britneybabe26
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Posted by Finbuff
Is it normal for a Cancer to move this fast - yes.
For you to sleep with him, and allow him to undress you, (I presume you were totally or close to naked) and then say no to intercourse, is teasing. I'd of rather you said, "I'm leaving because it's too early to sleep with you", or just sleep on the couch. Yeah he's probably got an attitude about you now after analyzing things. We DO analyze.
Give it time, he might come around...or he might not. I hated when women did this to me, but I usually wouldn't give up for several hours.
I know you're feeling like you did him wrong too, and that's why you're posting.
Yes we were totally naked. I feel guilty I didn't stop yes...did I try to be a tease? Hell no! I just stopped before going that far. So now what? Do I wait for him to text me? Did he pretend to be OK with it? Am I booty call now? Does he think well the next time we will have intercourse? We do follow each other on social media...he seems to be ignoring me on there too with not likeing any photos...anyway he didn't pressure me and still was kissing me sensually. Maybe he was glad I said no? Plus don't cancer males don't usually do the hook up thing?
Posted by Pisces15Posted by britneybabe26This sounds incredibly similar to my situation, in fact his behaviour is not far off the Cancer guy I was seeing / dating. What I've done is basically gone quiet on him, not chasing, just leaving him to think about things in his shell...I think he's retreated there for a bit of man space / time. I'm not pushing, pursuing, ball is in his court.Posted by Finbuff
Is it normal for a Cancer to move this fast - yes.
For you to sleep with him, and allow him to undress you, (I presume you were totally or close to naked) and then say no to intercourse, is teasing. I'd of rather you said, "I'm leaving because it's too early to sleep with you", or just sleep on the couch. Yeah he's probably got an attitude about you now after analyzing things. We DO analyze.
Give it time, he might come around...or he might not. I hated when women did this to me, but I usually wouldn't give up for several hours.
I know you're feeling like you did him wrong too, and that's why you're posting.
Yes we were totally naked. I feel guilty I didn't stop yes...did I try to be a tease? Hell no! I just stopped before going that far. So now what? Do I wait for him to text me? Did he pretend to be OK with it? Am I booty call now? Does he think well the next time we will have intercourse? We do follow each other on social media...he seems to be ignoring me on there too with not likeing any photos...anyway he didn't pressure me and still was kissing me sensually. Maybe he was glad I said no? Plus don't cancer males don't usually do the hook up thing?click to expand
Yes Im not going To contact him as well although he did say to send him some photos from my shoot before I left...another thing is do you think he changed his mind about Me? Does he think I'm teasing him?
I'm sorry but the term teasing is bs. You can do WHATEVER you feel comfortable with, whether your clothes are on or off it is TOTALLY up to you when you wanna stop. You are not obligated to satisfy his needs and if he doesn't like it, fuck him.
Posted by boxcarmirntaThank you for that. He seemed to respect my decision but then why the silence? He's analyzing what happened or it just means he's not really serious about me?
I'm sorry but the term teasing is bs. You can do WHATEVER you feel comfortable with, whether your clothes are on or off it is TOTALLY up to you when you wanna stop. You are not obligated to satisfy his needs and if he doesn't like it, fuck him.
Not sure about that...pisces15 has been trying to figure out the same thing...maybe its just a basic rejection thing and maybe he feels dumb? Guys are so insecure, its hard to say...id gently try and broach the topic with him, see what he says...
Posted by boxcarmirntaI don't want to chase him even thou I feel for him...I feel of he cared he would text me to see how am I doing...it's been 5 days 😢
Not sure about that...pisces15 has been trying to figure out the same thing...maybe its just a basic rejection thing and maybe he feels dumb? Guys are so insecure, its hard to say...id gently try and broach the topic with him, see what he says...
Britney,
Was it you posting a thread before you are going to have a vacation?
Was it you posting a thread before you are going to have a vacation?
Posted by M143Yep
Britney,
Was it you posting a thread before you are going to have a vacation?
Posted by britneybabe26You've got your answer 😆. Cancer folks tells you to go with what you want. You were there.Posted by M143Yep
Britney,
Was it you posting a thread before you are going to have a vacation?click to expand
see how I react that time? you are throwing yourself and less worthy of his effort.
I have a cancer brother. He didn't like it when women behaving like men..
also, I had a cancer office mate before.. funny of him he kept inviting me to have over night sleep with his family. I refused.
then he kept contacting me. I refused. Then he invited me to eat dinner with him. I paid his dinner so he won't contact me anymore.
but he kept contacting me until then and still inviting me to see him. I didn't do. until he completely forget me..'🙂
Doesn't mean he's not interested. He's probably waiting around for you to text first, which you shouldn't, because he will give in and text you. Don't show too much, it will keep him interested. When he contacts you though, do respond and be nice, otherwise he'll think you are rejecting him and he will move on.
But why would you want him to be serious about you if you are not even living in the same state? That doesn't make sense to me. If I were him, I would have already written you off as a potential girlfriend. What I mean is, he probably takes you seriously as a person, but not as a potential girlfriend. It comes down to:
1) sleeping with you will be a cool experience.
2) he has probably considered he might get hurt if he gets involved with you because you are in one state and he is in another.
