Scorpio Woman and Cancer Male Marriage

I think that I am in quiet Cancer hell.. I married about 4 months ago to a very nice, gentle guy, soft spoken, beautiful smile..we live in different states but he said that would be temporary for he would relocate his business...law office for he said he's an attorney...we have had sex once in five months, even when he visits NOTHING...and he's a liar...at first I called a law office now there is no law office...he's been here to visit several times with me and he's always broke...are Cancers big liars do you know anybody..I thought they were family oriented and posessive and all of that good stuff..but this guy...We'll I think I;m in CANCER MARRIAGE HELL...can anybody advise me—

You married a guy 4 months ago...you live in different states and you know NOTHING about him.

You're kidding right?

Cancers can be liars. Not always with bad intentions, they are just secretive. Yes Cancers are family oriented and all that good stuff. However, I think this has alot more to do with just his sign. As I am not aware of your situation, I won't pass any judgments, but I think you should have gotten to know him a little better first. People tend to tell other people things and it could all be lies, but because you don't know the backgorund of that person, your natural instinct is to give them the benefit of the doubt, to then find out you were being played.

I think this is what may have happened to you, I am really sorry to hear that, because it is not just someone that you got acquainted with, you married him. But I hope for your sake you will use better judgment next time. Good Luck!

The jerk you married has nothing to do with being a Cancer. I think you've been taken for a ride and sadly misled. When Cancer's TRULY love you, you won't even need to question it. No we are not BIG LIARS...

**I thought they were family oriented and posessive and all of that good stuff**

We are with the ones we love...

I think you need to get out of this marriage and run as fast as you can!

Starfish:

We June Cancer babies aren't BIG LIARS...Now I will admit I tend to lie to spare another persons feelings...Or to my husband that about how that dent got in my car...Or...LOL!!!

LOL... yes that's right PeanutB... you all lie for good reason! I am going out with a June Cancer and I can relate... although I don't understand... but yeah 🙂

Wow inthegb,

That is sad. He is your husband now and you should support him. You are in this for thick and thin and he may need you most at this point in his life.

"at first I called a law office and now there is no law office"

I'm sorry, but could you elaborate? This could be the key to determining whether there is something serious going on his life that you need to support him with versus whether he is just a manipulative liar and you need to get out.

What I mean is, if for example his business was closed down, maybe bankrupt, and he felt ashamed to tell you what was going on then you need to encourage him to open up to you and let him know that now that you are married his problems are your problems and you will work on them together.

However if the law office thing was a scam....someone answering the phone as such and such law office for illegal/immoral purposes, then you need to get as far away from this guy as you can -NOW.

tHANKS FOR THE INPUT GUYS..for the record or to add clarity...I've known this guy for about 3 years at a distance..and have dated him for about a year...only in the past year did we relocate to different states due to employment...at the beginning he was going to law schooll, so he said but I didi not follow him to class ok to be sure..but in Illinois he worked for a law firm so I had not reason to think he was not in the law profession...we lost touch and about a year ago regained contact and started dating ok..when I called him initially on the number that he gave (2 separated working numbers) one had the message with the law firm and the other personal...my question is and was whether or not Cancers lie tremendously as it is becoming apparent that this guy does...this tendency never revealed itself before although I will say again I knew him from a distance, we had mutual friends at the time..I will say that he is nurturing, soft spoken good with my children and he is overall a nice guy as far as presentation goes...he may have health issues lurking for he is about 6'2" 280 lbs and fiftyies..maybe that is the reasonffor the lack of sexual appetite..I asked him if he was gay or something and he said no...and my sister we did not sleep together before marriage for I lived in abstinence by choice..

oh yea he is a july Cancer

well just because the second number was a personal number doesn't mean it's not for work - both my clients and the underwriters I woprk with give cell phone numbers as their work numbers and the message does not always specifically say what company they work for. Usually if someone has their cell phone number, even for work, they already know who they are calling and why. Plusd it often doubles a worka dn personal phone....so I don't see an issue about the phone thing...

The sex thing...WELL.... if you are giving him a hard time, for example by asking if he's gay, then yeah, he's probably not feeling like sleeping with you....it doesn't boost his ego for his wife to ask him "honey, are you sure you're not gay? maybe that's why we're not having sex" He could be stressed about being married.... From what you've said I don't see that he's doing anything wrong... there could be more going on here, but based on what you're telling us I think you're over-reacting and making things harder on both of you. A new marriage is difficult no matter how long you've known someone. You need to be patient.

hi inthegb, let me ask you a couple of quaetions if you don't mind....are you happy?how old are you?

I am neither stupid nor am I bored enough to act irationally and marry just to be getting married ok....how stupid was your comment..that's crazy or you are joking right just a little levity....my comment to him about being gay was after many nights in the bed together and not response...I considered at that time that it was perhaps the level of stress that comes with a new marriage, I also took into consideration that he may have anxiety as far as the distance between us..and I became the agressor and he responded and then nothing..because of our relationship I asked is there a problem medically, he said no...I asked was he aprehensive bout getting married he said no..and I said well are you gay..he said no///he had a problem that he would take up with the doctor and that this "sexual situation was new to him" it never happened before....so now I lay that to rest with you guy he told me last night that he has an appointment with the doctor and that he's been in denial about the ED because he's only 49 and he thought he was too young for it to happen with him...

Now about the telephone thing...the second number has benn disconnected for almost 2 months//both phone were cell phones...there is no land line phone for his business he told me...there is now no address for the business nor phone? I
contacted Florida licensing agency for attorneys..he is not registered...they told me he may be operating without a license...

By the way I am 4 years older than my husband..well next month he will be 49///
He told me last night that he has located another office and will move in soon and will have a landline phone on Monday....

It could be that I am over-reacting out of caution..but I hope that I am proceeding safely rather than irrationally..My initial ? was do Cancers lie extremely because in my study of the Cancer it indicated that they are family oriented, and all of the good stuff and that Cancer and Scorpio makes for an ideal couple////

Thanks for the input guys

no, cancers don't lie, my cancer(his birthday was yesterday, by the way-june cancer), he is very possessive(i love it), and he is so family orientated, we already planned when we're going to have our first child!!!!he has never lied to me about anything at all, or let me put it in a different way, everything he told me checked out!!!the only lies are of the type..."oh, baby, it was me the one that spilled the juice on the floor, it was Blackie(our cat)"......
good luck to you

well, then yes, it does seem there is more going here. I don't think that this is a cancer thing necessarily... yes cancers do tend to lie because they are insecure and trying to protect themselves and others.... they don't USUALLY lie maliciously... but certainly anyone CAN. It seems you need to sit him down and have a serious talk about what's going on with his business. Don't let it go until you're satisfied you're getting the truth. If you are married then he should be able to tell you the truth and if he can't then he is not putting his all into the marriaqe. BUT knowing how you scorps can be 😉 I caution you to be receptive and not accusatory!