time and he made himself available. He might also be factoring in you're not looking for anything serious at this time with the divorce and all.

I mean, who doesn't like to come to a pretty girl's house, lay on the bed, watch TV and then get fucked with possibly no obligations. The pluses keep on adding up.

Well honestly I’d be ok with that! BUT he’s been over minimum 4 times ( I think it’s been 5, but unsure) and not once has he tried to have sex with me! 😳. We’ve cuddled and kissed.... and touched.... but no sticky in the icky 😂😢.

Posted by Lioness888
He might be getting the aloof vibes off you and mirroring. It obviously sounds like he's very interested in you. With Cancer, when they've been hurt in the past, they crawl into their shell and take a little to time to trust again and they don't want to rush in if that way has ended badly before. I have Aries rising and it likes to rush in and gets all excited and impatient so he might be trying to tame that side but it's leaking out lol. I have virgo venus too and i like to feel safe before i emotionally invest too much and we analyse the other persons actions to figure out where we stand in a relationship. If they like you, it's hard to change their mind and they accept all your flaws even though they can be really critical if they feel negleted or unwanted. Criticism means work on it to make the relationship better, rather than i hate this in you. It's just misunderstood by most people but it's not coming from a bad place. It's just trying to make it better and find solutions to problems because it's analytical.
Cap mars is great sex, manly and protective and chivalrous. Im nit great at the astro stuff so that's just my experience.

Thank you.. this was incredibly helpful

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Posted by Mr_Pinchy
One thing is clear. He wants kitty. Probably knowing you're 10 months divorced, probably figuring you need dick after all this time and he made himself available. He might also be factoring in you're not looking for anything serious at this time with the divorce and all.

I mean, who doesn't like to come to a pretty girl's house, lay on the bed, watch TV and then get treetrunked with possibly no obligations. The pluses keep on adding up.

Well honestly I’d be ok with that! BUT he’s been over minimum 4 times ( I think it’s been 5, but unsure) and not once has he tried to have sex with me! 😳. We’ve cuddled and kissed.... and touched.... but no sticky in the icky 😂😢.

those moons 😂😂 both poker facing until it can't be helped.
waiting for the first move ....if you want it; be very clear ....and direct 😊

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I know right. Him and I both have cold & aloof all in our charts! Compatible, but I’m a boring way. We are both totally “poker facing” the situation. When he left today I actually didn’t want him to leave and he text me soon afterwards asking what I was doing... I’m like... if you care what I’m doing why leave?!

Posted by Jade_Alexander
I don’t understand how you haven’t just made the move?....are you waiting for him to do something? Like a secret signal that it’s sexy time?

Just do the naked man, strip down and see where it goes!

Like, if he doesn’t want sex that’s fine, he should express that so you both know...

I know I should have, but I’m a bit shy when it comes to that. Next time I will...

Posted by Waterbearerwearer
Virgo moon don’t like easy bishes js

Maybe that’s why he keeps prowling around because I haven’t given it up yet

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Posted by Waterbearerwearer
Virgo moon don’t like easy bishes js

Maybe that’s why he keeps prowling around because I haven’t given it up yet

If you were on his D he would look down and forever sluhhht shame you for it.

Up to you where it goes.

Virgo moons are really high standards

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Lol honestly this sounds like him. He can be a bit snooty sometimes.

My cancer friend just admitted to me that he’s sensitive and doesn’t like sleeping with just anyone. He said as he gets older he gets really selective. He told me about a time he went away with a girl And they slept in the bed together and he didn’t do anything. That was a whole weekend.

Posted by bkbella86
My cancer friend just admitted to me that he’s sensitive and doesn’t like sleeping with just anyone. He said as he gets older he gets really selective. He told me about a time he went away with a girl And they slept in the bed together and he didn’t do anything. That was a whole weekend.

This is endearing but also sad. I’m glad he wouldn’t just sleep with anyone, but then it makes me feel I’m not worthy enough 😢. And he seems like the type to go away with a woman with no sex! Maybe he’s afraid if we have sex he will fall for me.

