Cancer Men, and Breakups?!?

I have been on this forum before, questions the intentions and motives of my Cancer "Boo". It took me some time, but I realized that Cancers are very complex, so I am glad I took some time, slowed down and tried to understand him better. At first I questioned if he even liked me as much as I liked him, but I slowly realized that him bringing me to his home, and around his closest friends and family, that he was interested. I still have some apprehension, but that is to be expected while trying to build a solid foundation for a relationship. About a month ago during a late night convo, I asked the "what are we question", and he answered by saying that he just got out of a year long relationship (about 5 months prior), which I understand b/c I myself just got out of a relationship around the same time. At first that threw me off, but it wasn't until I found out that he went through a HORRIBLE breakup. Because we have mutual friends that are very close to both of us, I got the inside scoop and found out that he planned on being with this person forever, and they betrayed him in an unimaginable way. So my question is, can that explain why he is trying to take things so slow with me? And should I stop internalizing his distance or the changes in communication as it being me, or his lack of interest? Do Cancers have a hard time moving on after a bad break up?

I never experienced being betrayed. If he is bringing you around that's a really good sign for a cancer man. But if he responded that way.. I don't think he sees you as a rebound, otherwise he would have already jump to it. He might have really good intentions with you. But he doesn't seem to be ready to move on. He might just not like you enough at this point or simply still being inside the shell. It's up to you, how much you like him and what do you feel his feelings are. But prepare yourself for a ride.

Posted by sscorpio734
I have been on this forum before, questions the intentions and motives of my Cancer "Boo". It took me some time, but I realized that Cancers are very complex, so I am glad I took some time, slowed down and tried to understand him better. At first I questioned if he even liked me as much as I liked him, but I slowly realized that him bringing me to his home, and around his closest friends and family, that he was interested. I still have some apprehension, but that is to be expected while trying to build a solid foundation for a relationship. About a month ago during a late night convo, I asked the "what are we question", and he answered by saying that he just got out of a year long relationship (about 5 months prior), which I understand b/c I myself just got out of a relationship around the same time. At first that threw me off, but it wasn't until I found out that he went through a HORRIBLE breakup. Because we have mutual friends that are very close to both of us, I got the inside scoop and found out that he planned on being with this person forever, and they betrayed him in an unimaginable way. So my question is, can that explain why he is trying to take things so slow with me? And should I stop internalizing his distance or the changes in communication as it being me, or his lack of interest? Do Cancers have a hard time moving on after a bad break up?

He is taking things slow because, he probably doesn't trust his own judgment anymore when it comes to the opposite sex. He is probably still also trying to fix himself, but you being constant, and bonding with him will mean more long term than you know.

Titles don't mean shit with these guys. Just because you don't have a title, doesn't mean you aren't the priority. Actions speak louder than words, and this cliche holds so true with them. And quite honestly, sometimes they are just busy with life.

They can go days, or weeks without communicating with you, but their feelings haven't changed. It is just that they are trying to "fix" themselves from whatever happened in the previously relationship. Sometimes it can be a test to see if you stay loyal. Sometimes its them just being derpy. Sometimes its just them sleeping. Sometimes its just them being busy.

But yes, to answer your question, they have a REALLY hard time getting past a relationship that they viewed as forever. That doesn't mean they can't, it just means that they will be hyper paranoid moving forward about anyone else, unless you are in the inner circle and they are now bonded with you.

Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
ahhhhhhhhh proceed if you're just trying to be a rebound

you're not the one

no matter how slow you take things

what was his ex's sign?

We are both scorpios!

Posted by carrazeda
I never experienced being betrayed. If he is bringing you around that's a really good sign for a cancer man. But if he responded that way.. I don't think he sees you as a rebound, otherwise he would have already jump to it. He might have really good intentions with you. But he doesn't seem to be ready to move on. He might just not like you enough at this point or simply still being inside the shell. It's up to you, how much you like him and what do you feel his feelings are. But prepare yourself for a ride.

Great things to think about, so thank you. Yes, I can see now that this will be a bumpy one, and at the end of the day, because we share close mutual friends that are consider family to the both of us, neither one of us want to get to the place that we can't at least be friends. I will continue to be there for him, and allow him to pursue if and when he is ready.

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Posted by sscorpio734
I have been on this forum before, questions the intentions and motives of my Cancer "Boo". It took me some time, but I realized that Cancers are very complex, so I am glad I took some time, slowed down and tried to understand him better. At first I questioned if he even liked me as much as I liked him, but I slowly realized that him bringing me to his home, and around his closest friends and family, that he was interested. I still have some apprehension, but that is to be expected while trying to build a solid foundation for a relationship. About a month ago during a late night convo, I asked the "what are we question", and he answered by saying that he just got out of a year long relationship (about 5 months prior), which I understand b/c I myself just got out of a relationship around the same time. At first that threw me off, but it wasn't until I found out that he went through a HORRIBLE breakup. Because we have mutual friends that are very close to both of us, I got the inside scoop and found out that he planned on being with this person forever, and they betrayed him in an unimaginable way. So my question is, can that explain why he is trying to take things so slow with me? And should I stop internalizing his distance or the changes in communication as it being me, or his lack of interest? Do Cancers have a hard time moving on after a bad break up?

He is taking things slow because, he probably doesn't trust his own judgment anymore when it comes to the opposite sex. He is probably still also trying to fix himself, but you being constant, and bonding with him will mean more long term than you know.

Titles don't mean shit with these guys. Just because you don't have a title, doesn't mean you aren't the priority. Actions speak louder than words, and this cliche holds so true with them. And quite honestly, sometimes they are just busy with life.

They can go days, or weeks without communicating with you, but their feelings haven't changed. It is just that they are trying to "fix" themselves from whatever happened in the previously relationship. Sometimes it can be a test to see if you stay loyal. Sometimes its them just being derpy. Sometimes its just them sleeping. Sometimes its just them being busy.

But yes, to answer your question, they have a REALLY hard time getting past a relationship that they viewed as forever. That doesn't mean they can't, it just means that they will be hyper paranoid moving forward about anyone else, unless you are in the inner circle and they are now bonded with you.

