BoomShakalakaBoom
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Posted by theHitchHikerPosted by BoomShakalakaBoom
Im sure you couldnt wrap your head around the possibility of a Virgo being romantic
Oh no Mr. High and mighty, i can see a virgo as romantic. I met a scorpio once, which are pretty much the asshats of the zodiac. Not romantic. Passionate yes, romantic not.
We were instantly attracted. And he was so romantic. He picked me flowers, cuddled me through period cramps, went on bike rides with me, bought me endless presents.
Then suddenly he got jealous. Over his own friends. Who i never saw i unless i was with him. Then he got verbal. I was 8 different kinds of bitch and a whore to boot. And then it got physical. I had to literally run a state away and even then he internet stalked me until he got some new girl prego.
Not that i want your sympathy. No. I'm merely illustrating that romance is a temporary illusion. Reliability, honesty, integrity, dedication, honor, these are the things that make a lasting relationship.click to expand
Posted by theHitchHikerPosted by CluelessCancer
Why are you dealing with the Cancerian, don't you have a Taurus? Let's not complicate things. What does this Taurus think of your new found friendship with your X Cancer?
God, I'm dying to hear the answer to this.click to expand
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by BoomShakalakaBoomPosted by theHitchHikerPosted by CluelessCancer
Why are you dealing with the Cancerian, don't you have a Taurus? Let's not complicate things. What does this Taurus think of your new found friendship with your X Cancer?
God, I'm dying to hear the answer to this.
I already answered that, go back and read it
Remind us, what will your Taurus think of your new friendship with your X Cancer?click to expand
Posted by scorchedearth
shaks you were a complete asshat to this cancer. most women would not be so doormatish to forgive you and want to be friendly. you're learning no lessons from this on how to treat women so you're learning nothing from this and will likely do it again to some other girl in the future.
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by scorchedearth
shaks you were a complete asshat to this cancer. most women would not be so doormatish to forgive you and want to be friendly. you're learning no lessons from this on how to treat women so you're learning nothing from this and will likely do it again to some other girl in the future.
Him and the Taurus girl don't trust their new found "love" or whatever it is, so they're keeping their EX's around just in case.
Generally people who are certain cut all ties and move on.
Usury. SMH.click to expand
Posted by CluelessCancer
I bet this is how it went down the Taurus is keeping her X in the mix, so the cancer calls up ol dude, so he jumps on the opportunity to keep her around-why cause' he's insecure.
Posted by scorchedearth
it's one thing to take six months or whatever, find new loves, get over shit and THEN try to be friends. that way you're completely over each other. no relationship drama will ruin it at that point.
it's something completely different to dump someone then expect them to be your bff while they're still going through getting over you. that expectation is douchebaggish and selfish. and will likely blow up in your face.
unless of course you're keeping them around just in case. which shaks has already proven is his deal with his whole "who knows what the future holds" crap. and if she does take him back he'll just dump her for someone new AGAIN because he knows he can get away with it and she'll still stick around because she's a doormat and a dipshit.
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by BoomShakalakaBoomPosted by CluelessCancerPosted by scorchedearth
shaks you were a complete asshat to this cancer. most women would not be so doormatish to forgive you and want to be friendly. you're learning no lessons from this on how to treat women so you're learning nothing from this and will likely do it again to some other girl in the future.
Him and the Taurus girl don't trust their new found "love" or whatever it is, so they're keeping their EX's around just in case.
Generally people who are certain cut all ties and move on.
Usury. SMH.
Actually, people who are not insecure and trust their partners, have no problem with those kind of friendships.
I don't buy it, this all seems too much, too fast, too unreal.
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Posted by theHitchHiker
I don't remember you posting anything about your Taurus dear Virgo, but MY Taurus is home and I've had dinner waiting on him so I'm out. Stay classy Clueless and Scorched! ( yeah fire signs can be home makers too)

