WATER SIGNS ARE BETTER SINGLE.

So I had a conversation about this the other night with my pisces lady friend. I believe that Us water signs are better humans single. And Iv seen some talk about this on the cancer forum. I think when we are coupled we lose our light. Our shine... YET.. for me at least, The NEED for love is almost draining just the same. Thats why I think Im warming up to the idea of non monogamous relationships... I need meaning in relationships, yes. But space does me so good. When Im in a long term relationship, I feel like I lose my purpose in life. I stop fighting for my self. Always fighting for my partner instead. In this last year iv been single. Iv accomplished more than I have in a 3 year relationship that I still beat my self over. I felt like I was stuck in a worm hole for 3 years. And that so much time was wasted.

Err not really, a Pisces (or someone with Pisces placements) would be emotionally starved and be flailing like a fish outta water if he doesn't actively seek love in some form. Romantic love is one of them.

Source: Myself

You'll be in true bliss when you find the delicate balance between trying to be your own person and supporting your partner.

There's undeniable strength in a unity. Just never forget yourself.

Posted by EtherealTraveler
Err not really, a Pisces (or someone with Pisces placements) would be emotionally starved and be flailing like a fish outta water if he doesn't actively seek love in some form. Romantic love is one of them.

Source: Myself

Im not talking about life without love here... im talking more in terms of life without being "coupled" or "committed"in the traditional sense.

Posted by WaterDevil
So I had a conversation about this the other night with my pisces lady friend. I believe that Us water signs are better humans single. And Iv seen some talk about this on the cancer forum. I think when we are coupled we lose our light. Our shine... YET.. for me at least, The NEED for love is almost draining just the same. Thats why I think Im warming up to the idea of non monogamous relationships... I need meaning in relationships, yes. But space does me so good. When Im in a long term relationship, I feel like I lose my purpose in life. I stop fighting for my self. Always fighting for my partner instead. In this last year iv been single. Iv accomplished more than I have in a 3 year relationship that I still beat my self over. I felt like I was stuck in a worm hole for 3 years. And that so much time was wasted.

Like everyone, we're MUCH better in a good relationship

As water signs it's soo easy for us to get absorbed in other's lives and drama... you just have to learn to create space for your self and growth it takes learning lessons and experience. I think we find ourselves wrapped up in unhealthy relationships/ friendships and then get an awakening and seek balance. When you find the relationships where you can support and receive support from a partner... that's the right balance.

I just think as far as productivity goes. When Im single I crave love like woaaaa. I feel like im going to die without it. HOWEVER. That brings out the drive in me to be the best version of my self. I do more. I accomplish more. I make time for the people who matter. ect ect. When im in a relationship. I get comfortable and stagnant. If I have someone to love and we are together my life feels complete. When that relationship is over though.. i reflect backwards. And realize by putting the relationship on such a high pedestal. I let the things that matter to my well being as a human fall between the cracks. Not letting my purpose in life progress... staying in the "bliss" that i feel a relationship can be. I feel more balanced loving without monogamy.. like I have time to be the best version of my self. the version of me that people fall in love with.

cancer sun, sag moon, libra rising here btw

Soo... dating several, committing to none is

what you're thinking, instead?

Just looking for clarification.

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Err not really, a Pisces (or someone with Pisces placements) would be emotionally starved and be flailing like a fish outta water if he doesn't actively seek love in some form. Romantic love is one of them.

Source: Myself

Im not talking about life without love here... im talking more in terms of life without being "coupled" or "committed"in the traditional sense.

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Each failed relationship is a learning experience. Now you know how vital it is to maintain your independence once coupled up.

Live and learn.

Posted by WaterDevil
I just think as far as productivity goes. When Im single I crave love like woaaaa. I feel like im going to die without it. HOWEVER. That brings out the drive in me to be the best version of my self. I do more. I accomplish more. I make time for the people who matter. ect ect. When im in a relationship. I get comfortable and stagnant. If I have someone to love and we are together my life feels complete. When that relationship is over though.. i reflect backwards. And realize by putting the relationship on such a high pedestal. I let the things that matter to my well being as a human fall between the cracks. Not letting my purpose in life progress... staying in the "bliss" that i feel a relationship can be. I feel more balanced loving without monogamy.. like I have time to be the best version of my self. the version of me that people fall in love with.

cancer sun, sag moon, libra rising here btw

Finding balance is always a challenge. Your not the only one who struggles with this.

water signs so dramatic

Cancer women always searching for relationship. Even if they date multiple people. They don't know how to appreciate being alone

That's why they always get crap ? ?