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Man, I have really noticed this about Cancers, and we even discussed it not too long ago. They are so complex that they really live and move by their own code, and this most likely gonna be determined by how they feel. I cherish his friendship more than anything, and I think that loyalty is being test, especially since he was burned by the last one. I think that the lack of communication is a combination of everything you said. I have been taking all your advice, girl! I just wanted to make sure I was being patient and consider, while also protecting myself. We are all going away on a trip together so I wanted to make sure my observations were correct so I didn't rock the boat.

Posted by sscorpio734

Posted by nikkistar

Posted by sscorpio734
I have been on this forum before, questions the intentions and motives of my Cancer "Boo". It took me some time, but I realized that Cancers are very complex, so I am glad I took some time, slowed down and tried to understand him better. At first I questioned if he even liked me as much as I liked him, but I slowly realized that him bringing me to his home, and around his closest friends and family, that he was interested. I still have some apprehension, but that is to be expected while trying to build a solid foundation for a relationship. About a month ago during a late night convo, I asked the "what are we question", and he answered by saying that he just got out of a year long relationship (about 5 months prior), which I understand b/c I myself just got out of a relationship around the same time. At first that threw me off, but it wasn't until I found out that he went through a HORRIBLE breakup. Because we have mutual friends that are very close to both of us, I got the inside scoop and found out that he planned on being with this person forever, and they betrayed him in an unimaginable way. So my question is, can that explain why he is trying to take things so slow with me? And should I stop internalizing his distance or the changes in communication as it being me, or his lack of interest? Do Cancers have a hard time moving on after a bad break up?

He is taking things slow because, he probably doesn't trust his own judgment anymore when it comes to the opposite sex. He is probably still also trying to fix himself, but you being constant, and bonding with him will mean more long term than you know.

Titles don't mean shit with these guys. Just because you don't have a title, doesn't mean you aren't the priority. Actions speak louder than words, and this cliche holds so true with them. And quite honestly, sometimes they are just busy with life.

They can go days, or weeks without communicating with you, but their feelings haven't changed. It is just that they are trying to "fix" themselves from whatever happened in the previously relationship. Sometimes it can be a test to see if you stay loyal. Sometimes its them just being derpy. Sometimes its just them sleeping. Sometimes its just them being busy.

But yes, to answer your question, they have a REALLY hard time getting past a relationship that they viewed as forever. That doesn't mean they can't, it just means that they will be hyper paranoid moving forward about anyone else, unless you are in the inner circle and they are now bonded with you.

Man, I have really noticed this about Cancers, and we even discussed it not too long ago. They are so complex that they really live and move by their own code, and this most likely gonna be determined by how they feel. I cherish his friendship more than anything, and I think that loyalty is being test, especially since he was burned by the last one. I think that the lack of communication is a combination of everything you said. I have been taking all your advice, girl! I just wanted to make sure I was being patient and consider, while also protecting myself. We are all going away on a trip together so I wanted to make sure my observations were correct so I didn't rock the boat.

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I am essentially in the same boat. I am just 2 years down the road. Regardless of where life takes me, he and I both know we will always remain in each others life. We went weeks without speaking to one another, because I had stuff going on, and once I did, he welcomed me with open arms.

It's just life. You just have to let it ebb and flow. Just realize that these men march to the beat of their own drum, and honestly, they don't give a shit either if they offend people. lol

But, if they make the choice to do things for you that are atypical of their behavior with everyone else, realize your worth in their life.

Posted by nikkistar
He is taking things slow because, he probably doesn't trust his own judgment anymore when it comes to the opposite sex. He is probably still also trying to fix himself, but you being constant, and bonding with him will mean more long term than you know.

But yes, to answer your question, they have a REALLY hard time getting past a relationship that they viewed as forever. That doesn't mean they can't, it just means that they will be hyper paranoid moving forward about anyone else, unless you are in the inner circle and they are now bonded with you.

Bravo ??. All you need to answer your questions.

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Posted by sscorpio734

Posted by nikkistar

Posted by sscorpio734
I have been on this forum before, questions the intentions and motives of my Cancer "Boo". It took me some time, but I realized that Cancers are very complex, so I am glad I took some time, slowed down and tried to understand him better. At first I questioned if he even liked me as much as I liked him, but I slowly realized that him bringing me to his home, and around his closest friends and family, that he was interested. I still have some apprehension, but that is to be expected while trying to build a solid foundation for a relationship. About a month ago during a late night convo, I asked the "what are we question", and he answered by saying that he just got out of a year long relationship (about 5 months prior), which I understand b/c I myself just got out of a relationship around the same time. At first that threw me off, but it wasn't until I found out that he went through a HORRIBLE breakup. Because we have mutual friends that are very close to both of us, I got the inside scoop and found out that he planned on being with this person forever, and they betrayed him in an unimaginable way. So my question is, can that explain why he is trying to take things so slow with me? And should I stop internalizing his distance or the changes in communication as it being me, or his lack of interest? Do Cancers have a hard time moving on after a bad break up?

He is taking things slow because, he probably doesn't trust his own judgment anymore when it comes to the opposite sex. He is probably still also trying to fix himself, but you being constant, and bonding with him will mean more long term than you know.

Titles don't mean shit with these guys. Just because you don't have a title, doesn't mean you aren't the priority. Actions speak louder than words, and this cliche holds so true with them. And quite honestly, sometimes they are just busy with life.

They can go days, or weeks without communicating with you, but their feelings haven't changed. It is just that they are trying to "fix" themselves from whatever happened in the previously relationship. Sometimes it can be a test to see if you stay loyal. Sometimes its them just being derpy. Sometimes its just them sleeping. Sometimes its just them being busy.

But yes, to answer your question, they have a REALLY hard time getting past a relationship that they viewed as forever. That doesn't mean they can't, it just means that they will be hyper paranoid moving forward about anyone else, unless you are in the inner circle and they are now bonded with you.

Man, I have really noticed this about Cancers, and we even discussed it not too long ago. They are so complex that they really live and move by their own code, and this most likely gonna be determined by how they feel. I cherish his friendship more than anything, and I think that loyalty is being test, especially since he was burned by the last one. I think that the lack of communication is a combination of everything you said. I have been taking all your advice, girl! I just wanted to make sure I was being patient and consider, while also protecting myself. We are all going away on a trip together so I wanted to make sure my observations were correct so I didn't rock the boat.

