The depth of a Cancer girls' feelings..

Is atonishing..

For those who know my back story, long story short, I recently broke up with a Cancer girl cause I fell for the Taurus Im dating right now, the Cancerian obviously didnt take it well at all and stopped all contact with me for a while, until today..

Today we had the proper "closure" talk, it was heavy, sad but had its happy and funny moments too, she did most of the talking at the beginning and it was then when I realized how in love she was/is with me and how much it was hurting, she was crying and crying, at some point it all became so intense that even I started crying too and feeling some regret for the damage done cause maybe I could have handled some things differently, in the end it became clear that we both care deeply for each other and as such we want to keep a really good friendship and vibe going despite everything, then we started joking around and laughing. I care so much for her, probably as much as she cares for me, but Im glad she understands the circumstances and Im also glad we made peace with each other. I feel really lucky to have met someone like her, shes one of the most genuine and awesome people I have ever met. She knows she will always have a special place in my heart. I never say never. Who knows what the future might bring and who knows if the circumstances that forced us to break up no longer stand in the way in the future, for now though Im happy with this outcome 🙂

Agree with the last statement, it just has nothing to do with my case.

Forces meaning, other circumstances plus the Taurus.

Ah, that feeling when you wish they could be as happy about your newfound bliss as you are, when in reality, they actually have their own feelings.

You're just revlieved she's not guilt-trippin' you anymore. That's not friendship or "deep feelings".

It is friendship and deep feelings cause we had both of them before the Taurus came in the picture.

She's as equally caring as she's smart, so Im not worried about her jugdement in this situation at all. She's full of courage and she knows what she wants unlike your typical textbook Cancerian (She has Venus and Mars in Leo)

Also the "circumstances" that Im referring to played as much of a role in our break up as the Taurus did.

I didnt cheat on her with the Taurus, I broke up with the Cancer before I did anything with the Taurus.

Besides I dont care if you believe or not about the other circumstances Im talking about, they were there, she knows about them and I know about them, thats good enough for me

She cares for me because shes emotionally mature enough to know that these things happen regardless of how much you care for someone, nothing is set in stone as far as relationships, nothing is for certain in life. I live by that reality 🙂

Thats not cheating, thats interacting with someone cause you like interacting with that person.

I know, very biased opinions too 😛

You are biased cause every assesment you make on Virgo guys is one way or another coloured by your negative experience with the Virguy you lost.

Posted by theHitchHiker
Oh and that is cheating mister. If you're emotionally involved with a woman and you pursue EVEN JUST EMOTIONALLY another woman, that's cheating. Spending time with another girl over your girl by itself is a big no no to most girls anyway.

How would you like it if your Taurean started hanging out with another guy, even if it was just "platonicly". Plus, unless you hid the cancer from the taurus she obviously has no respect for the boundaries of a relationship so why should she respect yours?

AND IF YOU DID HIDE THE CANCER you were cheating on both of them and if you weren't cheating then why did you feel the need to hide?

I think you and me just have very different ways of looking at relationships, thats all. No one is right or wrong.

Im ok with you thinking Im wrong, I know Im not and thats what really matters to me. I started this thread as a way of expression of something I had just experienced, not to look for advice or approval. The damage I did was in how I handled some things, not in breaking up with her or falling for the Taurus, I will never apologize for falling for someone else. You cant stop chemistry. You cant stop human nature.

^that was for Hitchiker^

Posted by CluelessCancer

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
You are biased cause every assesment you make on Virgo guys is one way or another coloured by your negative experience with the Virguy you lost.

I wish it was that simple, but i find the lot of you to be extremely obtuse. You have zero clue on how to interact with humans on a deeper level which makes you extremely inconsiderate and really selfish imo.

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Fair enough, but I disagree.

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Posted by theHitchHiker
Oh and that is cheating mister. If you're emotionally involved with a woman and you pursue EVEN JUST EMOTIONALLY another woman, that's cheating. Spending time with another girl over your girl by itself is a big no no to most girls anyway.

How would you like it if your Taurean started hanging out with another guy, even if it was just "platonicly". Plus, unless you hid the cancer from the taurus she obviously has no respect for the boundaries of a relationship so why should she respect yours?

