When you forget him thats when he pops up!

posted this some weeks ago::::
My friend how I have feelings for had a convo with me and said: I was missing in action! And he missed me, he also puts a sad face! I responded to him by saying: I was occupied with my academics , work and my personal life, but I told him I was right here( meaning available to talk via text in the meantime)! I told him I hope him and his family have a good holiday! .......at that time I was very busy with studying for finals . Est then he hasn't texted. Me at all which I was surprise about ! I meant to also say I found out via facebook! He is now dating a girl in our hometown ! She is really different from me!which I felt he should of told me being that he said he thought our friendship had a great understanding that he felt should lead else where! So I never received the update news! So I can admit right now I'm distant but also busy with school... But he disappeared on me! Btw I'm a Pisces, he is a Cancer!


I admit i have became distant and less affection! its underfair. Its been a month and I havent heard anything from him. The girl he was suppose to be dating no longer writes face book statues about her love for him,,,which makes me think this::
1.) they NO longer date! they've been together est september
2.) He told her to NOT put anything regarding about them because he is a private person, but his agenda is so he could still talk to other girls and NO one know he is dating!


Im about to take it that he has a gf! We can be platonic friends! But that only means I have to act just friendly NOT show too much affection! I think he doesnt like my behave or my new attitude so maybe thats why he disappeared. I must admit I Miss him, but also a little disgusted!

I wish I could get some closure and as to why he disappeared on me.
And most importantly what do I do if he returns!..He has done this before and contaacted me like nothing happen! I played it cool and he got somewhat upset again!

Ask him as to why he disappears?

It's the only way you'll get an answer, even if you don't understand it.

OR...


Decide you don't actually need an answer in order to live your life, that people do odd things, and that this is just what he does.

Maybe even HE doesn't know.

Im just curious why you end almost every sentence witn an exclamation point!

Just to be sure, I went back and reread. The consensus from us Cancers were that you basically told him you had been busy with personal things, or something along the lines of that, and we TOLD you THEN that would put us all off... like you werent interested.

I'm not quite sure what you think is not fair. He reached out to you, and you blew him off with a generic response. He has a girlfriend, and are mad at him? For what? You said you are friends, yet you have feelings, it seems to me you were trying to run this show and it backfired on you... you were keeping him on a string, he met someone, and now he's busy doing 'his personal thing'.

If you are that curious? Text him, call him, send him an email. Something has you scared. Dont blame him when you have ten digits that can easily pick up a phone and dial it.

^^agree with Ocean^^

I dislike that word *busy*. It tells me I am NOT on your list of priorities. I will take that hint and hit the road. Make that call, get it out in the open and try to do damage control.

I agree with Biggirl, Oceandeep and NZ Aqua. I know you probably said you were busy with life, school, etc. as a defense mechanism in case he told you what you didn't want to hear. All woman do that regardless of sign. Instead of him confirming or denying what you were feeling (without even really telling him, how would he know?) it did a littl spat into your face. I agree that you should contact him, put it out there and see what happens. If he does have a gf, then I would not pursue him. Why be the "other" woman. Instead do YOU! And do it fiercly, without abandon and you will be pleasently suprised what will come to you then! 🙂 Good luck!

I really didnt meant anything by the personal comment thing. Both my bestfriends are cancers (july 6th, 10th) and they said he's being overly senstitive. I did mean to be short with him. I feel it isnt right that you tell me that you wish or see us being more than we are and then you get a gf that doesnt do anything with her life a "hoodrat" for ppl that understand my lango. He did this before to me and came back later to say"" I take major breaks in between being that I havent been around for so long I feel people are too disengaged, I barely have anything to say...its sad sometimes".
I dont understand why or how someone would disappear on you when they tell you things like : you're a blessing, believe of me he is praticing ways of goodness, or things like even though you're in college and hardly around EXACT WORDS" Vibing with you is making a better person, for my interactions with you allows me to pratice ways of goodness.I wish we could have realized how great we each are many years ago!! I gain much comfort knowing, with whatever little you will need from me that you shall make it over the horizon and walk with me into the valley of our future! Be at peace with Life's burdens we will make it! I might have told you so before, but you could never be reminded too many times when concerning the above."

All this just to not talk to me anymore.

Thank you ladies for the advice...My ? to you all is what do I do if he pops like nothing happened or some bullshit excuse. Do I check him or just go along. Oh and if he tries to be affectionate to be do I let him know that I know he has a gf??

Sorry for the explexclamation points " biggirlpanties" outlandish name lmao.