Do cancers realise that others also have emotions

Do cancerian realise when they rip up a person and dissappear....without a word without a breakup etc....that the other person also has emotions. That the other person has to spend xmas....New year...birthdays etc....completely broken. Or are they under the impression that they are the only humans with emotions.

Sometimes Cancers overreact to a slight or whatever but we know when people are trying to control us thru guilt and really don't respond well to that. You're being a little too "poor me" I'm a victim here. And Cancers really don't respond well to those kinds of appeals.

Posted by cappygirl11
Do cancerian realise when they rip up a person and dissappear....without a word without a breakup etc....that the other person also has emotions. That the other person has to spend xmas....New year...birthdays etc....completely broken. Or are they under the impression that they are the only humans with emotions.

The quick answer is NO!

Long: If you did something to them, they are too busy dealing with their own emotions they dont give a rat ass about you and your feelings... Specially if you have not done anything to take responsability of your actions...

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as the first of the water triad they are the most immature in that regard.

He cancelled our holiday cause he didn't want to see my folks and therefore didn't want to fetch me from home. This after a few years of being together. He said I don't understand him. How am I not the victim here.

And if he got some hottie as back up good luck to him.... cause I have many many prospects..... and I choose to love him....but since cancers choose to be dumb....I'm gonna actually move on.

Ive seen a few cancer males do this with their lady friends only when they really don't care that much for that person and strangely Ive seen them fall for women who do this on them...emotional manuipulation that's what the silence is and if you chase them down they don't respect you for it and end up mistreating you at some point in the future, ladies if a cancer man gives you the silent treatment run and don't look back. Do you give the silent treatment or disappear on someone you REALLY are into.. think about it.

Posted by cappygirl11
He cancelled our holiday cause he didn't want to see my folks and therefore didn't want to fetch me from home. This after a few years of being together. He said I don't understand him. How am I not the victim here.

And if he got some hottie as back up good luck to him.... cause I have many many prospects..... and I choose to love him....but since cancers choose to be dumb....I'm gonna actually move on.

"Fetch?" Do you not drive?

...You have been together for years but you still have many "prospects?"

You're a cunt, sorry.

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Posted by cappygirl11
Do cancerian realise when they rip up a person and dissappear....without a word without a breakup etc....that the other person also has emotions. That the other person has to spend xmas....New year...birthdays etc....completely broken. Or are they under the impression that they are the only humans with emotions.

The quick answer is NO!

Long: If you did something to them, they are too busy dealing with their own emotions they dont give a rat ass about you and your feelings... Specially if you have not done anything to take responsability of your actions...

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"Victim," I mean OP, you need to think about something you may have said or done. It's not right he's that rebelling like a child, but water signs usually flip out when the other has done something to cause that reaction.

But shit, knowing you have "prospects" despite being in a relationship, that kinda sheds some light on the situation.

"HE SHOULD BE SO LUCKY. I CHOSE TO LOVE HIM AND HAVE BEEN WITH HIM ALL THIS TIME BECAUSE I'M MEE WITH DICK AT MY FEET ALL AROUND ME!"

Really? Get the fuck over yourself.

Posted by warmwaters
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as the first of the water triad they are the most immature in that regard.

+1. Think of them as Aries and how selfish they are.

Posted by CocoKat
Ive seen a few cancer males do this with their lady friends only when they really don't care that much for that person and strangely Ive seen them fall for women who do this on them...emotional manuipulation that's what the silence is and if you chase them down they don't respect you for it and end up mistreating you at some point in the future, ladies if a cancer man gives you the silent treatment run and don't look back. Do you give the silent treatment or disappear on someone you REALLY are into.. think about it.

+1.

I think the holidays lets ppl know where they stand. I think you should leave this be.

Posted by xMoonMan
I also want to say, we Water Suns don't OWN the emotional domain, in the bigger humanitarian sense, yes, the water element vibrating with our Sun placement offers emotional sensitivity at a core level, but this is more representative of how we express ourselves, not that we are the only people who can feel emotion.