I am essentially in the same boat. I am just 2 years down the road. Regardless of where life takes me, he and I both know we will always remain in each others life. We went weeks without speaking to one another, because I had stuff going on, and once I did, he welcomed me with open arms.

It's just life. You just have to let it ebb and flow. Just realize that these men march to the beat of their own drum, and honestly, they don't give a shit either if they offend people. lol

But, if they make the choice to do things for you that are atypical of their behavior with everyone else, realize your worth in their life.

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I could say I've been going through the same with a scorpio girl for the last six months! it seems that often cancer men and scorpio women have this most intriguing emotional dance. I don't think that a lot people understand it (certainly not my earth or fire friends).

@sscorpio734 what's his birthday date? does he fall in the second decan which is rulled by scorpio? those are the more scorpionics cancers, almost impossible to predict and moving at their own pace. I'm one myself. don't try to force him but there with him that's what I would say. also, does he has pluto in scorpio? where's your pluto?

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Posted by sscorpio734
I have been on this forum before, questions the intentions and motives of my Cancer "Boo". It took me some time, but I realized that Cancers are very complex, so I am glad I took some time, slowed down and tried to understand him better. At first I questioned if he even liked me as much as I liked him, but I slowly realized that him bringing me to his home, and around his closest friends and family, that he was interested. I still have some apprehension, but that is to be expected while trying to build a solid foundation for a relationship. About a month ago during a late night convo, I asked the "what are we question", and he answered by saying that he just got out of a year long relationship (about 5 months prior), which I understand b/c I myself just got out of a relationship around the same time. At first that threw me off, but it wasn't until I found out that he went through a HORRIBLE breakup. Because we have mutual friends that are very close to both of us, I got the inside scoop and found out that he planned on being with this person forever, and they betrayed him in an unimaginable way. So my question is, can that explain why he is trying to take things so slow with me? And should I stop internalizing his distance or the changes in communication as it being me, or his lack of interest? Do Cancers have a hard time moving on after a bad break up?

He is taking things slow because, he probably doesn't trust his own judgment anymore when it comes to the opposite sex. He is probably still also trying to fix himself, but you being constant, and bonding with him will mean more long term than you know.

Titles don't mean shit with these guys. Just because you don't have a title, doesn't mean you aren't the priority. Actions speak louder than words, and this cliche holds so true with them. And quite honestly, sometimes they are just busy with life.

They can go days, or weeks without communicating with you, but their feelings haven't changed. It is just that they are trying to "fix" themselves from whatever happened in the previously relationship. Sometimes it can be a test to see if you stay loyal. Sometimes its them just being derpy. Sometimes its just them sleeping. Sometimes its just them being busy.

But yes, to answer your question, they have a REALLY hard time getting past a relationship that they viewed as forever. That doesn't mean they can't, it just means that they will be hyper paranoid moving forward about anyone else, unless you are in the inner circle and they are now bonded with you.

Man, I have really noticed this about Cancers, and we even discussed it not too long ago. They are so complex that they really live and move by their own code, and this most likely gonna be determined by how they feel. I cherish his friendship more than anything, and I think that loyalty is being test, especially since he was burned by the last one. I think that the lack of communication is a combination of everything you said. I have been taking all your advice, girl! I just wanted to make sure I was being patient and consider, while also protecting myself. We are all going away on a trip together so I wanted to make sure my observations were correct so I didn't rock the boat.

I am essentially in the same boat. I am just 2 years down the road. Regardless of where life takes me, he and I both know we will always remain in each others life. We went weeks without speaking to one another, because I had stuff going on, and once I did, he welcomed me with open arms.

It's just life. You just have to let it ebb and flow. Just realize that these men march to the beat of their own drum, and honestly, they don't give a shit either if they offend people. lol

But, if they make the choice to do things for you that are atypical of their behavior with everyone else, realize your worth in their life.

I could say I've been going through the same with a scorpio girl for the last six months! it seems that often cancer men and scorpio women have this most intriguing emotional dance. I don't think that a lot people understand it (certainly not my earth or fire friends).

@sscorpio734 what's his birthday date? does he fall in the second decan which is rulled by scorpio? those are the more scorpionics cancers, almost impossible to predict and moving at their own pace. I'm one myself. don't try to force him but there with him that's what I would say. also, does he has pluto in scorpio? where's your pluto?

dancing is not commitment nor a long life partnership

an emotional dance that goes nowhere...

fruitless. waste of time.

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This is the cancer forum, not the leo one.

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Posted by sscorpio734

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Posted by sscorpio734
I have been on this forum before, questions the intentions and motives of my Cancer "Boo". It took me some time, but I realized that Cancers are very complex, so I am glad I took some time, slowed down and tried to understand him better. At first I questioned if he even liked me as much as I liked him, but I slowly realized that him bringing me to his home, and around his closest friends and family, that he was interested. I still have some apprehension, but that is to be expected while trying to build a solid foundation for a relationship. About a month ago during a late night convo, I asked the "what are we question", and he answered by saying that he just got out of a year long relationship (about 5 months prior), which I understand b/c I myself just got out of a relationship around the same time. At first that threw me off, but it wasn't until I found out that he went through a HORRIBLE breakup. Because we have mutual friends that are very close to both of us, I got the inside scoop and found out that he planned on being with this person forever, and they betrayed him in an unimaginable way. So my question is, can that explain why he is trying to take things so slow with me? And should I stop internalizing his distance or the changes in communication as it being me, or his lack of interest? Do Cancers have a hard time moving on after a bad break up?

He is taking things slow because, he probably doesn't trust his own judgment anymore when it comes to the opposite sex. He is probably still also trying to fix himself, but you being constant, and bonding with him will mean more long term than you know.

Titles don't mean shit with these guys. Just because you don't have a title, doesn't mean you aren't the priority. Actions speak louder than words, and this cliche holds so true with them. And quite honestly, sometimes they are just busy with life.