Long distance relationships don't work. I'd wait a looooooooooong time to have sex with this guy if I were you, considering the circumstances. Let him have feelings for you first. Until he's chasing after you like a dog because HE LIKES YOU, not because he lusts for you, I wouldn't really recommend having sex with him so soon, because of the whole distance thing.
1) sleeping with you will be a cool experience.
2) he has probably considered he might get hurt if he gets involved with you because you are in one state and he is in another.
Long distance relationships don't work. I'd wait a looooooooooong time to have sex with this guy if I were you, considering the circumstances. Let him have feelings for you first. Until he's chasing after you like a dog because HE LIKES YOU, not because he lusts for you, I wouldn't really recommend having sex with him so soon, because of the whole distance thing.
But don't regret doing what you did. He doesn't care as much as you do.
Posted by oceanblueSo I should wait for him? That's what I thought too...he's making this so awkward thou because he's not saying anything. Of course I will be nice because I really do have feelings for him. :-)
Doesn't mean he's not interested. He's probably waiting around for you to text first, which you shouldn't, because he will give in and text you. Don't show too much, it will keep him interested. When he contacts you though, do respond and be nice, otherwise he'll think you are rejecting him and he will move on.
Posted by oceanblueWhy? Because I fell for him...he was the one chasing me first and I fell for his personality not just his physical self.
But why would you want him to be serious about you if you are not even living in the same state? That doesn't make sense to me. If I were him, I would have already written you off as a potential girlfriend. What I mean is, he probably takes you seriously as a person, but not as a potential girlfriend. It comes down to:
1) sleeping with you will be a cool experience.
2) he has probably considered he might get hurt if he gets involved with you because you are in one state and he is in another.
Long distance relationships don't work. I'd wait a looooooooooong time to have sex with this guy if I were you, considering the circumstances. Let him have feelings for you first. Until he's chasing after you like a dog because HE LIKES YOU, not because he lusts for you, I wouldn't really recommend having sex with him so soon, because of the whole distance thing.
Omg your advice makes so much sense. You have opened my eyes but it hurts so much...I know its long distance but other couples at least try.I guess he doesn't want to try and you're right he's probably just looking to this as an experience. I'm 25 and he's 36.
Posted by KsamCancerIf this is how cancer men operate I'm good to go... Why would you even attack her that way? Isn't this forum here to help people? I notice a lot of you (most cancers) chip off the heads of the ones that needs the advice. Ok maybe she didn't get a plyaable answer when she asked the last time around... They does not give you the right to shun her this way! We are all here for help! If most cancers would grow the hecker up and tell us what's really going on then maybe there wouldn't be anything to ask about! Geez Louise!!! You just wrong for this!!!
Because youre dumb af seriously you fit dxps target audience well
Posted by M143Posted by britneybabe26You've got your answer 😆. Cancer folks tells you to go with what you want. You were there.Posted by M143Yep
Britney,
Was it you posting a thread before you are going to have a vacation?
see how I react that time? you are throwing yourself and less worthy of his effort.
I have a cancer brother. He didn't like it when women behaving like men..
also, I had a cancer office mate before.. funny of him he kept inviting me to have over night sleep with his family. I refused.
then he kept contacting me. I refused. Then he invited me to eat dinner with him. I paid his dinner so he won't contact me anymore.
but he kept contacting me until then and still inviting me to see him. I didn't do. until he completely forget me..'🙂
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I'm sorry but I have to disagree with you because I never there myself at him. He's the one who initiates. Just because I traveled to see him?! When I'm with him I don't even make a move he does...so I don't get what you're saying
Posted by britneybabe26@oceanblue my trsltionshop started off long distance and we grew very close to each other... Forget now that 8 months down the line we are done cause it had nothing to do with long distance... In fact we facetimed and had steamy phone sex and other things that kept us going. It is possible and your conclusion is wrong. For some cancers at least.Posted by oceanblueWhy? Because I fell for him...he was the one chasing me first and I fell for his personality not just his physical self.
But why would you want him to be serious about you if you are not even living in the same state? That doesn't make sense to me. If I were him, I would have already written you off as a potential girlfriend. What I mean is, he probably takes you seriously as a person, but not as a potential girlfriend. It comes down to:
1) sleeping with you will be a cool experience.
2) he has probably considered he might get hurt if he gets involved with you because you are in one state and he is in another.
Long distance relationships don't work. I'd wait a looooooooooong time to have sex with this guy if I were you, considering the circumstances. Let him have feelings for you first. Until he's chasing after you like a dog because HE LIKES YOU, not because he lusts for you, I wouldn't really recommend having sex with him so soon, because of the whole distance thing.
Omg your advice makes so much sense. You have opened my eyes but it hurts so much...I know its long distance but other couples at least try.I guess he doesn't want to try and you're right he's probably just looking to this as an experience. I'm 25 and he's 36.click to expand
Posted by FinbuffPosted by britneybabe26I am serious, how old are you? You seem to be about 20-25 yo? I ask this because you apparently don't know that it's teasing a man of similar age, when you allow him take your clothes off, see you naked, and then not allow him to have sex with you? I find it hard to believe you are this naive and clueless. You don't get naked for a man unless you want to let him take you all the way. You had the ability to say no, but you didn't exercise any control.Posted by Finbuff
Is it normal for a Cancer to move this fast - yes.