By this I'm saying, just because an individual has their Sun placed in a sign other than a Water sign, does not mean they are incapable of feeling deep or intense emotion, it just means they often express themselves in different ways than us Water Sun peeps.
Plus, we are more than just our Sun sign alone.

All humans are capable of profound emotion, astrology, simply put, provides a window to understanding the dynamics involved with....being human, on this Earth plane, in an individual sense and a collective sense.

whats your mercury?

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Posted by DMV
whats your mercury?

Mercury in Leo, conjunct Venus. 🙂

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no wonder there sounds a hint of "arrogance" in the words written. As if the Sun there is the ONLY one for emotions, when in truth, astrologically, MOON energy OWNS the realm of emotions. That's why it's "Hidden". Yeah the sun is core in which it's expressed, but emotionally it's the MOON. And what rules the moon? Cancer. 😄

so Ironic isn't it?

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Posted by DMV
whats your mercury?

Mercury in Leo, conjunct Venus. 🙂

no wonder there sounds a hint of "arrogance" in the words written. As if the Sun there is the ONLY one for emotions, when in truth, astrologically, MOON energy OWNS the realm of emotions. That's why it's "Hidden". Yeah the sun is core in which it's expressed, but emotionally it's the MOON. And what rules the moon? Cancer. 😄

so Ironic isn't it?

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very flowery word use. Pretty. I find it almost distracting.

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Posted by lisabethur8
...MOON energy OWNS the realm of emotions. That's why it's "Hidden"....

Personally, I would use the word 'internal' as opposed to 'hidden'.
Meaning, the emotions we feel inside of ourselves.
While we may choose to 'hide' our emotions from people at various times (usually for self protection so we don't feel vulnerable or because we think we will give away our personal power), the natural state of our emotions are not hidden because we have a fundamental need to express them outwardly. Probably why we write poetry and love songs and why we tell some people to "fuck off, you arsehole!".

In our current human state, what would be the point of hidden emotions?

*passes Lisa a sharp stick so you can stab my arrogant Leo Mercury*

**yes, I am being a little cheeky with you here, to test you out.

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you are going back and forth 😆

awwww, moonman, take it easy. Listen to some Eagles take it easy. It's cool. I don't doubt you feel deeply and intense. You just have a flowery way with words. That's also part of your charm.

You're ALL parts of everything, your make-up. 🙂

merry christmas and i hope you get what you want for christmas!!

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Posted by DMV
whats your mercury?

Mercury in Leo, conjunct Venus. 🙂

no wonder there sounds a hint of "arrogance" in the words written. As if the Sun there is the ONLY one for emotions, when in truth, astrologically, MOON energy OWNS the realm of emotions. That's why it's "Hidden". Yeah the sun is core in which it's expressed, but emotionally it's the MOON. And what rules the moon? Cancer. 😄

so Ironic isn't it?

very flowery word use. Pretty. I find it almost distracting.

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definitely 😄

he could sell tons of books and poetry!! $ $ $ and talent right there.

I have a Libra sun and a Air Moon as well and im capable of INTENSE emotions. We just dont project it on others and hence people presume that we are not sensitive. Our logic and empathy is what controls our actions but if it doesnt in case of some individuals its solely on account of them being steeped in self righteousness.
Lets stop pointing fingers at signs and enjoy this season of joy.
Merry Christmas to all of you _??

^___^

I actually wasn't, Moonman. I am being genuine. I don't know why you would get that.

I have NO wish to hurt people's feelings since you never hurt mine. And if you feel that you really felt intense feelings, who am i to not believe you? You are your own person and NO ONE should dictate to how you feel or do if you know yourself well and your own history.

Ill tell you straight that you are a hard person to deal with. I try to show some joy and laughter but whatever.

Im sorry.

