Phenjx
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Is it a break or a break up?
Hmm depends...how long were you guys together? What do you mean by he wasn't loyal...he cheated? And what are his placements?
Posted by MoonbutterHi Moonbutter. We have been dating since September 2015. He cheated on me. No emotional connection according to him. He just did it for the sex. I think he is trying to find his placement now.
Hmm depends...how long were you guys together? What do you mean by he wasn't loyal...he cheated? And what are his placements?
How did you find out? Why do you think he did it?
I apologize for all the questions, but I'm trying to see the big picture 😉
Posted by MoonbutterHe was the one who told me about it. He couldnt keep it in, he was avoiding me in that time. His excuse to me was because I am a virgin and he didnt find himself fit for me. So he did it with other women. He had intentions to break up with me, but he needed me just as much as i needed him.
How did you find out? Why do you think he did it?
Posted by killerwhalemoonI do not know. Could you help me find out? I would appreciate that.
What are your guys moon and mars?
Ok wait...so you are saving your self for marriage? So do you think that is why he is breaking things off? It is very difficult for a guy once he has had sex and being young to obstain.
Posted by MoonbutterNo i am not saving myself for marriage. I actually want to do it with him. But he doesnt feel right because he finds it very pure and he doesnt see himself fit to take that. I do not know clearly why he is pulling away but he is trying to figure things out and he says i need to heal as well. But is it a break or a break up? I feel that he thought i should be hurting, but i didnt. i understood the reason why he cheated, just for sex. But he cant seem to forgive himself.
Ok wait...so you are saving your self for marriage? So do you think that is why he is breaking things off? It is very difficult for a guy once he has had sex and being young to obstain.
Posted by Phenjxwomen? as in more than 1? You said it.. it was an excuse.Posted by MoonbutterHe was the one who told me about it. He couldnt keep it in, he was avoiding me in that time. His excuse to me was because I am a virgin and he didnt find himself fit for me. So he did it with other women. He had intentions to break up with me, but he needed me just as much as i needed him.
How did you find out? Why do you think he did it?click to expand
and to answer your question., i see it as a break up. take time to grow, heal and move on to someone that respects you, he doesn't.
Posted by justagirlYes more than one. His reason to why he fucked other women was because he needed sex and he couldnt do it with me. You are trying to say that he actually wants a break up? Because he was the one who initiated the break.Posted by Phenjxwomen? as in more than 1? You said it.. it was an excuse.Posted by MoonbutterHe was the one who told me about it. He couldnt keep it in, he was avoiding me in that time. His excuse to me was because I am a virgin and he didnt find himself fit for me. So he did it with other women. He had intentions to break up with me, but he needed me just as much as i needed him.
How did you find out? Why do you think he did it?
and to answer your question., i see it as a break up. take time to grow, heal and move on to someone that respects you, he doesn't.click to expand
Posted by justagirlYes more than one. His reason to why he fucked other women was because he needed sex and he couldnt do it with me. You are trying to say that he actually wants a break up? Because he was the one who initiated the break.Posted by Phenjxwomen? as in more than 1? You said it.. it was an excuse.Posted by MoonbutterHe was the one who told me about it. He couldnt keep it in, he was avoiding me in that time. His excuse to me was because I am a virgin and he didnt find himself fit for me. So he did it with other women. He had intentions to break up with me, but he needed me just as much as i needed him.
How did you find out? Why do you think he did it?
and to answer your question., i see it as a break up. take time to grow, heal and move on to someone that respects you, he doesn't.click to expand
It is not meant to be treetrunked... it was suppose to be FCUKED
Oh god... it is suppose to be the F word...
Wow, yeah even if not considered a break-up from his perspective I would say break-up for your sake. WTF he feels you are too pure so he has sex with other women, where did you find this Tinder reject? lol but seriously, like you said you are not even bothered by it so regardless what he wants, you should end it for you.