For you to sleep with him, and allow him to undress you, (I presume you were totally or close to naked) and then say no to intercourse, is teasing. I'd of rather you said, "I'm leaving because it's too early to sleep with you", or just sleep on the couch. Yeah he's probably got an attitude about you now after analyzing things. We DO analyze.
Give it time, he might come around...or he might not. I hated when women did this to me, but I usually wouldn't give up for several hours.
I know you're feeling like you did him wrong too, and that's why you're posting.
Yes we were totally naked. I feel guilty I didn't strs...did I try to be a tease? Hell no! I just stopped before going that far. So now what? Do I wait for him to text me? Did he pretend to be OK with it? Am I booty call now? Does he think well the next time we will have intercourse? We do follow each other on social media...he seems to be ignoring me on there too with not likeing any photos...anyway he didn't pressure me and still was kissing me sensually. Maybe he was glad I said no? Plus don't cancer males don't usually do the hook up thing?click to expand
Youre right I am 25 and he's 36. Yes and I said no when he wanted intercourse. Foreplay feels good as well right? Plus he didn't say anything before warning me he wants sex or casual sex only.
Posted by britneybabe26What's his birthday?Posted by oceanblueWhy? Because I fell for him...he was the one chasing me first and I fell for his personality not just his physical self.
But why would you want him to be serious about you if you are not even living in the same state? That doesn't make sense to me. If I were him, I would have already written you off as a potential girlfriend. What I mean is, he probably takes you seriously as a person, but not as a potential girlfriend. It comes down to:
1) sleeping with you will be a cool experience.
2) he has probably considered he might get hurt if he gets involved with you because you are in one state and he is in another.
Long distance relationships don't work. I'd wait a looooooooooong time to have sex with this guy if I were you, considering the circumstances. Let him have feelings for you first. Until he's chasing after you like a dog because HE LIKES YOU, not because he lusts for you, I wouldn't really recommend having sex with him so soon, because of the whole distance thing.
Omg your advice makes so much sense. You have opened my eyes but it hurts so much...I know its long distance but other couples at least try.I guess he doesn't want to try and you're right he's probably just looking to this as an experience. I'm 25 and he's 36.click to expand
Posted by KsamCancerLmao.... Someone is in a crabby patty mood... When yall get like this is laugh cause the others don't see yall moody..... Crabby assssss mother lover smhPosted by thinktoomuchThe minute you dumbasses came here with your problems
When did the tone in the cancer forum become so nasty? Jeeeeesh!click to expand
Posted by KsamCancerThis was my quote: @oceanblue my trsltionshop started off long distance and we grew very close to each other... Forget now that 8 months down the line we are done cause it had nothing to do with long distance... In fact we facetimed and had steamy phone sex and other things that kept us going. It is possible and your conclusion is wrong.Posted by ShaniajamPlease do more research, all Cancer men are not the samePosted by KsamCancerIf this is how cancer men operate I'm good to go...
Because youre dumb af seriously you fit dxps target audience wellclick to expand
For some cancers at least
Notice the last sentence? Stop quoting stupidness.
Posted by ShaniajamPosted by britneybabe26What's his birthday?Posted by oceanblueWhy? Because I fell for him...he was the one chasing me first and I fell for his personality not just his physical self.
But why would you want him to be serious about you if you are not even living in the same state? That doesn't make sense to me. If I were him, I would have already written you off as a potential girlfriend. What I mean is, he probably takes you seriously as a person, but not as a potential girlfriend. It comes down to:
1) sleeping with you will be a cool experience.
2) he has probably considered he might get hurt if he gets involved with you because you are in one state and he is in another.
Long distance relationships don't work. I'd wait a looooooooooong time to have sex with this guy if I were you, considering the circumstances. Let him have feelings for you first. Until he's chasing after you like a dog because HE LIKES YOU, not because he lusts for you, I wouldn't really recommend having sex with him so soon, because of the whole distance thing.
Omg your advice makes so much sense. You have opened my eyes but it hurts so much...I know its long distance but other couples at least try.I guess he doesn't want to try and you're right he's probably just looking to this as an experience. I'm 25 and he's 36.click to expand
July 17
Posted by KsamCancerCan you @ the Thot please so I know who it is you referring to I don't do side steps like crabs and I'm ready....
I don't even know why Im arguing with some thots who put so much weight on a guy. Where u at @kodak375
Posted by britneybabe26Ok good. Sound similar to my cancer boo cause of the age and the whole long distance thing but you good... Sorry lolPosted by ShaniajamPosted by britneybabe26What's his birthday?Posted by oceanblueWhy? Because I fell for him...he was the one chasing me first and I fell for his personality not just his physical self.
But why would you want him to be serious about you if you are not even living in the same state? That doesn't make sense to me. If I were him, I would have already written you off as a potential girlfriend. What I mean is, he probably takes you seriously as a person, but not as a potential girlfriend. It comes down to:
1) sleeping with you will be a cool experience.
2) he has probably considered he might get hurt if he gets involved with you because you are in one state and he is in another.
