Cancerian Males/Females, please help

I'm in a long distance relationship with a Cancerian male. I've noticed that each time I'm out having fun - innocent girl fun with girlfriends! - he will go silent on me... Then when I question it he says something like he didn't go silent, and that it was a delayed response... It's frustrating!!!! I text him little messages while out or when I get back home and tell him I love him and miss him. He will read it and not respond

Also, he keeps asking me not to go silent on him - What?! I'm the one talking, he is the one blatantly ignoring my messages.

Is he jealous or ?

And for some warped reason I end up thinking he is seeing / talking with someone else when he is silent, I can't get how he would just back away like that...,he keeps saying I'm the only woman he wants blah blah but then he acts like this. Frustrates me to no end.

He's probably a little insecure about you being out with your girls and meeting guys around that time.
Just keep reassuring him that he is what you want and don't tell him all that you and your girls are doing.

Maybe I'm just too honest about everything... So yes, agree. I shouldn't tell him anything.

I just hate the silent treatment. I consider it rude... I also do reassure him all the time, so don't understand why he keeps zoning out when he knows I'm on my way out. Especially since he knows it hurts me

Yep i agree with Ariel. He probably don't wanna disturb you. At least he's considering your feelings. I say don't worry about. This isn't something worth arguing about you know. He's letting you be you. So enjoy your Cancer Man & remember to keep good communication. Try calling him some to make the relationship even better & close. Since Cancers like closeness, especially if it's long distance.

Plus Some Cancer Man don't do well with long distance relationships & party girls. But at least he's trying his best for you. Stay reassuring him on how much he means to you & how cute & handsome he is. Trust me, Cancer guys like that. If you can't handle this, then maybe you should find someone close to your city.

I give him constant reassurance 😢
No, I might be a sag, but I'm not a party girl. I seldom go out to socialize, also I'm too invested in him and us to think about walking away. He has made me look at parts of myself that need changing and he is everything to me.
Just this, the going quiet for reasons that are beyond me. I'm even extra mindful with what I say, but sometimes I let go - because I'm honest and have nothing to hide. He knows more about me than most people, so he's a big part of me.

Also, when I message him whilst out, it's a quickie every few hours or so, it's when I think of him or miss him.

So when he withdraws and goes silent it hurts me. I have told him this before but he still does it each time (when I go out)

Posted by SagSunshine2014
I give him constant reassurance 😢
No, I might be a sag, but I'm not a party girl. I seldom go out to socialize, also I'm too invested in him and us to think about walking away. He has made me look at parts of myself that need changing and he is everything to me.
Just this, the going quiet for reasons that are beyond me. I'm even extra mindful with what I say, but sometimes I let go - because I'm honest and have nothing to hide. He knows more about me than most people, so he's a big part of me.

Also, when I message him whilst out, it's a quickie every few hours or so, it's when I think of him or miss him.

So when he withdraws and goes silent it hurts me. I have told him this before but he still does it each time (when I go out)

When you say "long distance", what does that mean?
What caught my attention were the items I bolded in your post.
Have you told him any of these things? I'll get back to that in a moment.

I'm going to venture a guess here and say that he's a little insecure, and his withdrawing could be him sorting out/fighting those insecurities. It may be from your point of view a little childish, but its just the way Cancers can get when they're not sure.
I doubt his silent periods (based on your other post) are because he is with someone else, at least not anyone in a romantic manner-aside from withdrawing, he could be shooting pool with friends or other stuff. Like you, he probably has things going on--what I'm saying here is don't read much into it.

Now I'm going to circle back to the earlier part of my post. LDR's are tricky business. I asked how far because do you two Skype, periodically see other? It's important to to have that contact (especially for Cancers) when you two have a connection. Relationship by text alone doesn't really work in my opinion. I also think, as other posters have said, text him about all the fun you're having--he might interpret that as "fun without me".
You might want to CALL him, not text, and let him know one or more of the things I bolded if you haven't said anything. That would go a long way--especially if he is reassured he's on your mind even when you're out with friends.

Posted by Arielle83
I think he figures you're out having fun, why keep you from that by texting you.

Right. And also maybe he's controlling his feelings, trying not to get jealous, trying to justify his thoughts..

Thank you for all your responses, I appreciate it loads... Gave me much to think about

I am really creative in maintaining our communication - we do FaceTime, send voice notes, regular daily contact etc... Oh, and I have told him all those things, even when we are face to face... More than once...
I think I will try not to mention my social activities. My outings are really innocent fun and I often want to share the experiences with him, because I usually miss him when I'm out enjoying myself. But I'll keep quiet about it next time.

I don't see it as childish though. I get a tad jealous too, now and again. But i don't withdraw and have the Great Wall of Silence between us. I talk or voice my nonsense thoughts lol

Hehe,im in a quite similar situation,if you can read my post🙂