My Sag's cancer moon is driving me nuts! Advice??

I've been dating my Sag man for about 2 years now and really, it's all been going very smoothly, pretty much.

I'm an Aries (Sun, moon, venus, north node...LOTS OF FIRE); He's a Sag with a cancer moon; and man sometimes he can be so sensitive and hard to talk to. There are days I don't know if I'm going to get his outgoing blunt sag traits or his emotional moody cancer traits.

I do love that he can be really in tune to other's feelings and is a very caring and nurturing type of guy; but the difficulty lies in my Aries talking to his Cancer side. I realize that I can be blunt and rather in your face with stuff, but why do I feel like I have to be the one to adapt to his sensitive/moody side? I don't mind meeting someone half way if they are willing to do the same; but it just seems like he's not - he can be very stubborn and unwilling to listen to my side if I have hurt his feelings with the WAY I've said something - nevermind the content - as soon as my tone gets edgy he goes in to his shell - it's rather frustrating to someone who would rather put all the cards on the table and discuss those things that are causing problems and then move on. He has taught me to be more patient (rather a hard task for an aries, but he's worth the lesson). As well, our age has mellowed us both out (me 40, him 49); but damn, his cancer moon can be a bear to deal with sometimes.

Any advice? Is this just something I have to deal with? Like I said above, if so, then if feels as though I have to change for him and it's not an equal "thing". (make sense?)

Yes, this will be cross posted in the Sag forum as well.

Thanks for any advice in advance.

From what you written it seem like Aries traits alot of Aries are sensitive and wanted to be treated like Queen/King in my experience but Aries are really not that hard to deal with you just need praise alot like Leos and maybe he even want to feel like you truly love him you know actions speaks louder..maybe you doing something that trigger him to do that??