Long distance relationships don't work. I'd wait a looooooooooong time to have sex with this guy if I were you, considering the circumstances. Let him have feelings for you first. Until he's chasing after you like a dog because HE LIKES YOU, not because he lusts for you, I wouldn't really recommend having sex with him so soon, because of the whole distance thing.
Omg your advice makes so much sense. You have opened my eyes but it hurts so much...I know its long distance but other couples at least try.I guess he doesn't want to try and you're right he's probably just looking to this as an experience. I'm 25 and he's 36.
July 17click to expand
Posted by ShaniajamPosted by britneybabe26Ok good. Sound similar to my cancer boo cause of the age and the whole long distance thing but you good... Sorry lolPosted by ShaniajamPosted by britneybabe26What's his birthday?Posted by oceanblueWhy? Because I fell for him...he was the one chasing me first and I fell for his personality not just his physical self.
But why would you want him to be serious about you if you are not even living in the same state? That doesn't make sense to me. If I were him, I would have already written you off as a potential girlfriend. What I mean is, he probably takes you seriously as a person, but not as a potential girlfriend. It comes down to:
1) sleeping with you will be a cool experience.
2) he has probably considered he might get hurt if he gets involved with you because you are in one state and he is in another.
Long distance relationships don't work. I'd wait a looooooooooong time to have sex with this guy if I were you, considering the circumstances. Let him have feelings for you first. Until he's chasing after you like a dog because HE LIKES YOU, not because he lusts for you, I wouldn't really recommend having sex with him so soon, because of the whole distance thing.
Omg your advice makes so much sense. You have opened my eyes but it hurts so much...I know its long distance but other couples at least try.I guess he doesn't want to try and you're right he's probably just looking to this as an experience. I'm 25 and he's 36.
July 17click to expand
So what should I do please? Wait for him to contact me?
Posted by britneybabe26Yes don't contact him! My mistake was being too clingy persistent and chasing... Okay cool. I know you miss him but look at it this way, if he contacts you then he's interested and if he don't you know where you stand and you can date others. Don't wait by the phone that was my mistake.... Stay busy. You will get used to it eventually. I messed up but the next cancer? I'm ready. Don't be to wrapped up in them.Posted by ShaniajamPosted by britneybabe26Ok good. Sound similar to my cancer boo cause of the age and the whole long distance thing but you good... Sorry lolPosted by ShaniajamPosted by britneybabe26What's his birthday?Posted by oceanblueWhy? Because I fell for him...he was the one chasing me first and I fell for his personality not just his physical self.
But why would you want him to be serious about you if you are not even living in the same state? That doesn't make sense to me. If I were him, I would have already written you off as a potential girlfriend. What I mean is, he probably takes you seriously as a person, but not as a potential girlfriend. It comes down to:
1) sleeping with you will be a cool experience.
2) he has probably considered he might get hurt if he gets involved with you because you are in one state and he is in another.
Long distance relationships don't work. I'd wait a looooooooooong time to have sex with this guy if I were you, considering the circumstances. Let him have feelings for you first. Until he's chasing after you like a dog because HE LIKES YOU, not because he lusts for you, I wouldn't really recommend having sex with him so soon, because of the whole distance thing.
Omg your advice makes so much sense. You have opened my eyes but it hurts so much...I know its long distance but other couples at least try.I guess he doesn't want to try and you're right he's probably just looking to this as an experience. I'm 25 and he's 36.
July 17
So what should I do please? Wait for him to contact me?click to expand
Posted by ShaniajamOk thank you babe xoxoPosted by britneybabe26Yes don't contact him! My mistake was being too clingy persistent and chasing... Okay cool. I know you miss him but look at it this way, if he contacts you then he's interested and if he don't you know where you stand and you can date others. Don't wait by the phone that was my mistake.... Stay busy. You will get used to it eventually. I messed up but the next cancer? I'm ready. Don't be to wrapped up in them.Posted by ShaniajamPosted by britneybabe26Ok good. Sound similar to my cancer boo cause of the age and the whole long distance thing but you good... Sorry lolPosted by ShaniajamPosted by britneybabe26What's his birthday?Posted by oceanblueWhy? Because I fell for him...he was the one chasing me first and I fell for his personality not just his physical self.
But why would you want him to be serious about you if you are not even living in the same state? That doesn't make sense to me. If I were him, I would have already written you off as a potential girlfriend. What I mean is, he probably takes you seriously as a person, but not as a potential girlfriend. It comes down to:
1) sleeping with you will be a cool experience.
2) he has probably considered he might get hurt if he gets involved with you because you are in one state and he is in another.
Long distance relationships don't work. I'd wait a looooooooooong time to have sex with this guy if I were you, considering the circumstances. Let him have feelings for you first. Until he's chasing after you like a dog because HE LIKES YOU, not because he lusts for you, I wouldn't really recommend having sex with him so soon, because of the whole distance thing.
Omg your advice makes so much sense. You have opened my eyes but it hurts so much...I know its long distance but other couples at least try.I guess he doesn't want to try and you're right he's probably just looking to this as an experience. I'm 25 and he's 36.
July 17
So what should I do please? Wait for him to contact me?click to expand
Posted by FinbuffSo I shouldn't contact him right? He's really that pissed off? If he cared he wouldn't be right.