Got cut off. On phone. Ive always been this way. Postong vids and having fun. so im sorry.

Posted by xMoonMan
Thanks, Lisa, it's all good.

This highlights how easy it is for people (in general) to feel confused, frustrated or offended when we all have different style s of communication and different ways that we process our thoughts and emotions.

it is.

we have very very different style s. I just don't "get" you, moonman, and you don't "get" me, but it is all good.

If DMV was mocking then she can come in here and tell it herself. But i commented because if she did, I didnt want you to feel bad about your "flowery" way. So what if you are flowery?

for myself i'm very emotional and i'm very softie inside. I honestly don't want to hurt you, and considering you're leaving too and it's christmas.

but no matter the holiday i dont think you should worry that people are out to get you. I'm not.

i did however feel kind of sad that you had to use words like projection and stuff to "draw" me out on an argument. you know that i've always posted videos and stuff.

anyway it's christmas day here and we're going to go to family's tonight, opened christmas presents last night.

(some open it the night before, some on christmas day)

Posted by xMoonMan
I posted this a couple of days ago

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I just had a moment of clarity
It's not dxpnet that I've been addicted too

It's the PEOPLE of dxp I've been addicted too 😱

Plus, I've been going through quite a few challenges and change forced upon me by life and the Universe.
I need to prioritize, re-focus and get back on track toward my goals and dreams...in a nutshell.

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we all get "attached" 🙂

even to astrology peeps!! family first, then astro-peeps!!

no energy for anything else.

Lmao. I wasnt mocking him. Too funny.

I have a mercury in scorpio and I find mercury in leo to be almost similar to merc in pisces.

As a merc in scorp, I think my post has come across as intended but actually I havent said enough. I do much better with telepathy.

anyways, no I wasnt making fun of anyone. Trust youll know it. Instead I was talking about how flowery you write. Creative, kinda long winded, adjective use, typing in 3s- for example "this, that and the other." In short, you really dont subscribe to "in short" when writing. It exhausts my merc in scorpio conjunct uranus; id rather you keep it short and get to the point. If you dont, I find you to be distracting and hiding something behind your flowery word use. Thats just me. Not always right, but my arrows are usually well placed. Your just exaggerated in your word use. Shit, I love when people use a thesaurus; teach me something.

Alas, you're destined to write Fabio love stories.

Definitely the language of a politician. Very distracting yet effective for the masses.

I FEEL YA MAN!!!!! this cancer chic and I started talking on social media and then I asked for her number and she and I started texting/using voice text. At first it was great, we would flirt, talk literally ALL day, even keep each other informed when we weren't going to be able to respond for a while. (like brb taking a shower).. I know its pathetic but I loved it.
Anyways, so we would flirt. talk all day and it was great and THEN... she started dropping hints that she wasn't over her ex and started making comments like " I wouldnt start something new until Im over my ex"..so naturally I was a bit confused. All the sudden we are flirting and now you're dropping the ball on me that you're still hung up on your ex?
So what did I do? Being the blunt scorpio I am, I asked her why she even gave me her number in the first place and she said "Well honestly I didn't realize you were hitting on me... but i thought you were cute so ya."
So she gave me her number, we flirt for a while and she tells me she is not over her ex.
SO.. I told her that I want to respect her time to heal and that we should just be friends because I dont want to get involve with her intimately if she is not over her ex (cus then I would just get hurt) she said she understood.
So we went on texting as just friends..She actually opened up to me a LOT. and I guess this is something cancers don't do? She told me her insecurities, her fears, her desires.. a lot of private things (which made me like her more).
She really opened up to me and me being a psychology major and Scorpio I LOVED that. I loved that she came to me for comfort and reassurance. She would literally send me pictures of her smudged makeup from crying over her ex and it just made me wanna hug her and tell her everything would be ok. So this was all BEFORE we met in person (remember we linked up on IG) the she makes a trip to SD with her friends and I meet up with her.
Long story short that day was a treetrunking BUST! she had a panic attack (which she warned me might happen if she is away from home ) and knowing this I tried to comfort her but she pushed me away and then insisted she leave and go home:/ so they all left.
She texted me when she got home saying "hey just got home about to sleep blah blah".. then the next day she sent me a long paragraph saying how that day was all bad and her anxiety was just way out of control (which brought me reassurance because I thought she left cus she was over it.

