Cancer man unfollowed me on instagram after a great second date and agreed third date?

Second with him was great, 6.5 hours we had dinner, he paid and I offered to go dutch and he said I can pay next time. Then we went to a coffee shop and I let him paid as I already planned on paying for next date. He held my hand on the street as we stroll along. I asked him what are his plans for the weekend. He told me he was meant to go away with friends, but he really wants to see me and if he leaves it for too long I would forget him and thinks he is not serious.

He gave me a lift home and we talked in his car while holding hands. he said he won't try to kiss me this time and will let me kiss him when I want to. I gave him a peck on his cheek.

I invited him to an event as third date, he put it on calendar immediately. I said you want the address? He said we will keep talking until then. He asked me to text him. He wanted to see some of the videos of what I mentioned before. I told him I need to finish editing it first. he then said he wants to see what my pillw looks like I said alright i will take a pic.

He probably was expecting me to send it right away.. i didn't do that until 20 hrs later as I was thinking better to finish editing my videos and send both together.. meanwhile he unfollowed me... I never followed him as I never got the notification... i only saw it when i visited his...

He replied my text but I really dunno what to take out of his unfollow ...

So you met on Instagram? Or?

Posted by narayana
#justcancerthings

Okay, this isn't even a Cancer thing, that's just strange

Right! Lol

@victoriagemini we met on a dating website.

I didn't realize he followed me as I was flooded with notifications. I only noticed when I went through my own follower list.

I wasn't sure if I should follow back as the name he uses is different and I could only tell it's his from some of the photos.

I showed him photos on Instagram on second date to see if he would mention I'm now following you, but nope.

He just unfollow and I'm not sure of the reason.

Posted by narayana
#justcancerthings

Okay, this isn't even a Cancer thing, that's just strange

If we take away his star sign, i suspect there is some sort of misunderstanding happening. LIke he was expecting me to text him sooner than 20 hrs...

@hollyhock

We met on a dating website

oops I meant my Pillow!

I'm a Virgo.

I'm from Europe. Are you American?

He didn't disappear on me, we are communicating via text. During the date I mentioned to him I didn't think I would see him again as he didn't reply once and I thought he was simply being polite to say he wants to see me again on text. He said that's not the case and looked through his phone and saw he didn't and apologized to me may times.

He then admit he is going through a lot of stress and how it is affecting him. Third date event I'm inviting him to is related to stress management

Posted by Arielle83
So because he unfollowed you, areu never going to call him again because you feel rejected via social media?

We are still communicating via text, and I will see him again in couple of days

I'm more interested in the reason behind the unfollow.

Posted by SensitiveBlues
that's a passive aggressive move, so is the not cementing the 3rd date.

he's doing a ghost

I guess time will tell if he is going to turn up.

also why did he keep asking me to text him? and when I didn't text as quickly he unfollow?

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Posted by Poppyseeds
@hollyhock

We met on a dating website

oops I meant my Pillow!

I'm a Virgo.

I'm from Europe. Are you American?

He didn't disappear on me, we are communicating via text. During the date I mentioned to him I didn't think I would see him again as he didn't reply once and I thought he was simply being polite to say he wants to see me again on text. He said that's not the case and looked through his phone and saw he didn't and apologized to me may times.

He then admit he is going through a lot of stress and how it is affecting him. Third date event I'm inviting him to is related to stress management

oh okay, well i think you need to chill out. i don't like fb'ing or anything with the people i date, cause i start stalking, and obsessing and i don't like those traits

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I never followed his instagram, he was following me. You mean he started stalking that's why he unfollowed me?

Unfollow him

Posted by DMV
Unfollow him

I never followed him, he was following me. I only noticed he unfollowed me when I looked at my own list

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that's a passive aggressive move, so is the not cementing the 3rd date.

he's doing a ghost

I guess time will tell if he is going to turn up.

also why did he keep asking me to text him? and when I didn't text as quickly he unfollow?

well that could be the reason too, you know we're emotional, sometimes we run with that...rejection is our ultimate FEAR

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yes i do know you guys are sensitive and emotional, which is what I like about you guys.