Britney Baby, it's typically left unspoken in sexual situations, that the woman tells the man "No" before contact gets too heated, partiularly before removing clothes, IF the woman does not want sexual contact. The man being the aggressor, (except for millenial - sexually castrated, pansy, Peter Pan type men - think Prince Pisces) has to be told when to stop, so as not to tease. You led him on, IMO. With time to process, he's sulking in his shell. It's a FAST world, most likely he's moved on to his next potential prospect. JMO - TIFWIW.
Posted by MissGemmi
You'll get over it. It's a bitter cookie to eat, but chew it and swallow it. Don't chase him please. Keep quiet and move on, naturally. You might have felt the connection, because having such a connection is rare. Most Cancers are able to connect on that level with many others. It's their specialty leaving you with the notion you were special. You were special number 201 (cancer players)You are only special when they are unable to keep their emotions in check and burst open because they can't handle the suffering of unanswered feelings.
If that ain't happening, pack your emotional bags and leave They are very direct when in love, caring for you. There's really no swallowing of their feelings. They simply can not handle it. They might fall in depression if they swallow, knowing you can't reciprocate. He will come back, because you were a part of a short history of his life. If he keeps quiet about any of his feelings, know that he doesn't find it all deserving of his emotional energy. Be happy and cut the cord (if u can).
So basically if he doesn't contact me he doesn't really care that deep for me and it was only fun..he thought he would get sex I said no to intercourse, now he's wondering why I said no even thou he's not asking... We were intimate but he's acting so silent like nothing happened. It suxs so much because some on here are saying don't contact him while others do it if you care.
Posted by britneybabe26Don't let him know you do, otherwise he's gonna know how to manipulate you. Take it easy. When women have sex we release a hormone - oxytocin - which sends this "love" stimulus to the brain, differently from men that are charged with a high dosage of dopamine, not oxytocin. Depending on how far you went when you guys were fooling around, if you came, this may have clouded your judgement. Wait a few months to see if the feeling still lingers. Men fall in love before sex, women fall in love after sex. You get what I'm saying?Posted by oceanblueSo I should wait for him? That's what I thought too...he's making this so awkward thou because he's not saying anything. Of course I will be nice because I really do have feelings for him. :-)
Doesn't mean he's not interested. He's probably waiting around for you to text first, which you shouldn't, because he will give in and text you. Don't show too much, it will keep him interested. When he contacts you though, do respond and be nice, otherwise he'll think you are rejecting him and he will move on.click to expand
Like I said, he's waiting for you to say something so he is secure enough to know he has you wrapped around his fingers. Don't contact him, but if he contacts you act nice, but never let him know exactly how you feel, because you can't trust his intentions yet.
Posted by ShaniajamHe was born on the 17th and I was born on the 19th, I'm on the cusp here, so I'm just saying how I would feel about it if I were him. She loses nothing waiting for the right time to have sex, but she stands to lose a lot for not waiting. She can't trust this guy's intentions, specially because he's a guy. Cancer women are more open, but boys will be boys. There is no harm in waiting and analyzing things before acting on them. That's simply my two cents.Posted by britneybabe26@oceanblue my trsltionshop started off long distance and we grew very close to each other... Forget now that 8 months down the line we are done cause it had nothing to do with long distance... In fact we facetimed and had steamy phone sex and other things that kept us going. It is possible and your conclusion is wrong. For some cancers at least.Posted by oceanblueWhy? Because I fell for him...he was the one chasing me first and I fell for his personality not just his physical self.
But why would you want him to be serious about you if you are not even living in the same state? That doesn't make sense to me. If I were him, I would have already written you off as a potential girlfriend. What I mean is, he probably takes you seriously as a person, but not as a potential girlfriend. It comes down to:
1) sleeping with you will be a cool experience.
2) he has probably considered he might get hurt if he gets involved with you because you are in one state and he is in another.
Long distance relationships don't work. I'd wait a looooooooooong time to have sex with this guy if I were you, considering the circumstances. Let him have feelings for you first. Until he's chasing after you like a dog because HE LIKES YOU, not because he lusts for you, I wouldn't really recommend having sex with him so soon, because of the whole distance thing.
Omg your advice makes so much sense. You have opened my eyes but it hurts so much...I know its long distance but other couples at least try.I guess he doesn't want to try and you're right he's probably just looking to this as an experience. I'm 25 and he's 36.click to expand
Posted by oceanblueYou're right... Boys will be boysPosted by ShaniajamHe was born on the 17th and I was born on the 19th, I'm on the cusp here, so I'm just saying how I would feel about it if I were him. She loses nothing waiting for the right time to have sex, but she stands to lose a lot for not waiting. She can't trust this guy's intentions, specially because he's a guy. Cancer women are more open, but boys will be boys. There is no harm in waiting and analyzing things before acting on them. That's simply my two cents.Posted by britneybabe26@oceanblue my trsltionshop started off long distance and we grew very close to each other... Forget now that 8 months down the line we are done cause it had nothing to do with long distance... In fact we facetimed and had steamy phone sex and other things that kept us going. It is possible and your conclusion is wrong. For some cancers at least.Posted by oceanblueWhy? Because I fell for him...he was the one chasing me first and I fell for his personality not just his physical self.
