I spend more time o cancer forum rather than libra

I read sooooooooo many topics about cancers that I'm really going crazy .. every time I read about how cancers are moody and how they stop the chase at some point, or they never keep in contact or ....etc

Just a general Q. that asks itself; what the heck !!!! if cancers stop contacting and end most relationships at some point,then how do we get them back —— or are they gone for good ??
is acting like not caring the solution ?? or facing them is a better way ??
what do they want from us? when are they gonna settle down ??

It suppose to be one q.? lol Hope I can get some precise answers

I would say just leave him alone and let time be the test. You don't want to care about or chase someone around that does NOT care about you either. Plus that makes you appear desperate. If he acts like you don't care and he picks the signal up that you don't care, so what. You should not be the one trying to convince a man that you care about him.

I personally would just leave him be and the hell what he "thinks". Time will be the healer and that is the only healer with any man is time. Live your life to the fullest and don't look back. Just think in your mind, what is meant to be will be. Don't stop your life or spend your energy sitting around waiting for it to happen. Waiting for a man to become prince charming may never happen.

If this man wants YOU, let him pursue. A man who is not up in your face doing things to make you happen does not exist and get him out of your mental capacity. Your heart is worth the "best" man. The more you sit around thinking about him, the more intense your feelings will become and you will be stuck in la la land only hoping of what could have, should have been. Let it go and move on. If he wants you, you are the prize not him. In order for him to be in love, he is going to have to invest in you anyways. If he is not pursuing and/or investing then that should be your clue to move on. You will get over it.

Hey Moon-eyes, krobe03,

Thanks for the comments, I read both of them but I see some contradict between the two..

Moon-eyes,
I didn't have a fight with him and nothing really "happened" that made him not contact me. that is the problem because he doesn't contact me but he sent me a message on fb and on my cell phone asking why have I disappeared and that hes worried but I didn't reply , he didn't bother to call or text me again !!! don't you find it awkward ? or is it normal to cancerian guys ? I answered 2 weeks later in a text message saying that I miss him and asked about his parents, he didn't reply as usual !!
I really love him but I'm always the one that initiates the call or the messages or asking every couple times he replies ONCE !!

"i generally like to keep everyone in my treasure box" very interesting quote moon-eyes, I think that's whats hes doing with me he doesn't want to loose me neither he wants to be with me.
If he doesn't want to be with me or doesn't love me then why when he sends his RARE messages 🙂 he says that he loves me —? I'm not forcing him, he is in another country though .. its so easy to lose contact with a person not near you, don't you think — that's what I meant by "what do they want from us ?"

As for his family, I also think that he lied to me when he said that he is going to tell his mum about me and that I will meet her soon, that was a month ago , and hello no contact lol
so from your opinion moon-eyes do you think I should keep pushing in the relationship and keep sending him text messages till he replies ?? or just ignore him ??

And yes thanks moon-eyes you where helpful , but I just can't rest till i found out whats going on with this guy lol

Hey Krobe03,
I know how it feels to keep pursuing a guy with no use, and I hate it but their is a quote I like so much " walk with the liar till his door steps" , as I read about cancer guys; you can't get them easy if you don't try harder and try to be supportive. he is going through a bad situation now " that's what he keeps telling me" so I'm trying to be supportive. All that was till last month when I had enough from him of not contacting me and not trying only from my side, this is when I tried to move on and not reach him ..but to be honest I can't !!!! I'm not saying that I'm in contact with him not, but I want to put the dots on the letters as we say. not knowing whats really is going on kills me.

I want to know what turns him on, and puts the sparkle back to this relationship ..I want to try every possible way, if no result came only then I will be convinced that I will move on because till now I don't know what the hell is going on with him !! I'm a stubborn girl for sure 🙂 and I like to reach the limits

"If he is not pursuing and/or investing then that should be your clue to move on. You will get over it." is that how cancer guys normally end a relationship —?
I know time is the healer of every wound. who knows may be time will heal my wound but at least not now lol