Yesterday I texted him and he wrote back saying he love what I sent him, asked about my afternoon.

I sensed some hurt feelings there, so as soon as I'm home I wrote him before I go to bed. 2 texts in one day is not my style, I was hoping it would give him some reassurance...

@starwars @sensitiveblues

It's a special pillow I got while I was travelling. that's why

Hmm you brought up and asked him if he is following you.he said thats him them he unfollows you. Maybe he thought you didn't like that? Anyway is he still texting you or he stopped?

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Posted by starwars
good to know im not the only one who like collecting pillows

WEIRGOS

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Jealous!!!

Posted by victoriagemini
Hmm you brought up and asked him if he is following you.he said thats him them he unfollows you. Maybe he thought you didn't like that? Anyway is he still texting you or he stopped?

I meant I brought my phone out and show him photos on my instagram, I didn't ask if he was following. I think most people would say yes I saw those photos and i'm already following you

Posted by SensitiveBlues
i wouldn't bring it up, don't bring it up, its' a non issue...you never discussed following eachother.

plus who cares.

alright I will keep carrying on our usual communication.

Posted by hollyhock
Hmm, well if he is still communicating with you and you plan for a 3rd date, just ignore the Instagram unfollow and see what happens when you meet up with him again. I'd be more worried if he stopped communicating and also unfollowed on Instagram. There could be many reasons for the unfollow but don't let it worry you.

Yes, I am from America. I was worried we had met the same Cancer guy (!) as the date you described was exactly like my date with my cancer guy, lol.

I guess Cancer guys have similar maneuvers and reaction.

@sensitiveblues @hollyhock

Yes we agree on going to that event together, he already put it onto his calendar, I said don't you want the address? he goes we will keep talking you text me. He asked me to text him many times during second date...

Time will tell if he will ghost, so far his action proves that he won't. I mentioned he should try my cooking on the day we agree to meet. I din't mean dinner at my place but I meant I will bring him something I'm going to make on the weekend. Small treat.. hope that doens't scare him

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Posted by DMV
Unfollow him

I never followed him, he was following me. I only noticed he unfollowed me when I looked at my own list

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That's your answer right there.

@arielle83

Yes I wish I was more upfront. I felt guilty for missing the notification and didn't follow back right away. That's why I brought it up this way...

Our date went really well, he told me how much he enjoys spending time with me, and he loves our communications in between. He said no one ever writes to him the way I do. I'm not sure what it means but it's gotta be something good LOL

@vixen2
He got my info before he followed me on instagram, it confused me when he unfollowed but stil responds to text. I was going to wait for him to text first but since he asked many times to text him so I did.

Posted by FutureSeeker
Baked goods (brownies, cookies) go a long way.

From what you are explaining, he seems interested.

By only texting once or twice a day and doing "You"- that helps things develop at a good pace.

did you read my mind? I did some baking and I told him about it.

then I told him someting else on text but at the end I said may be you should sample my cooking on third date (at the event)

I guess he will know I meant to bring him my baking? i didn't mean for him to come to my place.. as he knows we are goign to this event.

Posted by FutureSeeker
What sign are you?

I'm Virgo sun, Aqua moon, Virgo Mercury, Leo venus and mars, aqua rising

He is Cancer sun and moon, gemini mercury, leo venus, gemini mars, aqua rising

His chart says he is a bipolar little girl.

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Posted by DMV
Unfollow him

I never followed him, he was following me. I only noticed he unfollowed me when I looked at my own list

That's your answer right there.

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doh that means he was waiting for me to follow back... I couldn't do it because of the time lapsed..

How should I go about it if I want to follow him?

Posted by Poppyseeds
Second with him was great, 6.5 hours we had dinner, he paid and I offered to go dutch and he said I can pay next time. Then we went to a coffee shop and I let him paid as I already planned on paying for next date. He held my hand on the street as we stroll along. I asked him what are his plans for the weekend. He told me he was meant to go away with friends, but he really wants to see me and if he leaves it for too long I would forget him and thinks he is not serious.