But why would you want him to be serious about you if you are not even living in the same state? That doesn't make sense to me. If I were him, I would have already written you off as a potential girlfriend. What I mean is, he probably takes you seriously as a person, but not as a potential girlfriend. It comes down to:
1) sleeping with you will be a cool experience.
2) he has probably considered he might get hurt if he gets involved with you because you are in one state and he is in another.
Long distance relationships don't work. I'd wait a looooooooooong time to have sex with this guy if I were you, considering the circumstances. Let him have feelings for you first. Until he's chasing after you like a dog because HE LIKES YOU, not because he lusts for you, I wouldn't really recommend having sex with him so soon, because of the whole distance thing.
Omg your advice makes so much sense. You have opened my eyes but it hurts so much...I know its long distance but other couples at least try.I guess he doesn't want to try and you're right he's probably just looking to this as an experience. I'm 25 and he's 36.click to expand
Posted by MissGemmiExactly!! That's what I mean when I say if you don't message him and if he is truly interested in you, HE WILL give in, because he won't be able to control his impulse of talking to you. He's probably testing you with his silence to see if he has the upper hand and get secure about it. Since you don't know his intentions, he could be wanting to feel secure for two reasons: either he wants assurance you like him, because he likes you, or he wants assurance you like him so he knows he will eventually win you over and sleep with you.
You'll get over it. It's a bitter cookie to eat, but chew it and swallow it. Don't chase him please. Keep quiet and move on, naturally. You might have felt the connection, because having such a connection is rare. Most Cancers are able to connect on that level with many others. It's their specialty leaving you with the notion you were special. You were special number 201 (cancer players)You are only special when they are unable to keep their emotions in check and burst open because they can't handle the suffering of unanswered feelings.
If that ain't happening, pack your emotional bags and leave They are very direct when in love, caring for you. There's really no swallowing of their feelings. They simply can not handle it. They might fall in depression if they swallow, knowing you can't reciprocate. He will come back, because you were a part of a short history of his life. If he keeps quiet about any of his feelings, know that he doesn't find it all deserving of his emotional energy. Be happy and cut the cord (if u can).
I wouldn't make any impulsive decisions, if I were you.
Posted by FinbuffDude, no way!! Sexual rejection would have been if she only kissed him and said no no no no no all the time. She DID fool around. He's not stupid. He knows she's not rejecting him. She compromised a little and that's good enough already. At least in my books.
Ocean, I don't think I agree with that. In his eyes, from a Cancers perspective, she rejected him by withholding sex, so now it's up to her to "secure his feelings". The guy could be dying inside hoping she will atone for the sexual rejection. There is nothing worse than sexual rejection for a Cancer. If he didn't have some attraction for her, he wouldn't have asked her to sleep with him.
Posted by oceanblueThank you! How is that sexual rejection when I let him touch all of my body, he even fingered me just no intercourse. He should now I want him.Posted by FinbuffDude, no way!! Sexual rejection would have been if she only kissed him and said no no no no no all the time. She DID fool around. He's not stupid. He knows she's not rejecting him. She compromised a little and that's good enough already. At least in my books.
Ocean, I don't think I agree with that. In his eyes, from a Cancers perspective, she rejected him by withholding sex, so now it's up to her to "secure his feelings". The guy could be dying inside hoping she will atone for the sexual rejection. There is nothing worse than sexual rejection for a Cancer. If he didn't have some attraction for her, he wouldn't have asked her to sleep with him.click to expand
Posted by FinbuffPlaying games would be toying with a person's emotions when you are sure they have them. In this case it's self-preservation. She would be playing it safe and being smart. He is much older than her... that should be taken into consideration. Specially his rising sign. We are not talking about text-book cancer. He's on the cusp and his rising sign has a lot of influence at his age, if I'm not mistaken.
You can play your female games, and make no mistake, that's what it is. We are very disciplined in matters of love, and I've walked away from some pretty hot encounters, on principle alone, when I thought I was being led on or manipulated. The impulsive decision was already made when she let him undress her.
Posted by oceanblueWhat does that mean he's at his rising sun please? Silence is normal behavior for him?Posted by FinbuffPlaying games would be toying with a person's emotions when you are sure they have them. In this case it's self-preservation. She would be playing it safe and being smart. He is much older than her... that should be taken into consideration. Specially his rising sign. We are not talking about text-book cancer. He's on the cusp and his rising sign has a lot of influence at his age, if I'm not mistaken.
You can play your female games, and make no mistake, that's what it is. We are very disciplined in matters of love, and I've walked away from some pretty hot encounters, on principle alone, when I thought I was being led on or manipulated. The impulsive decision was already made when she let him undress her.click to expand
Posted by britneybabe26That's the spirit dear. Did you read what I told you about oxytocin? Always take that into account. Your judgement could be clouded at the moment, so don't hastily decide doing something you can't consider rationally.Posted by oceanblueThank you! How is that sexual rejection when I let him touch all of my body, he even fingered me just no intercourse. He should now I want him.Posted by FinbuffDude, no way!! Sexual rejection would have been if she only kissed him and said no no no no no all the time. She DID fool around. He's not stupid. He knows she's not rejecting him. She compromised a little and that's good enough already. At least in my books.