AND IF YOU DID HIDE THE CANCER you were cheating on both of them and if you weren't cheating then why did you feel the need to hide?

I think you and me just have very different ways of looking at relationships, thats all. No one is right or wrong.

but that's the point, there is a RIGHT and WRONG in how you deal with people!

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I deal with people respecfully, thats why I broke up with the cancerian before doing anything with the Taurus

Posted by scorchedearth
becoming romantically/emotionally involved with one girl while being in a relationship with another girl IS cheating. it's called an emotional affair. you made it even worse by leaving one girl to be with the other. and you're likely to leave the taurus to be with someone new once you find something new and shiny to attach yourself to. guys like you justify poor behavior with excuses, but you're wrong.

Cheating is a conscious act, chemistry is not. To deny the obvious super strong chemistry between the Taurus and moi would have been a bigger injustice and lie than staying with the Cancerian regardless of it.

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Posted by theHitchHiker
Oh and that is cheating mister. If you're emotionally involved with a woman and you pursue EVEN JUST EMOTIONALLY another woman, that's cheating. Spending time with another girl over your girl by itself is a big no no to most girls anyway.

How would you like it if your Taurean started hanging out with another guy, even if it was just "platonicly". Plus, unless you hid the cancer from the taurus she obviously has no respect for the boundaries of a relationship so why should she respect yours?

AND IF YOU DID HIDE THE CANCER you were cheating on both of them and if you weren't cheating then why did you feel the need to hide?

I think you and me just have very different ways of looking at relationships, thats all. No one is right or wrong.

Okay so lets pretend we were dating. I'm an aries. Aries are fickle and bored easily. Since you're a virgo I'd probably get bored. (No offense, but virgos aren't exactly dare devils) so i start hanging out with this Leo because Leo's are right up there with Arian energy. He's so cool and rock climbs and etc. But it's cool cuz you're my bc me and Leo are just pals. Until one day I'm like the grass is greener over here bye!

Total boost to your ego right?

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Youre assuming Im boring just cause Im a Virgo, I stopped reading there, sorry (I got bored)

I was a manwhore for a period of my life until recently, yes, and I loved every minute of it, however I had had enough of it and therefore I entered a serious relationship with the Cancerian. Im still in relationship mode.

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Posted by scorchedearth
becoming romantically/emotionally involved with one girl while being in a relationship with another girl IS cheating. it's called an emotional affair. you made it even worse by leaving one girl to be with the other. and you're likely to leave the taurus to be with someone new once you find something new and shiny to attach yourself to. guys like you justify poor behavior with excuses, but you're wrong.

Cheating is a conscious act, chemistry is not. To deny the obvious super strong chemistry between the Taurus and moi would have been a bigger injustice and lie than staying with the Cancerian regardless of it.

THAT IS SUCH A COP OUT! That's like if the cancer had caught you kissing the taurus and you'd been like "She kissed me first!" Well why did she think that was okay?!

That's the most flimsy excuse ever.

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But none of that happened until I broke up with the Cancerian, so there goes your theory.

"Replacing" her was never a plan, so you cant call me a snake.

Posted by CluelessCancer
Scorched what's happened happened. What makes me laugh though is the OPs assumption that it's all good that he's going to get away with being a douche and perhaps one day "you never know" ...that something might happen between the two.

Forget a guy dumping me for another girl. I remember every "slight" about my x, it's burned in my memory, can you imagine if he had left me for another girl.

lol

Thats why I have so much respect for the cancerian, cause shes emotionally mature enough and intelligent to see things differently 🙂

Posted by scorchedearth
aries, both the virgo and i have as much if not more fire in our charts than you do. so really don't get all high and mighty about how interesting you are and how boring earth signs are. our the chart as a whole is what defines who you are. not just the sun sign.

Exactamente.

Posted by CluelessCancer

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Posted by CluelessCancer
Scorched what's happened happened. What makes me laugh though is the OPs assumption that it's all good that he's going to get away with being a douche and perhaps one day "you never know" ...that something might happen between the two.

