Scorp Women and Cancer Men.....Do they work—?

Hi Everyone!

I am Scorpio woman who has her eyes on a certain Cancer male. The only problem is that he is kinda seeing someone right now. She is an Aries. he has told me that they are pretty much at the end of their rope....she has told him that she has become bored with him and he does not feel like she gives him enough in the relationship (attention, caring, time etc.).

He has also expressed interest in me...but is waiting until things are completely settled to really try to start anything romantic with me. However, he still calls me every night....and we still spent the night together this wekend (no sex) just cuddling.

So, I guess I have three questions. 1) Are Cancer men compatible with Scorp woman? 2)Should I be concerned about this girl...or just be patient and allow her to slowly fade out of the pic? 3) How can a Scorp woman go about wooing a Cancer man?

Thanks guys!

Wow! Are you new to astrology? Well I can give you some in-depth information or some surface information. I believe I will start with just answering your questions.

1. Yes Cancer men are absolutely compatible with Scorpio women (I am speaking from experience)
2. The decision is yours about the other girl. My advice is not to wait around. Basically don't stop your life and wait for him because Cancer's are very moody and shifty. So while your new honey may be all lovey-dovey for the moment he may suddenly turn ice cold. Let him get this girl out of his system first. Be his friend and take things slow.
3. The third one is a little more difficult. To woo a cancer man...hmm...just be yourself. I mean you can manipulate him by sending him text messages or IM's or just calling to see how is day is going but that's about it. Again I suggest you let him get this other girl out of his system first. If not it will only make matters more complicated.

Good Luck...

Yea...thats pretty much what I figured was the best thing to do.

Do you think I should I still spend time with him and go out with him? Or, just lay low completely until the girl is completely out of the pic?

Well is this girl his girlfriend? As you know they say Cancer's are clingy and that they hate to lose anyone. I mean if they are just friends w/ benefits that is something different.

You can spend some time with him. But beware. You are gonna fall very hard for him. No matter how hard you try and fight it. They are so sweet when you least expect it. And also they are very honest...You know us Scorpio's love honesty!

They are friends with benifits...not in a commited relationship. If they were in a relatiionship...I wouldn't even bother, b/c that would be disrespectful. But they are not commited.

And YES we LOVE honesty. And YES he is so very honest. I guess I will just try to play it as cool possible and not allow myself to get too involved. I can already tell its going to be a challenge...b/c I already like him so much and we have not even known each other that long.

If you want him to be your man, lay low. Don't BE EASY. They love hard to get women. Unemotinally attached. If you want him for a sexual contact mate, give in. Its best you wait and pull out his manhood before you give up that SEX. DON'T GIVE IN TO THAT GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION. Its dangerous, and it will lead you into having a broken heart. Be different, very different from his girlfriend. Cancer men are manipulative ya know. Just be nice and kind and YOU have to be in CONTROL. Because HE is sure to try you. If you hold off on SEX. You can mold this man.

Just tread lightly...I don't see a problem with those two if she is telling him she's bored and they are not in a committed relationship. That means-Just disperse of whatever they have going on and let it die...

Have you asked what exactly he is looking for?

Please do that. Do not get caught out there. Again I am speaking from experience.

Yea isnt that with any man. LOL.

Yes, I hear you loud and clear. I am going to be nice, talk and see him every now and then...but still remain somewhat mysterious. That is what it sounds like everyone is telling me to do.

I know its going to be so hard...I already want to talk mushy with him. Ahhh!!! This is frustrating!

Karma,
U R right. Don't assume anything with this male. He sure will make U think something is going on that really is not if U R not careful and can reconize game.

Karima, yes I have asked what he is looking for.

He told me last night that he is looking for someone who he enjoys being around and vice versa. He said that he does not want to force anything...but at the same time he is not afriad of being in a relationship. Basically.....if he is spending time with someone and it manifests into a relationship...hes all for it.

He has also told me that he feels like he is getting older (he is only 29) and that he is ready to settle down...and he keeps bringing up the fact that he loves kids.

I have made it extremely clear to him that I am not into game playing and wasting time with men just for the sake of it. I explained to him that everything that I do has a purpose behind it....including the men that I date, and that I dont just spend and/or waste time with people for nothing to come out of it. And he said that he completely agreed with me. It seemed like he was being very sincere and honest.

Or maybe I am being naive...and he wasnt being sincere. It just sounded that way. Oh Lordie. Hmmm....

maianm,
Sounds like to same line that was used on me. Did U ask him does he have any kids?-Lay back he will come around no matter how U play your cards. He wants U to belong to him.

As a cancer I can say that I love it when a girl presents a challenge for me. Then again, I truly doubt that a cancer and scorp would be able to keep their distance for very long. And don't worry about the aries.. chances are he ended that relationship to be with you.

No, he doesnt have any kids....Krobe

SRG, yea I feel pretty confident that he is going to boot the Aries to the curb...so I am not really pushing things. I really dont call him much. I let him call me and email me first, most of the time.