Ocean, I don't think I agree with that. In his eyes, from a Cancers perspective, she rejected him by withholding sex, so now it's up to her to "secure his feelings". The guy could be dying inside hoping she will atone for the sexual rejection. There is nothing worse than sexual rejection for a Cancer. If he didn't have some attraction for her, he wouldn't have asked her to sleep with him.click to expand
Posted by britneybabe26I don't know his rising sign. Only a birth chart could tell you that.Posted by oceanblueWhat does that mean he's at his rising sun please? Silence is normal behavior for him?Posted by FinbuffPlaying games would be toying with a person's emotions when you are sure they have them. In this case it's self-preservation. She would be playing it safe and being smart. He is much older than her... that should be taken into consideration. Specially his rising sign. We are not talking about text-book cancer. He's on the cusp and his rising sign has a lot of influence at his age, if I'm not mistaken.
You can play your female games, and make no mistake, that's what it is. We are very disciplined in matters of love, and I've walked away from some pretty hot encounters, on principle alone, when I thought I was being led on or manipulated. The impulsive decision was already made when she let him undress her.click to expand
Posted by FinbuffYes I didn't tell him why...just said no and he said OK.
Oh good Lord, do I have to be explicit about it? You women just don't get the physical side of it. You played a little girls game of hide and seek with him. I am 100% right on this, and you two are viewing it from a female (young one at that) perspective of this. OK - did you tell him WHY you didn't want intercourse with him, or did you let him guess?
If you told him exactly why not, then I will side with you. So far I haven't heard that. If you didn't specifically tell him, then he's viewing it as rejection - guaranteed.
You already said you liked him, so call him and feel him out.
Posted by FinbuffWith all do respect I think you are being very naive about this. We are talking about a 36 year old man she spent the night with and FOREPLAYED with. She may have not slept with him, but that's not rejection when the two of your are touching each other naked. That's sex!!! Apart from that, some women do that on purpose to keep the guy interested. Every man, no matter what sun sign is used to not having a girl give it up that easily.
Oh good Lord, do I have to be explicit about it? You women just don't get the physical side of it. You played a little girls game of hide and seek with him. I am 100% right on this, and you two are viewing it from a female (young one at that) perspective of this. OK - did you tell him WHY you didn't want intercourse with him, or did you let him guess?
If you told him exactly why not, then I will side with you. So far I haven't heard that. If you didn't specifically tell him, then he's viewing it as rejection - guaranteed.
You already said you liked him, so call him and feel him out.
She should wait for him to contact her, not the other way around. He's waiting to see if she will, but he probably won't be able to control himself in chasing after her, feelings aside, mostly because he hasn't yet put his penis in her.
Posted by FinbuffWhat do I say? Mention that night or act natural?
Oh good Lord, do I have to be explicit about it? You women just don't get the physical side of it. You played a little girls game of hide and seek with him. I am 100% right on this, and you two are viewing it from a female (young one at that) perspective of this. OK - did you tell him WHY you didn't want intercourse with him, or did you let him guess?
If you told him exactly why not, then I will side with you. So far I haven't heard that. If you didn't specifically tell him, then he's viewing it as rejection - guaranteed.
You already said you liked him, so call him and feel him out.
Posted by oceanblueOcean I didn't do that on purpose to keep him interested although I see how it looks and that's why it suxs. If he does contact me I will let you know. Damn but are those real feelings or only trying to see if the next him we will have intercoursePosted by FinbuffWith all do respect I think you are being very naive about this. We are talking about a 36 year old man she spent the night with and FOREPLAYED with. She may have not slept with him, but that's not rejection when the two of your are touching each other naked. That's sex!!! Apart from that, some women do that on purpose to keep the guy interested. Every man, no matter what sun sign is used to not having a girl give it up that easily.
Oh good Lord, do I have to be explicit about it? You women just don't get the physical side of it. You played a little girls game of hide and seek with him. I am 100% right on this, and you two are viewing it from a female (young one at that) perspective of this. OK - did you tell him WHY you didn't want intercourse with him, or did you let him guess?
If you told him exactly why not, then I will side with you. So far I haven't heard that. If you didn't specifically tell him, then he's viewing it as rejection - guaranteed.
You already said you liked him, so call him and feel him out.
She should wait for him to contact her, not the other way around. He's waiting to see if she will, but he probably won't be able to control himself in chasing after her, feelings aside, mostly because he hasn't yet put his penis in her.click to expand
Posted by britneybabe26Ok, precisely because you did that to keep him interested is why you shouldn't message him first. He knows you are interested. Don't walk for him. Let him contact you. Demonstrate your value. What sign are you? I think it's important at this point only YOU know how you feel. He doesn't need to know that yet, because if his intentions are not nice and he is immature, he has ammo to play with your heart...Posted by oceanblueOcean I didn't do that on purpose to keep him interested although I see how it looks and that's why it suxs. If he does contact me I will let you know. Damn but are those real feelings or only trying to see if the next him we will have intercoursePosted by FinbuffWith all do respect I think you are being very naive about this. We are talking about a 36 year old man she spent the night with and FOREPLAYED with. She may have not slept with him, but that's not rejection when the two of your are touching each other naked. That's sex!!! Apart from that, some women do that on purpose to keep the guy interested. Every man, no matter what sun sign is used to not having a girl give it up that easily.
