Cancers And Commitment?

What makes crabs so scared of commitment? Is it a maturity thing? & what would make you decide to really commit ?

Crabs usually the ones who commit themselves to one person, or no..?

The astrological stereotype is that male crabs are hesitant to commit, because of the risk of a bad union.

It's moving from 5th house (Dating and fun) to 7th house (legal partnerships), so if you have a great 5th house but crappy 7th house it could incline you to not want to marry, presumably after several failed attempts.

The previous are two unrelated statements, I just wanted to comment on the astrological stereotype for male crabs and then on 5th/7th house stuff, I dont mean to imply crabs not wanting to marry is because of 5th/7th house things.

Posted by KrissyTheCappy36
What makes crabs so scared of commitment? Is it a maturity thing? & what would make you decide to really commit ?

I want comitment not hard for me. Saggitarius is one say comitment amis hard

Years ago if I gotten with an Air sign I would probably drive them more insane emotionally if I hadn't had such a bad experience with an Aries woman trying to control me and how unequipped I was for that. I saw how truly awful being forced into someone's mold felt and how bad I felt for emotionally manipulating women in the past that would have NEVER treated me this way in a marriage all in the name of them failing my dumb tests. It was a karmic dose of medicine I greatly needed to put me in my place as I had gotten out of control thinking I somehow was holier than though compared to some people. I had high standards and I felt like if someone didn't come out and let me read them like an open book they were hiding something which is a great fallacy in itself. I really had no right to think I could have a key to someone's soul at anytime.

It also gave me a greatly needed new perspective where I am much more hands off with people and give them space yet it makes me realize that I have to really be sure from now on to get to know someone first as you can't just give into people when it comes to matters of the heart even if they show you vulnerability. It can be fake and you never even see it coming until its too late. Some of ones that failed my tests in the past I realized would have made such better wives to me as they would have let me be head of the household like I wanted in exchange of not forcing them to be emotionally bound to me at all times.

I really feel deep down I would make a great husband again to someone but I am going to focus on the things I am good at. That is nuturing, creating a comfortable life and making love. I am not going to expect anyone to try and get me emotionally and be offended anymore if they don't. Its just something I will have to figure out on my own and just accept that maybe a very good friendship with a submissive woman with little to no emotional connect is probably what I really need in order to keep growing myself.

Posted by HighTide
Its just something I will have to figure out on my own and just accept that maybe a very good friendship with a submissive woman with little to no emotional connect is probably what I really need in order to keep growing myself.

As a cancer are you able to have sex with no feelings?

I would say most men are capable of that depending at what stage of development mentally they are in their lives.

I still try to show respect to the other party where if they wanted to cuddle or something along those lines I wouldn't deny them of that ever yet if they weren't into that aspect it is something I could live with as long as it was done in a graceful natural manner where it didn't seem like a chore to them. I just could never flat out kick someone out of bed no matter how good or horrible it was as I don't expect everyone to be on my level when it comes to that. I would kick myself out of bed if something felt off as I can't enjoy it if I feel the other party isn't.

Yes,I do feel sex can cause attachment in some regards, whether that is emotional or mental depends on the person's chart.

I have injected emotions in sex even when I didn't like the person just to see if I could tap into something interesting so its not out of the question that someone would do that and not even be thinking about a longterm future with that person.