However, I do realize nothing is garauteed, and if him and this girl see each other things could possibly change. I have been telling him that she may change her tune and he may change his mind about her. But he always says that she is not going to change b/c thats just how she is and he is basically over it.

Hmmmmm......

You can forget about the aries.. sounds like your cancer friend's mind is already made up. Just wait till you guys get intimate.. then you'll really see what I mean.

You can forget about the aries.. sounds like your cancer friend's mind is already made up. Just wait till you guys get intimate.. then you'll really see what I mean.

SRG - well it will be a while before him and I are intimate.....but I can't lie. I am looking forward to it when the day DOES come. LOL 🙂

This boy is just GREAT! I just have remain in control. Argh!

It might happen sooner than you think..

Just out of curiousity, can you describe what it was like when you first met?

SRG - well its weird b/c we were introduced through mutual friends. My friend's (who I work with) boyfriend thought him and I would make cute couple. So....I gave my number to my friend's boyfriend and then he gave it to the Cancer.

The Cancer called me one night and we talked on the phone for about 5 dasy before we actually saw each other in person.

We met at a restaurant, at the bar...and he kept telling me how pretty I was blah blah blah. We laughed so HARD. He is halarious! We stayed at the restaurant until no one was left. The manager had to practically kick us out. We were sooo into each other - talking, laughing and getting to know one another.

The last time I saw him is when I spent the night over his house, b/c I was too tired to drive home, I live about 30 minutes away. That night he didnt try anything sexual. But he was on me like white on rice. LOL. He cuddled with me all night. Constantly...holding me throughout the night.

What do you think SRG?

so SRG,
IS that the answer, intimacy. I met a cancer guy, and its been six months. He wants to be intimate, but I just can't yet because of all the testing and challenges he has put me through. I can admit though, I have kept my cool. I don't care if he has other women, I just want him to show me his HIV negative wallet card first. I'm not trying to pressure him or force myself on him at all. He however, seems to want me to give up everything in my life for him and I just can't see myself doing that right now. Maybe in the future! Especially when he shows me safer ground than what I am on. But he is rough! Lord the challenges! U men test don't U.

Krobe - So you are going through Cancer men drama too!?!?!? LOL.

Lordie! See...my thing is I do care if my Cancer is dating other women. I want to be the only one. I guess that's the Scorpio in me. LOL.

Yeah
I want to be the ONLY one too. IF he made me feel like the ONLY one, I would be his ONLY one. But, i'm not going to be completely his, until he proves to be completely mines. I HAVE enough confidence and assurance of myself to know that when we do unite, I KNOW I got what it takes to keep him with ME. Right now HE can't be the only one so he says he can't deal with that! If I thought he was safe enough to be the only one I Guess it wouldn't hurt to give it a try. But NO NO not until he quits hitting me from the side. I NEVER know what's going to hit me next. I NEVER know what's coming or how it is coming. But THIS is what I LOVE about him though.

Krobe - You make good sense! I guess I ahve not been really dealign with my Cancer long enough to know how he is going to treat me, in the long run.

We are still in the courting phase. LOL. So, its too early to really tell. But that is why I am getting advice now. I wantto play all the right cards in the begining. To get my Cancer man! LOL

Let him come around to U. Sit back, because while U R the 1 who is putting value on yourself and learning to see what kind of person he is and just accepting him and dealing with the situation slowly. Let all these other women who want to spoil him, and buy him and CONVINCE him into being there man get there heart broken. U will win the prize. Just be patient. PATIENT! These men TEST.

Well from the sounds of it the Aries is really not that interested in him and is becoming bored with him...and thats the prob. But whatever.

I am just going to chill out and allow whatever happens to happen. 🙂

Are you in and your Cancer dating or are you guys both just interested in each other?

maianm,
We are suppose to be interested in each other. I have a man. I love him, but he is to controlling. I have the potential to earn 100+ a year. I have read that Cancer men will let there women work while they take care of home. OK I am independent, but I still want a man who understands that I NEED him to be a man. U know share the power, not a man who just wants to control all the finances. I know Cancer males love money as a security measure, OK I make the money. Cool. But, I need stability in my life, not side blows. It's like when he punches, he punches. REAL hard. I have read that is there defensive mechanisms. SO I guess once I can learn how to deal with these defensive mechanisms, I staying out the way. I just try to keep my cool. I also don't want to accept any or every kind of behavior in my life. Don't try to play me. I know all games, U cannot run nothing past me. However, catching me completely off guard, is enough to blow me back.

Got it! These Cancer men are tricky..but they are tricky in a good way. I have dated Sags, Gems and Pisces. And I prefer Cancer much more!

krobe03,
Thank you for the advice, just what I thought! Move out the way! These men love to test!

Hmmmmm...DAM!

I have to admit...now I am somewhat discouraged. But I will take your guys advice and just chill out for a little while and see what he does next.

I guess the important part is for me not to get too emotionally involved.

I did some research on Scorp/Cancer and it said that the Cancer is the most compatible sign for the Scorp. Well....I guess we shall see what the future holds. Obviously, i hope he drops the Aries like a bad habit. But I do understand about the Cancer being super clingy.

Thanks for the advice guys...i truly appreciate it!

