Perfect way to give the cancer space!

Just sharing my thoughts. Cancers please share yours!

When I think of space I think if no texting, calling it anything. So when I leave this cancer alone. He texts one word like " good morning" or "hey. How are you?" Then not say anyhting else. I can bounce back immediately. But what's the point of talking if YOURE NOT GONNA TALK?!? While dating I think it's rude to give one word answers all the time. I see that my talkative Cancer has slowly turned into a mute! Working on patience but Virgos will explode

Posted by arietteheart2
Usually when they go quiet they want you to guess what's wrong with them but damn if Virgo doesn't even have patience for cancer...who does?!

Lol well they say that Virgos have no patience! I'm sure someone has patience for the cancer lol

Posted by VirgoCupcake
Just sharing my thoughts. Cancers please share yours!

When I think of space I think if no texting, calling it anything. So when I leave this cancer alone. He texts one word like " good morning" or "hey. How are you?" Then not say anyhting else. I can bounce back immediately. But what's the point of talking if YOURE NOT GONNA TALK?!? While dating I think it's rude to give one word answers all the time. I see that my talkative Cancer has slowly turned into a mute! Working on patience but Virgos will explode

Most of the time if he shuts down it's because of him dealing with a mood he's in and doesn't want to upset you with it. The crabby moods is an issue we Cancers hate as well but it's truly a mood that sometimes has NOTHING to do with you. It's very weird, but I know this is true because I made a choice to be single for about a year and find out what I like and who I need in my life (self-evaluation). I found out that I went through the exact same mood swings being single that I did when I was in a relationship. This help me gain emotional maturity and understanding on how to control my emotions.

During my younger immature years, I was an crabby manipulating asshole. I regret every bit of it.

I think they just like to keep in touch without risking too much. When my Cancer guy sends me those little one-word notes, I usually just send him back a smiley or an 'XO.' I think that's all he really wants, just to reassure himself that I'm still there. I sort of like it, getting those little notes and messages throughout the day -- it keeps us connected without having to have a whole drawn-out yakfest.

Posted by elevencats
I think they just like to keep in touch without risking too much. When my Cancer guy sends me those little one-word notes, I usually just send him back a smiley or an 'XO.' I think that's all he really wants, just to reassure himself that I'm still there. I sort of like it, getting those little notes and messages throughout the day -- it keeps us connected without having to have a whole drawn-out yakfest.

Yeah! I do the smiley face,the. "Xo" is something that I can do ! Thanks. I mean we used to talk all day and I'm sure that has to be over. But I just want the spark to pick back up! Want things to be consistent too

Posted by TrueCancerMale

Posted by VirgoCupcake
Just sharing my thoughts. Cancers please share yours!

When I think of space I think if no texting, calling it anything. So when I leave this cancer alone. He texts one word like " good morning" or "hey. How are you?" Then not say anyhting else. I can bounce back immediately. But what's the point of talking if YOURE NOT GONNA TALK?!? While dating I think it's rude to give one word answers all the time. I see that my talkative Cancer has slowly turned into a mute! Working on patience but Virgos will explode

Most of the time if he shuts down it's because of him dealing with a mood he's in and doesn't want to upset you with it. The crabby moods is an issue we Cancers hate as well but it's truly a mood that sometimes has NOTHING to do with you. It's very weird, but I know this is true because I made a choice to be single for about a year and find out what I like and who I need in my life (self-evaluation). I found out that I went through the exact same mood swings being single that I did when I was in a relationship. This help me gain emotional maturity and understanding on how to control my emotions.

During my younger immature years, I was an crabby manipulating asshole. I regret every bit of it.

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Pretty much this,

I find when I am ready to go into my shell its usually at the worst possible time, like a social event or an event that can't be rescheduled. I am slowly learning how to "maintain" and every crab has to if they want to keep people in their lives.

Posted by TrueCancerMale

Posted by VirgoCupcake
Just sharing my thoughts. Cancers please share yours!

When I think of space I think if no texting, calling it anything. So when I leave this cancer alone. He texts one word like " good morning" or "hey. How are you?" Then not say anyhting else. I can bounce back immediately. But what's the point of talking if YOURE NOT GONNA TALK?!? While dating I think it's rude to give one word answers all the time. I see that my talkative Cancer has slowly turned into a mute! Working on patience but Virgos will explode

Most of the time if he shuts down it's because of him dealing with a mood he's in and doesn't want to upset you with it. The crabby moods is an issue we Cancers hate as well but it's truly a mood that sometimes has NOTHING to do with you. It's very weird, but I know this is true because I made a choice to be single for about a year and find out what I like and who I need in my life (self-evaluation). I found out that I went through the exact same mood swings being single that I did when I was in a relationship. This help me gain emotional maturity and understanding on how to control my emotions.

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+1

My Cancer has been very stand-offish too. I hear randomly from him.
I haven't heard from him since Friday. Should I leave him be or wait for him to come around?
I know he is dealing with stuff due to his up-coming move.
Whats best?