Posted by Phenjxyou asked what we thought. My opnion is this was a break up.. he also blocked you.. someone that needs a break doesn't cut the other off.Posted by justagirlYes more than one. His reason to why he fucked other women was because he needed sex and he couldnt do it with me. You are trying to say that he actually wants a break up? Because he was the one who initiated the break.Posted by Phenjxwomen? as in more than 1? You said it.. it was an excuse.Posted by MoonbutterHe was the one who told me about it. He couldnt keep it in, he was avoiding me in that time. His excuse to me was because I am a virgin and he didnt find himself fit for me. So he did it with other women. He had intentions to break up with me, but he needed me just as much as i needed him.
How did you find out? Why do you think he did it?
and to answer your question., i see it as a break up. take time to grow, heal and move on to someone that respects you, he doesn't.click to expand
where you guys in a commited, exclusive realationship? had you discussed being exclusive? is this a schooolyard thing, you mentioned school so i am assuming you guys are teens/ maybe college?
Him blaming your virginity for his actions... speaks a lot on his character or lack of one. he may not be directly saying, it's because your a virgin, but he is. Common.
I found him in my college. I do love him, and i am someone that believes in second chances. He is my first love. So he doesnt want a break up? Just a break, to clear the air? Why is he taking this break?
Posted by killerwhalemoonMine: 11/02/1993 - SingaporePosted by PhenjxWhats your guys bday and city of birth?Posted by killerwhalemoonI do not know. Could you help me find out? I would appreciate that.
What are your guys moon and mars?click to expand
His: 6/7/1992 - Nigeria
Posted by justagirlHe does the block thing really regularly whenever he is in a bad mood. He is a cancer. We are not exclusive. Just dating. His sister knew about us. my family knew about him. His friends had an idea that we are dating. I am done with school. he is still schooling, about to finish soon. yea, i know that he is saying that its because i am a virgin.Posted by Phenjxyou asked what we thought. My opnion is this was a break up.. he also blocked you.. someone that needs a break doesn't cut the other off.Posted by justagirlYes more than one. His reason to why he fucked other women was because he needed sex and he couldnt do it with me. You are trying to say that he actually wants a break up? Because he was the one who initiated the break.Posted by Phenjxwomen? as in more than 1? You said it.. it was an excuse.Posted by MoonbutterHe was the one who told me about it. He couldnt keep it in, he was avoiding me in that time. His excuse to me was because I am a virgin and he didnt find himself fit for me. So he did it with other women. He had intentions to break up with me, but he needed me just as much as i needed him.
How did you find out? Why do you think he did it?
and to answer your question., i see it as a break up. take time to grow, heal and move on to someone that respects you, he doesn't.
where you guys in a commited, exclusive realationship? had you discussed being exclusive? is this a schooolyard thing, you mentioned school so i am assuming you guys are teens/ maybe college?
Him blaming your virginity for his actions... speaks a lot on his character or lack of one. he may not be directly saying, it's because your a virgin, but he is. Common.
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Posted by studio91Why do you think so?
He probably meant Break-up
Good luck to you..
Posted by justagirlWhat do you reckon will happen?
Good luck to you..
Posted by studio91Ok thank you.Posted by PhenjxIt's the only way he wanted to end it (in a nice way).Posted by studio91Why do you think so?
He probably meant Break-up
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This is just soo odd to me...how are you ok with him fucking other women? I would say he is breaking up since he can't have sex with you, what is the point? He is having sex with other women which is creating guilt for him.
Posted by MoonbutterThat's love and i am someone who sees hope and always sees for the better. Okay thank you.
This is just soo odd to me...how are you ok with him fucking other women? I would say he is breaking up since he can't have sex with you, what is the point? He is having sex with other women which is creating guilt for him.
That's delusion. You guys been dating 6 months and not exclusive by now? Anyway, at least you are not totally heart broken.
Posted by MoonbutterI realise that it should be exclusive by now. I will be heart broken when he breaks up. Because he hadnt said it yet. Not properly enough. He says it as a break. Anyways thank you. I appreciate it.
That's delusion. You guys been dating 6 months and not exclusive by now? Anyway, at least you are not totally heart broken.
Posted by Phenjxi'm going to be real here.. i just read your other thread...it will go up in flames. 😢Posted by justagirlWhat do you reckon will happen?
Good luck to you..click to expand
it's goign to end up with you extremely hurt.. he keeps blocking you and you keep running back to him and smothering him. You are allowing him to do this shitty behavior to you. How many times in the past month have you done the push, pull, block thing? At least 6 or 7 yes? That's not healthy AT ALL.