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Posted by Jade_Alexander
I don’t understand how you haven’t just made the move?....are you waiting for him to do something? Like a secret signal that it’s sexy time?

Just do the naked man, strip down and see where it goes!

Like, if he doesn’t want sex that’s fine, he should express that so you both know...

I know I should have, but I’m a bit shy when it comes to that. Next time I will...

I think it’s the cap venus... lookomhbfor someone to take the lead

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It is my Cap Venus! I’m also used to someone else taking the lead I’m shy to step out and take it myself. I guess I have to practice that trait.

Mars in Cap. They are weird about sex

Hey @Wineaux15

Be careful with this one. Aqua women and Cancer men never fit. Cancer men are tricky....... very manipulative. Don't believe all this sensitive stuff everyone talks about. Don't be lenient with him because you think he's emotionally weak. I strongly suggest that you read the cancer man threads.

You probably should leave him for the Scorps and Leos.

Posted by STILL
Hey @Wineaux15

Be careful with this one. Aqua women and Cancer men never fit. Cancer men are tricky....... very manipulative. Don't believe all this sensitive stuff everyone talks about. Don't be lenient with him because you think he's emotionally weak. I strongly suggest that you read the cancer man threads.

You probably should leave him for the Scorps and Leos.

Yeah. I agree. Cancer men pretend to be friends to you and do tons for you then kick you to the curb and switch it up once they have you and get tired of doing a lot for you. There’s no continuous follow through. They will treat you like crap if they think they’ve bent over backwards with no rewards lol.

I’ve never been attracted to them and they usually show their true colors with me cause I don’t give in to their sweetness or gifts. They are similar to Scorpio men and can be vicious.

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Posted by STILL
Hey @Wineaux15

Be careful with this one. Aqua women and Cancer men never fit. Cancer men are tricky....... very manipulative. Don't believe all this sensitive stuff everyone talks about. Don't be lenient with him because you think he's emotionally weak. I strongly suggest that you read the cancer man threads.

You probably should leave him for the Scorps and Leos.

Yeah. I agree. Cancer men pretend to be friends to you and do tons for you then kick you to the curb and switch it up once they have you and get tired of doing a lot for you. There’s no continuous follow through. They will treat you like crap if they think they’ve bent over backwards with no rewards lol.

I’ve never been attracted to them and they usually show their true colors with me cause I don’t give in to their sweetness or gifts. They are similar to Scorpio men and can be vicious.

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Indeed

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Posted by bkbella86
My cancer friend just admitted to me that he’s sensitive and doesn’t like sleeping with just anyone. He said as he gets older he gets really selective. He told me about a time he went away with a girl And they slept in the bed together and he didn’t do anything. That was a whole weekend.

This is endearing but also sad. I’m glad he wouldn’t just sleep with anyone, but then it makes me feel I’m not worthy enough 😢. And he seems like the type to go away with a woman with no sex! Maybe he’s afraid if we have sex he will fall for me.

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I know that moon/mars/venus combo, is a tricky thing, venus virgo is slow af it will take eons before he feel ready to take the step by himself, he will need a push to move things forward.

the moon is more complicated (lmao) they can fantasize to be with you forever but will never tell, they will be there for you, help you, spend days with you, and if you do something to disappoint them they just disappear and things will be like you never had anything to begin with, you died and no one ever told you.

and that mars can live without sex, idk how they do it, they kiss, they hug, they can cuddle like a gentleman, won't touch you unless granted permission, they can focus in a way beyond my gemini mars comprehension, especially in work, they are very sensual, especially with deep touch (like that tantric stuff) being close have a meaning for them, but they won't take a leap for sex.

so I know what you're going through, you know he likes you, but he doesn't show lust, that attraction anyone want from a SO it feels like being friendzoned.

the best thing would be talking about relationships in general Imho but not assaulting him cuz that will make the virgo parts retreat, it need to be casual, and then, casually telling him that you feel he's attractive (physically) and then do nothing, he probably will need to process that a little bit, when he returns, he will be ready, for you to try something more 😆