When a cancer come back after a long time?

So? what to do? or better not do anything? I mean what do you all expect, how do you think the other person will react?

What happened?

Oh have you changed your name " the struggle"? Or just multiple accounts.. *yawn*

Pula.

In your case who EXACTLY came back?

Crabriot hon... The crab friends

But im skeptical, but also tu busy with work i barely have time for myself.... But Curiosity happen, sometimes situations happen but in this case i dont know what to think, say or do so i simply not doing anything at all, too much for another round...

Boxmintra like ive said i barely have time to keep on post that i initiate myself (exhibit a) neverless have time to have two accounts i dont have a clue who is that struggle person you are referring and what is her or his deal...

Posted by fullwaterpisces
So? what to do? or better not do anything? I mean what do you all expect, how do you think the other person will react?

If it didn't work out the first time, why do you think it'll work out now?

Posted by thinktoomuch
Then it´s time to be honest and communicate. Not jumpt head first into anything again but to really think about it, or "feel" about it - know that if you meet, it doesn´t mean you´re BFFs. Take it for what it is and proceed with a clear head and heart.

I think things happen for a reason and this might had happened on a time in which I'm overload with life and routine, is not that i don't want to react or anything, is just that my plate is sort of full to react accordingly, and by all means I've believe this one (just like you suggest) it has to be well thought to avoid messing this more that it was...

need defensively a clear head and heart..., my head is busy and my heart IDK... i need to make an assessment... is impressive that as forgiven as I could be or think I could be, i feel defensive/protective (walls up) not only to her but with the rest of the world... so maybe this time, I'm not ready... again sometimes doing or thinking nothing is the best response.

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Posted by fullwaterpisces
So? what to do? or better not do anything? I mean what do you all expect, how do you think the other person will react?

If it didn't work out the first time, why do you think it'll work out now?

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I understand your point, and I respect it.... although I don't see life in black in white, for me everything requires at least a second chance... things in life doesn't work for a wide variety of reasons, including bad timing... in order to find out if it really was not meant to work you have to try... if after that things are the same, there you go...

all I know I'm in a different place in my life now, IDK anything about her life in the past year other than few bits and pieces... although I don't know if am truly healed from the damage her disregard did to me during all this time... I still don't understand it, but to answer to your question is... IDK, and IDK if I'm willing to find out, specially because I have so many unanwsered questions...

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Posted by fullwaterpisces
So? what to do? or better not do anything? I mean what do you all expect, how do you think the other person will react?

If it didn't work out the first time, why do you think it'll work out now?

I understand your point, and I respect it.... although I don't see life in black in white, for me everything requires at least a second chance... things in life doesn't work for a wide variety of reasons, including bad timing... in order to find out if it really was not meant to work you have to try... if after that things are the same, there you go...

all I know I'm in a different place in my life now, IDK anything about her life in the past year other than few bits and pieces... although I don't know if am truly healed from the damage her disregard did to me during all this time... I still don't understand it, but to answer to your question is... IDK, and IDK if I'm willing to find out, specially because I have so many unanwsered questions...

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I understand what you're saying, however, I've tried in the past, it never worked out a second time. I suppose it does depend on situations sometimes and what happened in the past to cause the break up. Personalities don't really change all that much, though.

I even went back 20 years later to re-try a relationship. Lots of things had changed over the years. Still, the same problems came up. Basically we weren't compatible then and we weren't now.

As a Cancer, and having lots of Cancer friends, lots of cancers come back but we don't always resolve our issues- we come back cause we tend to miss people a lot [especially those we were in relationships with, but like at the same time we can cut people out without hesitating and never look back.] I def. have worked on this and matured past it, but I see a lot of my cancerians friends doing this.

Posted by CG04
As a Cancer, and having lots of Cancer friends, lots of cancers come back but we don't always resolve our issues- we come back cause we tend to miss people a lot [especially those we were in relationships with, but like at the same time we can cut people out without hesitating and never look back.] I def. have worked on this and matured past it, but I see a lot of my cancerians friends doing this.

This is true, I do this 😛

Lawd hab merci jezis.

Posted by CG04
As a Cancer, and having lots of Cancer friends, lots of cancers come back but we don't always resolve our issues- we come back cause we tend to miss people a lot [especially those we were in relationships with, but like at the same time we can cut people out without hesitating and never look back.] I def. have worked on this and matured past it, but I see a lot of my cancerians friends doing this.

