Do I have the right to be jealous??

Hi there,

First and foremost I just want to thank any of you in advance for the advice you’re about to give me. I appreciate it. Also, my question is do I have the right to get jealous when I’m not dating the guy I’m with currently? So we’ve slept together and everything and he’s told me he’s not ready for anything serious with anyone because he just got out of a serious relationship. He was with the girl for 3 years and they broke up because it was too toxic. Anyways when other girls text him like girls he’s never been intimate with “so he says” but girls he’s made out with blow up his phone is it right for me to get jealous??

You’ve a right to feel how you feel of course, sex with someone is a very intimate thing, but next time you may want to choose a guy who wants the same things as you.

The guy you were with was honest and upfront with you, so...

No. You don't.

Did you fall for him? It's alright to be jealous, its human nature.

But, however, you guys' aren't dating so he could do whatever he wants. Unless he made things really confusing and said I love yous, or stating stuff that makes it even confusing. (Been there)

Just focus on the benefits. He also got out of a toxic relationship, so there's no reason for him to commit.

Start talking to other guys and think of him as a side piece. Treat him the same way he’s treating you. He’s told you he doesn’t want a relationship.

If you hear his phone blowing up, don’t turn off your ringer either.

Everyone wants someone not so available. So try to get busy talking with other dudes (even friendship) and stop making him such a priority.

You have 100% right to feel your feelings.

But he isn’t responsible for your jealousy as he was clear with his intention and you were a willing participant who knew what it was from the jump.

You have rights to feel whatever is that you feeling. Will it change anything? Not likely...

Thank you so much for the uplifting response.. you’re right it’s hard for us cancers to cut off from those we care about and I do feel such a strong attraction to him. However I’m not sure why, cause he treats me bad sometimes and then sometimes he’s really nice. But the N/C rule would only work if we didn’t work together. I’ve been thinking about changing my work environment to get away from him. Which I know sounds really immature and I only work with him 2 sometimes 3 days out the week. But I cannot deal with him anymore. He tells me he care about me so much and Friday we had a long conversation about us. I think he does care but not in the way I want him to care and I know I can’t force anything but I think you’re right. It’s time to move on and let go. And when he texts me or I’m at work with him I’ll just keep it casual. It hurts me because I’ve invited him to my other job multiple times and told him he could even drink for free yet he went to this girls job who is apparently dating “another girl” and he’s only known her for a week. I’ve known this guy since April and we’ve been sleeping together since May. In the beginning he was so leading me into believing he wanted something more. But as time moved on he’s put me in the FWB zone. And as a cancer I just have too many emotions and feelings that I cannot be that girl.

Posted by peaceandtranquility_96

Hi, sweet pea!! You have every right to feel jealous. Jealousy is a natural human emotion. I think us cancers can become deeply attached easily to someone we like. In this situation, I personally believe the best course of action would be to:

1. Stop having sex with him (sex creates a bond between two people and I don't think cancers are really the FWB type unless stated otherwise by differing aspects in your chart)

2. Create distance: Focus on yourself, hobbies, friends, work. Focus on what makes you feel confidence, independent, and happy. Maybe even go and get your nails done and go clubbing with your friends

3. THE NC rule- Obviously, you've developed feelings. Why not try going No contact for a week. It's painful, but it works to save yourself from emotional attachment

4. This man does not want a relationship. You can choose to continue on with him or cut it off. The choice is yours. Sometimes, I'm in that stage in my life where I don't want a relationship! I just want to date around and have fun! If you're in that stage, then that's awesome and you have nothing to worry about as long as you protect your feelings. If you're not, continuing on with him may create more harm than you would like. Also, remember to DATE around. You're the prize < 3!

Unfortunately, he's using you for his sexual pleasure and as a way to forget about his ex girlfriend. I personally don't believe you deserve that. But, I can definitely understand what you're going through. Just save your feelings girl! Jump back into that little shell, listen to your intuition, and distance yourself

Thank you so much for the uplifting response.. you’re right it’s hard for us cancers to cut off from those we care about and I do feel such a strong attraction to him. However I’m not sure why, cause he treats me bad sometimes and then sometimes he’s really nice. But the N/C rule would only work if we didn’t work together. I’ve been thinking about changing my work environment to get away from him. Which I know sounds really immature and I only work with him 2 sometimes 3 days out the week. But I cannot deal with him anymore. He tells me he care about me so much and Friday we had a long conversation about us. I think he does care but not in the way I want him to care and I know I can’t force anything but I think you’re right. It’s time to move on and let go. And when he texts me or I’m at work with him I’ll just keep it casual. It hurts me because I’ve invited him to my other job multiple times and told him he could even drink for free yet he went to this girls job who is apparently dating “another girl” and he’s only known her for a week. I’ve known this guy since April and we’ve been sleeping together since May. In the beginning he was so leading me into believing he wanted something more. But as time moved on he’s put me in the FWB zone. And as a cancer I just have too many emotions and feelings that I cannot be that girl.

