I want to be petty

Hi, I'm back from this post: https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/why-is-he-treating-me-like-this-6309525/?p=2#6310170

Since my post I've started seeing this amazing aries guy. He's really sweet and treats me really well. Unfortunately, the minute I begin to let that cancer guy go, he'll message me. We will chat back and forth, mainly sexts for 2 days max and he disappears as usual and reappears after several days or a week or so. The only reason I'm keeping this up because I want to hit him where it hurts. This may not be the best forum but I need help, how do I hurt a cancer man... badly? I was thinking about telling him to no longer text me because I'm seeing someone, or should I just change my profile picture to a couple pic?

I feel justified in my actions because he's basically using me to get off.

I appreciate all the help I can get thanks.

The aries guy is awesome! However I feel like I need to teach this cancer guy a lesson. I heard that they're the jealous type.

Posted by narayana

Posted by Arieslovesaqua
So you're cheating on the Aries by sexting the cancer. Anything you do will blow up in your face. All the cancer has to do is forward your sexts to the guy in the pic with you and bam...you look like an idiot

This.


Also, are you official with the Aries? If no, why would you put a pic with him ? That could scare the hell outta him. Too fast

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He has a pic of us as his profile pic so I was going to use the same.

Posted by Arieslovesaqua
So you're cheating on the Aries by sexting the cancer. Anything you do will blow up in your face. All the cancer has to do is forward your sexts to the guy in the pic with you and bam...you look like an idiot

Why would he care? He has made it clear I think he only wants me for one thing. He doesn't even want to see me, now it's just sexts. I was thinking of being nice nasty and saying something like "aw I can't anymore, I'm seeing someone, it was fun tho!"

There are soooo many threads of how horrible these cancer men are. Why can't a girl for once beat them at their own game lol!

I just want him to know how it feels a lil. Also I need to get him to stop messaging me anyway.

@arieslovesaqua he hurt me really badly and I would feel better knowing he felt the same I guess. Plus I'll need him to leave me alone anyway so it's not like I can get around that. And my current guy is already a bit suspicious so I need to end this.

BTW I've done this before with a Pisces guy. A bit immature I know but it makes me feel better.

I understand what you're saying @futureseeker I'll be all that awesome stuff after. But it's not fun feeling for someone to sleep with you then stop talking to you the minute after for weeks and now thinks that all you are good for is to sext and ask what you're wearing. He's horrible and he's just going to keep on treating women this way until he learns how it feels I think.

Oh hunny, you really are as dumb as they come. Dumb ppl are not fit for revenge.

1) Stop deluding yourself that you're happy with Aries because otherwise you wouldn't be sextin with the cancer and nor would you care to get back at him. The cancer dude is a factor to you so he wins.

2) You are incapable of hurting him when you mean as little to him as some sex toy he uses to get off.

3) He wins everytime you allow yourself to be used by him to get off and cheat on your Aries.

Putting up a couple pic with your Aries will only make this cancer feel like he dodged a bullet by not dating a cheating woman like yourself.

I pretty much see the karma in this one...lol the aries is probably already cheating

Soooo is anyone willing to tell me how to hurt a cancer guy? If I mean so little to him then it won't hurt him much to get dumb little ol me off his hands anyway.

This is soooo random but a couple of years ago, a psychic described the guy I will end up with and she described him (she said that we already knew each other). I only realized that this year.

Posted by beautifulsoul74
I pretty much see the karma in this one...lol the aries is probably already cheating

I doubt it. Plus I don't really consider this to be cheating.

The Cancer guy is using you to get off...
And you're using the Aries guy to make the Cancer jealous.

Is this correct?

I don't know your back story, but the Cancer was correct in his instincts for not pursuing you.
You think you're the hot shit who should be excluded for being dismissed after sex.
Get over yourself...and your fragile little ego.

The sex was mutual, you're a grown woman, no one twisted your arm.
...And you still want him, it's so obvious.

Just tell the rebound, you're not emotionally available.
...and just go finish the Cancer off...
He needs to release some tension.

I felt coming here wasn't a good idea. I do care about the aries guy though and I'm not using him. I actually need to put a stop to this because it's not fair to him at all.

Posted by balancedlibra

Posted by beautifulsoul74
I pretty much see the karma in this one...lol the aries is probably already cheating

I doubt it. Plus I don't really consider this to be cheating.

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Have you told the Aries about this situation? I doubt it because he'd say the same...its cheating. Would you approve of the Aries doing it? Doubt that as well. Just because it's electronic doesn't change the fact that it's cheating

Posted by balancedlibra
Soooo is anyone willing to tell me how to hurt a cancer guy? If I mean so little to him then it won't hurt him much to get dumb little ol me off his hands anyway.

So you come to a Cancer forum to get tips on how to intentionally harm a Cancer guy?
Do you really expect an answer?
Chances are, he's already figured out that's what you're about.
Aries dude will probably figure it out as well.

Going through life trying to exact revenge on people for any and every perceived slight is going to make you a very bitter person indeed.....

Posted by balancedlibra
There are soooo many threads of how horrible these cancer men are.

And yet, the irony escapes you......

I came to this board because I figured that cancers will know cancers best. Thing is that no none is talking about how badly he treated me yet I'm a horrible person for wanting him to feel at least some of the pain he inflicted on me.

Anyways it matters not. I do appreciate the responses and may update with some good news.

All I know is that it'll take a long time before I jump into bed with someone else. You think you know someone after 5 years smh

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
So you come to a Cancer forum to get tips on how to intentionally harm a Cancer guy?
Do you really expect an answer?
Chances are, he's already figured out that's what you're about.
Aries dude will probably figure it out as well.

