Well, I treetrunked up!

So, quick rundown. I had hooking up with this Cancer Male for about 4 months. Sex was decent, little passion, everything was fine, I caught feelings.

JUST when I thought I was about to tell him how I felt about him, I instead texted this...

"I wanted to wait until I saw you in person but I don't think we should mess around anymore. It's just not a good thing for me at this point in my life for a number of reasons".

His Repsonse

"I understand 100% . We both deserve something more. I may have to lose your number for a while so i'm not tempted to text you with my horny self haha"

I said

"Yeah lol. Well, I was starting to like you a bit too much. Maybe i'll be lucky enough to find someone similar someday".

Him

"Yeah, you def will"

Me
"Last thing, maybe someday in the future, a year or so down the line you will hear from me on different terms, see where things go"

Him
"For sure! You never know what the future holds!"

Me ( i didnt text this)

"-.-"


Basically, that is all fine and dandy. But I CAN'T STOP THINKING OF HIM NOW! At first I thought I did the right thing but NooOoOoOOo! Can't get him off of my mind! Based on my conversation with him he doesn't seem interested in pursuing anything more but at the same time he could just be mirroring what I was doing!

WHAT DO I DO!? Do I wait the entire year and just see if he is still around or just I just deal with my hurt feelings until they go away... I think about him day and night and dream about him but I have been hiding my feelings so hard!!

I agree. In the very beginning my cancer was open but I wasn't serious way back in the very beginning and now it's been years and I still can't get out the friendzone. I don't know the details but sometimes they'll take you back sometimes they won't it depends

Sigh... I feel like texting him at this point will make me look so needy and desperate. Like, I don't know if he was ever interested/took me seriously to begin with. I never usually have these issues so long. I wouldn't care but he is heavy on my mind like I can't even focus.

Also, I just drew the Ace of Cups in a tarot card reading.

That changes everything.

if you get back to this guy, you will only allow yourself to get "used". Be a man of your word and you will thank yourself later.

Plus you said "decent" and "little" so I believe there's more to this life for you than that. Lucky you taking this decision already instead of wasting time with the wrong guy.

I don't get why people can't be direct communicators. You have nothing to lose by lowering your ego and telling him that you still want him, but not as a "sex only arrangement". YOu already lost him it seems, so you're not going to lose anything more. Just tell him how you feel.

Posted by aquarius09
I don't get why people can't be direct communicators. You have nothing to lose by lowering your ego and telling him that you still want him, but not as a "sex only arrangement". YOu already lost him it seems, so you're not going to lose anything more. Just tell him how you feel.

It's very hard for my to take rejection and blows to the ego. It's directly in my chart just as I have written it. Why I'm like that is against my will. The plan was to reject him before he could reject me.

I think I'm going with the advice of the court and just standing by my convictions, head held high and all. There will always be someone else.

I agree with libralicious. I don't know about cups but he doesn't know how you feel about him? I think you should just leave it alone. If you told him you don't want him then you switch it up and express your feelings it's going to look like you're not serious about him and playing with his emotions.

Posted by PsychoAries

Posted by aquarius09
I don't get why people can't be direct communicators. You have nothing to lose by lowering your ego and telling him that you still want him, but not as a "sex only arrangement". YOu already lost him it seems, so you're not going to lose anything more. Just tell him how you feel.

It's very hard for my to take rejection and blows to the ego. It's directly in my chart just as I have written it. Why I'm like that is against my will. The plan was to reject him before he could reject me.

I think I'm going with the advice of the court and just standing by my convictions, head held high and all. There will always be someone else.

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What if he's just mirroring you because nobody likes to be rejected? Anyway, if you're ok with moving on, then by all means do that. However, I thought you were hooked going off that you can't stop thinking about him.

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Posted by aquarius09
I don't get why people can't be direct communicators. You have nothing to lose by lowering your ego and telling him that you still want him, but not as a "sex only arrangement". YOu already lost him it seems, so you're not going to lose anything more. Just tell him how you feel.

It's very hard for my to take rejection and blows to the ego. It's directly in my chart just as I have written it. Why I'm like that is against my will. The plan was to reject him before he could reject me.