Oh good Lord, do I have to be explicit about it? You women just don't get the physical side of it. You played a little girls game of hide and seek with him. I am 100% right on this, and you two are viewing it from a female (young one at that) perspective of this. OK - did you tell him WHY you didn't want intercourse with him, or did you let him guess?
If you told him exactly why not, then I will side with you. So far I haven't heard that. If you didn't specifically tell him, then he's viewing it as rejection - guaranteed.
You already said you liked him, so call him and feel him out.
She should wait for him to contact her, not the other way around. He's waiting to see if she will, but he probably won't be able to control himself in chasing after her, feelings aside, mostly because he hasn't yet put his penis in her.click to expand
I CANNOT BELIEVE people are telling you about toying, her body, she can stop and change her mind and does not owe anyone any explanation.
As a Cancer he may feel rejected yeah, I am a Cancer, but he might also be regretting what he did and overthinking if he should have done it. I have not known any Cancer males/females who move fast physically. As someone said, he may not be a textbook cancer.
As a Cancer he may feel rejected yeah, I am a Cancer, but he might also be regretting what he did and overthinking if he should have done it. I have not known any Cancer males/females who move fast physically. As someone said, he may not be a textbook cancer.
*didn't do that on purpose.
Guys, you make me feel like my Sun sign is not Cancer hahahaha you are getting all mushy and losing the perspective of playing it safe. I personally get more attracted to people I have a feeling are interested, but make it a little difficult. If I know I have the upper hand, that person is basically effed.
Posted by oceanblueI'm a GeminiPosted by britneybabe26Ok, precisely because you did that to keep him interested is why you shouldn't message him first. He knows you are interested. Don't walk for him. Let him contact you. Demonstrate your value. What sign are you? I think it's important at this point only YOU know how you feel. He doesn't need to know that yet, because if his intentions are not nice and he is immature, he has ammo to play with your heart...Posted by oceanblueOcean I didn't do that on purpose to keep him interested although I see how it looks and that's why it suxs. If he does contact me I will let you know. Damn but are those real feelings or only trying to see if the next him we will have intercoursePosted by FinbuffWith all do respect I think you are being very naive about this. We are talking about a 36 year old man she spent the night with and FOREPLAYED with. She may have not slept with him, but that's not rejection when the two of your are touching each other naked. That's sex!!! Apart from that, some women do that on purpose to keep the guy interested. Every man, no matter what sun sign is used to not having a girl give it up that easily.
Oh good Lord, do I have to be explicit about it? You women just don't get the physical side of it. You played a little girls game of hide and seek with him. I am 100% right on this, and you two are viewing it from a female (young one at that) perspective of this. OK - did you tell him WHY you didn't want intercourse with him, or did you let him guess?
If you told him exactly why not, then I will side with you. So far I haven't heard that. If you didn't specifically tell him, then he's viewing it as rejection - guaranteed.
You already said you liked him, so call him and feel him out.
She should wait for him to contact her, not the other way around. He's waiting to see if she will, but he probably won't be able to control himself in chasing after her, feelings aside, mostly because he hasn't yet put his penis in her.click to expand
Posted by britneybabe26Let me put it this way: Pretend I am this guy for a second.Posted by oceanblueI'm a GeminiPosted by britneybabe26Ok, precisely because you did that to keep him interested is why you shouldn't message him first. He knows you are interested. Don't walk for him. Let him contact you. Demonstrate your value. What sign are you? I think it's important at this point only YOU know how you feel. He doesn't need to know that yet, because if his intentions are not nice and he is immature, he has ammo to play with your heart...Posted by oceanblueOcean I didn't do that on purpose to keep him interested although I see how it looks and that's why it suxs. If he does contact me I will let you know. Damn but are those real feelings or only trying to see if the next him we will have intercoursePosted by FinbuffWith all do respect I think you are being very naive about this. We are talking about a 36 year old man she spent the night with and FOREPLAYED with. She may have not slept with him, but that's not rejection when the two of your are touching each other naked. That's sex!!! Apart from that, some women do that on purpose to keep the guy interested. Every man, no matter what sun sign is used to not having a girl give it up that easily.
Oh good Lord, do I have to be explicit about it? You women just don't get the physical side of it. You played a little girls game of hide and seek with him. I am 100% right on this, and you two are viewing it from a female (young one at that) perspective of this. OK - did you tell him WHY you didn't want intercourse with him, or did you let him guess?
If you told him exactly why not, then I will side with you. So far I haven't heard that. If you didn't specifically tell him, then he's viewing it as rejection - guaranteed.
You already said you liked him, so call him and feel him out.
She should wait for him to contact her, not the other way around. He's waiting to see if she will, but he probably won't be able to control himself in chasing after her, feelings aside, mostly because he hasn't yet put his penis in her.click to expand
Because you compromised with foreplay, I know you are interested. Because you haven't messaged me, I'm confused where you stand. I'm sitting here, waiting to get your message. If I REALLY like you, not just lust for you, I won't be able to control myself and in 3 to 5 days I will give in and message you. If I don't, it's not because I feel rej
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