Going through life trying to exact revenge on people for any and every perceived slight is going to make you a very bitter person indeed.....

Being the opposite of bitter is exactly why it's so easy for me to move on quickly!


And prob why I'm not too worried about the doom and gloom everyone seem to be projecting on my new guy.

I get that you got badly hurt but trust me - Trying to hurt someone back is not going to make you feel better, eventually this will make you feel worse, maybe you will screw up everything with this new guy and it all gets messy. There is nothing better for you than to just raise your head up high and walk away from the Cancer guy unless you want to possibly hurt yourself even more ( and the other guy ) by trying to hurt the Cancer guy. You should never try to harm, get back or take a revenge on anyone in this sort of situation even if they hurt you because it gets back to you and hurting someone does not feel good. You must care so much for the Cancer guy since you are using your energy and time to try to hurt him but you are only hurting yourself right now, I am sorry.

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Posted by balancedlibra
I understand what you're saying @futureseeker I'll be all that awesome stuff after. But it's not fun feeling for someone to sleep with you then stop talking to you the minute after for weeks and now thinks that all you are good for is to sext and ask what you're wearing. He's horrible and he's just going to keep on treating women this way until he learns how it feels I think.

I get what you're saying...had a guy kinda like that one time. It was annoying and pissed me off. I would also suggest cutting him off, but if you wanna be a bitch, just send him a straight forward message that says you have decided to have more respect for yourself and that his shallow lifestyle and doesn't interest you anymore, that you want more than that and have found that with someone else...and that you would appreciate him respecting you
enough not to text you anymore. Then say something like "I hope you find what you're looking for, but I'm just not a whore so I'm sure I'm not your type. Best wishes."

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If you read the other thread the OP posted, things are not as cut and dried as the OP presents in this thread.
In fact, the Crab probably picked up on the vengeful streak long before the OP realized it.

@BalancdLibra....The best thing for u to do is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING...Cancer males knw when you are playing games ....In your case it wouldnt shock me if he knows u are with someone and thats why hes still sexting u ...He is WINNING ‚....you are proving u are a cheater in his eyes ...which will make him think he dodged a bullet with you ....Silence is the only killer to a crab (thats if he gives a shit in the first place)Š

Posted by FutureSeeker
You and @blessyou would make a good match

For real.

Posted by Brneyedpisces
@BalancdLibra....The best thing for u to do is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING...Cancer males knw when you are playing games ....In your case it wouldnt shock me if he knows u are with someone and thats why hes still sexting u ...He is WINNING ‚....you are proving u are a cheater in his eyes ...which will make him think he dodged a bullet with you ....Silence is the only killer to a crab (thats if he gives a shit in the first place)Š

Yes, but he was sleeping with me and telling his ex girlfriend that he loved her at the same time. What does that make him? Also he has admitted to me that he has cheated in the past. So that will be very hypocritical of him.

Honestly, I'm beginning to think that he's afraid that I'm not interested in him and this is the reason he's so passive about the entire situation. If that's the case then it's very unattractive. I like men who are able to approach me and tell me exactly what they want from me.

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by Geminiam

Posted by balancedlibra
I understand what you're saying @futureseeker I'll be all that awesome stuff after. But it's not fun feeling for someone to sleep with you then stop talking to you the minute after for weeks and now thinks that all you are good for is to sext and ask what you're wearing. He's horrible and he's just going to keep on treating women this way until he learns how it feels I think.

I get what you're saying...had a guy kinda like that one time. It was annoying and pissed me off. I would also suggest cutting him off, but if you wanna be a bitch, just send him a straight forward message that says you have decided to have more respect for yourself and that his shallow lifestyle and doesn't interest you anymore, that you want more than that and have found that with someone else...and that you would appreciate him respecting you
enough not to text you anymore. Then say something like "I hope you find what you're looking for, but I'm just not a whore so I'm sure I'm not your type. Best wishes."

If you read the other thread the OP posted, things are not as cut and dried as the OP presents in this thread.
In fact, the Crab probably picked up on the vengeful streak long before the OP realized it.

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I think that we should call a spade a spade! He's the horrible one, not me. I'm really on the receiving end of all of this mess.

Posted by PrincessLouise
Well if you do the pic make sure you both look good!

Yes we do lol. Plus this new guy is a bit taller so yea lol

Posted by Leo123_
I get that you got badly hurt but trust me - Trying to hurt someone back is not going to make you feel better, eventually this will make you feel worse, maybe you will screw up everything with this new guy and it all gets messy. There is nothing better for you than to just raise your head up high and walk away from the Cancer guy unless you want to possibly hurt yourself even more ( and the other guy ) by trying to hurt the Cancer guy. You should never try to harm, get back or take a revenge on anyone in this sort of situation even if they hurt you because it gets back to you and hurting someone does not feel good. You must care so much for the Cancer guy since you are using your energy and time to try to hurt him but you are only hurting yourself right now, I am sorry.

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I'll feel good trust me. I don't usually do this and usually I don't care but when you intentionally hurt me it really takes a lot for me to get past it. The first time I removed him from my life and he's the one who came back only to let me down like this.

I still haven't figured it out since I didn't get much ideas so I guess whenever he messages me again (because we all totally know that he will smh) I'll wing it 🙂

I keep coming back lol. But I spoke to an ex today and he told me that cancer guy is probably not over his ex and so he's hurting me instead because he can't hurt her. He agreed with me moving on and he figures that cancer guy will realize what he allowed to get away eventually.

I think his rationalization makes sense.