I think I'm going with the advice of the court and just standing by my convictions, head held high and all. There will always be someone else.

What if he's just mirroring you because nobody likes to be rejected? Anyway, if you're ok with moving on, then by all means do that. However, I thought you were hooked going off that you can't stop thinking about him.

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Ugh! You are 100% right but I just am trying to take the easy way out which would be to just stand by my convictions and pretend like I don't care until eventually I actually don't care.

The "what if" is EXACTLY what kills me. In every aspect of life I am a go-getter, full force assertive mode but when it comes to a person I like, I fall apart and can't express myself emotionally so I come off as stone.

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Posted by aquarius09
I don't get why people can't be direct communicators. You have nothing to lose by lowering your ego and telling him that you still want him, but not as a "sex only arrangement". YOu already lost him it seems, so you're not going to lose anything more. Just tell him how you feel.

It's very hard for my to take rejection and blows to the ego. It's directly in my chart just as I have written it. Why I'm like that is against my will. The plan was to reject him before he could reject me.

I think I'm going with the advice of the court and just standing by my convictions, head held high and all. There will always be someone else.

What if he's just mirroring you because nobody likes to be rejected? Anyway, if you're ok with moving on, then by all means do that. However, I thought you were hooked going off that you can't stop thinking about him.

Ugh! You are 100% right but I just am trying to take the easy way out which would be to just stand by my convictions and pretend like I don't care until eventually I actually don't care.

The "what if" is EXACTLY what kills me. In every aspect of life I am a go-getter, full force assertive mode but when it comes to a person I like, I fall apart and can't express myself emotionally so I come off as stone.

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I only promote leaving the situation if you can be strong enough to truly deal with NC for a while. However if you can't and find yourself contacting him again out of impulse, then let him know. Like I said you got nothing to lose at this point.

I know ego because aquas have that too. But I've learned to lower my ego over time since ego gets you nowhere. I read somewhere "Lower your ego and use it as a ladder to climb up" lol. True say. Ever since I lowered my ego, I get answers to the what ifs.

I love the ladder:Ego analogy 😉 I can definitely deal with the no contact. I did tell him I'd probably touch base with him a year or so from now just to see how things are going. He knows I have a lot going on in my life so breaking it off wasn't a big surprise.

Posted by Ssupes
On the other hand what if this guy is the ONE and you never find another that compares? I'm leo and know all about the ego thing. What's wrong with admitting that you made a mistake? I do it lots and it's VERY hard to do but it usually works out for the best. This guy seems like a nice guy. Didn't act retarded and get rude when u rejected him so that tells me that he must really care about you and Prob is checking his phone waiting for u to apologize. Just what I think

+1..bruised ego can really put the ugly side of a man on display. If he is putting a strong front, then he took it quite gracefully.

Posted by PsychoAries
I love the ladder:Ego analogy 😉 I did tell him I'd probably touch base with him a year or so from now just to see how things are going.

Thanks. 🙂 Let me know how NC works out. It's harder than it sounds.

Lol. I'm going to fail. I already know that i'm going to fail...

Posted by Libralicious72

Posted by PsychoAries
Lol. I'm going to fail. I already know that i'm going to fail...

EGO...?! lol

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I am so tempted to just tell it all like right now. What's the worst that can happen?

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Lol. I'm going to fail. I already know that i'm going to fail...

EGO...?! lol

I am so tempted to just tell it all like right now. What's the worst that can happen?

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Do it! Do it! Do it! Besides the result of that would:

a) put your mind at ease because you will have no what ifs floating around;

b) makes for a better story to this thread 😉 We're here to support you. I may just call you illiterate, but that is the worst it gets from me. lol (I don't know if you'll get this joke, but libralicious will..lol)

50/50 chance it could be positive. He'll come and say "hey I want this too"..

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Posted by aquarius09
I don't get why people can't be direct communicators. You have nothing to lose by lowering your ego and telling him that you still want him, but not as a "sex only arrangement". YOu already lost him it seems, so you're not going to lose anything more. Just tell him how you feel.

