Cancer woman dating a Capricorn man

I started talking to a cap man. We went to high school together but wasn't friends then. We reconnected on facebook recently, last Wednesday and instant attraction. He states he always had a crush on me but just assumed I wasn't interested in him. So Wednesday and Thursday we literally spent the whole day talking on the phone about everything and laughing so hard. It was like we are soulmates. Now I live in Florida he lives in Texas. He travels for work and has a child in Florida so he frequently is in town. On Wednesday he already made plans for our first date. He has a house in Texas in which he lives with his dad and his daughter. So Friday came we didn't talk but he text me in the afternoon saying he just left his accountant office and it was a long day for him in which I just wrote back I agreed. So I called him later now with no reply. I text him good morning on Saturday with no reply. On Sunday I didn't text him or call him. On Monday I text him saying that we both agreed we wouldn't assume anymore so I'm asking what's going on. I got no reply. This morning I woke up and had a message on facebook stating that on Friday his dad fell down the stairs, he's in his 70s, and it's been a lot going on with him but he is not ignoring me. So I replied back I hope everything is okay with him. In which I got no response. What's the deal with this cappy? I mean I don't know what to do at this point. I feel as I was just about to get over this heartache he comes back slightly. Am I being played?

Don't call him again! He will call you once all the problems are gone. Otherwise he don't care, we Caps don't tend to say things the way they are...maybe he is trying to avoid you.

Anyway, if he cares he will call.

I went on a date with a cap like that. We had a ton of fun, easy going and comfortable, but after that one date he'd make plans and then cancel, or drop off the face of the earth for months at a time and pop back in. I don't know WHY some are like that, but I take it as a sign that he's not that interested. I don't bother answering him anymore. He's a waste of my time.

So he text me this morning because I guess he realized that I deleted him on facebook, didn't want to go in my obsession mode. He wrote "U deleted me? ? I hope u weren't upset, I really got a lot goin on. I didn't expect for this to happen. Don't be mad, I'm going to make it up to u promise." My reply was " I did delete you because I was a little hurt. But can't be upset because now I know what happened. Just wish you would have told me a little sooner and not have me here with my mind wondering." So his last response was "I told u I would never disrespect u...we just really start back talking, I'm not about to bombard you with craziness. Don't be upset, plz I'll make it up promise". Then some smiley faces and kisses.

Can't lie my wall is back up and This crab has retreated back in here shell. But a little bit of security was all I needed. And he seemed genuine so I just have to wait and see

Give the guy a break. I'm a Cancer as well, and I know we have a tendency to only think about ourselves when in shadow. His dad fell down the stairs. Your insecurities are not his responsibility, especially during such a hard time. You need to be more patient, understanding, and learn to accept the unknown without putting your shell up needlessly. You're mind is the one obsessing and wondering. It is not his responsibility to put that before his own pain if you're not willing to do the same. Us Cancers will always have intense emotions, but the world does not revolve around them.

You need to understand the difference between what you're feeling and what is happening. You need to not depend fully on your lover for happiness and derive happiness in your everyday life. It's not what he did that made you put your wall up--it's how you thought about everything. It's you, and you need to deal with that before you engage further with someone. It's not fair for those who are not accustomed to emotions as intense as ours to deal with your emotions in an immature way.