They can go days, or weeks without communicating with you, but their feelings haven't changed. It is just that they are trying to "fix" themselves from whatever happened in the previously relationship. Sometimes it can be a test to see if you stay loyal. Sometimes its them just being derpy. Sometimes its just them sleeping. Sometimes its just them being busy.

But yes, to answer your question, they have a REALLY hard time getting past a relationship that they viewed as forever. That doesn't mean they can't, it just means that they will be hyper paranoid moving forward about anyone else, unless you are in the inner circle and they are now bonded with you.

Man, I have really noticed this about Cancers, and we even discussed it not too long ago. They are so complex that they really live and move by their own code, and this most likely gonna be determined by how they feel. I cherish his friendship more than anything, and I think that loyalty is being test, especially since he was burned by the last one. I think that the lack of communication is a combination of everything you said. I have been taking all your advice, girl! I just wanted to make sure I was being patient and consider, while also protecting myself. We are all going away on a trip together so I wanted to make sure my observations were correct so I didn't rock the boat.

I am essentially in the same boat. I am just 2 years down the road. Regardless of where life takes me, he and I both know we will always remain in each others life. We went weeks without speaking to one another, because I had stuff going on, and once I did, he welcomed me with open arms.

It's just life. You just have to let it ebb and flow. Just realize that these men march to the beat of their own drum, and honestly, they don't give a shit either if they offend people. lol

But, if they make the choice to do things for you that are atypical of their behavior with everyone else, realize your worth in their life.

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Dang girl! So i guess it can be done. Yea, I think we will eventually find a groove. As you can see, I'm still here trying to figure buddy out, and he has been here as well. I don't plan on going anywhere yet.

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Posted by nikkistar

Posted by sscorpio734

Posted by nikkistar

Posted by sscorpio734
I have been on this forum before, questions the intentions and motives of my Cancer "Boo". It took me some time, but I realized that Cancers are very complex, so I am glad I took some time, slowed down and tried to understand him better. At first I questioned if he even liked me as much as I liked him, but I slowly realized that him bringing me to his home, and around his closest friends and family, that he was interested. I still have some apprehension, but that is to be expected while trying to build a solid foundation for a relationship. About a month ago during a late night convo, I asked the "what are we question", and he answered by saying that he just got out of a year long relationship (about 5 months prior), which I understand b/c I myself just got out of a relationship around the same time. At first that threw me off, but it wasn't until I found out that he went through a HORRIBLE breakup. Because we have mutual friends that are very close to both of us, I got the inside scoop and found out that he planned on being with this person forever, and they betrayed him in an unimaginable way. So my question is, can that explain why he is trying to take things so slow with me? And should I stop internalizing his distance or the changes in communication as it being me, or his lack of interest? Do Cancers have a hard time moving on after a bad break up?

He is taking things slow because, he probably doesn't trust his own judgment anymore when it comes to the opposite sex. He is probably still also trying to fix himself, but you being constant, and bonding with him will mean more long term than you know.

Titles don't mean shit with these guys. Just because you don't have a title, doesn't mean you aren't the priority. Actions speak louder than words, and this cliche holds so true with them. And quite honestly, sometimes they are just busy with life.

They can go days, or weeks without communicating with you, but their feelings haven't changed. It is just that they are trying to "fix" themselves from whatever happened in the previously relationship. Sometimes it can be a test to see if you stay loyal. Sometimes its them just being derpy. Sometimes its just them sleeping. Sometimes its just them being busy.

But yes, to answer your question, they have a REALLY hard time getting past a relationship that they viewed as forever. That doesn't mean they can't, it just means that they will be hyper paranoid moving forward about anyone else, unless you are in the inner circle and they are now bonded with you.

Man, I have really noticed this about Cancers, and we even discussed it not too long ago. They are so complex that they really live and move by their own code, and this most likely gonna be determined by how they feel. I cherish his friendship more than anything, and I think that loyalty is being test, especially since he was burned by the last one. I think that the lack of communication is a combination of everything you said. I have been taking all your advice, girl! I just wanted to make sure I was being patient and consider, while also protecting myself. We are all going away on a trip together so I wanted to make sure my observations were correct so I didn't rock the boat.

I am essentially in the same boat. I am just 2 years down the road. Regardless of where life takes me, he and I both know we will always remain in each others life. We went weeks without speaking to one another, because I had stuff going on, and once I did, he welcomed me with open arms.

It's just life. You just have to let it ebb and flow. Just realize that these men march to the beat of their own drum, and honestly, they don't give a shit either if they offend people. lol

But, if they make the choice to do things for you that are atypical of their behavior with everyone else, realize your worth in their life.

Dang girl! So i guess it can be done. Yea, I think we will eventually find a groove. As you can see, I'm still here trying to figure buddy out, and he has been here as well. I don't plan on going anywhere yet.

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Patience is key with them. Honestly, as they see your actions, they begin to trust you more and more. With that trust, comes more information into who they are, and you become a confident.

In the beginning, I had some of the same issues as you did. I would text, and he would rarely text back. Most calls ignored. He picked up once a day. Now, he did let me know what he was up to day to day, but communication wasn't consistent. And at times, I felt that I put more effort in than he did. However, he had zero issue with me contacting his mom if I worried. Introducing his family to me. Having me stay a week with them. Outside of the communication, his actions seemed in line with someone whom cared. I choose to focus on that aspect.

Fast forward two years, communication (though he does have sporadic times of not talking, usually sleeping all day cause he stayed up all night on his xbox) is 100% improved. I am privy to emotional information no one else knows, not even his mom. He calls and texts me now. I know 100% more about what is going on with him, and he makes an effort.

Trust me, these guys have no issue telling anyone "Nope" if they didn't really view you as an important aspect of their life. Seriously. They don't. Scary to know that about them, but also great when you know you are in.

