cancer women = love + mood swings

i like to ask cancer women out there about your love + (combined with) your mood swings.

i picture a cancer woman's mood swings like a pendulum --- where on one side is very very good (she's really really good and positive and happy) and then on the other side is really really bad (she becomes heartless, she hurts you like you've never done anything good to her)

i've experienced my cancer's really really bad side recently. i always brush it off, i don't get angry at her, i express to her that i forgive her, but i also express to her how what she did hurt me (that is just about it.)

its just that sometimes, seeing her really really bad side sometimes make me wonder if she still loves me?

because to a scorpio like me, hurting the person you love doesn't make sense (i never got angry at her because i love her so much and i try very hard not to hurt her.)

me and my cancer know each other for over 5 years now, but i have never seen her really really bad side until just recently. right now she's just quiet when she is with me. i feel like she is holding back a lot of things that she is feeling. and that she is afraid of the slightest rejection from me --- like if she asks me for something she is afraid that i say "no" to it.

my question is: when you cancer women is in your negative mood (the really really bad mood) is the love still there? how will i know that it is still there? thanks in advance!

to me honest, when i saw my cancer's really really bad side (the heartless side of her), i got scared. also after that whenever i do something for her (to make her happy and smile --- i love making her smile because i love her smile) at the back of my mind i think that what i am doing won't matter because there will come a time that she will be really really bad to me again like what i did good to her never happened. before, i wasn't thinking about that. all the things i do for her is special and genuine and from the heart. it hurts me when she's on her really really bad mood that what i did wasn't special to her (because she is in a really really bad and heartless mood) just saying.

Posted by Arielle83
I feel annoyed a lot...not hate...just annoyed with someone

their presence might bother me

i get quiet

i just really want to be alone when that happens

but is the love still there?

Posted by Arielle83
I feel annoyed a lot...not hate...just annoyed with someone

their presence might bother me

i get quiet

i just really want to be alone when that happens

but is the love still there?

Oh man, she's silent? Not good at all.

She may be repressing her emotions to keep from hurting anyone again.

If she's silent, she's waiting for you to take the initiative. She's already done everything on her end, and being a kinda submissive sign and a crab which walk side to side, she will probably not take the first step into starting a conversation. Depending on how long this has been going on, she needs her trust and comfort in you built back up, not like it's broken completely but the meter went down a bit.

(Not going by other astrological signs) cancers are very feminine women who enjoy things with pure emotional behind it and are very good are detecting and distinguishing genuine from falsehood. Whatever she enjoys, do it for her. Take her out and let her know (more so physically) you enjoy your time with her. Don't get too much onto her, surprisingly being a clingy sign we don't like the cling too much ourselves.Unless she's that type of gal, but give her a little pamper. She probably enjoys her home so don't keep her away from it too long, go back home, eat some food, cuddle up and get her warmed, then set up a long romantic session with her.

Sex is super important to us, more so with our partners! Make it passionate, and hopefully if she's in a good mood from the earlier day she'll be willing to please, if she is still a bit grumpy you may have to be more on the giving end to bring her back out from her shell. If this is make up sex, don't be adventurous for that night unless she expresses it. If she was previously grumpy, angry, or sad, she'll want a dose of the usual whatever that is. Do things that you know are her favorite, favorite places to be kissed or touched and if being a cancer, our ruling parts are the breasts and stomach and hopefully she's expressed a favorable taste for being cared for in those areas. She will probably not want to be experimental for that night, she'll want to be whisked away down memory lane. I hope this helps, good luck to you both!

Posted by Qutie
Oh man, she's silent? Not good at all.

She may be repressing her emotions to keep from hurting anyone again.

If she's silent, she's waiting for you to take the initiative. She's already done everything on her end, and being a kinda submissive sign and a crab which walk side to side, she will probably not take the first step into starting a conversation. Depending on how long this has been going on, she needs her trust and comfort in you built back up, not like it's broken completely but the meter went down a bit.

(Not going by other astrological signs) cancers are very feminine women who enjoy things with pure emotional behind it and are very good are detecting and distinguishing genuine from falsehood. Whatever she enjoys, do it for her. Take her out and let her know (more so physically) you enjoy your time with her. Don't get too much onto her, surprisingly being a clingy sign we don't like the cling too much ourselves.Unless she's that type of gal, but give her a little pamper. She probably enjoys her home so don't keep her away from it too long, go back home and set up a long romantic session with her.

Sex is super important to us, more so with our partners! Make it passionate, and hopefully if she's in a good mood from the earlier day she'll be willing to please, if she is still a bit grumpy you may have to be more on the giving end to bring her back out from her shell. If this is make up sex, don't be adventurous for that night unless she expresses it. If she was previously grumpy, angry, or sad, she'll want a dose of the usual whatever that is. Do things that you know are her favorite, favorite places to be kissed or touched and if being a cancer, our ruling parts are the breasts and stomach and hopefully she's expressed a favorable taste for being cared for in those areas. She will probably not want to be experimental for that night, she'll want to be whisked away down memory lane. I hope this helps, good luck to you both!

Her love is there! I promise, cancers are typically loyal women and even if things get rocky they will probably never lose their love for you, if you had truly hurt them on a level they couldn't take you as their partner anymore i swear they'd tell you, we don't deal with people we don't want in our lives. We have small groups of friends and love our families, so having people we don't want around is something we will not deal with in our homes. She still loves you just as much as she has ever before, but whatever happened has put her out of expressing it. She's now shy, reserved, or cold because she is afraid to make the wrong moves.

Posted by Arielle83
I think cancers do better single than coupled...