He gave me a lift home and we talked in his car while holding hands. he said he won't try to kiss me this time and will let me kiss him when I want to. I gave him a peck on his cheek.

I invited him to an event as third date, he put it on calendar immediately. I said you want the address? He said we will keep talking until then. He asked me to text him. He wanted to see some of the videos of what I mentioned before. I told him I need to finish editing it first. he then said he wants to see what my pillw looks like I said alright i will take a pic.

He probably was expecting me to send it right away.. i didn't do that until 20 hrs later as I was thinking better to finish editing my videos and send both together.. meanwhile he unfollowed me... I never followed him as I never got the notification... i only saw it when i visited his...

He replied my text but I really dunno what to take out of his unfollow ...

That's what they do.

I just read the thread title

@Listenlearnteach

oh come on... you surely can read it if you have already quoted the OP

Posted by Poppyseeds
@Listenlearnteach

oh come on... you surely can read it if you have already quoted the OP

Ok I'll read it

Follow him on instagram.
It's no big deal, he'll probably follow right back.
Why stress so much over social media. It's not important.

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Posted by Poppyseeds
@Listenlearnteach

oh come on... you surely can read it if you have already quoted the OP

Ok I'll read it

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Ok so after reading, again I say that's what they do.

I can now add, keep being you. Tend to your business and stroke his ego at the same time.

Posted by cosmica
Follow him on instagram.
It's no big deal, he'll probably follow right back.
Why stress so much over social media. It's not important.

Oh and keep offering to pay. He'll let you but in the long run you'll gain so much more respect from him he will take care of you.

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Posted by Poppyseeds
@Listenlearnteach

oh come on... you surely can read it if you have already quoted the OP

Ok I'll read it

Ok so after reading, again I say that's what they do.

I can now add, keep being you. Tend to your business and stroke his ego at the same time.

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Got it. let see what happens on third date

Posted by Listenlearnteach
Oh and keep offering to pay. He'll let you but in the long run you'll gain so much more respect from him he will take care of you.

I intended to do so as that was our convo.

we probably won't have time to eat at third date as it was to an event. I'm bringing him some baking.

If there is fourth date i will pay.

Bringing him something homemade— If there's a fourth date. †††† no need to wonder!!! He'll probably propose on the fifth.

Posted by Listenlearnteach
Bringing him something homemade— If there's a fourth date. †††† no need to wonder!!! He'll probably propose on the fifth.

hahah we will see what happens! he hasn't follow back nor has he replied my text when i suggested he can try my baking on third date.

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Posted by cosmica
Follow him on instagram.
It's no big deal, he'll probably follow right back.
Why stress so much over social media. It's not important.

I should have followed when he was following, I'm not a follower collecter, I'm stress because I was wondering if I have hurt him or something a long the line

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We cancerian are a clingy & sensitive person. If ur not following, he thinks you don't like him. And if you reply his text late, it makes him thinks in negative way. Bcoz we cancerian never stop thinking about anything. But if he still contact you, he want to check if he still have a chance

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Bringing him something homemade— If there's a fourth date. †††† no need to wonder!!! He'll probably propose on the fifth.

hahah we will see what happens! he hasn't follow back nor has he replied my text when i suggested he can try my baking on third date.

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So you two have a third date set already?

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Bringing him something homemade— If there's a fourth date. †††† no need to wonder!!! He'll probably propose on the fifth.

hahah we will see what happens! he hasn't follow back nor has he replied my text when i suggested he can try my baking on third date.

So you two have a third date set already?

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yes we did. we set it at the begining of second date.

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Posted by cosmica
Follow him on instagram.
It's no big deal, he'll probably follow right back.
Why stress so much over social media. It's not important.

I should have followed when he was following, I'm not a follower collecter, I'm stress because I was wondering if I have hurt him or something a long the line

We cancerian are a clingy & sensitive person. If ur not following, he thinks you don't like him. And if you reply his text late, it makes him thinks in negative way. Bcoz we cancerian never stop thinking about anything. But if he still contact you, he want to check if he still have a chance

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Got that. I didn't reply late though. he kept asking me to message him when we on second date.

he replied to that and then I wrote him another reply. He didn't respond since i mentioned he can sample my baking.