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I have been on this forum before, questions the intentions and motives of my Cancer "Boo". It took me some time, but I realized that Cancers are very complex, so I am glad I took some time, slowed down and tried to understand him better. At first I questioned if he even liked me as much as I liked him, but I slowly realized that him bringing me to his home, and around his closest friends and family, that he was interested. I still have some apprehension, but that is to be expected while trying to build a solid foundation for a relationship. About a month ago during a late night convo, I asked the "what are we question", and he answered by saying that he just got out of a year long relationship (about 5 months prior), which I understand b/c I myself just got out of a relationship around the same time. At first that threw me off, but it wasn't until I found out that he went through a HORRIBLE breakup. Because we have mutual friends that are very close to both of us, I got the inside scoop and found out that he planned on being with this person forever, and they betrayed him in an unimaginable way. So my question is, can that explain why he is trying to take things so slow with me? And should I stop internalizing his distance or the changes in communication as it being me, or his lack of interest? Do Cancers have a hard time moving on after a bad break up?

He is taking things slow because, he probably doesn't trust his own judgment anymore when it comes to the opposite sex. He is probably still also trying to fix himself, but you being constant, and bonding with him will mean more long term than you know.

Titles don't mean shit with these guys. Just because you don't have a title, doesn't mean you aren't the priority. Actions speak louder than words, and this cliche holds so true with them. And quite honestly, sometimes they are just busy with life.

They can go days, or weeks without communicating with you, but their feelings haven't changed. It is just that they are trying to "fix" themselves from whatever happened in the previously relationship. Sometimes it can be a test to see if you stay loyal. Sometimes its them just being derpy. Sometimes its just them sleeping. Sometimes its just them being busy.

But yes, to answer your question, they have a REALLY hard time getting past a relationship that they viewed as forever. That doesn't mean they can't, it just means that they will be hyper paranoid moving forward about anyone else, unless you are in the inner circle and they are now bonded with you.

Man, I have really noticed this about Cancers, and we even discussed it not too long ago. They are so complex that they really live and move by their own code, and this most likely gonna be determined by how they feel. I cherish his friendship more than anything, and I think that loyalty is being test, especially since he was burned by the last one. I think that the lack of communication is a combination of everything you said. I have been taking all your advice, girl! I just wanted to make sure I was being patient and consider, while also protecting myself. We are all going away on a trip together so I wanted to make sure my observations were correct so I didn't rock the boat.

I am essentially in the same boat. I am just 2 years down the road. Regardless of where life takes me, he and I both know we will always remain in each others life. We went weeks without speaking to one another, because I had stuff going on, and once I did, he welcomed me with open arms.

It's just life. You just have to let it ebb and flow. Just realize that these men march to the beat of their own drum, and honestly, they don't give a shit either if they offend people. lol

But, if they make the choice to do things for you that are atypical of their behavior with everyone else, realize your worth in their life.

I could say I've been going through the same with a scorpio girl for the last six months! it seems that often cancer men and scorpio women have this most intriguing emotional dance. I don't think that a lot people understand it (certainly not my earth or fire friends).

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Yea, I would say that it's a weird connection that I haven't had before with others. But most of my best friends are Cancer men. *shrugs*

Though my Cancer has a Scorp moon. lol

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I have been on this forum before, questions the intentions and motives of my Cancer "Boo". It took me some time, but I realized that Cancers are very complex, so I am glad I took some time, slowed down and tried to understand him better. At first I questioned if he even liked me as much as I liked him, but I slowly realized that him bringing me to his home, and around his closest friends and family, that he was interested. I still have some apprehension, but that is to be expected while trying to build a solid foundation for a relationship. About a month ago during a late night convo, I asked the "what are we question", and he answered by saying that he just got out of a year long relationship (about 5 months prior), which I understand b/c I myself just got out of a relationship around the same time. At first that threw me off, but it wasn't until I found out that he went through a HORRIBLE breakup. Because we have mutual friends that are very close to both of us, I got the inside scoop and found out that he planned on being with this person forever, and they betrayed him in an unimaginable way. So my question is, can that explain why he is trying to take things so slow with me? And should I stop internalizing his distance or the changes in communication as it being me, or his lack of interest? Do Cancers have a hard time moving on after a bad break up?

He is taking things slow because, he probably doesn't trust his own judgment anymore when it comes to the opposite sex. He is probably still also trying to fix himself, but you being constant, and bonding with him will mean more long term than you know.

Titles don't mean shit with these guys. Just because you don't have a title, doesn't mean you aren't the priority. Actions speak louder than words, and this cliche holds so true with them. And quite honestly, sometimes they are just busy with life.

They can go days, or weeks without communicating with you, but their feelings haven't changed. It is just that they are trying to "fix" themselves from whatever happened in the previously relationship. Sometimes it can be a test to see if you stay loyal. Sometimes its them just being derpy. Sometimes its just them sleeping. Sometimes its just them being busy.

But yes, to answer your question, they have a REALLY hard time getting past a relationship that they viewed as forever. That doesn't mean they can't, it just means that they will be hyper paranoid moving forward about anyone else, unless you are in the inner circle and they are now bonded with you.

Man, I have really noticed this about Cancers, and we even discussed it not too long ago. They are so complex that they really live and move by their own code, and this most likely gonna be determined by how they feel. I cherish his friendship more than anything, and I think that loyalty is being test, especially since he was burned by the last one. I think that the lack of communication is a combination of everything you said. I have been taking all your advice, girl! I just wanted to make sure I was being patient and consider, while also protecting myself. We are all going away on a trip together so I wanted to make sure my observations were correct so I didn't rock the boat.

I am essentially in the same boat. I am just 2 years down the road. Regardless of where life takes me, he and I both know we will always remain in each others life. We went weeks without speaking to one another, because I had stuff going on, and once I did, he welcomed me with open arms.

It's just life. You just have to let it ebb and flow. Just realize that these men march to the beat of their own drum, and honestly, they don't give a shit either if they offend people. lol

But, if they make the choice to do things for you that are atypical of their behavior with everyone else, realize your worth in their life.

I could say I've been going through the same with a scorpio girl for the last six months! it seems that often cancer men and scorpio women have this most intriguing emotional dance. I don't think that a lot people understand it (certainly not my earth or fire friends).

@sscorpio734 what's his birthday date? does he fall in the second decan which is rulled by scorpio? those are the more scorpionics cancers, almost impossible to predict and moving at their own pace. I'm one myself. don't try to force him but there with him that's what I would say. also, does he has pluto in scorpio? where's your pluto?

dancing is not commitment nor a long life partnership

an emotional dance that goes nowhere...

fruitless. waste of time.

