Day 3 without any contact with my crab....

It's been 3 days and I haven't texted, called, or had any FB activity with my cancer. This is just more confirmation proving that he really doesn't care about me at all friendship or otherwise. I want to thank all those who gave me supporting advice about my situation. This wasn't like an agreed upon or mutual thing. I just haven't contacted him and he hasn't contacted me either. I wonder if he ever will just text and ask what I'm doing like he usually did in the past but I'm not banking on it or waiting on it either. One thing I do know is I will not be texting him... Ugh this just sucks...

Posted by xxnightbynight
you'll hear from him again, I am sure of it.

As bad as the situation is I'd like to think he would contact me again but given the nature of the situation I really don't think he will. Please give me your opinion on why you think so. Also I think you really NEED to read my other post about him. That will give a better understanding of the situation. Thank you!


http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/Please-please-help!-3491567.asp

Posted by Poisson
I think everyone in that thread said what needed to be said. He is clearly immature, but he has been nothing but direct with you. What ever it is you seek emotionally or otherwise will not be fulfilled by this child. Because that's what he is- a 21 yr old child. I feel that inviting him to your home with your own children is very reckless. You are asking a kid who clearly mistreats and disrespects you to be in the same living space with them. Leave with your self-respect and dignity intact. You cannot change him, you cannot raise him - you are not his mother. The well-meaning people on this board can say the same thing over and over again until they are blue in the face, but something tells me you will find a way to justify your reasons and his actions. I am not telling you who you should be or how you are as person, God know I am the last human being who should be passing judgement on anyone - but I will say this, you have children who are relying on you to be both emotionally and mentally stable. Don't let this kid shake that.

I never invited him into my house, it was his suggestion to move in with me.... But I never let him move in..... It was just some crazy idea he brought up. Everything you and the other people said is right I'm trying to get over it I just come here everyday to vent is all...

Posted by Poisson
I think everyone in that thread said what needed to be said. He is clearly immature, but he has been nothing but direct with you. What ever it is you seek emotionally or otherwise will not be fulfilled by this child. Because that's what he is- a 21 yr old child. I feel that inviting him to your home with your own children is very reckless. You are asking a kid who clearly mistreats and disrespects you to be in the same living space with them. Leave with your self-respect and dignity intact. You cannot change him, you cannot raise him - you are not his mother. The well-meaning people on this board can say the same thing over and over again until they are blue in the face, but something tells me you will find a way to justify your reasons and his actions. I am not telling you who you should be or how you are as person, God know I am the last human being who should be passing judgement on anyone - but I will say this, you have children who are relying on you to be both emotionally and mentally stable. Don't let this kid shake that.

Posted by Poisson
I think everyone in that thread said what needed to be said. He is clearly immature, but he has been nothing but direct with you. What ever it is you seek emotionally or otherwise will not be fulfilled by this child. Because that's what he is- a 21 yr old child. I feel that inviting him to your home with your own children is very reckless. You are asking a kid who clearly mistreats and disrespects you to be in the same living space with them. Leave with your self-respect and dignity intact. You cannot change him, you cannot raise him - you are not his mother. The well-meaning people on this board can say the same thing over and over again until they are blue in the face, but something tells me you will find a way to justify your reasons and his actions. I am not telling you who you should be or how you are as person, God know I am the last human being who should be passing judgement on anyone - but I will say this, you have children who are relying on you to be both emotionally and mentally stable. Don't let this kid shake that.

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I never invited him into my house, it was his suggestion to move in with me.... But I never let him move in..... It was just some crazy idea he brought up. Everything you and the other people said is

Posted by Poisson
I think everyone in that thread said what needed to be said. He is clearly immature, but he has been nothing but direct with you. What ever it is you seek emotionally or otherwise will not be fulfilled by this child. Because that's what he is- a 21 yr old child. I feel that inviting him to your home with your own children is very reckless. You are asking a kid who clearly mistreats and disrespects you to be in the same living space with them. Leave with your self-respect and dignity intact. You cannot change him, you cannot raise him - you are not his mother. The well-meaning people on this board can say the same thing over and over again until they are blue in the face, but something tells me you will find a way to justify your reasons and his actions. I am not telling you who you should be or how you are as person, God know I am the last human being who should be passing judgement on anyone - but I will say this, you have children who are relying on you to be both emotionally and mentally stable. Don't let this kid shake that.