There's a bit of truth to what you are saying.

I think to find an equally ambitious partner who supports you as much as you support her

in doing things to accomplish your goals is paramount.

With the right partner, you should be able to get even more accomplished than when you are single.

I also think being with the right partner should make you feel freer and not bogged down.

That being said i agree that conventional monogamous relationships aren't for everyone...

and that if more couples adopt alternative models I think we would have lower divorce rates.

I've been totally feeling the "I can see myself being happy single/uncommitted for the rest of my life" this past week. The other side of this card for me is I tend to get attached very quickly. Plus I start becoming overly occupied about the impact of my words and actions for this person. I feel the need to voice my my ideas and visions of where this 'relationship' is going, yet not dated enough to know when the proper time to do this is. (Given my track record, I have very bad timing.. eeek)

I'd like to elaborate. I am dating a guy that I have effortless conversations with. In less than a month we have told numerous stories that had us both tearing up with heartache and out of breath from laughter. We have so much fun hanging out and getting into random adventures new and old. I feel so delightful being able to express myself fully and freely speak what is on my mind. The catch is I can't see myself falling in love with this guy. The "22" is I also find myself feeling like he is an extension/part of myself that inspires me to nurture all his aspirations, dreams, successes and failures. It's like I care to invest in him, but am not googly eyed over any bit of it.



To speak on well being on being single vs commited, it's a delicate balance to be happy, well-rounded, and knowing where to set boudaries to keep both(or all) parties happy when in a committed relationship. The only reason for me to be in a relationship is if it makes me happier than being single. That's going to take a phenonminal person because I love my life, as happy as happy can be and thoroughly enjoy the company of myself and those around me as they are.

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I just think as far as productivity goes. When Im single I crave love like woaaaa. I feel like im going to die without it. HOWEVER. That brings out the drive in me to be the best version of my self. I do more. I accomplish more. I make time for the people who matter. ect ect. When im in a relationship. I get comfortable and stagnant. If I have someone to love and we are together my life feels complete. When that relationship is over though.. i reflect backwards. And realize by putting the relationship on such a high pedestal. I let the things that matter to my well being as a human fall between the cracks. Not letting my purpose in life progress... staying in the "bliss" that i feel a relationship can be. I feel more balanced loving without monogamy.. like I have time to be the best version of my self. the version of me that people fall in love with.

cancer sun, sag moon, libra rising here btw

Finding balance is always a challenge. Your not the only one who struggles with this.

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A never said I was the only one. Just giving my perspective.

Posted by Montgomery
Soo... dating several, committing to none is

what you're thinking, instead?

Just looking for clarification.

This part I'm still figuring out. I don't want one on one commitment. (Monogamy). But I don't want anything meaningless either. I guess just the freedom. To be who I am. And my partner to be who they are. And for us to both have an option to love more if we chose. But living separate-ish lives I guess. My father for example (Pisces) has been in a relationship with a women for 7 years now. They are in love. They go on trips together. But they live their lives mostly separately. They see each other often. Know each other's families. But they don't live together and they progress with their passions, friends, lives ect.

Water signs should stick together in relationships. It's easier and requires less explanation. Water can be hella confusing for other elements. My opinion anyway.

Posted by MysteriousDreamer
I kind of agree. I feel I'm more creative when single. I tend to lose that spark when I'm with someone. I close up. It becomes more about them and less about me. Their needs come before my own.

I do hate the way I act when I'm single though. Always craving love like I NEED it in my life to survive. Acting like some lovesick fool. I don't need love. My head knows this. My heart? That's a different story entirely. The heart wants what the heart wants.

I do agree though with what others have stated. The key is to find that balance. Without it it's not gonna work.

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I also worry about how I get when the relationship ends. It's as if my world ended. I feel even with the healthy relationships. There is always some sort of depedency there. Feeling like the world is gonna end if you lose that person. Those feelings scare me I won't lie. I steer away from them.

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Posted by Montgomery
Soo... dating several, committing to none is

what you're thinking, instead?

Just looking for clarification.

This part I'm still figuring out. I don't want one on one commitment. (Monogamy). But I don't want anything meaningless either. I guess just the freedom. To be who I am. And my partner to be who they are. And for us to both have an option to love more if we chose. But living separate-ish lives I guess. My father for example (Pisces) has been in a relationship with a women for 7 years now. They are in love. They go on trips together. But they live their lives mostly separately. They see each other often. Know each other's families. But they don't live together and they progress with their passions, friends, lives ect.