@Woodenmeow best thing for you to do is to let your Cancer be. If he's moving, let him deal with that. If he comes out of the shell after that, then he cares. Don't pressure him to come out. Let him know you care, but also you got respect for yourself. He may call by Tuesday or Wednesday. So just give him his shell time. If he really wants you, his actions will reflect that. Definitely follow what your heart tells you more than anything ok. Be Safe & remember its not your fault 🙂

@2BlackIndian3-
Thanks. I am trying to do the right thing. Its a fine line between giving him his space and letting him know I care. So if I don't hear anything by then text him? And if so say what?
I guess I thought he would want to see me before he left. He has to be in Tennesse by July 1st.
So the days are ticking away.

Well Call him tomorrow, & just let him know you care & that wanted to see if he's doing ok. Just voice your concerns in a none critical way. If he answers or contact you by then, good. If not don't worry about it. Because he has do his part too. You can't make him talk to you. Besides if he really does care, he will try to see you before he goes. Reall this is all you can do for now. If he was, or is thinking about you, he will contact you on his own. Yiu shouldn't have to force anything alright.

hello, same issue here. cancer man being so distant. different like he used to be. feels like been treated like just a friend. only talk when he wants to talk after that dont say anything at all. i know he's super busy with his work stuff (workerholic), dealing with his moods. my friends told me in general if he still have feeling whatever it is, no matter what happen he will just say hi. i can be able not to talk to him for 6 days.

get confused dont know what to do. if im there when he comes to me. i worry being taking for granted for always there for him even though he's not there when i need him. i know it's good being independent, but if no anything from him soon or later feels not needed anymore and worst been thinking of feelings fade, simply not into me. friends told me simply act like you dont care cos people change u like it or not.

any advice from u guys related to giving space? thank you 🙂

@sagirl, basically what i told the lady on page1, you can try that. You shouldn't have to beg anyone to talk to you. Lets throw astrology out the window for a min. It's really him that's the problem. If he isn't freely contacting you at all within a week, then you definitely don't need him. Besides, if he was a true BF or even BF material, he wouldn't be ignoring you no matter how busy he is. I'm sure he ain't that busy to at least call once. If his actions aren't sincere, why stick around. See!

@ Sagirl & 2BlackIndian3 -

I still haven't heard from Cancer guy either. Its been 5 days. I have been tempted to text him. But the more I think about it, I agree. IF you are a priority then he will find 5 mins to text you.
I think what is a hard pill to swallow is that basically I thought he cared and he doesn't.
And no one wants to think that a person they care about doesn't care about them back.
I am going through the same thing.

@WoodenMeow I understand your pain 😢. Its happened to me before as well. But you and sagirl, have to understand its not your fault for theseguys behaver. Listen to what your tells you. You know deep if this is how you wanna be treated. A man that cares wouldn't treat someone he's interested in like how y'all are being treated. Actions definitely show more than words. Don't let this stuff make you feel bad ok. Its a beautiful day out there, go enjoy it 🙂

@2BlackIndian3 thank you for the advice, you are really nice person 🙂@woodenmeouw i totally understand how's your feeling, we are in the same page, deal with the same typical person. i think the best way, is to let him chase you, MAKE HIM MISS YOU.

bcos i've learned the more i chase him, the more i text him, the more i expect for it. i assume the more he feel annoyed and avoid me.
based on my experience is that, if i text him before he text me first. only 3 outcomes i received: he just simply say hmmm, ok, goodnight. second he's angry might bcos the bad mood & the bad timing of texting, and third is worst = silence. he always reply fast as usual but what's the point if i know he doesnt want to talk to me.

before, im desperately need texts from him bcos before cancer man is the sweetest person i guess, always be there for u texting 24/7 but i realise people change, and now i have to start changing at least i will act i dont care, the point is just he should be feel regret of losing someone like you. bcos YOU are the PRICE. make yourself busy, go enjoy your day, reward yourself do make over etc. and once he come back, he will find you absolutely gorgeous girl :p whatever happen do not find him first.

and remember he needs space and freedom. when he come back, make that moment is unforgettable, then u can say, sweetheart i dont like if u disappear like that, it hurts me a lot. i hope this help. it's not easy dealing with this kinda relationship where you cant communicate everyday and not all women can do it also indeed i agree with u, they care and they dont. it's really confusing and not easy. but i hope it's worth it.

If a man really wants any women he will see her worth and know it's not going to be easy and pursue her.- this words make me change. let's live at our best and act we do not need them (BE INDEPENDENT WOMAN) lol they are the one who need us. *HUG*

No Problem @Sagirl 🙂. Remember you ladies got the "Cookie" at the end of the day. Make him work for it & show he means business. If he's not working to keep you happy, then let him go. You not being forced to keep him around if he not doing his job. Anyways, have a Bless one y'all

virgocupcake is cuckoo

Posted by woodenmeow
@ Sagirl & 2BlackIndian3 -

I still haven't heard from Cancer guy either. Its been 5 days. I have been tempted to text him. But the more I think about it, I agree. IF you are a priority then he will find 5 mins to text you.
I think what is a hard pill to swallow is that basically I thought he cared and he doesn't.
And no one wants to think that a person they care about doesn't care about them back.
I am going through the same thing.

men don't "multitask". they don't have priorities...they have A priority at a time...moving is his priority now.

try not to embrace any negative thoughts about this right now...give it some time now, till things settle in his life and you'll see later on...

That's sad when you care for someone who aren't missing you at all.. A sad part of a relationship where one struggle.. You talked about it when you meet , say everything don't pretend you're okay just for the sake of the relationship? Then try to move on little by little... Been there.