This is the cancer forum, not the leo one.

your point? cancers rarely end up with Scorpios. stop wasting your dances and your time.

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I was talking about emotional depth and intensity.

Don't reduce things like that, nothing is that simple. Myself I'm actually way more of a pisces or caps or sag than a cancer and I had a happy marriage with an aries female - supposedly the least likely to marry a cancer man.

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I have been on this forum before, questions the intentions and motives of my Cancer "Boo". It took me some time, but I realized that Cancers are very complex, so I am glad I took some time, slowed down and tried to understand him better. At first I questioned if he even liked me as much as I liked him, but I slowly realized that him bringing me to his home, and around his closest friends and family, that he was interested. I still have some apprehension, but that is to be expected while trying to build a solid foundation for a relationship. About a month ago during a late night convo, I asked the "what are we question", and he answered by saying that he just got out of a year long relationship (about 5 months prior), which I understand b/c I myself just got out of a relationship around the same time. At first that threw me off, but it wasn't until I found out that he went through a HORRIBLE breakup. Because we have mutual friends that are very close to both of us, I got the inside scoop and found out that he planned on being with this person forever, and they betrayed him in an unimaginable way. So my question is, can that explain why he is trying to take things so slow with me? And should I stop internalizing his distance or the changes in communication as it being me, or his lack of interest? Do Cancers have a hard time moving on after a bad break up?

He is taking things slow because, he probably doesn't trust his own judgment anymore when it comes to the opposite sex. He is probably still also trying to fix himself, but you being constant, and bonding with him will mean more long term than you know.

Titles don't mean shit with these guys. Just because you don't have a title, doesn't mean you aren't the priority. Actions speak louder than words, and this cliche holds so true with them. And quite honestly, sometimes they are just busy with life.

They can go days, or weeks without communicating with you, but their feelings haven't changed. It is just that they are trying to "fix" themselves from whatever happened in the previously relationship. Sometimes it can be a test to see if you stay loyal. Sometimes its them just being derpy. Sometimes its just them sleeping. Sometimes its just them being busy.

But yes, to answer your question, they have a REALLY hard time getting past a relationship that they viewed as forever. That doesn't mean they can't, it just means that they will be hyper paranoid moving forward about anyone else, unless you are in the inner circle and they are now bonded with you.

Man, I have really noticed this about Cancers, and we even discussed it not too long ago. They are so complex that they really live and move by their own code, and this most likely gonna be determined by how they feel. I cherish his friendship more than anything, and I think that loyalty is being test, especially since he was burned by the last one. I think that the lack of communication is a combination of everything you said. I have been taking all your advice, girl! I just wanted to make sure I was being patient and consider, while also protecting myself. We are all going away on a trip together so I wanted to make sure my observations were correct so I didn't rock the boat.

I am essentially in the same boat. I am just 2 years down the road. Regardless of where life takes me, he and I both know we will always remain in each others life. We went weeks without speaking to one another, because I had stuff going on, and once I did, he welcomed me with open arms.

It's just life. You just have to let it ebb and flow. Just realize that these men march to the beat of their own drum, and honestly, they don't give a shit either if they offend people. lol

But, if they make the choice to do things for you that are atypical of their behavior with everyone else, realize your worth in their life.

I could say I've been going through the same with a scorpio girl for the last six months! it seems that often cancer men and scorpio women have this most intriguing emotional dance. I don't think that a lot people understand it (certainly not my earth or fire friends).

@sscorpio734 what's his birthday date? does he fall in the second decan which is rulled by scorpio? those are the more scorpionics cancers, almost impossible to predict and moving at their own pace. I'm one myself. don't try to force him but there with him that's what I would say. also, does he has pluto in scorpio? where's your pluto?

dancing is not commitment nor a long life partnership

an emotional dance that goes nowhere...

fruitless. waste of time.

This is the cancer forum, not the leo one.

your point? cancers rarely end up with Scorpios. stop wasting your dances and your time.

I was talking about emotional depth and intensity.

Don't reduce things like that, nothing is that simple. Myself I'm actually way more of a pisces or caps or sag than cancer and I had a happy marriage with an aries female - supposedly the least likely to marry a cancer man.

HAD.

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Happy

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I have been on this forum before, questions the intentions and motives of my Cancer "Boo". It took me some time, but I realized that Cancers are very complex, so I am glad I took some time, slowed down and tried to understand him better. At first I questioned if he even liked me as much as I liked him, but I slowly realized that him bringing me to his home, and around his closest friends and family, that he was interested. I still have some apprehension, but that is to be expected while trying to build a solid foundation for a relationship. About a month ago during a late night convo, I asked the "what are we question", and he answered by saying that he just got out of a year long relationship (about 5 months prior), which I understand b/c I myself just got out of a relationship around the same time. At first that threw me off, but it wasn't until I found out that he went through a HORRIBLE breakup. Because we have mutual friends that are very close to both of us, I got the inside scoop and found out that he planned on being with this person forever, and they betrayed him in an unimaginable way. So my question is, can that explain why he is trying to take things so slow with me? And should I stop internalizing his distance or the changes in communication as it being me, or his lack of interest? Do Cancers have a hard time moving on after a bad break up?

He is taking things slow because, he probably doesn't trust his own judgment anymore when it comes to the opposite sex. He is probably still also trying to fix himself, but you being constant, and bonding with him will mean more long term than you know.

Titles don't mean shit with these guys. Just because you don't have a title, doesn't mean you aren't the priority. Actions speak louder than words, and this cliche holds so true with them. And quite honestly, sometimes they are just busy with life.

They can go days, or weeks without communicating with you, but their feelings haven't changed. It is just that they are trying to "fix" themselves from whatever happened in the previously relationship. Sometimes it can be a test to see if you stay loyal. Sometimes its them just being derpy. Sometimes its just them sleeping. Sometimes its just them being busy.

But yes, to answer your question, they have a REALLY hard time getting past a relationship that they viewed as forever. That doesn't mean they can't, it just means that they will be hyper paranoid moving forward about anyone else, unless you are in the inner circle and they are now bonded with you.