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I've heard it said that couples with their own

lives (or maybe more appropriately-- interests)

tend to do better than those without.

When kids are young, that's not always possible,

but that time is pretty short really... doesn't

apply here, but still.

The example you have is good though-- when

they get together, it's because they want to...

not because they have to.

That isn't for everyone but it suits some people

well, I think.

Nothing wrong with being traditional, and

keeping your life as your own, until you

decide you want you more from someone.

It's a conflicting thought. I was doing better career wise when I was single, but that goes for a lot of people - you simply have more time and energy to put into things you love in life. But when I was single and had a bad day I didn't have an amazing guy to come home to that would make everything feel better, I do now! And it's amazing knowing you have that one thing that will keep you up when you feel like falling.

But yes, it's incredibly draining, but as a scorpio I almost think I NEED the crazy lows and the crazy highs of a relationship. It makes me feel alive, both the good and the bad.

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Soo... dating several, committing to none is

what you're thinking, instead?

Just looking for clarification.

This part I'm still figuring out. I don't want one on one commitment. (Monogamy). But I don't want anything meaningless either. I guess just the freedom. To be who I am. And my partner to be who they are. And for us to both have an option to love more if we chose. But living separate-ish lives I guess. My father for example (Pisces) has been in a relationship with a women for 7 years now. They are in love. They go on trips together. But they live their lives mostly separately. They see each other often. Know each other's families. But they don't live together and they progress with their passions, friends, lives ect.

I've heard it said that couples with their own

lives (or maybe more appropriately-- interests)

tend to do better than those without.

When kids are young, that's not always possible,

but that time is pretty short really... doesn't

apply here, but still.

The example you have is good though-- when

they get together, it's because they want to...

not because they have to.

That isn't for everyone but it suits some people

well, I think.

Nothing wrong with being traditional, and

keeping your life as your own, until you

decide you want you more from someone.

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Thats exactly it for me.I dont want to ever get married orhave kids either. But that is for a different reason..

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water signs so dramatic

Cancer women always searching for relationship. Even if they date multiple people. They don't know how to appreciate being alone

That's why they always get crap ? ?

Disagree

Agree on your disagree.

Cancer women are actually some of the strongest women when it comes to what they want and need- and do not waste their energy on multiple people while single. They take the time to learn themselves.

Very prone to crushing though- but doesn't mean they go there. At all.

Exactly. Virgos are ho bags tho. They think everyone like them

Thirsty

Lol.

Not sure about ho bags but virgos can have a tendency to think everyone thinks/should think like them- I've noticed here and there.

Water signs though- everyone does like us.

?

...as friends only ?

Lol girl it was either devil or eye roll emoji and I liked the devil.

But here is eye roll one..

?

that's better.

what is?

Passion- sags/influenced love that shit.

.. And not just in friends.

?

so i've heard.

cancers are way too emotional and sensitive for me. so i'll pass.

Cancers not only water signs out there.

Fire signs are also sensitive and emotional, just in very different ways-

More outer with it, while water tends to be more inward.

Depends on how you look at the situation at hand.

more outer with it? interesting. please elaborate.

A fire influenced person in my experience has no problem with stating their opinion on the spot.

Almost everytime- except when they are truly hurt.

definitely. i think we hate feelings in general. usually viewed as a weakness. but wouldn't that make it considered 'inward'?

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Stoner thoughts. lol

Posted by Arielle83
I can love someone and not need to commit to them.

One person shouldn't have all the responsibility of keeping you happy and answering to all your wounds.

Infatuation happens a lot.

I suffer from people hangovers and want to be with myself a lot.

If I had kids I'd be monogamous.

At this point I want no one. I don't want to feel I owe someone anything

Exactly. Or vice versa. Love shouldn't feel like you constantly owe each other. I think as a water sign too I'm vulnerable to be emotionally hijacked or the opposite.

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Posted by LazyK
water signs so dramatic

Cancer women always searching for relationship. Even if they date multiple people. They don't know how to appreciate being alone

That's why they always get crap ? ?

Disagree

Agree on your disagree.

Cancer women are actually some of the strongest women when it comes to what they want and need- and do not waste their energy on multiple people while single. They take the time to learn themselves.

Very prone to crushing though- but doesn't mean they go there. At all.

Exactly. Virgos are ho bags tho. They think everyone like them

Thirsty

Lol.

