Does all your loved ones have to like you?

How do you react if someone you care about is mad at you? Does that line between emotional and physical pain get blurred? My partner cannot, absolutely cannot,stand if Im mad at him. Hes had three emotional meltdowns as ive called it over these past few days. If im mad at him he feels like "you hate me." Ive noticed too that if his children get mad at him or wont talk to him, hes freaks out and says they hate him and probably will never talk to him again. Do you think this could be someting from childhood? Is this a cancer thing? He just has this intense fear that hes gonna be left. Now my personality...I could careless who likes me or not, but it just eats at him so bad. I hate to see someone live in fear like that as ive done nothing...in my eyes to even suggest Id do that. I guess in his eyes...being upset means seperation.

I tried to ask my good scorpio friend about the matter as he was a water sign, and he was absolutely useless. I told him I needed his help with something,...... with this. That id help him if he ever needed help with something. He says ...what can I do for you?...I asked him whats going on here? I told him...... I figured he could relate to him since hes pretty emotional himself. Hes like emotional? What the f*** ever...I gotta go bye!

Maybe its something Astro going on......

See thats your problem...you see it as a relationship problem. Nothing about that whole paraphrased entry denotes a "problem." I was seeking "understanding". Which.... I am sure most people that joined this whole forum is. I am asking if this is something that happens within a cancer and if it is, maybe someone with an ounce of empathy could provide insight on. It does however, in its own useless way, provide insight as to the communication issues that are apparent between our two signs. Aurora I like your style . Not only do you read but you also comprehend what you read.

I can agree with you sugaries......If you "shell" when you could be discussing things, then how does the whole matter of things ever get resolved? The only way I think things can be resolved is by communicating. Its can be hard to communicate with a person if they are constantly "retreating." Its kinda like fight or flight. I guess some peoples first response might be flight i.e retreat, but yours might be fight...lets adress this issue.

I know you say she feels like the black sheep. Does your mom say have a hard time letting you go? Not sure how to word this... Like for instance how a father feels about his daughter getting married? I guess is she overly protective of U?

Nah all is well on that front. I just feel very aggressive. Maybe it is this Mecury retrograde that u speak of. Ill research about that a little more.

You have indeed helped alot. It was most appreciated. And your gonna be just fine.

God bless your patience coldwater, I could NOT deal with a man fearing I am abandoning him every time I am annoyed or whatever..I just do not have it in me to coddle that kind of reaction.

you are very patient and your cancer is so lucky to have found you. My cancer x was so emotionally draining that by the end I actually hated him.

BlackIndian22...I am not the best at reading charts. Not like some of these girls. Someone with alot more experience would prob give a better chart analysis than me. I am still like a baby in this.

Theultra79....Ive been learning and embracing his differences. We are indeed two different people. You are right....how can someones mind go there is so foreign to me. Then I think about myself. Im sure my thought process might be foreign to him as well. Reasurrance is a good idea.

Thanks blackindian22 I will remember what you say. It helps with my understanding of cancer men.

they wouldn't be my "loved" ones if they didn't like me. What the hell kind of question is that...

I guess I worded the question badly. What I meant was...if your loved ones are upset at you.....do you feel that they no longer love you? I know cancers are all about family and they really place a special significance on their loved ones. If they become upset at you...how does this in turn affect you emotionally? Does this make you per se cling onto them because you feel that they hate you?

I hope I worded that better.

Posted by coldwater
I guess I worded the question badly. What I meant was...if your loved ones are upset at you.....do you feel that they no longer love you? I know cancers are all about family and they really place a special significance on their loved ones. If they become upset at you...how does this in turn affect you emotionally? Does this make you per se cling onto them because you feel that they hate you?

I hope I worded that better.

If they are particularly close to me I give them time to recover. I know I can be quite the asshole on a lot of occasions, so people sometimes do get pissed off with me. Once I know they are in the mood to talk then I will go and apologize and try to fix it. As I am naturally very charming people find it hard not to forgive me. If it's not someone I care about too much I will let the relationship slide.

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Posted by incandescentcancer
they wouldn't be my "loved" ones if they didn't like me. What the hell kind of question is that...

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