Even when you love someone you don't tolerate this, you need to set healthy boundaries and find someone that will treat you like a priceless person that you are.
I'm an Aqua myself and am involved with a cancer... Yes they are moody, yes they get petulant, yes they hide in their shells.. BUT the behavior you have descirbed of this guy has nothing to do with him being a cancer but a dude that isn't interested in more than a buddy or sex...
You aren't exclusive so that changes everything. Are you pinning for someone that perhaps is not on the same page as you in regards to what you want long term?
Posted by justagirlYes he has done the blocking thing quite often. All i know is that i am in love with him, and i do see that he has treated me badly. Thank you.Posted by Phenjxi'm going to be real here.. i just read your other thread...it will go up in flames. 😢Posted by justagirlWhat do you reckon will happen?
Good luck to you..
it's goign to end up with you extremely hurt.. he keeps blocking you and you keep running back to him and smothering him. You are allowing him to do this shitty behavior to you. How many times in the past month have you done the push, pull, block thing? At least 6 or 7 yes? That's not healthy AT ALL.
Even when you love someone you don't tolerate this, you need to set healthy boundaries and find someone that will treat you like a priceless person that you are.
I'm an Aqua myself and am involved with a cancer... Yes they are moody, yes they get petulant, yes they hide in their shells.. BUT the behavior you have descirbed of this guy has nothing to do with him being a cancer but a dude that isn't interested in more than a buddy or sex...
You aren't exclusive so that changes everything. Are you pinning for someone that perhaps is not on the same page as you in regards to what you want long term?click to expand
Posted by killerwhalemoonThank you for letting me know on this and doing it for me. I do hope that things will get better, or else its just goodbye then. Thank you once again.
You both have libra moons. How ever he is a taurus mars and you have a cancer mars.
Your venus is aries and his is in cancer.
Taurus mars guys are really good at being distant. Ive dated one and have been studying them since. Their kind of detachment is far more than i can understand and you being a cancer mars desire to know your partners heart and soul and be that kind of close to some one. While his idea of close is different.
Not sure if he means break up but the last time a taurus mars wanted a "break" from me...never gpt em back..
Posted by narayanaIt's easy to say, but not easy to do. I look for the best even in the worst situations. Thank you for your comment. I wish i could easily just throw him out. I sincerely love him. Only time will tell.
Try your best to cut him off and move on, he's an egomaniac. You will find someone who respects you! He knows he has you hooked and he thinks he can play around like this. He clearly puts his own desires above everything, he's not worthy, tell him you're done with him and don't look back.
Posted by narayanaoh gosh... Thank you for sharing that. Slowly, i shall. it cant just happen.Posted by PhenjxI feel you, I've been there too.Posted by narayanaIt's easy to say, but not easy to do. I look for the best even in the worst situations. Thank you for your comment. I wish i could easily just throw him out. I sincerely love him. Only time will tell.
Try your best to cut him off and move on, he's an egomaniac. You will find someone who respects you! He knows he has you hooked and he thinks he can play around like this. He clearly puts his own desires above everything, he's not worthy, tell him you're done with him and don't look back.
Once a f***boy who took my v told me he doesn't want a relationship after 9 months of messing around with me. I cried all over the place and told him how important it was to have him around n stuff, while he offered me sex and nothing more. I kept thinking everything was going to turn out better. Now after half a year I feel so miserable I can't even look him in the eye, I recently blocked him everywhere and now I'm slowly gaining back my self confidence... I wish I realized he's not worthy back then. A lesson learned.
Respect yourself and don't be a doormat. Move on for your own good.click to expand
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"I feel that we are not taking the break seriously. It is not healthy if we keep acting like we are together. I hate to do this, I wish I could give you all the love you deserve. If we don't take this break seriously, we won't be able to move forward. We will be stuck and you won't be able to heal. I won't be able to figure out what my issues are. We need to stop communicating for some time to give ourselves time to figure things out. I am so sorry."
After which, he blocks me out.
So is this a break or a break up? Please let me know on what you think. I do hope that things become better.