Not sure about ho bags but virgos can have a tendency to think everyone thinks/should think like them- I've noticed here and there.

Water signs though- everyone does like us.

?

...as friends only ?

Lol girl it was either devil or eye roll emoji and I liked the devil.

But here is eye roll one..

?

that's better.

what is?

Passion- sags/influenced love that shit.

.. And not just in friends.

?

so i've heard.

cancers are way too emotional and sensitive for me. so i'll pass.

Cancers not only water signs out there.

Fire signs are also sensitive and emotional, just in very different ways-

More outer with it, while water tends to be more inward.

Depends on how you look at the situation at hand.

more outer with it? interesting. please elaborate.

A fire influenced person in my experience has no problem with stating their opinion on the spot.

Almost everytime- except when they are truly hurt.

definitely. i think we hate feelings in general. usually viewed as a weakness. but wouldn't that make it considered 'inward'?

Stoner thoughts. lol

nah lil bitch, i don't smoke

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Lol it was a joke.

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Posted by LazyK
water signs so dramatic

Cancer women always searching for relationship. Even if they date multiple people. They don't know how to appreciate being alone

That's why they always get crap ? ?

Disagree

Agree on your disagree.

Cancer women are actually some of the strongest women when it comes to what they want and need- and do not waste their energy on multiple people while single. They take the time to learn themselves.

Very prone to crushing though- but doesn't mean they go there. At all.

Exactly. Virgos are ho bags tho. They think everyone like them

Thirsty

Lol.

Not sure about ho bags but virgos can have a tendency to think everyone thinks/should think like them- I've noticed here and there.

Water signs though- everyone does like us.

?

...as friends only ?

Lol girl it was either devil or eye roll emoji and I liked the devil.

But here is eye roll one..

?

that's better.

what is?

Passion- sags/influenced love that shit.

.. And not just in friends.

?

so i've heard.

cancers are way too emotional and sensitive for me. so i'll pass.

Cancers not only water signs out there.

Fire signs are also sensitive and emotional, just in very different ways-

More outer with it, while water tends to be more inward.

Depends on how you look at the situation at hand.

more outer with it? interesting. please elaborate.

A fire influenced person in my experience has no problem with stating their opinion on the spot.

Almost everytime- except when they are truly hurt.

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Just wanted to pipe in to agree with this.

As a person with about 4-5 placements in fire, I'm super emotional/affectionate than is comfortable sometimes. My water dominant friends don't really emote much, prefer to handle issues privately. I do not hate feelings, only hate that I can't always hide them maybe. Other people being emotional does not offend or repulse me.

I will say that the Sag people I have known are super uncomfortable with emotions of others and their own. I can't be vulnerable in front of one of my Sag relatives without her complaining and making it about her.

As for the topic at hand, idk I am not a water sign but I think water signs fare way better in relationships than say, fire signs.

All the Pisces folk I know are long-term relationship types and tend to find them easily. The Cancers I know it's a toss-up but whether they are confirmed bachelors or with someone, family is usually the big thing. Can't say much for Scorpio, I see them single... poly... long-term commitment. But all tend towards stable or beneficial partnerships and a lot of the time with each other.

I recall you saying you are cancer-leo cusp right? Me too. I think you might just have to meet the right person. Easier said than done.

true

No just you

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From experience, water signs esp cancers attach onto you too quickly declare their love for you. They are cardinal so it makes sense. But then say, they wanna take things slowly and create a lasting bond. ?

lol this is true. Now i know i need to be friendsfirst to create that bond. otherwise i get wrapped up.

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water signs so dramatic

Cancer women always searching for relationship. Even if they date multiple people. They don't know how to appreciate being alone

That's why they always get crap ? ?

Disagree

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The "likes" don't lie

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Posted by LazyK
water signs so dramatic

Cancer women always searching for relationship. Even if they date multiple people. They don't know how to appreciate being alone

That's why they always get crap ? ?

Disagree

Agree on your disagree.

Cancer women are actually some of the strongest women when it comes to what they want and need- and do not waste their energy on multiple people while single. They take the time to learn themselves.

Very prone to crushing though- but doesn't mean they go there. At all.

Exactly. Virgos are ho bags tho. They think everyone like them

Thirsty

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You know you luuuuvvvvv us! 🍹

It's all about just finding the right person for you. I'm in a fine 3 year relationship with a capricorn man and man do i love capricorns... i need to investigate his other planet signs though, i'm thinking he's a water or air sign in moon he can be pretty soft and tame most of the time.