I've known so many crabs, and find this to be true. The bad schit associated with cancer tends to come out full force when partnered up with someone. However, they also seem to be the most content being single. This sign has a lot of trouble letting go of certain freedoms and the alone time that decreases when becoming serious with someone.

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Posted by Arielle83
I think cancers do better single than coupled...

I've known so many crabs, and find this to be true. The bad schit associated with cancer tends to come out full force when partnered up with someone. However, they also seem to be the most content being single. This sign has a lot of trouble letting go of certain freedoms and the alone time that decreases when becoming serious with someone.

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I think if we all come to a better understanding of ourselves in more than just a single sign alone we can thrive in our relationships 🙂 It might just be me, the majority of my signs are stability driven..I'm 3 years stable with a handsome capricorn who must be a cardinal sign in their rising...but i'm going to find out tonight!

Out of my relationships there was only one person whose constant presence didn't bother me after some time. I broke up with those who were too clingy and dependent (including a fellow cancer).

But the only reason I would ever get cold and cruel to someone is if thy hurt me first. It's like ab strengt to re-establish balance by making them feel the same.

Her lashing out at you is definitely not ok. I guess it can have many reasons. If I'm disappointed and sad I completely withdraw from people and get easily irritated with the people I love. I want their comfort abs support, but I don't want them to know that I need it. They already hold s certain power over my emotions, so making yourself even more vulnerable can be difficult.

My bestie is a super pushy sag and I sometimes catch myself channeling my frustrations her way, luckily she can handle and analyze my emotions better than me.

as a scorpio in tune with her, i feel her sensitivity and emotional turbulence for me. i want to help her out with it (whatever she is feeling) i want to be her rock. her source of emotional stability. but i don't know how to do that exactly. are there things that i can do to help her with her mood when she is in a really really bad mood? before it became really really bad, i can handle her mood. it sometimes go to a bad mood within a day but not really really bad like that one that i am experiencing now.

i expressed to her recently that i was disappointed with what she did (when she was in a really really bad mood) but a couple of days after that, i took it back and said that it's not her fault she did it and i forgive her and i also expressed that i was sorry to feel disappointed at her for it (because i realized that it's not hear fault.) --- maybe this is the reason why she is silent? i told her i was disappointed at her; and she interpreted it as a rejection of her?

Posted by scorpio04
i expressed to her recently that i was disappointed with what she did (when she was in a really really bad mood) but a couple of days after that, i took it back and said that it's not her fault she did it and i forgive her and i also expressed that i was sorry to feel disappointed at her for it (because i realized that it's not hear fault.) --- maybe this is the reason why she is silent? i told her i was disappointed at her; and she interpreted it as a rejection of her?

Sounds like it. Whenever i get into an argument with my boyfriend the last thing i want to be told while i'm angry or upset is anything correlating the situation to me. We always end up just apologizing to each other and then after we explain what we know we did wrong together, it's much better than immediately pointing fingers.

I hope you'd get the same out of her, but if it comes down to it sometimes we have to be the one to take the blame to fix the stubbornness of someone else.

I have a new question: when cancer women does something really really bad and heartless, are they aware that they are doing something really really bad and heartless? or they are not fully aware of what they are doing while they are doing it and do not have control over what they are doing? I remember reading somewhere that cancer women does really really bad things and then regret/feel bad afterwards for what they did or wonder why you are not being friendly to them anymore. I also know that sometimes cancer women overreacts even if the hurt is just perceived hurt (just in their mind.) thanks.

Posted by Tayshia
I'm a Cancer woman with a Taurus Moon. Us Cancer women are always going to have mood swings keep in mind that Cancer is ruled by the Moon(the moon is the ruler of emotions). 95% of the time my mood swings have nothing to do with the person I'm with as I still suffer from depression and anxiety sometimes. But when I am happy people love being around me. But I have a Taurus Moon which helps stabilize me. I am definitely not bad or heartless unless I have been hurt badly by the person with. Yes, I'm quiet and laidback but I will talk. If I'm too quiet then something is really bothering me. But I believe there has to be something going on with her that she's not telling you. Has she always been this way out of the five years you've dated her or is this new behavior?

thanks for that. no she has not been like this. i noticed that her mood swings are more severe now. that's why i said it's like a pendulum. she gets occasional "mild" bad moods (she says bad things out of the blue) like from a misinterpretation of what i say/do (when that happens and i am aware of it happening i explain to her what i said after she does something bad from the perceived hurt) but it's not really really bad that she becomes heartless. i feel that sometimes she is testing me (i feel like she wants to know how much i love her/will i still love her despite what she is doing.)

I don't take my moods out on anyone unless I am being passive aggressive about the fact that you are annoying me. Instead of just confronting you directly.

Are you overly attentive with this girl?

Do you give her space?

also when you cancer women does really really bad things to the people that you love because they hurt you, what do you want us to do to make it better? thanks.

Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
i don't have MOOD swings what i have is you're fuking up and the way im going to express you fuking up is by me not engaging you ...at all so you'll think i have mood swings but really it's because you are not caring enough about me and i know it and im not going to tell you im going to wait till you show it

my experience with my cancer is that there are things that at first she is not okay with what i did/said. but when i explain to her about it (because i feel that she interpreted what did/said in the wrong way and hence her bad reaction from that misinterpretation) she becomes okay with me doing it (and don't get mad anymore). i am not afraid of her doing hurtful things because i know that everything that i do is in good faith and most of the time (but not all of the time) i am aware of what is going in inside of her. it's just that i have never experienced it from her before so it shocked me, i guess.