Thats way i dont want to move... I feel like if i do ill be stepping on quick sand... There was a time not long ago in which i would give my kindgome for her to come back to our friendship... Now i dont know... I want it but im afraid she wont hesitate to disappear again just leaving me with empty hopes... I deserve a best friend who is thin and thick... So ive decided not to do anything... Not be rude, not bend over backwards if is meant to be mended it will take time to reach the level we left before we felt off

Still hoping mines come back. Day two.. Staying off social media. Damn it hurts. I sleep, Make music, tend to the kids. Either he comes back or this feel it goes away... Whichever comes first cause it hurts ugh!!! Damn you cancers! I love y'all though.

Love, Taurus.

Fullwater: The person I was talking to deleted her messages..not for you!!

If the relationship was toxic, ignore them.

As ive imagine she wasnt coming back... Whatever that was maybe was picking out the bunker she call shell... While nothing relevant happened...i felt it was kind of a little remainder she exist... Or idk... Thank GOD i was so overwhelmed with other things that were pulling my attention i just let it be...

Posted by fullwaterpisces
As ive imagine she wasnt coming back... Whatever that was maybe was picking out the bunker she call shell... While nothing relevant happened...i felt it was kind of a little remainder she exist... Or idk... Thank GOD i was so overwhelmed with other things that were pulling my attention i just let it be...

I'm sorry 😢 seems like it's bothering you for awhile now. I hope your friend comes back after she solves her problems. If not hopefully your mind is put at ease soon.

Posted by CG04
As a Cancer, and having lots of Cancer friends, lots of cancers come back but we don't always resolve our issues- we come back cause we tend to miss people a lot [especially those we were in relationships with, but like at the same time we can cut people out without hesitating and never look back.] I def. have worked on this and matured past it, but I see a lot of my cancerians friends doing this.

If a cancer says they will never come back and never speak to you again Is that it?

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Posted by fullwaterpisces
As ive imagine she wasnt coming back... Whatever that was maybe was picking out the bunker she call shell... While nothing relevant happened...i felt it was kind of a little remainder she exist... Or idk... Thank GOD i was so overwhelmed with other things that were pulling my attention i just let it be...

I'm sorry 😢 seems like it's bothering you for awhile now. I hope your friend comes back after she solves her problems. If not hopefully your mind is put at ease soon.

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Thanks for the good wishes... Not to be negative, more like cynic and realistic after a year and so of pure No mercy... I highly doubt this would ever going to change... Before i just thoughr about what would i do if she reach out... Who should i react or so...

Is still bothers me of course and im also know is a little thing ive learn to live with like a little splinter on my finger... But now i dont wonder those things... And now i know why...

Posted by LibWman

Posted by CG04
As a Cancer, and having lots of Cancer friends, lots of cancers come back but we don't always resolve our issues- we come back cause we tend to miss people a lot [especially those we were in relationships with, but like at the same time we can cut people out without hesitating and never look back.] I def. have worked on this and matured past it, but I see a lot of my cancerians friends doing this.

If a cancer says they will never come back and never speak to you again Is that it?

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I think if they ever reach that level or verbalizing it... That is something that should be taking really serious... My exfriend was never direct and even when ive asked her she said that was not the end... And she simply disappeared... Like others do...

Ask many cancer here they dont say something they dont mean... More the most part :-/

I like what killerwhalemoon said.

Posted by killerwhalemoon
I have a cancer cuddle buddy. I told him i did research on cancers and that they hide away and i told him that seems like a horrible thing to go through. He luaghed and said.."what do they do when they are gone?"
I said "i dont know sleeping or something"
Hes made more effort to communicate.
Playfully letting a cancer know that the absent thing is really sad lets them know to get better or get better at trying.
I got so fed up with my cancer buddies absense that i playfully brought it up and told him its scary on my end §

yep. me too. I tell my cancer man I am dying without communication. He made effort in communicating with me because he scared I am leaving and he kept reminding me not to leave.

yes, women should speak. We don't assume. We don't tolerate men's excuses until it's being discussed and understood both sides. No assumptions.

also, It is better to get an honest answer whether the guy dump me or whatever he likes.. just let me know and I know what to do. 😢

also, It is better to get an honest answer whether the guy dump me or whatever he likes.. just let me know and I know what to do. 😢