Of course Cancers know other people also have emotions. Personally, if I've torn a person up and then kicked them to the curb to wallow in the pain I caused, it was done on purpose and I knew EXACTLY what damage I did. The reason I've done this is for repeated abuse and backstabbing. I'll give a ton of chances to someone I love, but eventually they cross that invisible line and there's no going back. Once I'm at that point I burn the bridge while they're standing on it and don't look back. Well, maybe I do look back, but just so I can see how much they're hurting.

It seems a lot of you suggest that the Cancer's disappearing act is the result of our actions/behaviours/words.. that somehow we've made them feel insecure or "punished" and so the Cancer thinks we deserve no explanation when they disappear, which is fair enough. However, I've also noticed this behaviour when being completely supportive of everything they do, positive, reassuring and listening to their problems & not had a single fight... they still disappear without a word suddenly..

I do think think they are so wrapped up in dealing with their all consuming emotions that they do not have time or effort to consider the other person's feelings.

Posted by Arielle83
People are allowed to have space. It's suffocating to think my actions need to constantly be explained and affirmed to someone. Some people can't think being around other ppl and their drama. To sort out my own thoughts and drama I need time apart. If you've disrespected me I'll need time apart as we'll to figure out where you're meant to fit in my life and why you are here. Stress is another internal thought process. Id expect the same treatment if someone else needed to sort themselves out as well. If I've wronged you, I know it's in your court and not mine.

I agree with you, i do it myself too.. Not a cancer fully but sometimes i have seasons in which people annoys me for no reason, need to retreat...

My problem with cancers (to reply previous post) is not the dissapering act per se... Not for me... Is the lack of clear communication of what is going on... Is confusing, its sometime hurtful... Thats the part that i feel cancer needs to be aware off... Sometimes that mental process is unilateral in which they decide to think the other person is a heartless fucker or make wrong ideas about thing instead of clarify with whoever is involved... This is only in the occasions where not repeated offences or recurring situations occurred...

Posted by Arielle83
The unclear communication is because the cancer doesn't know how to communicate their feelings in whatever situation their in. Cancers have issues verbalizing their feelings. I'd rather say nothing when I'm unsure about my own thoughts and feelings.

I know now, my dear... and i believe this lack of communication + pretending like you guys dont care is what make the rest of us think you guys really care... Must admit you are good on that act...

I recently told another cancer here that he needed to be aware what happens on the other side of the fence when cancers are in shutdown mode... And he seemed skeptical at first... But i guess we encorage him precisly to communicate to the other party with positive results for him... So i guess sometimes cancer need to lose the fear to be vulnerable (in certain situations)

