How to Get a Cancer Male to Part With Money...

Hello everyone!

I have been lurking here for awhile (it seems the Libra-Cancer combo is not necessarily a fav, so I've been a bit shy to post) but I love how much you all know about Cancers, and I'm hoping you can help me.

I am in love with a Cancer male and everything seems to be going well in our relationship (I'm a Libra female) except for one area: finances. I am very independent and rarely need to ask for help in that area, but when I do, I guess I'm going about it all wrong because he walks away from me sideways and I just get my feelings hurt. It's weird, it's like when I am with him and we're out, say at a bar, he will ask me if I would like a drink and he will pay for however many drinks I get. But if I ask for actual money for something, it's hard to get it from him (like when I needed money to pay on a parking ticket)

I think arguing about money is tacky and I dislike doing so, which brings me to you all. How can I a) not appear dependent and keep my pride intact while b) getting the help I need from a man whom I bend over backwards for constantly (read: I deserve his help)?

I know Cancer's hate to feel taken advantage of, so what is it? Is it that he doesn't really love me? Would he become more generous as time goes on? (We've been dating since June)?

Thanks for taking the time to read this.

Mocha

We are stingy with our money. BUT We loveeeeeeee spending it on the one were with. Exsample.. I spent ALOT of my money on my ex husband for christmas. I Bought him a VERY nice Italian leather jacket, that he wanted. This was top of the line NICE! But when he asked me for money once to help fix his car. It got soooooooo under my skin! Finances mean ALOT to me, If i see you as careless with your money to the point you cant take care of yourself. I will start questioning our future. I Always save some for emergencies,because you never know. I Expect the one i am with to do the same, If not than i will want to handle all the money.

I am like that too! LOL!!

Yes, when it comes to family or friends, the ones who I care about I am happy to spend my money on them to make them happy and take care of them. But when it comes to handing out money I don't trust how that money will be put into use. You can call it being stingy, but in a way it's not. We're just trying to look out for you. See the difference?

Oh, btw.... One of my good friend is a Libra and her man is a Cancer. I have helped her try to understand her Cancer male because they often clash when it comes to their issues. If you need some advice, you can ask me! 😉

good luck with that one mocha..hope this sums us up...

The Cancer man will tend to hoard and take care with his money. His principal concern centers upon security and, as result he is more than likely to be very careful and somewhat tight-fisted when it comes to his financial resources.

On a non-monetary plane, the Cancer man will be quite generous; need some clothes, the use of a car, a home to call your own for a while—no problem!.

Giving you drinks at the bar is how he shows he cares about you. When you ask him for financial help, he perceives it as fiscal irresponsibility.

No Offence, I Am on the Cancers side, because if i was dating someone that had ZERO Responsability... How the hell would we ever have a future together? and a family? If that person is COMPLETELY Careless with money! Family and security are VERY IMPORTANT to us, yow-za!

Hey all, thank you so much for so many replies to my very first dxp post! You all are seriously the authority on Cancers, I must say.

*sigh* really, though? I don't need this man for money, alas, I am very independent. I guess deep down I suspect that he doesn't truly care for me and that if he did he would spend money on me, as many of you have stated, Cancers spend money on those they care about. This man rarely spends money unless it's to get me drunk...for treetrunking..which is stupid, because with him, I'd do it stone sober...well, once he did fill up my gas tank...to be nice?...but I just don't think he *loves* me...

Sucks. I really love Cancers, but I think this is my last time dating one. I'm too emotionally invested to withstand the push/pull. It's excruciating for me...

Mocha

I see your side, but I also see his... a parking ticket is a different thing to 'spending money on someone' and I wouldnt classify it as such? but thats me... anyway, did you actually ask to 'borrow' the money, or did you want him to pay it for you?