D'ya know what... You're absolutely right!... And if we spent less time fannying about and trying not to 'offend' other peoples mahoosive egos, DPX wouldn't exist...!

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So true!! DXP thrives on that!

You girls had better be ready with some sad movies and tissues, because I am going to do this!

Posted by PsychoAries
You girls had better be ready with some sad movies and tissues, because I am going to do this!

I'm ready to hold you, but at teh same time I'm optimistic for you.

You know waht they say right, "if you think you can't then you wont". Go in with positivity.

Nice quotes Aquarius09...do you actually have a mind of your own or you just like copying? You think your so clever with your illiterate joke comment smh...you are rude and ignorant I feel bad for anyone takes your advice you are clearly selfish and arrogant. Go look in the mirror again.

So I laid it all out for once and for all. No take backs no refunds it's all there. Now just to see how he responds.

I've being dating a Cancer for 8 months now and I am an Aries. It truly sounds like he was mirroring you he's not going to beg! But what I've learned is to always put it out there! That's one thing he's taught me. My Aries fire always want to be first in letting go and at the punch. Sometimes vulnerability can okay, if it for the right person! Love my Cancer...the passion is everything mind blowing to say the least! If a Cancer is you feeling they will let u
know, u won't it if their not feeling you. So you may want to reflect back on your Treetrunk exp. if it wasn't the best ever with this guy U may want to let it go. They love us for our confidence we love them for their patience, sensitive nature, loving and caring ways they have, but communication, respect and understanding is a must for this relationship to work.

@Libralicious72 I just speak the truth and don't put up with bullying so if you want to keep sticking up for your bitchy friend, just speaks of your own character.

Yeah libralicious if you bully me and others, then I'm gonna bully back because I will not be pushed around and disrespected. Why don't you read what Aquarius09 has written in the Cancer forum and analyze that.

Posted by Moonbutter
Nice quotes Aquarius09...do you actually have a mind of your own or you just like copying? You think your so clever with your illiterate joke comment smh...you are rude and ignorant I feel bad for anyone takes your advice you are clearly selfish and arrogant. Go look in the mirror again.

Careful! Your excessive emotions and butthurt is showing. Trolling other people's thread and making it about me is not the solution.

Wow! You wanna talk about cyberbullying? Just look at your post. LOL

Yup, I want everyone to know what a bullying bitch you are...told you were playing with fire...next time peeps give you advice shut your stupid face and take like a lady, but don't insult just because you don't like the advice. Fucking immature and you as typical, are being a hypocrite again.

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Posted by Moonbutter
Nice quotes Aquarius09...do you actually have a mind of your own or you just like copying? You think your so clever with your illiterate joke comment smh...you are rude and ignorant I feel bad for anyone takes your advice you are clearly selfish and arrogant. Go look in the mirror again.

Wow, you possess such deep wisdom... Did you get that from a Christmas cracker?

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She's exposing how dumb and emotional she is now. I saw her posts to me in the fuckery thread for what they are: input from a person incapable of objectivity.

I didn't know quoting people was classified as copying. You possess no intellect whatsoever. Tsk tsk tsk.

Posted by Moonbutter
Yup, I want everyone to know what a bullying bitch you are...told you were playing with fire...next time peeps give you advice shut your stupid face and take like a lady, but don't insult just because you don't like the advice. Fucking immature and you as typical, are being a hypocrite again.

Aww I got under your skin hence all the swearing. I win 🙂

And not to answer to you, but out Of respect for the OP I am waiting to hear result of her situation before advising... In the meantime I am warning others to be careful of you and your intentions.

You win nothing except more air lol

Anyway, my apologies to the OP for getting carried away with that emotional basket case of a thread hijacker. LOL. I'll ignore her from here on and stay on topic.

Yeah you dumbass quoting is copying duh! Lmao

Posted by PsychoAries
So I laid it all out for once and for all. No take backs no refunds it's all there. Now just to see how he responds.

Please tell me you didn't do this over txt?

Yup, just proves you can't handle me coming at you like you do others..run away.