Okay so this may be long but I will try to shorten it...
I am a Gemini with a lot going for me. Went to school with this cancer guy but met on Facebook years later we were talking for some time but I was always too busy and too slow getting back to him. We eventually met up when he moved abroad from being promoted at work. I took a holiday and met him over there as my family live there also connected him with people I know to help him settle in. He came on to me when we met up and were all over each other went back to his place and made out all night all though we did not have sex. He said he respected that. We were meant to meet up again but he didn't have time my sister suspected he had a gf when he said its not a good idea I see him nye. So I asked him and he said yes. I met him before I had to travel back to London and he told me to come alone to see him so I did. We had a passionate night and well you can guess what happened. I didn't take it seriously because I was leaving however I mentioned his gf and he said he wasn't really in to her any more. When I left he said to stay in touch, I thought well why not we are friends. I got involved with another guy and about 3 months later founder out I was pregnant my friends questioned weather it could be the cancerians but I dismissed the thought until I found out how far gone I was which was before I was with the new guy it could only be cancerians as he was the only person I slept with in over 6 months, the new guy wasn't a very nice person and was violent which led to my pregnancy ending. I used to speak to cancer very often and he came over to visit but I never met him as I didn't want him to know I was pregnant or question me although I said I would hoping he wouldn't have the time, which he didn't but still attempted to see me before he left. We spoke very frequently while he was living abroad and it felt easy I was meant to visit him but I had told him I had gone through a rough time but never told him everything. He moved back to London after 2 years and wanted to catch up I agreed but he went silent so I told him I'm removing him from Facebook. No response from him. A few weeks passed and I said you know I deleted you he replied quickly saying u deleted me why I thought we were good and explained he had lost loved ones. Anyway we spoke a lot always spoke of meeting but I was alwaY's like no not making plans with you unreliable. We did flirt a lot and he was the guy I cold randomly text to make me

Feel good about myself. This year he tried harder but I was extremely busy and he said he wanted a relationship with me. I said I could onot spare an hour. He used to say he wants quality time with me. When I said I don't have quality time for myself he said we couldn't be bf/get right now could we. I said no but we can be friends. He ignored me again after that so I deleted him a couple months later he added me and I asked why he said I thought we were friends then I ignored then he said are we still friends. So we started talking again and eventually we met up at first i said to him i felt like s**the he asked why but i couldnt tell him in that circumstance so we had a great night he was all over me wouldn't stop kissing me and I did have to pull away quite a few times but the chemistry was there the same as before if not even more. After that night I became desperate to tell him the truth so I was trying to find a way to meet up on a more sober vibe but that didn't work out he was really busy and then I trabelles for a week then he travelled. I did tell him when I got back that I had something I have wanted to tell him he asked if he could call but I said I think we should meet. So we arranged dates but he could never make them this has been ongoing for over a month so I said let's face time if u can't meet. He then said he can call tomorrow . The next day came and I asked him if he could call he said he doesn't have time now I said what for a phone call I really don't want to start the new year with this. He then blocked me so I just told him from my other phone what had happened. And I sent the rest on fb message. He kept rereading it I know because the seen time kept changing he must have read it about 5 times at least. Then 2 days later he removed me as a friend and I sent him a message to say how I hadn't told him all this time because this is the reaction I did not want I mean I wasn't asking him for anything just couldn't live with this lie as it was haunting me. Anyway he responded with please don't contact me again. So I asked if he hates me for this he said hate is one word I'm asking you politely not to contact me again. I don't want to be any part of this discussion and respect my wishes take care and I wish you all the best and success in whatever you do. I responder with I can't apologise for what happened(after all he insisted in having more sex when I tried to decline as hhe had no more condoms) but I can apologise for not telling him an

Any sooner. And I hope in time he will find it in his heart to forgive me.

You can guess I'm not happy with his reaction. I'm a believer of not writing negative emotions so I won't.
My question is is this normal for a cancerian male to react this way is this him retreating in to his shell? I have so much that I have to explain to him and I haven't done anything wrong. I thoughthink cancerians are sensitive. This really has got to me and alet I wish for is my friend back I wasnt asking him for anything. Is this another one of his occasions when he will contact me again to apologise for his behaviour he has done that before but the situation was me ignoring him for letting me down

Posted by Arielle83
I have a constant battle with my Scorpio who hides his emotions just like me. We both shut down and do our own thing, but ya silent treatment or isolation is real if either of us is stressed out. Takes time to realize space can actually help a relationship.

So when you both in shutdown mode how that works... I mean he doesnt talk and you dont talk?

Time and space are good for all kinds of relationships but uncertainty of how long and if the person will ever come back is like a poison that kills slowly

I'm like that, I'd rather give someone space, but at the same time...what if space allows ill feelings to be swept under the rug, and builds resentment? It seems it can get tricky at times.