Posted by peaceandtranquility_96

Hi, sweet pea!! You have every right to feel jealous. Jealousy is a natural human emotion. I think us cancers can become deeply attached easily to someone we like. In this situation, I personally believe the best course of action would be to:

1. Stop having sex with him (sex creates a bond between two people and I don't think cancers are really the FWB type unless stated otherwise by differing aspects in your chart)

2. Create distance: Focus on yourself, hobbies, friends, work. Focus on what makes you feel confidence, independent, and happy. Maybe even go and get your nails done and go clubbing with your friends

3. THE NC rule- Obviously, you've developed feelings. Why not try going No contact for a week. It's painful, but it works to save yourself from emotional attachment

4. This man does not want a relationship. You can choose to continue on with him or cut it off. The choice is yours. Sometimes, I'm in that stage in my life where I don't want a relationship! I just want to date around and have fun! If you're in that stage, then that's awesome and you have nothing to worry about as long as you protect your feelings. If you're not, continuing on with him may create more harm than you would like. Also, remember to DATE around. You're the prize < 3!

Unfortunately, he's using you for his sexual pleasure and as a way to forget about his ex girlfriend. I personally don't believe you deserve that. But, I can definitely understand what you're going through. Just save your feelings girl! Jump back into that little shell, listen to your intuition, and distance yourself

Thank you so much for the uplifting response.. you’re right it’s hard for us cancers to cut off from those we care about and I do feel such a strong attraction to him. However I’m not sure why, cause he treats me bad sometimes and then sometimes he’s really nice. But the N/C rule would only work if we didn’t work together. I’ve been thinking about changing my work environment to get away from him. Which I know sounds really immature and I only work with him 2 sometimes 3 days out the week. But I cannot deal with him anymore. He tells me he care about me so much and Friday we had a long conversation about us. I think he does care but not in the way I want him to care and I know I can’t force anything but I think you’re right. It’s time to move on and let go. And when he texts me or I’m at work with him I’ll just keep it casual. It hurts me because I’ve invited him to my other job multiple times and told him he could even drink for free yet he went to this girls job who is apparently dating “another girl” and he’s only known her for a week. I’ve known this guy since April and we’ve been sleeping together since May. In the beginning he was so leading me into believing he wanted something more. But as time moved on he’s put me in the FWB zone. And as a cancer I just have too many emotions and feelings that I cannot be that girl.

Posted by peaceandtranquility_96

Hi, sweet pea!! You have every right to feel jealous. Jealousy is a natural human emotion. I think us cancers can become deeply attached easily to someone we like. In this situation, I personally believe the best course of action would be to:

1. Stop having sex with him (sex creates a bond between two people and I don't think cancers are really the FWB type unless stated otherwise by differing aspects in your chart)

2. Create distance: Focus on yourself, hobbies, friends, work. Focus on what makes you feel confidence, independent, and happy. Maybe even go and get your nails done and go clubbing with your friends

3. THE NC rule- Obviously, you've developed feelings. Why not try going No contact for a week. It's painful, but it works to save yourself from emotional attachment

4. This man does not want a relationship. You can choose to continue on with him or cut it off. The choice is yours. Sometimes, I'm in that stage in my life where I don't want a relationship! I just want to date around and have fun! If you're in that stage, then that's awesome and you have nothing to worry about as long as you protect your feelings. If you're not, continuing on with him may create more harm than you would like. Also, remember to DATE around. You're the prize < 3!

Unfortunately, he's using you for his sexual pleasure and as a way to forget about his ex girlfriend. I personally don't believe you deserve that. But, I can definitely understand what you're going through. Just save your feelings girl! Jump back into that little shell, listen to your intuition, and distance yourself

I stopped being jealous of other girls my fwb was talking to when one of them called him while I was at his place and he bold face lied his ass off to her about what he was doing. I think she wanted to come over or something. Anyway, my point is, he was obviously not treating these other girls very well either so why would I be jealous of them. And he always wanted to hang out with me...and still does....so whatever.

I actually had no idea until a few weeks we slept together.... it’s because he was confused with what he wanted and still is clearly...

Posted by LadyNeptune

You have 100% right to feel your feelings.

But he isn’t responsible for your jealousy as he was clear with his intention and you were a willing participant who knew what it was from the jump.

Jealousy is a weak emotion. Yall got to overcome that man

- Jigga