Man, I have really noticed this about Cancers, and we even discussed it not too long ago. They are so complex that they really live and move by their own code, and this most likely gonna be determined by how they feel. I cherish his friendship more than anything, and I think that loyalty is being test, especially since he was burned by the last one. I think that the lack of communication is a combination of everything you said. I have been taking all your advice, girl! I just wanted to make sure I was being patient and consider, while also protecting myself. We are all going away on a trip together so I wanted to make sure my observations were correct so I didn't rock the boat.

I am essentially in the same boat. I am just 2 years down the road. Regardless of where life takes me, he and I both know we will always remain in each others life. We went weeks without speaking to one another, because I had stuff going on, and once I did, he welcomed me with open arms.

It's just life. You just have to let it ebb and flow. Just realize that these men march to the beat of their own drum, and honestly, they don't give a shit either if they offend people. lol

But, if they make the choice to do things for you that are atypical of their behavior with everyone else, realize your worth in their life.

I could say I've been going through the same with a scorpio girl for the last six months! it seems that often cancer men and scorpio women have this most intriguing emotional dance. I don't think that a lot people understand it (certainly not my earth or fire friends).

@sscorpio734 what's his birthday date? does he fall in the second decan which is rulled by scorpio? those are the more scorpionics cancers, almost impossible to predict and moving at their own pace. I'm one myself. don't try to force him but there with him that's what I would say. also, does he has pluto in scorpio? where's your pluto?

dancing is not commitment nor a long life partnership

an emotional dance that goes nowhere...

fruitless. waste of time.

This is the cancer forum, not the leo one.

your point? cancers rarely end up with Scorpios. stop wasting your dances and your time.

I was talking about emotional depth and intensity.

Don't reduce things like that, nothing is that simple. Myself I'm actually way more of a pisces or caps or sag than cancer and I had a happy marriage with an aries female - supposedly the least likely to marry a cancer man.

HAD.

Happy

what happened?

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I had to move country. And a lot of other difficult things around us, nothing to do with our feelings or rapport.

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Posted by sscorpio734
I have been on this forum before, questions the intentions and motives of my Cancer "Boo". It took me some time, but I realized that Cancers are very complex, so I am glad I took some time, slowed down and tried to understand him better. At first I questioned if he even liked me as much as I liked him, but I slowly realized that him bringing me to his home, and around his closest friends and family, that he was interested. I still have some apprehension, but that is to be expected while trying to build a solid foundation for a relationship. About a month ago during a late night convo, I asked the "what are we question", and he answered by saying that he just got out of a year long relationship (about 5 months prior), which I understand b/c I myself just got out of a relationship around the same time. At first that threw me off, but it wasn't until I found out that he went through a HORRIBLE breakup. Because we have mutual friends that are very close to both of us, I got the inside scoop and found out that he planned on being with this person forever, and they betrayed him in an unimaginable way. So my question is, can that explain why he is trying to take things so slow with me? And should I stop internalizing his distance or the changes in communication as it being me, or his lack of interest? Do Cancers have a hard time moving on after a bad break up?

He is taking things slow because, he probably doesn't trust his own judgment anymore when it comes to the opposite sex. He is probably still also trying to fix himself, but you being constant, and bonding with him will mean more long term than you know.

Titles don't mean shit with these guys. Just because you don't have a title, doesn't mean you aren't the priority. Actions speak louder than words, and this cliche holds so true with them. And quite honestly, sometimes they are just busy with life.

They can go days, or weeks without communicating with you, but their feelings haven't changed. It is just that they are trying to "fix" themselves from whatever happened in the previously relationship. Sometimes it can be a test to see if you stay loyal. Sometimes its them just being derpy. Sometimes its just them sleeping. Sometimes its just them being busy.

But yes, to answer your question, they have a REALLY hard time getting past a relationship that they viewed as forever. That doesn't mean they can't, it just means that they will be hyper paranoid moving forward about anyone else, unless you are in the inner circle and they are now bonded with you.

Man, I have really noticed this about Cancers, and we even discussed it not too long ago. They are so complex that they really live and move by their own code, and this most likely gonna be determined by how they feel. I cherish his friendship more than anything, and I think that loyalty is being test, especially since he was burned by the last one. I think that the lack of communication is a combination of everything you said. I have been taking all your advice, girl! I just wanted to make sure I was being patient and consider, while also protecting myself. We are all going away on a trip together so I wanted to make sure my observations were correct so I didn't rock the boat.

I am essentially in the same boat. I am just 2 years down the road. Regardless of where life takes me, he and I both know we will always remain in each others life. We went weeks without speaking to one another, because I had stuff going on, and once I did, he welcomed me with open arms.

It's just life. You just have to let it ebb and flow. Just realize that these men march to the beat of their own drum, and honestly, they don't give a shit either if they offend people. lol

But, if they make the choice to do things for you that are atypical of their behavior with everyone else, realize your worth in their life.

Dang girl! So i guess it can be done. Yea, I think we will eventually find a groove. As you can see, I'm still here trying to figure buddy out, and he has been here as well. I don't plan on going anywhere yet.

Patience is key with them. Honestly, as they see your actions, they begin to trust you more and more. With that trust, comes more information into who they are, and you become a confident.

In the beginning, I had some of the same issues as you did. I would text, and he would rarely text back. Most calls ignored. He picked up once a day. Now, he did let me know what he was up to day to day, but communication wasn't consistent. And at times, I felt that I put more effort in than he did. However, he had zero issue with me contacting his mom if I worried. Introducing his family to me. Having me stay a week with them. Outside of the communication, his actions seemed in line with someone whom cared. I choose to focus on that aspect.

Fast forward two years, communication (though he does have sporadic times of not talking, usually sleeping all day cause he stayed up all night on his xbox) is 100% improved. I am privy to emotional information no one else knows, not even his mom. He calls and texts me now. I know 100% more about what is going on with him, and he makes an effort.

Trust me, these guys have no issue telling anyone "Nope" if they didn't really view you as an important aspect of their life. Seriously. They don't. Scary to know that about them, but also great when you know you are in.