What do you think SRG?

//I think you guys have some very smart mutual friends. Otherwise it's just like what happened with me and the last scorpio girl I met.. the moment our eyes met, we both knew what the other was thinking. It's always in the eyes.. and scorpios always have the most beautiful, intense and mesmerizing eyes. What else can I say.. just try to follow your heart, intuition and what you feel - not your head. If your cancer friend is being very open, honest and sincere with you.. you don't have anything to worry about. You'll soon see that the more time you spend together the stronger the bond will become.//

//What I meant by intimacy is that it's the most important test you have to pass - from there you will know for sure what to do next. Physical and mental intimacy is very important for both cancers and scorps.//

maianm, whats your birthday by the way?

My b-day is October 25th.

You know U.C it's funny you say Cancers need more space than Scorpio's. I never thought it possible but I am seeing that it is true. BUT when I talk to my Cancer he displays in little ways how lonely he is and he tells me how hard life is and how he wants to cry sometimes. But then when I call him-he doesn't pick up sometimes. I leave it alone but it hurts me. Then I always drive past his house-Just to make sure he is alone. Normally he is...

Cancers are a tough shell to crack. But when us Scorps get fed up. They can't handle it...I'm not seeing how we work in relationships at all. It is all very dysfunctional.

And Scorpio's are very possessive. It's scary sometimes just how possessive we really are...I try to tame it but that doesn't work all the time.

It's like we want total and all control or we lose control! And to top it off we are obsessive!

I too have a soft spot for cancers. I wish I had an answer to your question on how to "get" the guy. My best advice since he is kinda sorta seeing someone else is to get to know him and be his friend. Don't give in to the touchy feely stuff. I know that is easier said than done since those cancers have some sort of magnetic pull. Maybe he'll be feeling that pull too and if he can't have what he wants until the Aries is out of the picture, that might be all the incentive he needs to end it.

UC...him and I can date...but I told him that I dont want to date him until he kicks lil' Ms. Aries completely to the curb.

When he told me that she was not affectionate enough for him he was telling me that in explaination as to why they have been just dating and not in an official relationship...and why he feels that them dating is coming to an end...b/c he doesnt see where a relationship can come out of it.

But basically like I said...I am just going to play it cool and see what happens. If its meant to be...it will be.

Why all the negativity? Suspicion, possessive, obsessive, rebound.. etc.?? Why can't it just be cancer dude doesn't like aries girl but likes Scorpio girl? Maianm, you can always just ask your cancer friend straight up what his intentions are towards the aries and what they are towards you.

I think it's a legitimate question. If he doesn't like aries girl and he's free, why is it a problem?

//Of course it's a legitimate question and he should be the one to answer it. No games and no explanations.. just say straight up what your intentions are and make life easier for yourself and everyone around you.//

I think a large part of this might be my fault. I have not come out and just asked why is he still dating this girl.

First off....we just started talking on the phone about 7 days ago. We just first saw each other in person on Saturday. He told me about this girl the first night that we talked on the phone and then we talked a little bit about the situation on Easter. I did not press the issue b/c I made it very clear to him that I do not play second runner up. Furthermore, if he wants to deal with me romantically I have to be the only one in the picture, and I left it at that. I wanted him to do what he wanted with that info....whether it be just being friends with me and continue with this girl or dropping her and persuing something with me.

I thought it may be too early to push...

He said he understood where I was coming. I definitely agree that there must be some hold. I know that she went out of town this week and is coming back on Saturday. I also told him that I was not going to wait around for him...which I do not plan on doing.

I just wanted to see what he was going to do on his own. He has expressed interest in me and said that he really likes me...but he agreed that we should just be friends until (and if) him and this girl stop dealing with one another. I also know that she owes him money. I am not sure if that has anything to do with it....maybe I should ask him. I just did not want to dig too deep....b/c we really just met.

Cancer males are neurotic little bastards, and they really know how to bring the PSYCHO out of a Scorpio female. As I type this, my Cancer boyfriend (I'm a Scorp) insists on staying on the phone as I angrily sulk. We had gotten into a little fight about 15 min ago, and all I want to do is sleep; talking about my problems isn't my forte with THIS boyfriend because anytime I give him the slightest negative feedback about himself, he'll get all emotional, and clingy. I can literally feel his crab claw deathgrip through the phone, not letting me go to bed even though we're both extremely tired. I came to this site because I googled the keywords "Cancer males are crazy".

Hehe, the ball is on my court. Should I play the 'stay mad' card, or 'kiss and makeup' and have some fabulous sex(something Cancers can be quite good at) tonight?

Love,
Scorpio

Kiss and make up....I wish I could get to that point with me Cancer. KISS and MAKE UP!!!!! And have fabulous sex!!!!! Atleast, someone will be geting some! LOL

hmmm alot of anti- cancer here, spray us with cooking oil and we all urs, nah better yet smother us with I CANT BELIEVE it's not butter,lol. WE tasteeee dammn good.lol If you don't want us just distance urself and ease up and we good. Yes we clingy because we work hard for the love but what can i say i'm just a cancer.