Aquavita - please be a bit sensitive! She may have done tons of wrong but stating that its better that her baby died because shes not ready to be a mom is not right.

Posted by Arielle83
I guess it's different if you live with the person. I find if I give him space and go about my day he comes back to me in full force and says he misses me.

That's what I love about you cancer girls!! you do give awesome advices!!!! 😉

@aquavita2 very sensitive you are. The reason I didn't tell him is because I didn't know it was his until I had my scan. I thought it was my current bfs and we both found out it wasn't his and that's when he was violent to me! Its not easy to tell someone something like that especially when they are abroad! I didn't see him for 5 years and I tried to keep it in. I never knew that the person I was with was capable of this. And I did have him arrested for this! The amount of times I trie to start a conversation about this with him and when he was telling me what a good time he was having I really didn't waBT to ruin it! If I had time to tell him in the space of the time I found out it was his I would have told him but I was in a terrible place and I was not prepared to bring him down to that place when he had just been promoted. And saying I'm not ready to be a mother? As if I killed my child. I would have kept it to myself if I hadn't seen him but as soon as I saw him I was desperate to tell him

Also I was not in a relationship with him. He had a girlfriend if you read my thread all though he said he wasn't in to her how do I know if that is true! I did not play him I just couldn't find the right time to tell him. Remember we were friends! There was no relationship between us I know keeping a secret like that is wrong but I had my reasons it's not as if I terminated the pregnancy and didn't give him the chance to say if he wanted it or not if that was the case then I would understand if he was angry I lost it and that was out of my hands!

And I have had counselling because of this and I have seen a priest when I went to confess about not telling him. The priest told me one day when I find the right time I must tell him! If you knew the full story then you would understand I couldn't tell him before but once I saw him again I could no longer hold it in

And I have had counselling because of this and I have seen a priest when I went to confess about not telling him. The priest told me one day when I find the right time I must tell him! If you knew the full story then you would understand I couldn't tell him before but once I saw him again I could no longer hold it in

i believe this topic has been hijacked... just saying

@Fullwaterpisces yes I thought that myself however I didn't know how to put it in a new topic?

@Fullwaterpisces yes I thought that myself however I didn't know how to put it in a new topic?

Simple...

Login into your account, go to the forum you will like to participate

Click on the big orange button named "add a new topic"

And voila!!!!! (IMO hijacking, not cool)

Well this is a forum of cancerians not realising people have emotions no?
This is about a cancerian that seems to not think of others emotions?

I got a cancer chic to actually explain herself! So if you read my recent post you can get some background but I recently reached out to her and basically said I understand she is hurt by her past and if she wants to distance herself from me I can accept that. She explained to me that she is a "runner" and she needed to address her past. She told me she met up with some of her exes and is now working on "letting go." Maybe the new year vibe will help her move on? If she does move on do I have a chance with her?:/ or do cancers not give second looks to people the put in the friend zone? I mean she said i was cute in the beginingggg...

Posted by Virgofem
I truly truly feel your pain.

Amen to that. It took me showing unconditional love, many many angry and terrible words, and finally disapearing to shape my cancer up and make him see that he ignored mine completely. But now everything is beautiful and amazing

Posted by Arielle83
They rip apart and disappear for a reason. Their victim refused to acknowledge the cancer's emotions in the first place.

Exactly. If they ignore how people feel IN a relationship, that's bad and different, but if they run away, there was a very good reason for it.

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Posted by Arielle83
They rip apart and disappear for a reason. Their victim refused to acknowledge the cancer's emotions in the first place.

Exactly. If they ignore how people feel IN a relationship, that's bad and different, but if they run away, there was a very good reason for it.

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hmmm i don't know sometimes they run away because they hate confrontation, and sometime is needed to resolve things instead of running away from problems like a little bitch