Posted by xMoonManPosted by MissFisk
Which is all and well. Spiritual grown and self discovery is a necessity, I understand. But when a person puts a story out there and it involves another getting hurt, and seems to have no remorse and more as means to seem: Look. I did what did. And she's okay. We laugh, we cried, we ate icecream and twiddled our thumbs.... that spiritual growth sounds like a cop out and total bullshit.
Sounds like you're implying that I'm making excuses for BoomShacker? Under the guise of spiritual growth?
This couldn't be further from the truth.
I don't like to get brutal here but a couple of women are projecting their own personal fears, emotions and bad experiences into this thread which is actually having the effect of misguiding it.
I fully understand how women can "empathize" with this Cancer womans experience, and I'm here to tell you, as a man, I have felt deep love and been rejected by women, I have felt emotional pain from relationships of all kinds.
Instead of turning this thread into a shit fight about men being uncaring cunts and women are always the victim, pointing fingers and laying blame, how about we step back for a moment and take a breath? This experience he is describing isn't happening in front of us all at this very moment in time, we are not all apart of it, nor did we experience her feelings or his feelings or be privvy to their private conversations.
If he wanted to piss on Cancer women, or women in general, or even flaunt some kind of male ego, there are much easier ways to go about it.
I really don't think this was his motivation but I guess it's a matter of personal perspective, I will stand by my original post that he is acknowledging the beauty and depth of this womans feelings, and while her heart was broken, in time she will realize ...this is life...and maybe Shack has been transformed along the way to become a better person through her, the Universe works in mysterious ways and yeah, sometimes life fuckin sucks, true that..click to expand

Posted by scorchedearth
i've never been dumped for someone else so it's not a matter of me projecting. the men that have shown up in the thread have excused his behavior because they're men and they this pack mentality thing where they do the bros before hoes thing and don't have a problem with treating women like shit. the women in the thread are telling him that he's been fucked up and that he should behave like a good guy in the future and not play with peoples feelings just to drop them on their ass.
shaka was being fucked up. he needs to understand that or he will do it again, and again. and he will cause more misery and pain because he's a selfish opportunistic douchebag who cares only for himself.
Posted by scorchedearth
i've never been dumped for someone else so it's not a matter of me projecting. the men that have shown up in the thread have excused his behavior because they're men and they this pack mentality thing where they do the bros before hoes thing and don't have a problem with treating women like shit. the women in the thread are telling him that he's been fucked up and that he should behave like a good guy in the future and not play with peoples feelings just to drop them on their ass.
shaka was being fucked up. he needs to understand that or he will do it again, and again. and he will cause more misery and pain because he's a selfish opportunistic douchebag who cares only for himself.

Posted by scorchedearth
any time you dump someone to be with someone else you're being fucked up and selfish. breaking up with someone because you're unhappy is one thing. breaking up with someone just to be with someone else and then shoving it in their face is incredibly selfish and cruel.
Posted by Finbuff
Sorry all you ladies hammering BoomShakalaka....I think there's a lot of anger in some of your backgrounds, and you're simply taking it out on him. There is NO SUCH THING as perfection in a relationship in this world. Emotions and people are waaaay too complex for people to do things perfectly to guarantee nobody gets hurt. Just the way it is.
I think BSB went far beyond what he needed to cut ties with one and move to the other. Good Lord, the way you talk about this guy, it's like you're all perfect little ladies that would never hurt a fly! Given the chance, you'd hurt a guy in a second, I've never met one that didn't, and I've had a 100 relationships. This guy was a perfect gentlemen and your acting like he's Chuck Sheen. Good grief, get off your high horses and walk back into reality. Particularly CC - you got some deep seeded issues going on, although I don't pretend to be a psych, its fairly obvious. Just look at the show me your "unit" thread to figure that out. 'Show me your "unit" or move on' - raaaiiighht - no issues there.
Posted by scorchedearth
any time you dump someone to be with someone else you're being fucked up and selfish. breaking up with someone because you're unhappy is one thing. breaking up with someone just to be with someone else and then shoving it in their face is incredibly selfish and cruel.

Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by Tomberjack
This is so funny. Mr. Boom purposely posted this to piss everyone off 😛 You silly virgos!
It doesn't piss me off, but it does help me conclude that alot of virgos are really not long term good partners-they're always looking for something shinier-brighter.click to expand
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by Finbuff
Sorry all you ladies hammering BoomShakalaka....I think there's a lot of anger in some of your backgrounds, and you're simply taking it out on him. There is NO SUCH THING as perfection in a relationship in this world. Emotions and people are waaaay too complex for people to do things perfectly to guarantee nobody gets hurt. Just the way it is.
I think BSB went far beyond what he needed to cut ties with one and move to the other. Good Lord, the way you talk about this guy, it's like you're all perfect little ladies that would never hurt a fly! Given the chance, you'd hurt a guy in a second, I've never met one that didn't, and I've had a 100 relationships. This guy was a perfect gentlemen and your acting like he's Chuck Sheen. Good grief, get off your high horses and walk back into reality. Particularly CC - you got some deep seeded issues going on, although I don't pretend to be a psych, its fairly obvious. Just look at the show me your "unit" thread to figure that out. 'Show me your "unit" or move on' - raaaiiighht - no issues there.
The thread was for FUN Asshat! Jesus Christ. You're annoying. No reason to participate you know.
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Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by TomberjackPosted by scorchedearth
any time you dump someone to be with someone else you're being fucked up and selfish. breaking up with someone because you're unhappy is one thing. breaking up with someone just to be with someone else and then shoving it in their face is incredibly selfish and cruel.
No its not.
What makes you think this way and how old are you?click to expand
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by Tomberjack
This is so funny. Mr. Boom purposely posted this to piss everyone off 😛 You silly virgos!
It doesn't piss me off, but it does help me conclude that alot of virgos are really not long term good partners-they're always looking for something shinier-brighter.click to expand
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by TomberjackPosted by CluelessCancerPosted by TomberjackPosted by scorchedearth
any time you dump someone to be with someone else you're being fucked up and selfish. breaking up with someone because you're unhappy is one thing. breaking up with someone just to be with someone else and then shoving it in their face is incredibly selfish and cruel.
No its not.
What makes you think this way and how old are you?
Old enough to not lead someone on and that your life is 1st, until you find someone that really knocks your socks off.
I agree with that, my problem isn't that he allow the Cancer go, my issue is with his statements on his first post, as if he's putting her on some type of shelf...
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Posted by CluelessCancer
oh and the fact that he was interacting with the Taurus when he already had a girlfriend, that's emotional cheating.
Posted by CluelessCancer
oh and the fact that he was interacting with the Taurus when he already had a girlfriend, that's emotional cheating.

Posted by CluelessCancer
Oh and his gloating, and his arrogance, that this chick is going to be there for him, because of this connection lol-
Posted by CluelessCancer
Oh and his gloating, and his arrogance, that this chick is going to be there for him, because of this connection lol-
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by TomberjackPosted by CluelessCancer
oh and the fact that he was interacting with the Taurus when he already had a girlfriend, that's emotional cheating.
You guys can call it whatever you want, but there is no crime in falling in love with another while being with someone. It's not like he cheated on this cancer.
some people think emotionally cheating is worse than physical cheating. You sound young and dumb.
Plus if he really cares about the cancer, he should have just completely cut her off, but nah what's he's doing is getting his cake and eating it.
Sluey behavior. Not husband material this one.click to expand
Posted by scorchedearth
it's obvious shaks isn't relationship material and i feel bad for whatever girl he ends up married to. he's one crush away from divorce court. lol

Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by TomberjackPosted by CluelessCancer
oh and the fact that he was interacting with the Taurus when he already had a girlfriend, that's emotional cheating.
You guys can call it whatever you want, but there is no crime in falling in love with another while being with someone. It's not like he cheated on this cancer.
some people think emotionally cheating is worse than physical cheating. You sound young and dumb.
Plus if he really cares about the cancer, he should have just completely cut her off, but nah what's he's doing is getting his cake and eating it.
Sluey behavior. Not husband material this one.click to expand
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by BoomShakalakaBoomPosted by CluelessCancer
Oh and his gloating, and his arrogance, that this chick is going to be there for him, because of this connection lol-
The cancerian is there for me, as a friend. Im glad I have someone as emotionally mature in my life 🙂
You're so proud of yourself. Aren't you.click to expand
Posted by scorchedearth
if you actually cared about her you'd want her to take some time away so she wouldn't be hurting while watching you be happy with someone else. it's just your selfishness and emotional immaturity that makes you want to have your cake and eat it to. but since you obviously think of this girl as a fall back crutch i'm sure her feelings don't really matter to you.
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by BoomShakalakaBoomPosted by CluelessCancerPosted by BoomShakalakaBoomPosted by CluelessCancer
Oh and his gloating, and his arrogance, that this chick is going to be there for him, because of this connection lol-
The cancerian is there for me, as a friend. Im glad I have someone as emotionally mature in my life 🙂
You're so proud of yourself. Aren't you.
Im a happy person, thats why I attract amazing people like the Cancerian 🙂
Most of us would be happy too if we didn't have a conscience.
lol but i am enjoying this banter.click to expand