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OKOK! lol yea, he is never just blatantly rude, and he never says No...he may say he is unsure, but never no. I feel good that I am on my way to some years with him as well. He is teaching me some serious patience.

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If there always open that's the key I think. Open to bringing you into their life, their thoughts, their circle. Every crab I know is extreme about communicating on their own timeline. They cannot and will not do so otherwise. But if you matter, they'll make a point to stay open no matter what. I could go weeks without speaking to the crab I was seeing and if I texted or called I'd get a message back in 24 hours or less asking what I reached for and telling me exactly what he'd been doing at the time I called/texted.

On the opposite end, I used to sit and watch him silence calls from friends and family consistently. When asked if he was gonna call them back he'd always say maybe later that week if he felt like it lol.

You cannot Scorpio bulldoze crabs. Scorpios are used to getting their way most of the time out of sheer will but crabs are immune to that aspect of us. Let him teach you how to flow, relax and ride the tides, something crabs in nature or astrology do well.

"Let him teach you how to flow"!!!! I LOVE THAT. I am a scorpio, the only girl, with two brothers. I am used to getting my way, and having things on my terms with a lot. And if I can't I will find a way to get it my way. This cancer man is really taking me away from that, and teaching me to focus being patient, understanding, and to FLOW. I think he does things just to get me to relax and ride the tide. Love your post

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I have been on this forum before, questions the intentions and motives of my Cancer "Boo". It took me some time, but I realized that Cancers are very complex, so I am glad I took some time, slowed down and tried to understand him better. At first I questioned if he even liked me as much as I liked him, but I slowly realized that him bringing me to his home, and around his closest friends and family, that he was interested. I still have some apprehension, but that is to be expected while trying to build a solid foundation for a relationship. About a month ago during a late night convo, I asked the "what are we question", and he answered by saying that he just got out of a year long relationship (about 5 months prior), which I understand b/c I myself just got out of a relationship around the same time. At first that threw me off, but it wasn't until I found out that he went through a HORRIBLE breakup. Because we have mutual friends that are very close to both of us, I got the inside scoop and found out that he planned on being with this person forever, and they betrayed him in an unimaginable way. So my question is, can that explain why he is trying to take things so slow with me? And should I stop internalizing his distance or the changes in communication as it being me, or his lack of interest? Do Cancers have a hard time moving on after a bad break up?

He is taking things slow because, he probably doesn't trust his own judgment anymore when it comes to the opposite sex. He is probably still also trying to fix himself, but you being constant, and bonding with him will mean more long term than you know.

Titles don't mean shit with these guys. Just because you don't have a title, doesn't mean you aren't the priority. Actions speak louder than words, and this cliche holds so true with them. And quite honestly, sometimes they are just busy with life.

They can go days, or weeks without communicating with you, but their feelings haven't changed. It is just that they are trying to "fix" themselves from whatever happened in the previously relationship. Sometimes it can be a test to see if you stay loyal. Sometimes its them just being derpy. Sometimes its just them sleeping. Sometimes its just them being busy.

But yes, to answer your question, they have a REALLY hard time getting past a relationship that they viewed as forever. That doesn't mean they can't, it just means that they will be hyper paranoid moving forward about anyone else, unless you are in the inner circle and they are now bonded with you.

Man, I have really noticed this about Cancers, and we even discussed it not too long ago. They are so complex that they really live and move by their own code, and this most likely gonna be determined by how they feel. I cherish his friendship more than anything, and I think that loyalty is being test, especially since he was burned by the last one. I think that the lack of communication is a combination of everything you said. I have been taking all your advice, girl! I just wanted to make sure I was being patient and consider, while also protecting myself. We are all going away on a trip together so I wanted to make sure my observations were correct so I didn't rock the boat.

I am essentially in the same boat. I am just 2 years down the road. Regardless of where life takes me, he and I both know we will always remain in each others life. We went weeks without speaking to one another, because I had stuff going on, and once I did, he welcomed me with open arms.

It's just life. You just have to let it ebb and flow. Just realize that these men march to the beat of their own drum, and honestly, they don't give a shit either if they offend people. lol

But, if they make the choice to do things for you that are atypical of their behavior with everyone else, realize your worth in their life.

I could say I've been going through the same with a scorpio girl for the last six months! it seems that often cancer men and scorpio women have this most intriguing emotional dance. I don't think that a lot people understand it (certainly not my earth or fire friends).

@sscorpio734 what's his birthday date? does he fall in the second decan which is rulled by scorpio? those are the more scorpionics cancers, almost impossible to predict and moving at their own pace. I'm one myself. don't try to force him but there with him that's what I would say. also, does he has pluto in scorpio? where's your pluto?

dancing is not commitment nor a long life partnership

an emotional dance that goes nowhere...

fruitless. waste of time.

This is the cancer forum, not the leo one.

your point? cancers rarely end up with Scorpios. stop wasting your dances and your time.

I was talking about emotional depth and intensity.

Don't reduce things like that, nothing is that simple. Myself I'm actually way more of a pisces or caps or sag than cancer and I had a happy marriage with an aries female - supposedly the least likely to marry a cancer man.

HAD.

Happy

what happened?

I had to move country. And a lot of other difficult things around us, nothing to do with our feelings or rapport.

i don't know anybody that ends a marriage based on circumstances outside of the marriage.

interesting. i guess people take marriage lightly these days

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Mind you own business ok?

Breakups are not a Cancerian's friend , it just don't do us well. It's not you he just hurt bad.

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ahhhhhhhhh proceed if you're just trying to be a rebound

you're not the one

no matter how slow you take things

what was his ex's sign?

At first i taught CC is trolling, but then again, she does have a very strong point here.

When i look at my past relationship i planned forever, it took me like, 8 months, only to get over the hard stuff of nasty betrayal. And mine was a Libra, your crab was with scorpio, with which i presume bonded even more intensely. After a year and something, I taught I was ok, but still, not even knowing it, I ended up in rebound for three fucking years, and it did not end well.

I'm not saying it won't work, but you need to understand, that us crabs take months and months, I know some that needed even years, or they never recover, from something we consider forever.

Oh and yea, forever does not exist.