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Bringing him something homemade— If there's a fourth date. †††† no need to wonder!!! He'll probably propose on the fifth.

hahah we will see what happens! he hasn't follow back nor has he replied my text when i suggested he can try my baking on third date.

So you two have a third date set already?

yes we did. we set it at the begining of second date.

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Ok you're good. Show up with the baked goods and you will be fine!!! Never mind him not responding to texts and blocking or deleting you from social media. That doesn't matter. Youre are doing good A+++

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Bringing him something homemade— If there's a fourth date. †††† no need to wonder!!! He'll probably propose on the fifth.

hahah we will see what happens! he hasn't follow back nor has he replied my text when i suggested he can try my baking on third date.

So you two have a third date set already?

yes we did. we set it at the begining of second date.

Ok you're good. Show up with the baked goods and you will be fine!!! Never mind him not responding to texts and blocking or deleting you from social media. That doesn't matter. Youre are doing good A+++

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The only thing is he didn't get the address of the event. He locked it in his calendar when I asked don't you need address. He said we will keep talking until then. Text me.

Could be more things for me to text him? He kept asking me to text him that night.

Offer something monetary always. He'll take it so make sure its within your abilities, however he WILL pay you back. 10 times more. Financially, emotionally, educationally, harshly, sympathetically, explanatory, insecurely. Basically in every way. Just ride the wave!!!

Posted by Listenlearnteach
Offer something monetary always. He'll take it so make sure its within your abilities, however he WILL pay you back. 10 times more. Financially, emotionally, educationally, harshly, sympathetically, explanatory, insecurely. Basically in every way. Just ride the wave!!!

interesting... does it mean I always have to buy him something or bring him something? I don't think I got the link in between?

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Bringing him something homemade— If there's a fourth date. †††† no need to wonder!!! He'll probably propose on the fifth.

hahah we will see what happens! he hasn't follow back nor has he replied my text when i suggested he can try my baking on third date.

So you two have a third date set already?

yes we did. we set it at the begining of second date.

Ok you're good. Show up with the baked goods and you will be fine!!! Never mind him not responding to texts and blocking or deleting you from social media. That doesn't matter. Youre are doing good A+++

The only thing is he didn't get the address of the event. He locked it in his calendar when I asked don't you need address. He said we will keep talking until then. Text me.

Could be more things for me to text him? He kept asking me to text him that night.

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Wait a minute, what are you waiting on— Dont start baking until you text the address.

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Posted by Listenlearnteach
Offer something monetary always. He'll take it so make sure its within your abilities, however he WILL pay you back. 10 times more. Financially, emotionally, educationally, harshly, sympathetically, explanatory, insecurely. Basically in every way. Just ride the wave!!!

interesting... does it mean I always have to buy him something or bring him something? I don't think I got the link in between?

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Yep. Making him a keepsake is most important. You said interesting .... Blah blah blah, dont make it seem like a chore and the keepsakes will last for a long time in between with him. More like forever

@listenlearnteach

When I said it's interesting it was just what it is. No hiddne meaning there, as it never occurs to me that I have to "buy" his love. I'm not the kind of person who expect men to pay all the time as I do enjoy reciprocating.

I haven't text him the address yet as There's still couple of days until the actual event. I probably will give him the address after he replies to my latest message ....

Oh I didnt take you saying interesting any kind of way. Interesting blah blah blah like
You say interesting ... Let me tell you why.

Ellipses vs blah blah blah can make a big difference in text. My bad.

But yeah you're on the right track... Liking to reciprocate that's great!

@listenlearnteach I think most men take pride on being the provider, however it's always good to reciprocate to balance the book, or else one side can really feel used and not feeling the appreciation.

He still hasn't reply, makes me wonder if he was telling the truth when he said he declined a weekend away invite just because he wanted to go on second date with me...

Yes they do. Good to know you know.

Did you call?