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoomPosted by CluelessCancerPosted by BoomShakalakaBoomPosted by CluelessCancer
Scorched what's happened happened. What makes me laugh though is the OPs assumption that it's all good that he's going to get away with being a douche and perhaps one day "you never know" ...that something might happen between the two.
Forget a guy dumping me for another girl. I remember every "slight" about my x, it's burned in my memory, can you imagine if he had left me for another girl.
lol
Thats why I have so much respect for the cancerian, cause shes emotionally mature enough and intelligent to see things differently 🙂
Are you telling me she's a doormat?
Im telling you she knows well enough that Im not a douchebag and therefore still has good and genuine feelings for meclick to expand

Posted by Sagittarius2315Posted by BoomShakalakaBoomPosted by CluelessCancerPosted by BoomShakalakaBoomPosted by CluelessCancer
Scorched what's happened happened. What makes me laugh though is the OPs assumption that it's all good that he's going to get away with being a douche and perhaps one day "you never know" ...that something might happen between the two.
Forget a guy dumping me for another girl. I remember every "slight" about my x, it's burned in my memory, can you imagine if he had left me for another girl.
lol
Thats why I have so much respect for the cancerian, cause shes emotionally mature enough and intelligent to see things differently 🙂
Are you telling me she's a doormat?
Im telling you she knows well enough that Im not a douchebag and therefore still has good and genuine feelings for meclick to expand
Can I ask what she knows? Cause I understand if you were a gentleman up until Taurus girl, but you can't justify what you do. You have to at least admits that you "Replacing" her was messed up.
I did read the part that you did say you wish you went about it a different way.
Lets flip it; lets say it was her that did this to you , "replaced" you got someone else. Would you keep a friendship with her? Or even talk to her again? Would you waste your time?
Because as a woman; a man that did what you did; I wouldn't even look for closure because I wouldn't care for it. I don't care how good of a partner he was before the betrayal happened. I'm a true believer in honesty and loyalty, what you did was dishonest and unloyal, and I wouldn't want any kind of relationship with a person like that. No matter how intelligent I am and orientated in what I want.
Your taking, her not being able to move on and wanting you in her life as a friend because she can't have you as a partner to your advantage. Which is again dishonest and disloyal on your part if that what your in fact doing. You are basically holding her as second best (friend) just in case your relationship with Taurus falls through.
And maybe your not. Either way, you nee
Posted by Andalusia
Sounds like the Cancer lady wasn't all that invested in you either. Which is why you both talked and were able to remain "friends". Because Your actions hurt her feelings - not her heart. If the latter had been involved, this would be a completely different thread. Believe me.

Posted by Finbuff
Well, you want blunt...I'll give you blunt.
I've only been here three days, and my perception is, I don't like you at all! How's that for blunt? No in between with me....I call em as I see em. You are rude - and crude. Sorry
What life has taught me is, not everybody gets along all the time, or agree's, so I don't force it or try.
I think you are going "hair on fire" crazy on this guy, and I find it to be an interesting commentary on human nature. He did nothing wrong at all - absolutely nothing.
The purity you ladies are looking for in a relationship may have existed in the 50's and 60's, but those days are long gone. The world has evolved to a different place.

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
Saggitarius2315: Thats ok that you would handle things that way, however the cancerian is no less of a woman than you are just because she deals with things differently than you are. The point lots of females here on this thread dont seem to get is that everyone has a different way of dealing with stuff, and that doesnt make them sluts or less respectable, or less women, it makes them different than you.

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
To be honest, I dont blame the females disagreeing with me here. Before this experience I never thought I would be capable of falling for someone else this way while being in a serious and loving relationship with another girl.

Posted by scorchedearthPosted by Finbuff
You'd have this guy break up with Ms. Cancer, kiss her on the check, hug her gently....then go home, lock himself in his room for a week and grieve. Then resurface and slowly think about dating 3 weeks later? That's ludicrous and so far removed from reality it's pretty much laughable. I'm actually learning something here and I'm totally flabbergasted women could think this way today.
no one said anything remotely like that. i said he should go no contact for a while so she can heal before they try to be friends.
apparently you're another one that can't read for shit.click to expand
Posted by CluelessCancer
How many of us have felt intense attraction to men outside our relationships-im sure it happens right-do we just up and leave.
Boom you never said how you interacted with the Taurus since you're adamant you didn't emotionally cheat...well—
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I was reliable enough to stop the relationship with the cancerian once I knew I felt way more attracted to the Taurus. Like I said before, this is the first time ever for me that I fall for someone while Im dating someone else seriously. Im trustworthy cause I never cheated on the cancerian. The cancerian knows Im trustworthy and reliable, thats why she still wants me to be a part of her life.