I sometimes hate being a cancer....

I sometimes hate being a cancer because I am too sensitive, I always put others before I put myself and people always take my kindness for weakness. In relationships no matter how hard I try or how good of a person I am I always end up getting hurt and it's hard to let go and move on. I am currently in a relationship where I am trying extremely hard to make things work and understand my boyfriend who is also a cancer. My cancerian man is unemotional, he nochalant about everything, criticizes me and he just makes me feel like crap and I always find myself trying to get through to him and doing whatever I can to help him to see that he has a great woman. One thing I can say from past relationships when the guy hurts me they always come running back telling me how good of a woman I was, why can't I get someone who can see while in a relationship with me? I just wish I can be nochalant like my boyfriend and not allow things to get under my skin, I don't know how he does it. As I type this thread I feel like crying my eyes out.

I'm a cancer and I will be 40yrs old next year and I still have trouble with being supersensitive. I've learned to adjust over many years. I know for a fact i will never be a thick skinned person. I know that having a relationship with someone, be it frienship or otherwise, who blunt or cold to the point of being inconsiderate of my feelings, is not for me. I have ended friendships because of this. I feel you can only modifiy your feelings so much. You can learn different coping skills....finding what works for you is the trick. I have been in all the situations you have described and they sure aren't easy. It's a shame people take our empathy for others as a weakness to be used. Please dont try to harden your heart or build walls around yourself. Dont change who you are. Sometimes you just need to look a little harder to see the goodness in people....have faith, there are many worthwhile people out there who will respect and treat you right.

I love being a Cancer....for the most part. I want people to know what I'm feeling, but there been a few times when I wished I wasn't too sensitive. I see having empathy and sympathy for others as a sign of strength not weakness. BUT... a lot of other people do see it as a weakness. That's their problem...not ours. 😉

I don't hate who I am, but I admit on my wish list next to liposuction, laser peel and breast enhancement is less feeling, less emotion, more nonchalant, and less emmpathetic feelings.

Nahh, I know I feel deeply and whine a lot sometimes, but I also feel more joy and elation too. I would not trade my ability to feel others pain and want to ease it if I can. I think this world would be a cold miserable place without us. 🙂