Posted by Poisson
I think everyone in that thread said what needed to be said. He is clearly immature, but he has been nothing but direct with you. What ever it is you seek emotionally or otherwise will not be fulfilled by this child. Because that's what he is- a 21 yr old child. I feel that inviting him to your home with your own children is very reckless. You are asking a kid who clearly mistreats and disrespects you to be in the same living space with them. Leave with your self-respect and dignity intact. You cannot change him, you cannot raise him - you are not his mother. The well-meaning people on this board can say the same thing over and over again until they are blue in the face, but something tells me you will find a way to justify your reasons and his actions. I am not telling you who you should be or how you are as person, God know I am the last human being who should be passing judgement on anyone - but I will say this, you have children who are relying on you to be both emotionally and mentally stable. Don't let this kid shake that.

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I never invited him into my house, it was his suggestion to move in with me.... But I never let him move in..... It was just some crazy idea he brought up. Everything you and the other people said is

Posted by Poisson
I apologize for misreading. In the long run you'll come out a better person for it, this is the type of person you do not need in your life. If I were you, I'd sever my ties and call it a day. Keep your head up, you'll be alright.

PS. Facebook is the devil.

Thank You so much for the advice the things you said motivated me and now I am severing all ties. I think everyone said it best when they spoke on my mental stability and how it affects my kids. I already knew that but I needed to hear it from someone else. 🙂

Posted by xxnightbynight
I don't know your situation. I don't know what happened. I'm just basing this on MY situation... I just feel like if they are karmically tied to you... they will come back. One way or another, for one reason or another. - It's just up to YOU to decide what you want to do. When its something that runs deep... like the ocean... it's usually karmic. Meditate and figure it out. There is nothing any one of us on here can say, or do that will change your fate... that's up to you. 😉

You were right he texted me last night lol

Posted by xxnightbynight
I don't know your situation. I don't know what happened. I'm just basing this on MY situation... I just feel like if they are karmically tied to you... they will come back. One way or another, for one reason or another. - It's just up to YOU to decide what you want to do. When its something that runs deep... like the ocean... it's usually karmic. Meditate and figure it out. There is nothing any one of us on here can say, or do that will change your fate... that's up to you. 😉

Karmic ties don't last and also In these kind of love relationships,there is no real growth on an inner level & there is also much confusion and indecision outwardly also. Many younger people will experience these relationships early in life,and this can even result in the first heartbreak-or go on to be a destructive long term relationships,and later,these can involve into having children.
Yet the bond and connection was so overpowering,that even when all the signs are staring you in the face... .you choose to ignore this.(Maybe they will change??Not likely!)
Again,if you are not OK with who you are-even if that meant you would never have a partner in your life, then you will always attract the kind of relationships that are destructive,hurtful and confusing,to say the least. In effect mirroring what you are portraying as you....

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Posted by xxnightbynight
I don't know your situation. I don't know what happened. I'm just basing this on MY situation... I just feel like if they are karmically tied to you... they will come back. One way or another, for one reason or another. - It's just up to YOU to decide what you want to do. When its something that runs deep... like the ocean... it's usually karmic. Meditate and figure it out. There is nothing any one of us on here can say, or do that will change your fate... that's up to you. 😉

Karmic ties don't last and also In these kind of love relationships,there is no real growth on an inner level & there is also much confusion and indecision outwardly also. Many younger people will experience these relationships early in life,and this can even result in the first heartbreak-or go on to be a destructive long term relationships,and later,these can involve into having children.
Yet the bond and connection was so overpowering,that even when all the signs are staring you in the face... .you choose to ignore this.(Maybe they will change??Not likely!)
Again,if you are not OK with who you are-even if that meant you would never have a partner in your life, then you will always attract the kind of relationships that are destructive,hurtful and confusing,to say the least. In effect mirroring what you are portraying as you....

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this has been a very interesting read on karmic ties. Even in death, the person still tries to "contact" you by means of a kind of "possession"; hard to explain, but even if YOUR side of the karmic tie is released and expunged, cleared, THEIRS may not, and yet even through "Death" there is a longing from their side to either ask forgiveness/or maybe posession, in which before they passed away were not able to clear out their soul/spirit cleansing. Hope i made some sense. :/

*Basically while still living, try and expunge and clear out those caches that involve anything to do with you spiritually. Others are saying to stay away but unless you clear out what you need to say and cut ties completely it will come back to you in different forms.