Forget a guy dumping me for another girl. I remember every "slight" about my x, it's burned in my memory, can you imagine if he had left me for another girl.

lol

Thats why I have so much respect for the cancerian, cause shes emotionally mature enough and intelligent to see things differently 🙂

Are you telling me she's a doormat?

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Im telling you she knows well enough that Im not a douchebag and therefore still has good and genuine feelings for me

Posted by CluelessCancer
I want other cancer women to reply, is this guy right, are there mature and intelligent enough Cancer women out there that will allow a man to treat them this way and be like "Okay."

A douchebag wouldnt have been honest to her, I was honest the whole time. Thats why she respects me and wants my friendship

Posted by MissFisk
I've known enough Virgos to realize that once they've made up their minds that they're not at fault, they will find ways and reasons to justify their actions. All you can do is sit back and let them learn on their own. Reading the stubbornness in Shaka's tone and inability to perceive the situation from another angle reminds me of 2 other male Virgo I know. One I dated, the other about to go back half way around the world to see a woman he's been having an emotional affair with while his Cancer stays here trying to piece together what went wrong. It's astonishing how they rationalize things completely unaware how their fickleness affects others.

But good luck to you though, Shaka.

Oh, I can totally perceive things from other people's point of views, if that wasnt the case I wouldnt venture to post my love life on DXP 🙂 But fair enough, you can believe the version of the truth that suits your ideas about Virgos, thats fine.

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Posted by CluelessCancer
Scorched what's happened happened. What makes me laugh though is the OPs assumption that it's all good that he's going to get away with being a douche and perhaps one day "you never know" ...that something might happen between the two.

Forget a guy dumping me for another girl. I remember every "slight" about my x, it's burned in my memory, can you imagine if he had left me for another girl.

lol

Thats why I have so much respect for the cancerian, cause shes emotionally mature enough and intelligent to see things differently 🙂

Are you telling me she's a doormat?

Im telling you she knows well enough that Im not a douchebag and therefore still has good and genuine feelings for me

of course our feelings can remain long while, until our brains catch up-it doesn't happen overnight for us, but under the smoldering FIRE, is ICE. Believe that homey.

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Im pretty sure you are wrong to assume that as far as the cancerian Im dealing with

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Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
The depth of a Cancer girls' feelings....
..Is atonishing..

At this point I'm not going to pass any judgement on the aspects of fidelity or loyalty regarding your relationships.

What I get from your OP though, is that you are acknowledging the beauty of this Cancer womans heart, the depth of her feelings and in a way expressing that this experience with her has had an impact on you as a person.
Whether you are conscious of it or not, this experience has changed you in some way, the energetic vibration will resonate with you and may even help you become a better man, in the sense that we all grow, and evolve as we experience life.

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Thank you

Posted by theHitchHiker

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I was a manwhore for a period of my life until recently, yes, and I loved every minute of it, however I had had enough of it and therefore I entered a serious relationship with the Cancerian. Im still in relationship mode.

LolxInfinity. No honey, you're still a slut. That's like saying you recycle because you use a plastic twice before you throw it away. You're just using girls longer. If you were really in relationship mode you would have worked on whatever circumstances were straining your first relationship. That's what relationships are about.

Now i feel twice as bad for that poor girl because she probably thought she had changed you and that she was special and now she probably just feels twice as stupid and played.

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She doesnt feel that way, I talked to her long enough to know how she feels.

She felt upset, thats for sure, nobody can be upset forever though, she made a conscious decision not to let that destroy our beautiful friendship and connection.

Cap Moon, thats the way they roll.

Posted by scorchedearth
i'd be interested in seeing how she responds in a few weeks to a month. she could still be in shock not knowing wtf to do so she's trying to do the "right" thing.

I dont think so, shes too emotionally strong not to know what shes doing after a few weeks of processing the break up.

Posted by CluelessCancer

Posted by MissFisk

Posted by xMoonMan

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
The depth of a Cancer girls' feelings....
..Is atonishing..

At this point I'm not going to pass any judgement on the aspects of fidelity or loyalty regarding your relationships.

What I get from your OP though, is that you are acknowledging the beauty of this Cancer womans heart, the depth of her feelings and in a way expressing that this experience with her has had an impact on you as a person.
Whether you are conscious of it or not, this experience has changed you in some way, the energetic vibration will resonate with you and may even help you become a better man, in the sense that we all grow, and evolve as we experience life.

You have no idea how incredibly Libra you just sound moonman.

He sounds like an idiot, as if it's okay as long as the guy gets growth, that someone got used!

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He makes very valid points that you could certainly apply to your own life, CC.

If I was detached about the whole situation I wouldnt have cried when having the talk with the cancerian today.

If you would try to convince the cancerian Im dealing with that Im emotionally detached, she would give you the crazy lunar laugh for hours

Im a romantic guy

I know

Still Im super romantic

Im sure you couldnt wrap your head around the possibility of a Virgo being romantic

Romance is as necessary in life as all those other things

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Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
The depth of a Cancer girls' feelings....
..Is atonishing..

At this point I'm not going to pass any judgement on the aspects of fidelity or loyalty regarding your relationships.

What I get from your OP though, is that you are acknowledging the beauty of this Cancer womans heart, the depth of her feelings and in a way expressing that this experience with her has had an impact on you as a person.
Whether you are conscious of it or not, this experience has changed you in some way, the energetic vibration will resonate with you and may even help you become a better man, in the sense that we all grow, and evolve as we experience life.

You have no idea how incredibly Libra you just sound moonman.

Maybe, I guess you can see it that way.
I was coming from an esoteric point of view. A spiritual perspective, if you will.
Being human and feeling love, finding our way in life isn't always easy, we all know this, we all get hurt in relationships at some point in our life.
We all express and experience this life for our own unique soul purpose.
When two people form a relationship, regardless of whether this connection is perceived as good, bad, positive or negative, lasts a lifetime or just a few months or weeks, there is an exchange of energy and more than often, has a purpose for each person, in varying degrees.

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This is what I meant when I told Hitchiker that we just had different ways of looking at relationships. I live more towards above philosophy.

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Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
If I was detached about the whole situation I wouldnt have cried when having the talk with the cancerian today.

Tears schmears. Tears are the body's natural reaction to stress. They're also a beautiful tool that is almost always guaranteed to manipulate any woman.

The fact that you cried in the moment doesn't matter. You sound pretty dried up and almost like you're gloating now.

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Cool story, bro.

Posted by CluelessCancer
Romance can only temporarily cover douche, but douche will eventually show it self.

Exactly, Im glad the cancerian Im dealing with can see whos a real douche and who isnt 😉

If it werent for Romance, beautiful music wouldnt exist, beautiful and inspired art wouldnt exist. Romance is the motor of love.

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Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
Romance is as necessary in life as all those other things

but romance is worth dick without all those other things to go along with it. lots of players and womanizers give women romance and nothing else. i'm sure the women used by those "romantic" men aren't focused so much on that part when they're looking back after they got used and dumped.

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Difference is that I have the personality and honesty to back up being romantic

I started this thread cause I had a heavy talk with the cancerian a couple of hours ago, Im as entitled as anyone else to share and find outlets for stuff that happens in my life.

Posted by CluelessCancer

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
If it werent for Romance, beautiful music wouldnt exist, beautiful and inspired art wouldnt exist. Romance is the motor of love.

and sometimes manipulative lost douches.

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Very true!

I guess the haters are gonna hate. Most men can't even do what you just did.. Congrats on your love life.. Glad you didn't lead that cancer girl on.

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Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
Romance is as necessary in life as all those other things

but romance is worth dick without all those other things to go along with it. lots of players and womanizers give women romance and nothing else. i'm sure the women used by those "romantic" men aren't focused so much on that part when they're looking back after they got used and dumped.

Difference is that I have the personality and honesty to back up being romantic

but not the loyalty, the reliability, which are foundations for TRUST...you're not a trustworthy individual.

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If I werent reliable or trustworthy the Cancerian wouldnt want to deal with me or see me anymore, the truth is she wants my friendship and that is something you cant quite wrap your head around, to hear that a Cancerian can be this evolved is a foreign concept for you

Posted by Tomberjack
I guess the haters are gonna hate. Most men can't even do what you just did.. Congrats on your love life.. Glad you didn't lead that cancer girl on.

Thank you